Edit....This post is not a Lie

Let me call myself out real quick: I am a liar. Not the sneaky mastermind kind. Not even the lie-to-survive type. I lie about stupid things. Pointless things. Stuff no one asked for. Things that make people tilt their heads like, “You really could’ve just said nothing.”

And before anyone comes for me, yes, I used to hate liars. Passionately. Had a whole moral compass carved from a traumatic situationship with a pathological liar who’d swear the sky was green just to hear himself talk. That man lied like it was his job, and I hated him for it. So, when I got out, I was like, “Never again. Liars are trash. I’m better than that.”

Now? I’m the very thing I swore to destroy.

And not even for survival or protection, nope. I lie about what I had for lunch. I lie about where I am. I lie about liking a show I’ve never seen. Sometimes, I lie for absolutely no reason other than the words feel better coming out that way. And yes, I’m disgusted by myself too. It's like something possesses me. And it’s not even strategic. It’s not slick. It’s not smart. I lie just to lie. I’ll be halfway through a sentence and a little demon whisper, “Make it spicy,” and there I go.

In my head, I live multiple lives. I’m not even joking. I operate like four personalities at once. Full-on mental illness, right there. And you’ll find this hilarious or deeply concerning, but I’ve faked entire relationships. Yes, actual relationships. Named them. Gave them full backstories, personalities, even “fights” for realism. I’ve introduced these imaginary people to my real friends. I even have entire conversations with them on the green app using my other account. I’ve kept up those conversations and I have screenshots that i share with my friends saying... "Ona venye huyu anasema" All the while that HUYU is me. I know it's sad but i just can't stop.

The worst part? I need the scenarios in my head to play out in real life. So when I’m having a conversation with someone, and my brain already wrote the scene, I lie just to stick to the script. Because reality rarely lives up to the version I imagined, and that bothers me. Deeply.

I will lie to people who actually have access to me. People who could call me out in five seconds. I’ll lie about where I live, what I do for a living, where I am in life. With a straight face. You wouldn’t even know I’m lying unless you really start peeling back the layers. I’ve told people I’m married. Told them I have kids. Said I own a car. Said I have property. All lies. Then once people start getting closer and realizing my stories don’t match up, everything crumbles. Because I can’t keep up. My own web of lies trips me up.

My friendships don’t last. People catch on eventually, and when they do, they ghost me like I’m the problem, which, surprise, I am. What’s wild is that I do want to work on this. But I don’t know where it started. I’m not lying for gain. I’m not trying to manipulate people for money, attention, or clout. I just… lie. It’s almost like lying became my language. And now, telling the truth feels foreign, even scary.

I know someone’s gonna diagnose me in the comments, and you might be right. But before you go all Dr. Phil on me, I know I have a problem. Maybe someone out there understands what this is. Maybe you’ve been through it. Or maybe you’ll just laugh because it sounds absurd.

Either way, this is my confession: I am a liar, and no, it’s not cute. But it’s real.

Anyway. That’s me. The liar. Now go ahead and judge, I already beat you to it.

But hey, at least I’m self-aware. That counts for something, right?

28(F) No relationship, job just picking up. Why is it so scary?

I thought by now I would have an already progressed career, earning quarter Mill and above. Stable, (Mentally, Financially, Emotionally, Physically), Tell me why all these are still so uncertain? How are you able to be kind to yourself? P.S. I have a good job in Tech that I love (Except the current pay is not so great) But why is life feeling so uncertain? Is it because I am single at this point when I thought I would be settled (P.S. Just a stable relationship, Not Married). Is my relationship status playing a role in making me feel dysregulated? Actually, I think I am more worried about my slow career progression over my relationship status, like if I was earning more, I would definitely be happier and more content. Does this ever end? How can I accelerate my career?

In another life though I would rather be the wife who manages the family businesses while the husband goes to the office.

Let’s sanitize this page kidogo

Every good man you meet was not born good, he was forged in fire, shaped by storms and molded by moments that broke him before they built him.

