r/BeAmazed • u/Individual_Book9133 • Jan 23 '25

Miscellaneous / Others Two dudes in 2003, unaware they were making a legendary song

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u/UltrazordKush524 Jan 23 '25

I wish there was a way to know you were in the good old days before you actually left them

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u/16v_cordero Jan 23 '25

It’s just like when you are having fun with all your child hood neighborhood gang; no worries, no drama. You don’t know it’s the last day you are together as a group unlike school that you have a pre-determined last day of school before everyone goes off in a different direction.
It’s summer everyone is having a blast and one day you look back and it’s gone, over and you lost contact with most of them. At least I’m able to keep in contact with two of our group and we get together every once in a while.

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u/Roguespiffy Jan 23 '25 edited Jan 23 '25

Reminds me of reading “One day you’ll put your kid down and never pick them back up.” As a new father that fucked me up.

Now he’s six years old, four feet tall, and 78 pounds. That day is rapidly approaching.

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u/FirmWorker469 Jan 23 '25

Don't worry. Time only moves faster and faster.

Seriously. It does. Be purposeful and intentional in spending time with him. Govern your priorities appropriately and you will have no regrets.

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u/Starob Jan 23 '25

Seriously. It does

To a point. I've managed to slow down the perception of time lately by trying to do new things that I've never done before occasionally. It's lack of novelty that causes the super speed time feeling. That's why the later stages of peak Covid 2021ish were so bad with time just vanishing. There wasn't much to do, and the novelty of Covid had worn off.

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u/JWPSmith Jan 23 '25

I've done the same. It helps a lot. I spent 10 years doing nothing but working. I barely remember any of it. I have some snippets, but not 10 years worth. I started trying to create new memories, and that's when life began slowing back down. Our perception of time is from creating new memories. Routine helps in a lot of ways, but too much routine and your life is over before you even feel like you started living it.

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u/xxxkram Jan 23 '25

It’s early here. I read it as now he is 6 foot 4 and 78 lbs and was thinking he was ill and dying. I’m gonna go have some caffeine and hug my kid.

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u/canadard1 Jan 23 '25

I was like damn that’s a tall kid. Wait why’s the kid weigh so little?!? BMI is a 1 lol

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u/Tasty_Path_3470 Jan 23 '25

Lmaooo same here

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u/Tullydawg Jan 23 '25

Yep ... my dude, your son is a stick figure!

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u/NotSorry2019 Jan 23 '25

My son is doing his first away at college year. He was having some challenges with a very difficult class (and he is super smart, so this is driving him crazy) so I reminded him that he is going to get through this, just like he got through his other difficult challenging classes, and that we are proud of him, and that he is a gift from God who we are grateful for beyond words. He asked if I really believed that (I’ve said it before), and I said YES with all the fierceness of a mom who can’t give her child a hug. He’s going to be okay, but I miss him. He’s got the Big Test today. He has been stressing over it for a week. He doesn’t understand yet that his frustration has been an important part of his growing experience - he’s had to activate relationships and resources (study group, chat group and someone who knows what he’s talking about) to get through it. He’s stretching. Next time will be easier. He WILL get through this. I’m so privileged to be a part of his journey. He is and always has been a blessing in my life (even with the whining a bit). It goes fast…

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u/Nikbot10 Jan 23 '25

I feel you on this. My daughter just started college this year. It pinches your heart a little to watch them struggle but know you have to allow them to work through it on their own, using the skills you’ve tried to teach over a lifetime. At the same time, I’m so proud of her. Remember, everything he needs, he already has inside him because you took the time and care to teach him. High five, mama! 🙋🏻‍♀️❤️

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u/SpeedyPrius Jan 23 '25

My stepson went through the same thing - he was salutatorian at his high school but went to a tough engineering college. It was a shock that things didn't come easily anymore and he had to actually study! Tell your son he's not alone and just keep putting one foot in front of the other every day.

I cried all the way home when we took him to college just 2 hours away.

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u/bobbelieu Jan 23 '25

You sound like a good mom. I wish you were my mom.

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u/bbrekke Jan 24 '25

Tell him, this is why you go! Not to prove how smart you already are....but to become smarter! It should be challenging. If it isn't, you're doing it wrong.

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u/solomons-mom Jan 24 '25

Switching mom mode from "minor child" to "young adult" is hard --those kids do not stay consistently on the new side of the divide!

Freshman year can be rough, and the current seniors did it in masks. You will love watching the next years 💕

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u/Hard_For_Lions_SB Jan 23 '25

Go pick your boy up and give him a big squeeze!

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u/Peanut083 Jan 23 '25

My 14 year old was about 6 or 7 when he got too heavy for me to lift. Now he’s about 6’1” and picks me up on occasion when he really wants to rub it in that I’m small.

