I tried to find the r/muslimsinfluencersnark sub but couldnt find it so i thought to post here This is going to be an unpopular one.. for sure But just a quick swipe through a few hijabi influencer instagrams & i feel sick to the stomach as to how hijab is being portrayed I'Il try to attach pictures without the names for reference

Since when is skin tight clothing where you can see all ur curves hijab?? When your chest & backside are full out on display like whats the point?!! Have we all gone mad

Don't these people know how many young girls' minds' they are misguiding who are tricked into thinking this is hijab. Theres so much to answer for because they're directly influencing them & at times so they can fill their own pockets via commission

They dont deserve to be the face of hijabi women when theres many out there fulfilling the conditions of hijab whilst also being super women in their own ways, without having to exploit their bodies to feed the increasing kinks & fetishisation of a group of women who were up until now supposed to be hidden from the public male gaze. That is the point of hijab. Not fashion

And on that - none of this fashion is modest please can we cut the cr@p

Lets show our younger sisters who are the real islamic figures we should look up to - the female scholars from history & the brave Palestinian women of today who look for their hijab even in a bomb blast

These influencers could never reach those levels so lets stop collectively putting them on a pedestal as if they deserve any flowers The whole 'only god can judge me ' narrative has run so wild that this is now the result These arent women battling their own private hijab battles - they're putting it out there for the world to see & intentionally swaying others with their warped views

The first pic is the one which disgusts me the most but sad thing is theres worse & she has the clever idea to to tag it in her israeli funded LTK (shes Palestinian herself btw)

The second i havent zoomed in on - she literally just put a pic of her bum like???

The last is a baby shower so clearly she wasn't wearing hijab which is why her arms are out im assuming but she repeatedly shared the pic for what?? Like sis ofc you can ditch the hijab with ur girlies but you dont r-to show thirsty men out their your pregant figure?? speechless

Lets show our younger sisters who are the real isla figures we should look up to - the female scholars i. history & the brave Palestinian women of today who

1. The idea of concubines and slaves in Islam I understand this existed in a very different historical context, and that Islam’s teachings on slavery were considered progressive for their time. But the concept of owning another human being, and especially the idea of concubinage, deeply disturbs me. Even if it was regulated, it is hard to reconcile with the values I hold today. It genuinely makes me feel sick when I think about it, and I struggle to understand why it would not be explicitly considered a sin and made haram completely.
   1. Polygamy Today, in most contexts, polygamy does not serve the same social purpose it once did, and it can feel inherently unequal. May Allah forgive me if I am saying something wrong, but I cannot help questioning how something so emotionally painful for many women can still be considered acceptable. How can a man marry a second wife without ever having to get permission or consent from the first?
   2. The concept of heaven Sometimes the way heaven is described in Islam feels very material. It focuses on things like gardens, rivers, and houris. It often seems more tailored toward men, and I struggle to connect with that. Honestly, a lot of the religion seems to feel that way. I know some people will assume I am just being a feminist, but this is genuinely how I feel whenever I try to study. I love Islam and I love Allah, but when I go deeper into certain topics, I feel confused.

These things do not just weigh on my mind. They affect my heart. I know others have probably asked similar questions before, but I truly want to feel close to my faith. I want to believe with my whole heart. But these topics create an emotional distance that I do not know how to bridge. I am not looking for someone to simply say have faith and move on. I am hoping for insight that truly understands the struggle.

Please be kind in the comments. I would especially love to hear from women who have felt this way and found peace or clarity. What helped you? What are your thoughts on these topics?

Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu

I pray everyone is having a good weekend

I've been trying to reflect more on my life and future lately to stop living as passively as I have been these few months, and would love some inspiration.

It's been a rough year for all of us I feel. So I hope opening this discussion will inspire others to reflect and take the steps towards living their dreams, too.

For me:

- slow, peaceful evenings when I can fully unwind with cooking a nice meal, showering/bathing, journalling, planning the next day, skincare, etc.

- I want to live an active life especially involving walking in nature or the city. A solid but reasonable gym routine, daily walks, maybe being in a volleyball club.

-I want something social to look forward to every week. Community is important to me but I rarely make time to be active in clubs, orgs, or programs so I want to have something that will let me engage with like-minded people every week.

- I want to grow as much of my own food as possible, and to have the privilege to only purchase whole, fresh, local foods for myself and my loved ones. Would also love to be that friend and family member who can gift everyone home-grown veggies and fruits :)

Most of all I want to maintain peace and contentedness at every stage of life and every condition Allah puts me in with grace and gratitude. May Allah accept all of our duas and permit us to live dreams that we deserve and that may lead us to Him.

