I will never use dating apps again. Statistically, it’s just not gonna happen for me on there.

I’ve had thousands of likes on Bumble and Hinge, I can’t seem to find ONE I find interesting or attractive. Picky? Yes.

I know I sound like a dick, but I also have special interests; My man is ideally an expat in Norway, over 1.82 and reasonably handsome, so dear men - it’s not necessary you, it’s me. I’m fully aware of that.

However, too much time has been spent on these apps, and now after deleting them, I feel a significant mental space has been rented out to my real life;

I got ART to create!! I got a job I need to focus on! I have books to read! I got a life to live!!

I will NEVER again consume so much false hope and in fact, I will NEVER obsess about dating or finding someone again! Because I simply don’t have time looking for the needle in the hay stack…

I will only focus on myself from now on, pursuing my passions for music and poetry and just live my life to the fullest. My God, I’m looking forward to this!!

Edit: I’m SCARED of matching with someone I haven’t even met! And when photos are all I can base my judgement on, how can I not base my choice on looks? I feel bad for seeming so superficial, but it’s the never ending likes and lack of connection I get tired of. I know I shouldn’t complain, but it’s just true.

And yes, I’m extremely picky.. I should give someone a chance, but then what do I do when I don’t want to move forward which I’m likely not to want if I’m not initially interested? It’s just gonna hurt and be awkward.. I’m not interested in going on several dates.

Exactly what the title says. This is so freaking stupid.

I'm ~40ys old, living and Germany. For me, it feels like we are living in "safe yourself" time, especially compared to the life before corona.

10, 20 or 30 yrs ago, I had the feeling that most of the people around me had some kind of positive curiosity about the future. What new tech will there be, how will we use it, how will politics worldwide change, which path down in life will everybody I know take? There was some sense of joy in general and a somehow playfulness vibe to life in general.

Now, there seems to be a kind of silent agreement that life will get much harder and darker for most in the future, and everybody tries to position themselves as good as possible for that. If you have read three body problem, you will know the dark forest (or dark valley?) humankind had to gone through in the books. It feels a little bit like most of the people around me and many people worldwide are so expecting this kind of change in our lifetime and there is some kind of sellout feeling to the world in general

• Anxiety weakens your immune system. • It clouds your focus. • It robs your present joy.

Pause, recharge, and release what weighs you down.

Mine is wherever the fate takes me.

I envy how houses, cars, and commodities were actually affordable back in the day, as a person entering the adult world I fear for the future

All I see on r/life is just negativity towards life. Why is everyone having such a bad time?

I'm personally living the best years of my life right now and I made a couple of posts about that, but I believe it's perceived as bragging or rage-bait. It's not. That's the point of this sub.

I really can't relate to all this negativity people have. Can somebody explain why life sucks for so many people? Why is 2025 such a bad year for so many people? I literally don't get it

Even family,lovers,work colleagues and friends all take advantage of me steal off me,cheat etc why?

I feel, i know too much for my age. I'm at the point, where I have no sense of what's actually right and what's wrong. What's real and what's not? Does got even exist or is it just all a illusion created in all of us? I know so much about myself and yet I tend to doubt myself. I only believe in myself and don't listen to anyone and still seek for validation? I have so many mixed thoughts, the line which was seperating all those thoughts has suddenly dissappeared and now I'm just confused? What is even going on? What am I supposed to do? Is there a way out of this? Is this life?

So, I thought my usual “ good morning beautiful” and “hello beautiful” greetings to my girlfriend were getting repetitive. So I thought I’d try it with some other traits that of hers that I loved…

It did not occur to me that “whatcha doing genius?” Might come across differently than intended.

You go to work, smile at people, make small talk, but deep inside you feel like you're just going through the motions. Friendships aren't as close, family is busy, and everyone’s just trying to survive.
Sometimes I miss the version of life where laughter was easy and plans were spontaneous.
Anyone else feel like adulthood is just… quiet?

I’ve had Samsung and iPhone before. I have a business but I use my phone for regular items - email, calling, texts, basic photos.