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u/girlbunny Jan 23 '25

FYI I got to pick them up once they were larger by seating to them that they couldn’t pick me up, but I could still pick them up - mind you they were taller than me by that point, but it worked! I may have screwed up my back, but still… I also got a free hug when they tried to pick me up LOL

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u/Alarming_Seat_1791 Jan 23 '25

Shit dude mine are 13 and 16... just wait. I used to hold one in each arm a little more than 10 years ago! Goes by too fast...

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u/Starob Jan 23 '25

For a second I thought you said he's 6 foot 4 and 78 pounds, I'm like that seems unhealthy!

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u/baritoneUke Jan 23 '25

You just broke me, man. 16 and 18 y.o. boys

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u/heckhammer Jan 23 '25

Yeah, my dude's going to be 19 he's almost 6'2 and I think it's getting to the point where he'll be able to pick me up, haha.

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u/munificentmike Jan 23 '25

❤️ Time, it’s crazy. I tell my boys all the time when I drop off them off at school. “I’ll see you in an hour. Remember live in the moment. Cherish each minute.” It’s true it hurts too. My son is 15 tomorrow he will be in college. Next week he will be married. Next year I will be in my 70’s and have grandchildren. My 9 year old is the same. Next week he will be high school. Next year he will be an engineer. I think it has a lot to do with our childhoods. Meaning for me it was rough and time moved so slowly. It was rough. We are good parents. We love them, cherish them and appreciate them. So the time moves so fast. I do feel bad for this generation of young adults. It’s a different world. They don’t have many friends. I think it’s more circumstantial than anything. We try it’s just a different world. My wife is active duty. And when she’s home we make up for lost moments. Yet it just flies.

Sorry I could definitely relate to your comment and just went on a mental journey.

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u/qrayons Jan 23 '25

Make a tradition of picking him up every year for Father's Day. It keeps that day farther away, and it's more motivation to stay in shape.

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u/David_cest_moi Jan 23 '25

😱 I misread that to understand that he is 6 ft 4" tall and 78 lb. Duh-me! 🙃

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u/presterjohn7171 Jan 23 '25

My boy turns 18 on Saturday. He's 6'3" and about 190lb that quote brought a tear to my eye. I miss the days I could just pick him up and hug him. He hates being hugged nowadays.

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u/ax2usn Jan 23 '25

Ah, man.... my boy is 6'3" and weighs 230.

...but one good whack to the ankle funny bone and he's at eye level.

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u/Do-A-Rip Jan 23 '25

Oh geeze my sweet lil baby boy who used to have the sweetest fresh baby scent who would cuddle and call for daddy all day..... Now smells of teenager and has own girlfriend. All I did was blink. You still got time. He's 4 they still think the world of you and don't mind being picked up and hugged. Make it last. Camera and videos help to.

With children life seems to just pass. And that also means you're happy.

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u/WarmCannedSquidJuice Jan 23 '25

but you're also rapidly leaving the age of random testicular trauma. So yay!

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u/Tasty_Path_3470 Jan 23 '25

At first I read that as he’s 6’4 78 lbs and I was like hot damn you need to feed that kid

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u/DariosDentist Jan 23 '25

I still carry my 11 year old whenever I get the chance. Go ahead and fall asleep on the couch buddy.

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u/MillenniumGreed Jan 23 '25

Almost thought you said he was 6’4. lol!

One day he could though, making you proud. Keep your chin up, friend. Even if / when life gets worse, we can be better. I don’t think that’s naive.

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u/TinkeringGreen Jan 23 '25

Yeah, Felt like it was yesterday with my son. Now he is a grown man, moved out and is living with his girlfriend.. he used to sit in my lap when i played video games, it must have been more than 15 years ago.

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u/Joelpat Jan 23 '25

This is absolutely true. Mine is now 12 and I miss carrying her around.

But there’s a tradeoff. If you are lucky, your kid turns into someone you objectively like as a human being, and not just as your kid. And you get to spend the rest of your life with them. So I miss picking her up, but I’ll take the trade.

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u/SeriesMindless Jan 23 '25

My 9 year old hurt his knee the other day and I instinctively picked him up and held him. He didnt fight it. He leaned into it. He was heavy as hell. I would want to do it again if he weighed 100 pounds more. How much longer I could even do it for from here, I am not sure, but i would never stop if i could. Love my babies so much it hurts. So bitter sweet to see them grow and blossom. But even 9 year old miss the "good old days"

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u/demlet Jan 23 '25

I used to carry my kid on my shoulders and tell him stories or sing him silly songs while walking. Every year it got a little harder. I can't actually remember the last time I was able to do that, but it was a long time ago.

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u/chx_ Jan 23 '25

The nights are long but the years are short.