My bestfriend since childhood is going to take an exam, if she passes it she has to go abroad to work. I always keeps her in my prayers and wish her to succeed it, but a part of me is sad I’ll be left out and alone here (we are inseparable, we talk everyday, hang out from time to time…), I don’t have any friends but her.

How to navigate this feeling? I hate feeling sad because I need to be happy for her as I wish her the best in life?

Asalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu

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MODS please do not remove, I desperately need advice and some support 😖😖😖.

Brief mention of assault.

This is difficult for me to type, please be kind.

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I was below the age of 10 when something happened at school, it happened 3 times before it stopped. Touched.

I forgot about the memory until high school when I realised what happened. Back then I never prayed abs only did from my early 20’s.

In 2019 I became consistent, even consistently did tahajjud, and sometimes chast namaz. I was at my peak for salah!

However… sometimes, not all, in the middle of praying the memories come back, I try and regain focus but I feel so disgusted that I crumble to the fall and silently sob into my prayer mat, I’m not able to continue praying 😭😭.

Thoughts of being impure erases my peace. I sometimes don’t hug my female cousins because I don’t like to be touched and I’m scared my impurity will stain them. I know I know that sounds dumb but I can’t help it.

I’m sorry this post has become long winded for my question.

Are my salahs accepted despite me being physically unable to complete them?

Jazak Allah Khair in advance.

I dont know if any of you has ordered from DEMURE HIJABS but I ordered a dress a few months ago and they never sent it. I tried to be patient and waited a month since I'm from Europe and I think they're USA based before asking where my order was as the UPS tracking number showed it was never sent but they never ever replied to my mails.

I paid with PayPal and I'm so glad I did cause I opened a refund case and I won they refund me but never replied or send Im sorry etc. Just crazy.

I remember looking up online for negative reviews online but found none. So be careful sisters. I got the receipts for anyone wanting to see more.

Hey loves! 🌸

I’m on the hunt for the cutest loungewear to wear at home with my hubby! 💖 I want something that’s super comfy but still makes me feel cute and put-together for those cozy moments together.

Any hijabis here have recommendations for stylish loungewear sets or pieces? I’m all about feeling comfy but also looking adorable! 🏡✨

Please share your fave brands/outfits or links – I’d love to hear your suggestions! 💕

I find adult friendships to be so hard. My close friends have gotten married recently and left the country. I’ve been married since 24 (currently 30) with a 3 year old son. I find it so hard to connect.

I used the Peanut app when I was postpartum and found one really great friend on the app (funny we worked at the same hospital). She just had her second child so has been very busy.

Living in Toronto has been isolating and I find people in my community (Somali) already have their friend groups, circle, cliques. I’m curious about the Salams friend app and if anyone has been successful. Just find it weird as it’s primarily a dating app.

Any suggestions?

I usually wear long, square khimars (they reach down to my knees) and a loose abaya in earth tones. So black, grey, brown, beige, occasionally green.

When I last saw him, I wore something different because all my other clothes were either dirty or being washed. It definitely leaned more towards western clothes (Striped sweater dress, pink hijab) and that's when he made that comment. He also said I should dress this way more often (colorful, headscarf instead of khimar ig) because I'm young.

I know it's not a horrible thing to say and it didn't bug me... until it did. I'm already far from pretty. And preserving my modesty is getting more difficult lately, like, I can feel how drawn I am to the western style hijab nowadays. I'm ranting.

I wish he would just appreciate it. No female family member that lives here is a hijabi, so 99% already think I'm doing too much by wearing a khimar instead of a headscarf. Only my mom and brother genuinely support me, alhamdulillah. But it's still frustrating.

Asc guys I hope all is well.. I have been considering wearing a niqab as of recently. I am a abaya girl and im not perfect.

I have realised regardless of how I present myself im sexualised … And i hate it so much. I also want to wear a niqab so I dont easily fall into my desires. And ofc for the sake of Allah i believe wearing niqab will prevent me from doing alot of things i do now.

Can someone share stories of how you began and advice

Are La Meera Moda abayas and dresses worth it for the price 😭 I really like their designs but I cannot justify the prices. I feel like they are so expensive for the ones I want. These are some of the designs I like on their site. They have a deal going on where it’s buy 2 get 1 free. The total ends up being 294 dollars 💀 since they are each like 150 which is crazy even for 3 outfits. Does anyone think this is worth it or have any alternative brands? I was looking to buy some abayas for Eid in the 150-200 dollar range.