My woman calls me a good man but she doesn’t know the quiet graves I visit in my heart, or the soul I lost, a soul I cherished with every organ in my body, but will never touch again, because she now belongs to eternity.

It is that sorrow, that silent ache, that made me choose a life of gentleness, to walk softly, to speak with care, to love without leaving bruises,and to live without casting shadows on people.

I am funny, that way I see light when people around me laugh.

If you want to start a business like a boutique, hardware, etc devote a good chunk of your capital to operational expenses since it will take a while for any business to break even.

Don't just focus on stocking up and the interiors and be left with one month's rent and wages (if employing someone) ,the reality is that that business will probably begin paying rent and/or wages at around month 3 or 4.

I've seen quite a number of businesses fail because they couldn't meet their operational expenses so you find a situation where you are selling your stock just to meet your operational expenses and your stock starts dwindling in the end you're left with no stock, no money and still a huge bill of operational expenses debt ,worse still if you took a loan to start a business.

You'd rather have small stock, a spartan interior with the most basic of furniture then slowly add up on the stock especially for fast moving goods eg nails (in the case of a hardware) as time goes by but you have your operational expenses covered. For those people especially civil servants who take loans to starr side hustles, don't mind that that employee will cost you money for the first few months .

We all have a friend or friends, right? I have a crew of mine, but recently there’s been some serious cold shoulder energy I’ve been getting from them. I'm the kind of guy who observes every small detail: and trust me, I read rooms like novels. After clocking the shift in vibe, I just quietly excuse myself and walk away. No drama, no speeches. Just distance. That's me.

I once overheard them talking ill of me. I played it cool, didn’t react: they still don’t know I know. But the respect? Aaah, Gone. Gone a long time ago.

So, how did y’all cut off from such friendships? Did you confront them or ghost them like me?

Second, what’s your criteria for acknowledging someone as a friend? Because nowadays I’m more of a “vibe, values, and loyalty” kind of guy. I no longer hand out friendship badges just because we shared a few laughs.

Lastly, do such people ever really change? Or is it like, once fake, always fake?

The final is today at 2:41 pm

I'm in an age whereby I should be attending family events, social gatherings, church activities, dowries etc. yet I just chose to stay in my house. Someone invited me to a fundraiser a month ago which is scheduled today yet I don't even have the plans to attend. Is sending the money enough? because I don't even know who will attend my events in case of any in the future since I barely attend any

Hello everyone, I wanted to ask the professionals who have been in the job market for years as a Kenyan. -How can I apply for jobs? -What websites do I use? -What sites to avoid? - Which job postings are fake and how to spot them - And some random pieces of advice

I didn't grow up having role models. I grew up having people I didn't want to be like and seeing situations I'd never want to be in

I'm 23(m) I completed high school in 2020,I wanted to pursue a course in medical field particularly nursing.In September intake of the same year I applied for a nursing course,at that time Medical field was only applicable through KMTC portal.It went through but I didn't get any placement. The next year I did the same for the two intakes of march and September but I didn't get any placement.Now I'm stranded,since my dad specifically wants me to pursue a nursing course... I've been applying for this course for almost 5yrs now but no success. What should I do???

People that are self-made don't listen to their parents.

They may consult them for advice to get their opinion on things regarding important life decisions and use this info to do what they want and make conclusions on their own.

In the western world it's common to find a 19 year old with a car, house, balancing multiple jobs and raising a family and probably already been to prison before. In that environment your forced to mature quicker, by the time you're 25 you've seen it all.

Compare that to Africa where it's like to achieve all that and have a decent share of life experiences and an array of stories to share you'd most likely be in 30's. I think the culture of waiting until your in 20's to be taken seriously as an adult is probably doing more harm than good over here.

I think when a child is around 12-13 years that's old enough for them to be making decisions on their own of course while still being monitored be parents and not being scolded for making mistakes and the culture should focus more on encouraging kids to experiment and not be afraid of dimming their light just to fit in.