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u/s_mitten Jan 23 '25

Yesterday my 14 year old son was running out the door to school when the zipper on his coat got jammed. I went over to help him, and I was struck with this wave of nostalgia. Even gave him a reassuring pat when we managed to disentangle it. He looked at me strangely when I got a little teary about this damn zipper.

Back in the day, having had 4 kids within 3 years, I would have given anything to have them fix their own zipper. Now, I run for the chance to help them. Time and perspective (and sleep!) are powerful things.

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u/theJMAN1016 Jan 23 '25

Oh man this hit the feel feels

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u/portablebiscuit Jan 23 '25

There was a last time I held my son’s hand as we crossed a road. I didn’t know it was the last time. Even though my life was a lot tougher for me back then, I’d love to go back.

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u/Sleepster12212223 Jan 23 '25

Yeah. It’s so sad. Mine’s 13, just passed me in height. I still pick up his lil 9yo brother for this very reason 😭

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u/zasbbbb Jan 23 '25

I don’t tell anybody IRL, but this is one of the big reasons I lift weights regularly. I want to be able to lift my kids for a lot more years. Father time will get me in the end, but I’m going to make his ass work for it!

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u/jdubau55 Jan 23 '25

Damnit! I'm still able to pick up my daughter. But, she's close. Definitely having to adjust how she's carried. Some of the styles are no longer an option. Until I just can't anymore. Maybe I just gotta go get swoll.

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u/SkivvySkidmarks Jan 23 '25

Did you have to remind me of this? I have tears in my cheeks now. Enjoy those fleeting years for what they are. Remember to guide your son. It's his journey, not yours, to relive.

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u/Altruistic-Fishing39 Jan 23 '25

True but now my kid grabs me at midnight when I need to go to bed, pours us each a beer and insists on a long, excited discussion of the future for the Middle East and US politics, or decides he wants to watch some 1.5/10 Imdb worst-of-the-worst movie for the tenth time and it has to be with me. To be honest it's a lot more interesting than hauling him around. And who knows, he may have babies I can pick up one day.

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u/Shot_Plantain_4507 Jan 23 '25

Keep lifting. Mines 90 lbs and I still pick his big ass up. 😂

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u/sohcgt96 Jan 23 '25

Yep. Mine is 3 right now. He still falls asleep in the rocking chair with me 2-3 nights a week, he still does "pick me up" arms. Those days are numbered and I know it, so I'm trying to make the most of them while I can. This is one time of life that'll never come back once it passes. Watching him grow, learn, and become a person is awesome but no matter how much he grows up I'll probably always miss those little munchkin snuggles.

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u/Scythersleftnut Jan 23 '25

Shiiiit. Nah. That saying ain't real. Sure you MIGHT not pick your kid up physically again. But emotional and any financial support is still picking ya kid up.

I'm 37 with no kids. Childfree. Life for me but my niece and nephew from my sis are 20 plus. I see them I scoop them up. Always makes me laugh as they laugh and try to get down. Nope. Unc is here and I gotchu.

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u/OmgItsMrW Jan 23 '25

This is the reason why we invented hugs

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u/HoldingMoonlight Jan 23 '25

I will always remember the last time my mother carried me. I was 31 years old, she was 60, and we drunkenly decided she was going to give me a piggyback ride. Well that last only several seconds until we took a heavy spill into the ground. Then decided her bone density might not be up to that task again lol.

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u/wjjeeper Jan 23 '25

I texted my kid yesterday: 'diving!'

15 minutes later we were on Helldivers 2.

He's 22 and I don't get to see him as much as I like. He did hit me up and we're going to do some work on his truck together when it's warmer.

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u/Grand-Professor-9739 Jan 23 '25

My boy is 14. He towers over me. Boy is like a racehorse and tbf I'm not the tallest. Sometimes he leans over me and he says in his 'deep' voice... yo little man. Mostly I laugh and tell him to fuck off. Occasionally i will choke him out to teach him some respect. ;) He's big but he's not an horrible old fucker like me lol that knows the dark arts of causing pain. What I'm saying is... if you're doing your job as a dad and if things are good that love just changes form. I miss when my kids were tiny but having them grow into people is just fucking amazing. I'm saying it badly but don't fear them growing up although I'll never stop missing my kids running at me for a cuddle. I like having a joke and conversations with them. Have to keep moving forward. Sorry if I'm lecturing. It's not intended.

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u/Mysterious-Jam-64 Jan 24 '25

On the bright side, many of the most poignant and powerful last moments have already past us by without us noticing

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u/_tufan_ Jan 23 '25

My four year old always wants to be picked up and I try to discourage it(especially in public). This makes me question that.

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u/Gold_Cauliflower_706 Jan 23 '25

Just the other day, I realized that my hand can cover my 4 year old’s whole face.