I’m torn on what to get based on my minimal needs. They all really do the same thing.

It’s 2am EST here, and I just got home after a night out with my friends and my fiance. Watching an emotional episode of my favorite show and I can’t help but appreciate the little things in life. I’ve never been much of a Reddit kind of guy but here I am, being as vulnerable as can be, to say hello. I hope all of you out there are well, happy and healthy. And if you aren’t, don’t be afraid to reach out and say hello. The power of a smile and a conversation are not to be undermined.

Be well, all.

Back when I was single, I used to hate the spring and everything related to it. The sound of birds made me even sadder, but now I have found a wonderful girlfriend who fills me with excitement and happiness.

She's the reason I enjoy every little thing that happens in my daily life.

Living in 2025 feels so exciting. I got a job that I enjoy alot and great co-workers. I've got no worries in life, except getting to work and being happy. I'm young and strong. I'm absolutely living in the most nostalgic era of my life right now.

I've spent years to find the right one. The constant rejection and disappointment made me want to stop dating, but I never gave up. I absolutely knew that I had to find the right girl and so I did. Now I can proudly wear my rose tinted glasses on and enjoy every moment of my life. I can't be more excited for the rest of 2020s and the beginning of 2030s.

Everyone seem to share their life experiences here in this sub, and so I wanted to share mine.

The lesson is that never give up if you want to be happy. Happiness takes effort. Even years of effort.

I felt that I had lost a part of myself. I had a horrible experience and trauma from school; it was the worst period of my life. I dealt with social exclusion, and I began to care about things I hadn’t cared about before, starting to compare myself to others. I wasn’t a good person either; I was a misanthrope who hated everyone, the world, and myself. My loneliness was mocked, and I was told that I wasn’t as special as I thought I was. I understand what they meant, but I couldn’t shake the feeling that I was worthless and easily forgotten. It was a perpetual cycle of despair.

BUT things have changed now. I’ve invested more time in my hobbies, picking up new and old ones like reading books, and I’ve started to embrace parts of myself. I’ve become more accepting of my introverted nature and have cultivated my own humor and communication style. Most importantly, I stopped comparing myself to others; I have fully deleted Instagram and TikTok, and I’m proud of that. I’ve begun to care about the things that make me happy and mostly keep to myself.

Of course, reinventing myself isn’t easy, as the past can still affect me negatively. I have to keep reminding my mom that I don’t like talking about my adolescent years, but other than that, things have been going well. I mostly embrace my own world now.

How has your reinventing or self improvement progress gone? I’m curious to know in the comments.

I’ve had anxiety for most of adult life (34) since 2020 it has gotten worse. But specifically since last year. I got diagnosed with some health issues which had been a roller coaster. I noticed everyone I talk to had a vice or a coping mechanism. I don’t drink alcohol, coffee, do drugs, gamble, I don’t indulge in food etc; I don’t have a coping mechanism, neither healthy nor unhealthy. I live in a major city and everyone is an alcoholic, does drugs, cheats on their spouses or has some sort of coping something, mostly unhealthy ones.

Is anyone else just raw dogging life? Is this why I’m having such a hard time? I feel like life is super heavy!!! Sometimes I wonder how others do it?

I'm a lonely autistic woman 25F. I have no height preferences and I'm not picky with dating. I'm not some man hating feminist. However my whole life I've struggled to find a long term romantic partner due to multiple mental illnesses. I get along with men super well and have always been considered one of the guys my whole life. The thing is, men are only interested in me for hookups, and even autistic men I've asked out put me in the friendzone for neurotypical women because they admitted to me that they don't want autistic kids and they'd want a woman with a lot of energy to raise a family.

When I've finally found someone interested in me, they will often be an antinatalist who wants a vasectomy due to being repulsed by disabled kids, or someone who just wants FWB.

What does not help is that I see SO much hatred towards Western women online. I understand why men choose to leave the country to find wives. I'm not against it, and one of my best friends is actually dating a foreign woman who's super sweet and close friends with me. Which is rare because it's hard for me to relate to other women often and she understands my autism well.