I remember an old lil Wayne verse where he talked about telling his son that he's a man when he turned 10 years old. I'm of the opinion the same mindset should be implemented here. We would have maybe have more scientists, Elon musks and Walt Disneys that originated from Africa.

😂 Went out for a drink on Friday night at a nearby joint then had an altercation with someone who had a problem with the shade of my skin.

Nigga started asking me derogatory questions like are you from Sudan, why did you come here, even went ahead to ask me why I am skinny. I tried remaining stoic but he still went ahead to belittle my beautiful and moisturized dark skin. At some point his mates felt embarrassed and wanted him to stop. After seeing I wasn’t bulging, he and his crew decided to leave the whole table to leave me alone to drink by myself 😂 yaay! more space for me.

I just got from church and I was feeling peaceful so I wasn’t in the mood for fighting. plus, he works for an intelligence agency here in Kenya and I fear he would have “taught” me a lesson if I had tried hurling insults back

I am a guy, 5”9. Tall and dark. Kumbe hizi body positivity hukua jaba tu ju kwa ground people are bigoted AF. I understand what dark skinned women go through and I would never belittle someone based on their skin tone or looks for that matter.

Is my esteem hurt? The better term would be bruised, but not much. Does that mean I will stop hanging around that drinking parlor. No, not a single bigot can make me get out of my seat. I’m Kenyan btw.

What Thinkpad would you recommend for coding, machine learning, data science and running apps like adobe? Budget between 50k and 100k.

You know what, nimekaa hapa nikaamua I'm tired of feeling sad, bitter and broken because I loved the wrong man (he was right when he was the right man) too much.

This breakup unlike the ones I've experienced before, is driving me insane. Inanionyesha I didn't know smack like Jon Snow. I genuinely thought my soft heart was safe in someone's hands. Anyway ni sawa.

Sasa I'm ready to work on my self and to do better. I'll start with my mental state hence the gym thought which I'll fix my appearance as a bonus. I am okay with my body and weight and I'm scared i might lose it in the gym. But i have to gym. You feel me?

If you've been following my break up and healing journey, idk what stage this is but hey, we are making progress. Another stage I didn't highlight that I've gone through is my reddit search (haha... it's funny). Let me share a screenshot in the comments. Okay I can't find my search history but I've been on r/Breakup and r/ExNoContact alot.

Gymers, please share with me your tips for a beginner? Nataka kuanza kesho... I'm losing my mind and myself by the minute.

To the lawyers on this sub, please help?

I bought a piece of land from a company (the company still advertises and sells land) 4 years ago. We have a signed agreement. Now when I went to pick my title the company said the piece I bought was not available and offered me a different piece. I was not interested as I had already travelled a long distance just to view this piece and liked where it was located.

For the past 4 years I have been trying to get my money back without success. A meeting with them and my lawyer last month resulted in them offering to pay in very many installments, which my Lawyer rejected saying we go for arbitration but my lawyer has since gone mute. I am unsure if he was compromised.

There is a clause in the agreement that the company must return my money in full if they don’t honour their side of the bargain. What do I do to get my money back, possibly with interest? 4 years for the company to keep using my money is a long time. I want to Anika them on social media buyer beware and anywhere else I can Haki. Before I do this, any legal advise? Please help

China's GDP is approximately $17.5 trillion while the GDP of these countries is roughly <$5 trillion. China, culturally, has had the advantage of having a unified identity as an empire/civilisation for ~5000 years while Sub-Saharan Africa and Africa as a whole or at least large parts of it has obviously never had long standing unified identity until as recently as the 1950s onwards.

China's history wasn't always smooth sailing, as would any civilisation's history that has existed for this long. Common themes of history; war, famines, greedy monarchys, misguided ideologies etc. has plagued them but it has lead them to where they are today. It was not built in a day. Not even a millenium.

Hi I was wondering if anyone knows from a ‘reputable source’ how many languages were approximately spoken in pre-colonial Kenya before it became an East African Protectorate?

Obviously there are bias and difficulties in providing an exact figure, but would like to know/read more about this🙂

Who is this guy 🤔🤔