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u/monsterdaddy4 Jan 23 '25

Fuck you, man! Why'd you have to do me like this?! I'll be back. Once again, like every time I'm reminded of this, I'm going to go pick up my kids, one by one, starting with my 16 year old. Thankfully, they're all very patient about it.

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u/Mynnugget Jan 23 '25

The last time my dad carried me I was actually in my 20s. It was a medical emergency and I had to be carried to the car. I was fine, and now on the plus side my dad and I will both remember the last time he carried me. :)

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u/Firm_Objective_2661 Jan 24 '25

Still pick my girl up at 10, but it’s fewer and further between 😢

She still loves to snuggle though. I take it all, and tuck her in every time she asks.

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u/Kurthog Jan 23 '25

“I Never Had Any Friends Later On Like The Ones I Had When I Was Twelve. Jesus, Does Anyone?"

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u/[deleted] Jan 23 '25

It happens sometimes, friends come in and out of your life like busboys in a restaurant. I heard that Vern got married out of high school, had four kids, and is now the forklift operator at the Arseno Lumberyard. Teddy tried several times to get into the Army, but his eyes and his ear kept him out. Last I heard, he had spent some time in jail and was now doing odd jobs around Castle Rock. Chris enrolled in the college courses with me and, although, it was hard, he gutted it out like he always did. He went on to college and, eventually, became a lawyer. Last week, he entered a fast food restaurant. Just ahead of him, two men got into an argument. One of them pulled a knife. Chris, who had always made the best peace, tried to break it up. He was stabbed in the throat. He died almost instantly.

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u/DaisyDoodle1117 Jan 23 '25

Stephen King-Stand by Me

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u/DorothyParkersSpirit Jan 23 '25

I literally just read the novella last week and its a lot...bleaker.

Spoiler: vern dies in a house fire and teddy dies in a car accident. And chris never became a lawyer - he was still in school when he was killed

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u/yourmansconnect Jan 23 '25

Most of my friends

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u/dorianngray Jan 23 '25

Yes actually… but unfortunately time is fleeting and most of us are only lucky enough to live our relationships with people in chapters. And fill your life with people- as an Introvert I find this difficult… but one piece of wisdom - there are levels of different friends etc, people who are ride or die are few and far between but less intense connections are important too.

We grow and learn by our Interactions with others. Try new things, experiment. And try to be present in a moment.

As an existentialist this is hard…

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u/CanuckInTheMills Jan 23 '25

Yes found them all on FB. But my bestie has been around for 55 yrs 🥹

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u/Careless_Use_7564 Jan 23 '25

I still have the same group of friends that formed when we were 12 to 14. We are with 7 of us and we are aware it's special. We are all around 40 now. I think it's mainly possible because of the place where we grew up (small villages) and the fact that distances here are short (the Netherlands). So although the most of us don't live in the same village anymore we can visit eachother easily.

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u/South-Coat2055 Jan 23 '25

Thats why I love Spain, here almost all cities small and big have universities so I am 20 years and my friend group is still the same from when we were 8 years old and thats fucking fantastic, we even go to the same uni, and see us almost everyday, countries like USA and theor lifestyle give me depression. Like imagine not ending studying at 8/9pm in the public library, then WALKING to the city center (yes because we actually go walking because everything is near everything) and have a drink and some laughs, thats real health

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u/Mind1827 Jan 23 '25

You know what's wild? I knew this as a kid. I remember on the last day of kindergarten standing beside this big stack of toys, sun streaming in and thinking wow, now I'm going into proper school. I have no idea why I'm like this, lol.

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u/bang0_slank Jan 23 '25

Lost and by the winds grieved. All the forgotten faces of those I’ve loved.

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u/AsteroidMike Jan 23 '25

That really really really hits close to home when I think about the neighborhood kids we used to play with and how one day we didn’t see them come out anywhere, come to find out that they had moved away. And the other ones just never had time to come out and before we knew, they’d all gone to college.

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u/ygs07 Jan 23 '25

My man, how you did put the words this intricately. I have experienced this many times. Because we have moved many times, when I was a child. And every last memory is etched in my mind.

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u/sunkistandsudafed3 Jan 23 '25

I lost touch with all but one, we have known each other for 35 years now, which blows my mind. We were little girls when we met, now we are pretty much at middle age. I have so many memories of all that time in between and our friendship means such a lot to me as we age.

Just before Christmas I found out someone who was one of my closest friends through high school had died aged 35. We had an argument when we were 19 and stopped speaking, but for some reason it was an absolute gut punch.

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u/Ouakha Jan 23 '25

Most 'last times' go by unknown at the time.

When's the last time my friend gang all went out clubbing? Sometime in the early 2000s and we never knew.

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u/EvilandLovingit Jan 23 '25

That got me in the feels, I hope your ok!

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u/MindFreak616 Jan 23 '25

Just wait until one of you is gone. That's when it sets in.