Salam sisters,

I apologize for the long post in advance. I am a divorcee who recently got remarried against my parents will. According to ahadith and fiq, as a divorcee, I do not need anyone's consent to remarry. My parents did not want me to get remarried because my now husband is caucasian and not pakistani. They also did not want me to get married because I am their golden goose. I paid for groceries and bills when I lived with them.

I got married alhumdolilah and now my mother is turning me against my community. She makes up lies and twists things to make me look like the villain, and the entire community is against me. The sad part is, my mother has been doing this all my life. My elder sister is the same. What hurts is my mother and sister bully me, but the members of the community won't even speak to me directly about my side. I understand that if no one cares enough to hear my side, theyre not worth it, but I am human and I am hurt.

My mother asks me when I will visit, but I don't want to go where my name is smeared.

I have distanced myself from my mother and speak to her once a week, but she uses that to give back handed compliments or to poke at me. She also mentions that everyone thinks I am wrong and she is right. I don't know if I am able to cut her off completely, but I am trying my best to do my part by being respectful.

Sisters, please make dua for my mental health. I am depressed, and I find myself crying randomly. I have alhumdolilah gotten closer to Allah - He wakes me for fajr and tahajjud every night, and this gives me hope that He is not angry with me, but I need more duas.

I often wish for the day of judgement to come quickly, where I know my sins will of course be uncovered, however the truth will come out that I have not done anything wrong.

Any advice would be most appreciated. However, duas are requested.

JazakAllah khair

Edit: my father is supportive of the nikkah.

Salams everyone!

I recently purchased two modal hijabs - one standard* and one mini.

I've found it relatively easy to style the mini hijab (although I do tend to wear jersey hijabs so it's been a bit of an adjustment), but I'm really struggling to style the standard as there is just so much fabric! I've even tried folding it to the minis width, but the length of the hijabs is also kinda difficult to deal with too (not to mention how the length-wise edges lie kinda weirdly/ diagonally? when folded).

All this to say - how are you guys styling your standard sizes? I do tend to prefer tighter styles (ie. those that stick to the face and aren't flowy) but I am open to other styles.

Any advice, photos or video links would be greatly appreciated :))

*This was from a brand called Nazla, however their modals are the same size as VELAs (185x70cm, I believe)

Jazakallah Khair

Hello. I don't know where else to ask for advice or guidance so I thought this would be the best place. My situation is an odd one and I genuinely don't know what to do. I'm going to start off with the basics.

I'm 17, my father is 81. So yah major gap and not a lot of time to spend with him. That's part of the issue. But my main problem is when my father inevitably passes, the responsible of the household will be passed on to me to manage the affairs. (Taxes, bills, earning the money.) And some of you may be wondering why my mother can't do that, my mother is more accustomed to being a homemaker then that, so she doesn't know either and she doesn't speak decent enough English to understand what she's doing, or great with money. My father is sick now and I'm worried that his time might be coming, but of course I don't know for sure, but I want to prepare for the day it does. Forgot to mention I have two underage siblings so yeah.

I genuinely don't know what to do about the future. I know I can't just sit here and ruminate but I have no clear course of action to make sense of my life. Also do assets actually get siezed if there is a debt to be payed on them but can't? Like mortgage and cars? Do I have to pay off my parents debts?

I know that there's a quran verse that says no soul will bear the burden of another, not even a close relative. But then I saw a hadith that said "A man could be obedient to his parents during their lifetime, but when they die, he does not their debts or ask God to forgive them, so God records them from the insolent. Perhaps, however, he could have been insolent and disobedient to them during their lifetime, but after their death repays their debt and seeks forgiveness from God for them; then God records him from the obedient." Al-Kafi, vol 2, pg. 163 narrated by Imam Baqir(AS)

I hope I narrated that correctly, I'm not sure. Help would be appreciated.

Salam everyone! I grew up with a westernised society and I don't come from a strong religious background so I'd like to clarify: is the "waiting game" haram?

The "waiting game" I'm referring to here is when two people realise that they like each other but they are unable to make it halal (example: both parties are still students and are unable to properly fulfil their duties as spouses). Would it be wrong if they waited for each other, example, the both of them come to the agreement to wait 5 years for each other?

Thank you in advance :)

Hi!

I was invited to a nikkah that is taking place next Friday, and I am in Dallas TX and need to find my son an appropriate kurta or sherwani-he is 6'2" and a big guy-he usually wears like a 5XLT size shirt.

Does anyone know of anywhere in Dallas I can get him a more formal outfit by then?

I ordered a maxi dress with long sleeves and a high collar and will also be wearing a hijab.

Also-should he wear sandals or are his regular dress shoes okay? I know we will need to remove our shoes at the masjid.

Thank you in advance! I want to be respectful and this is our first nikkah invite.

Also-what is an appropriate gift?