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u/toomuchsoysauce Jan 23 '25

Bruhhh don't do this to me! That's so rough but so painfully true

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u/MindFreak616 Jan 23 '25

Sorry. It's just my reality.

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u/ee_CUM_mings Jan 23 '25

If we were vampires and death was a joke We’d go out on the sidewalk and smoke And laugh at all the lovers and their plans I wouldn’t feel the need to hold your hand

Maybe time running out is a gift I’ll work hard ‘til the end of my shift And give you every second I can find And hope it isn’t me who’s left behind

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u/searched4acoolname Jan 23 '25

Fuck, man, my parents always said "time flies by, enjoy what you have NOW" And as dumb as I was I couldn't wait to get older. Once I entered that stage 20+... Dude, I don't remember one effing thing from the last 16 years. Like... what the fuck happened?? And I slowly start to (re)discover things from my youth again (bands etc). And now the realization hits hard, that they also get older. They mostly don't have the same energy anymore. And so do I.

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u/BoomkinBeaks Jan 23 '25

I’m glad you were able to recognize the beauty and value of that moment, take a spiritual Polaroid, and place it in the mental photo album.

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u/cyberbro256 Jan 23 '25

I tell my wife that, we should appreciate all that we have and all that we are, right now, as things will change, and be stripped away with time. Live for today. Appreciate each moment, and each stage of life. Take the perspective of your older self, and think, what would the +20 yr older me want me to do, and want me to appreciate about this time of my life. And go live it now with that mindset, remembering how precious it all is.

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u/Agreeable-Common-398 Jan 23 '25

Exactly ! You have empowered yourself to crate your own memories ! When we acknowledge those special Moments in our life we create our own reality literally. Our self is comprised largely of our memories and if you think k about it, most people aren’t aware of how special moments are. Either that or they do sense it and take a phot or record it, then they never think about it again until it appears as a Facebook memory. When we acknowledge these moments in real time, it’s not an overstatement to say that we are choosing our life and we are choosing our reality ! :) ❤️

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u/simmuasu Jan 23 '25

I try to keep in the habit of doing this but feel a bit insecure sometimes like I'm being overly sappy and sentimental for it. This way you've explained it is so beautiful and validating, thank you!

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u/Decent-Way-8593 Jan 23 '25

Can you not. I didn't need to cry at 10.26am today.

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u/Unique_Monitor4295 Jan 23 '25

All these comments and the Nostalgia is killing me right now 10:42am, I need to reclaim my whole day now

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u/Worth_Divide_3576 Jan 23 '25

Right, I'm at work in a 12 hour shift trying to not get all teary. Thankfully I just look tired af

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u/Cheaky_Barstool Jan 23 '25

You still got that husband?

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u/JustOneBun Jan 23 '25

This makes me wish I had killed myself in 2012. It's only been misery since I was born, and 2012 was the year I realized how fucked up my world was, and for some stupid reason I kept going.

I'm tired, Boss.

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u/simmuasu Jan 23 '25

I saw someone who is an absolute sweetheart being super supportive and encouraging in some of your comments, and a hero standing up and arguing for what's right in some other comments. It speaks volumes about how beautiful of a person you are adding light to the world, and it's just not fair that with the way things are for you, you're having to feel this way.

I'm so sorry! I hoped you knew that but I also don't mean to disrespect that weariness you feel. I know it all too well myself. May things get easier for us both. 🫂

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u/JustOneBun Jan 24 '25

I don't think I have had anyone say something like that to me. Thanks. I do hope things get better.

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u/simmuasu Jan 24 '25

I meant what I said back there from the very bottom of my heart, and I'm relieved to have not come across too much and disrespectful with it. I hope you get to hear things like that more often because even if none of us are entitled to such things, you're certainly more than worthy and deserving of it.

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u/Worth_Divide_3576 Jan 23 '25

Man I am 2 hours into a 12 hour shift after doing 12s all week, and this has me wanting to tear up a bit. Why are there onions in my factory?!

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u/Opening_Kangaroo_193 Jan 23 '25

If you don't mind me asking What's your take home after doing 60 a week at the factory? I working 60-70 a week as a operator at my factory in Aus. 

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u/krzykris11 Jan 23 '25

I had a few of those moments in life. It's always a point of intense love.

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u/sameunderwear2days Jan 23 '25

😭😭😭😭

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u/Flimsy-Ruin3289 Jan 23 '25

Are you doing okay?

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u/Intestinal-Bookworms Jan 23 '25

You made me cry. So, kudos with the emotional imagery 👍

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u/Dingers713 Jan 23 '25

This comment has stuck with me all day, just a couple days ago I was hugging my wife and dog and was thinking about the same thing.

It's important to remember that everything is temporary, the good times and the bad.

I hope you find some more happiness soon.

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u/katekaos Jan 23 '25

This made me cry, because i've felt this exact feeling, only the guy is my boyfriend instead of husband. complete with fat orange cat.

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u/Extension-Pea542 Jan 24 '25

Amen! One night, my wife and I were watching a movie in bed, talking about our day and sharing a glass of wine. The dog was curled up at the foot of the bed, having a wild dream. Our (then) 6 year son came into the room, crawled into bed between us, and fell asleep. I distinctly remember thinking to myself, “This is the time you are going to remember fondly forever. Our son is safe and home with us, we’re healthy, our careers are meaningful, our parents are living. You will always remember this night.” Sadly, our sweet pup passed last year, but our life is still beautiful, our parents are hale and hearty, and that little boy is getting ready to graduate from high school. I can’t help but feel like time passes way too fast, and those small, perfect moments are so fleeting.

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u/darkbarf Jan 23 '25

!remindme 10 years

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u/Atoz_Bumble Jan 23 '25

I had a similar experience. We had just completed a charity run together in a beautiful country park. There was live music playing and we were lying on the grass, drinking wine in the sunshine and we agreed how lucky we were to be so happy and free.

A year later we had a baby and two years later my wife died.

Anything can happen anytime. All we have is now. Breathe into the moment, take only what you need from it.

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u/thebigmanhastherock Jan 24 '25

I remember talking to my future wife, even though we were broke and not everything was perfect that we would look back on those days as "the good old days" absolutely. I mean it's still good, but it's not the same. Kids, world events, the culture changing in every way all over the place. Those were the "good old days." I might not be broke but I no longer have my youth or a sense that everything is looking up.

It's funny because every generation goes through this. I think about my parents in the 70s/80s and my grandparents in the 50/60s. Time marches on.

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u/tenpostman Jan 23 '25

thats excatly why its the "good old days" actually! Because youre not thinking about it that time :)

Its the same reason why trying to replicate a nostalgic feeling yourself is impossible, because the nostalgia is something that you were unaware of at that time, and if you are trying to force it, its magic is lost...

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u/DrKurgan Jan 23 '25

... like tears in the rain.

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u/xombae Jan 23 '25

Time to die.

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u/WaitingToBeTriggered Jan 23 '25

YOU’RE IN THE BULLETS WAY

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u/Chaos_Templar Jan 23 '25

The White Death's way, say goodbye!

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u/AeonBith Jan 23 '25

I've seen things, things I can't remember

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u/GoodlyGoodman Jan 23 '25

Sometimes a certain smell will take me back to when I was young

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u/resident1fan2022 Jan 23 '25

How come I'm never able to identify where it's coming from?

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u/CreatureWarrior Jan 23 '25

I'd make a candle out of it, if I ever found it.

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u/MillyAndTheDream Jan 23 '25

Give one to my brother

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u/guacisextra11 Jan 23 '25

Same nose a stones throw from … ?

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u/cutiepootieee Jan 23 '25

It feels like its impossible to find it lmao

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u/Johxtler Jan 23 '25

I'd make a candle out of it if I ever found it

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u/Frido1976 Jan 23 '25

That's kind of the beauty of it .. then you'll always cherish that emotion.

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u/HulkSmashdUrGirl Jan 23 '25

Check your pants

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u/TimeTravellerJEDI Jan 23 '25

There’s a certain smell—a room freshener, I’m almost certain—that instantly takes me back to memories between 1994 and 1999. A childhood friend and I, who went to elementary school together, spent so much time at each other’s houses because our moms became good friends, too. They lived just a neighborhood away from mine, so visits were frequent—our moms would sit and chat over Greek coffee, while we played games.

I remember those times so clearly, especially playing on his Sega Mega Drive: Echo the Dolphin, Streets of Rage, and Sonic the Hedgehog. The smell of freshly brewed Greek coffee mixed with the scent of his mom’s room freshener is etched deeply in my memory, forever tied to their home.

But there’s one specific memory that stands out like it happened yesterday. It was the summer of 1999, around 8 PM. The sun had almost set, and it was that magical time between daylight and night. My friend had one of those small metal portable desks on wheels for his computer, and we rolled it out onto the balcony. The smell of the room freshener was strong, blending perfectly with the summer evening air. We were playing LBA: Twinsen’s Odyssey and had just reached the first planet, running up the mountain. His mom stepped out to check on us and made a classic "mom joke," saying, “Aren’t you afraid to run to the mountains so late?”

Since then, I’ve randomly come across that same room freshener scent in supermarkets or retail stores. Each time, it’s like being hit by a wave of nostalgia so strong it’s almost intoxicating. That summer evening on the balcony, the Sega sessions, and all the little moments at his house come rushing back in vivid detail, stirring up a whirlwind of emotions.