Duas for nightmares?? Duas for mental health??

Salam everyone!

I wore the hijab during my gap year after highschool and it was so nice I felt at peace despise my family were against it but that did not bother me (maybe a little bit) but i keep reminding myself im doing it for Allah and it makes me feel better. Since beginning of my university journey was fine until second semester when my best friend i met in uni is losing interest of being friend w me shes muslim too but doesn’t wear the hijab and we both from same country and she was the sweetest i even talked to her so i can see what i did wrong if anything but she said we r different and we grew apart. When i heard that i was broken because i was just trying to be closer to my deen and she thinks im different? So she made her other friend to not talk to me too we all were friends. Now im laying on my bed watching them went to arabic event that is free mixing and having fun and i just feel like im missing out which i hate that feelings i never felt it before. I was even a good friend and she did me like that… alhamdulilah i have other friends that r super nice to me but im not sure why this one hurts me so much. I was also asked to join the event and have fun but it felt wrong and im doing it for Allah but it hurts so much to seeing others having fun and im here crying all the time the other reason is exams and this semester im doing horrible w my classes never felt this strong depression before😭

Hey ladies, I have a question. It is very common to hear that if god takes away anything, he replaces it with something better. Tbh I have been struggling with this for years now. Life just seems to take away things from me and I do not get any better things. So my question is: can you share your stories ? Maybe that would give me some hope.

WHICH HAPPENED LAST NIGHT!!!!

It might be a bit funny because its weird and usually i fail to see the way Allah saves me many times in life

Sometimes i sleep in really weird positions (i think) and the right arm usually turns totally numb (like a wax doll). So usually when this happens it takes around almost a miinute to get the blood flowing again. And it can be very scary for me because it feels like i dont have an arm or im about to loose it permanently.

Last night i WANTED to wake up for tahajjud but i havent been able to out of exhaustion for some time now.

so I woke up 30 min before tahajjud in PANICK and today i just decided i id do someting different i was about to read suratul fatiha i just got to barely the first verse , just Bismillah when i started to feel it again. WALLAH aladim i swear to you it dissapeared INSTANTLY. In seconds i started feeling my I realized Allah can really do WHATEVER HE WILLS . He controlls all. If he wanted to i could end up in an accident and loose it. After all nobody of us is more special than the other. Anything can happen in life.

It might not be the BIGGEST miracle but waking up in panic and having to massage and move my "dead" arm for quite some time is SCARY. I just recitet Allahs name calmly and it just worked instantly .

Hi, I’m going to prom with my friends and I have trouble finding a perhaps satin dress with long sleeves. Pls give me recommendations!

Just wanna get opinions on if it's bad to use tasbeeh beads for jewelry making. I thought i saw someone make a post about this, but I cannot find it. Anyone have any clue about this? I never use it anyways. I just want to do something with it.

So, i just had surgery, and I’m on some heavy duty pain killers. Im going in and out, so i haven’t prayed while I’m taking them. Do i need to make them up?

By ‘bold,’ I mean something really eye catching, (if it has a print), it’s the kind you don’t easily forget. I found a gorgeous hijab, but the colors are super loud, and I’m used to just wearing black. So I’m not really sure what the usual waiting window is for wearing something like that again. I know this is such a non issue, but I’m curious… and I have anxiety 😅

Asalam Alikum everyone,

I’m struggling, sisters (and brothers). My younger sister early 20's a hijabi who was raised in Saudi Arabia but now lives in the West—just told me she’s seriously considering taking off her hijab.

And honestly? It’s crushing me.

I know this is her journey, but as her sibling, I can’t help but feel a deep sadness. I’ve always admired her strength in wearing it, and the thought of her abandoning this act of worship hurts more than I expected. At the same time, I don’t want to guilt-trip her or push her away from Islam entirely.

Some of her reasons (from our talks): - Feels "out of place" in Western social settings (we live in the US now).
- Struggles with self-confidence and worries about being judged.
- Questions whether hijab is "truly her choice" vs. cultural upbringing.

I’m torn between: - The fear that this could be a slippery slope for her deen.
- Wanting to support her without compromising the truth.

So I’m asking those who’ve been through this—especially sisters who struggled with hijab but stayed strong (or came back to it):

1.What helped you during moments of doubt?** Was there a specific ayah, hadith, or realization that changed things?
2. How can I talk to her without making her defensive? I don’t want her to resent me—or worse, resent Islam.
3. For those who removed it and later regretted it:** What do you wish someone had told you?

Please be gentle in replies. I’m not here to judge her—I just want to understand and help in the best way possible. Jazakum Allah khayr for your honesty. 💔