I’ve been trying to find that exact room freshener for years now, hoping to bottle up that sense of nostalgia and magic from those childhood days.

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u/saccerzd Jan 23 '25

Madeleines?

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u/Bulky-Internal8579 Jan 23 '25

Madeline?

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u/GoodlyGoodman Jan 23 '25

Twenty One Pilots

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u/abow3 Jan 23 '25

The smell of crayons.

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u/pukesonyourshoes Jan 23 '25

he who smelled it dealt it

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u/HanakusoDays Jan 23 '25

It was the dog!

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u/BigFaceHunter21 Jan 23 '25

Adidas moves cologne

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u/yugutyup Jan 23 '25

Honestly, i have had nostalgic feelings about the present often while expecting a worse future

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u/Whole_Meet5486 Jan 23 '25

Hey Reddit? Can you just let me be quietly suppressed depressed instead of crying myself to sleep depressed? Please?

I have to go to work tomorrow.

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u/tenpostman Jan 23 '25

Dont cry because it's over, smile because it's happened! :)

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u/thetarm Jan 23 '25

You can't take a picture of this, it's already gone.

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u/ArabellaFort Jan 23 '25

Oh don’t with the Six Feet Under final episode reference…….You’re killing me 😭

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u/thetarm Jan 23 '25

Sorry...

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u/nmyron3983 Jan 23 '25

It's also a series of moments throughout time that you add to along the way.

10 years ago, when the kids were all pre-teens, the good old times was 20 years ago before kids and responsibility. When life looked a lot like that party in a yard for me.

Now, sure when I think of the good ol times, I think of those times. But also the times teaching the kids to ride a bike, or to write, whatever have you.

They're the things we depend on, because reminiscing is good for the soul, it reminds us beauty is fleeting and to grab it while we can. Just don't get caught up in your past by living in your memory. It's a dangerous place to stay, because you don't move forward.

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u/tenpostman Jan 23 '25

Absolutely agree. With how fast the world can turn to shit and back again, connections and memories are that which keep us grounded, heck Im willing to bet they're a huge part of our intrinsic motivation to not throw the towel in!

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u/nmyron3983 Jan 23 '25

It really is. So many people just get shit on at every turn and when they reflect, it's just negativity. I was that guy for a really long time. Had to learn to give myself some grace for the little wins. Showing up for the kids. Fixing the sink. Changing the oil. Start actually paying real attention to all the things I did right, even if it was "expected" or unrecognized. It helped break that cycle of spiraling negativity.

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u/Starob Jan 23 '25

Its the same reason why trying to replicate a nostalgic feeling yourself is impossible

The only way to really "replicate" it per se, is just to be extremely present. Because that's what you were doing in the moment you're longing for.

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u/tenpostman Jan 23 '25

Yeah, I will agree with that. Because being extremely present means you do not waste time in your life worrying about what once was and what can be, and thát is can be future nostalgia!

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u/redbadger1848 Jan 23 '25

Your mind doesn't remember the twenty other things swirling around you, just that core memory.

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u/tenpostman Jan 23 '25

Kinda crazy right? To have something that you are completely oblivious to in the moment, can provide such a power sensory memory when later in life encoutered?

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u/jeff61813 Jan 23 '25

But 2003 was great we were still afraid of terrorism and we had the excitement of invading Iraq. We also got to yell at the French and call french fries, freedom fries.

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u/MythMike Jan 23 '25

Aww Andy

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u/MillyAndTheDream Jan 23 '25

Nard dog

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u/CoercionTictacs Jan 23 '25

I’m Drew now

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u/imsharing Jan 23 '25

Not gonna call you that

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u/CoercionTictacs Jan 24 '25

Cool. I can’t control what you do. I can only control what I do.

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u/laughing-pistachio Jan 23 '25

Is that the musical artist interview guy?

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u/ThresholdSeven Jan 23 '25

You are in them now. Ten, maybe twenty years from now you will feel nostalgia for today.

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u/imsorryisuck Jan 23 '25

i understood that reference

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u/trashmunki Jan 23 '25

Hey, Ultrazord, you reminded me of my favorite quote in the world. Feel like you could use it. Try your best to be mindful and thankful any time you can. You got this.

  • I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, 'If this isn't nice, I don't know what is.'

Kurt Vonnegut

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u/mindhaq Jan 23 '25

Now is the good old days. If you think otherwise, wait five years and think again.

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u/Starob Jan 23 '25

For real, I bet a lot of people never thought they'd get nostalgic for Covid times and lockdowns, but it's extremely common.

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u/mindhaq Jan 23 '25

Absolutely! I would love to experience empty inner cities another time (but without lots of people getting sick and dying)

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u/razor_tur Jan 23 '25

When I see kids in their good days I think about telling them.

Then I remember when I was younger in my good days and older people told me the same I didn't understand what they wanted 🤷🏻‍♂️

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u/Starob Jan 23 '25

Also, what are they supposed to do, just stop time and stay there?

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u/razor_tur Jan 24 '25

Exactly. It's asking them to have a retrospective about something that is happening still.

I guess its why I didn't understand... Now I do 😅

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u/Excellent-Money-8990 Jan 23 '25

2003, I was 19 years old. It was good time. Who am I kidding, hostel, drugs, sports, friends, and I was the protagonist. It was the greatest of times and it lasted for four years. Man!!

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u/Thismomenthere Jan 23 '25

I agree, what im really afraid of is this being a "better time" then what's to come. So I'm just going to go to work, then go home, tidy up, make yummy food and sit up, smoke weed and watch TV shows I loved years ago or play video games.

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u/Remarkable_Thing_607 Jan 23 '25

There is a way to know. Be conscious of it.

Anytime you are happy in your life, that's what makes it the good old days. Happy moments, whether it be with a pet, a good job, a good partner , friends or family.

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u/publiusnaso Jan 23 '25

TBF, I had a great time at University, and I remember thinking at the time “this is amazing- it’s never going to get better than this”.

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u/Thelorddogalmighty Jan 23 '25

The real worry is maybe these are the good old days

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u/RabbitOld5783 Jan 23 '25

God that got me! Maybe we are in the good old days now

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u/Klaev Jan 23 '25

I knew, and they still left

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u/Gsauce65 Jan 23 '25

Ooooooo this one stings a bit.

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u/QueenofLeftovers Jan 23 '25

Maybe that's now, we already got so many people experiencing the cognitive dissonance around the political/social/actual climate, and we know it's not going away by itself. We're gonna reminisce of the days we drank coffee everyday and scrolled new memes not realising what was around the corner.

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u/Own_Topic3240 Jan 23 '25

-Andy Bernard.

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u/BarsDownInOldSoho Jan 23 '25

How old are you? 67 here. Good old days come and go. You'll have more good days.

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u/Jetsafer_Noire Jan 23 '25

We’re in the good old days right now!! Enjoy it! 10-20 years from now you’ll thinking about life in these current years and you’ll be saying “the good old days”

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u/TheLowestFormOfHumor Jan 23 '25

It's easy to know that.. my parents were always telling me when I was young "these are the best days" "school is the best time of your life" etc etc

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u/WriteAboutTime Jan 23 '25

If you practice gratitude on a regular basis, you'll begin to notice the good days while they are happening. Good luck.

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u/Belkive13 Jan 23 '25

They should write a song about that…

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u/Nok1a_ Jan 23 '25

You never know when is the last time you are doing you love.. like one day you'll stop like every other day, but that will be the last time you do it, so unaware, it's fcking painful

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u/Delicious-Vanilla520 Jan 23 '25

Yourself in 20yrs: You’re in them now. Believe! :)

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u/nard_dog_ Jan 23 '25

Ri di dit di do!

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u/Fast-Ad-817 Jan 23 '25

Andy Bernard would be proud you stole his quote.

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u/jujioux Jan 23 '25

This is one of the things I’m struggling with now. Why didn’t anyone tell me those were the good old days? I would have enjoyed them more.

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u/asuperbstarling Jan 23 '25

"I wish somebody would have told me babe that someday these'll be the good old days. All the love you won't forget and all these reckless nights you won't regret... cause someday soon your whole life's gonna change, you'll miss the magic of these good old days."

That's what they've been telling you. You're always in them.

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u/sheriw1965 Jan 23 '25

Carly Simon in 1971:

"And stay right here 'cause these are the good old days."

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u/seedless_greg Jan 23 '25

every day alive is the good old days.

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u/NeverTrustATurtle Jan 23 '25

You’re in them now

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u/Several_Somewhere_71 Jan 23 '25

Just stay in the good days. Don’t get old. Pull a James Dean.

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u/mittenknittin Jan 23 '25

“The good ol’ days weren’t always good, and tomorrow’s not as bad as it seems” Billy Joel, 42 years ago

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u/Particular-Poem-7085 Jan 23 '25

I know this is supposed to be all nostalgia feely but humans have a tendency to forget negative emotions and remember the good.

Being uncomfortable exists in the moment, these might be the good old days in 10 years. You just don't know it.

Never forget it can get way worse.

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u/_Baard Jan 23 '25

Every moment is one that has already passed us by.

It takes our brains time to comprehend and by the time we've done it, it's already a memory.

Take some time to look around when times are good, make it a significant moment and remember those feelings.

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u/[deleted] Jan 23 '25

This is the Good Ol' Days.....RIGHT NOW.

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u/shot-by-ford Jan 23 '25

Have you experienced an unimaginable life shattering tragedy? If no, I would consider now those days

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