But I feel like I'm being lumped in with all of the women who bullied me my whole life. I look at men around me in public and I wonder to myself if they think I am ugly and repulsive and would rather have a pretty asian woman. It makes me feel worthless and like a pig. That no matter how submissive I act, nobody will want kids with me because there will be a prettier woman out there who is unique and exotic and speaks another language and is neurotypical.

And I see people say things online like "Oh Latin American women put on makeup and cute clothes to be sweet to men and impress them while those bitter Western women just do it to compete with other women aggresively". And it's like I'm considering learning makeup and cute clothes just so I can finally fucking fit in for once in my life. So maybe people will finally just stop treating me like I'm weird and an alien. I don't care about competing with anyone. I just feel pressure to finally be accepted.

It makes me wonder why I'm even here. If I don't get married and have kids, I can't even try and make a travel youtube channel or something because I'll get bombed with hate comments for being a "selfish cat lady"....despite all the men wanting foreign women instead of me! how can someone reject me and then get mad at me for trying to make the best of being single. And it doesn't help that the internet is becoming one of the only third spaces. So I'm basically supposed to just whip myself with a belt, isolated in an empty apartment, hating myself for being born in America.

I like to try and see the positives in life even tho not everyday is positive.

I'm losing hope, and I stumbled upon this subreddit. I've had 2 potential relationships in the past 4 months, but one ended abruptly and the other is up in the air. We're friends now, but I feel like there's something I'm doing that pushes them away.

I'm nice and respectful

I know boundaries

I give space

I care deeply

I'm not out for personal gain, and just want to make the other person happy while taking it slow.

I feel like I may never find a woman guys. I used to be a hardcore drug addict, but I've been sober for 2 years now, and I'm not going back.

Any tips on how to stop stressing or how to view the situation lightly? There's millions of women out there, but I feel like there's something wrong with me, looks or something, that is holding me back.

I'm a pretty good looking man. I'm just becoming hopeless. I apologize for the rant.

The amount of negative interactions I have had with men online I could write a book saying things like they want to rape me or wanting me to take pictures of my tampon when I'm on my period why are men online like this?

Hi everyone,

I wanted to share something personal.

Lately, I’ve been feeling stuck. I’m 28 M, I went through university, I have a degree, more studies, a simple job… but somehow I felt like I wasn’t going anywhere. Life was just passing by. I lost a family member not long ago, someone very dear to me. Before they passed, they told me something I can’t forget: “Be happy.”

That phrase stuck with me.

I’ve always wanted to visit Japan. It’s been a dream of mine for as long as I can remember. And recently, in the middle of my sadness and confusion, a small idea came to mind: what if I actually went there? Not just for a trip… but to study, to grow, to change my life.

So… I’m going to try. With my degree, with my dreams, and with nothing but determination, I’m going to take the first step.

I’m from Europe. I have a great family, and I love them deeply. But still, I’ve felt deeply alone for a long time. So yes, I’m scared — scared of being even more alone in a foreign country, of not knowing what’s waiting for me… But truth is, I already felt lonely here.

I don’t know what I’ll find if I make it there. A job? Maybe. But more than anything, I want to meet people, enjoy spontaneous plans, laugh, talk with different kinds of people, and feel connected to the world again.

It’s scary. I don’t know if I’ll make it. But just having this hope — this spark — makes me feel alive again. I didn’t even realize how much I missed that feeling.

And I wanted to share this with you — because if you’re feeling down too, if it feels like there’s no light at the end of the tunnel… I promise you, it’s there. Sometimes we’re the ones covering it without realizing. But it’s there. Waiting.

Life is beautiful, and sometimes what we need is just to fight for something. Anything. Just taking that first step toward something that matters to you… it can change everything.

I don’t know if I’ll succeed. Please, wish me luck (or pray for me, if you do that). But just fighting for something again… it fills my heart in a way I forgot was possible.

Thanks for reading ❤️

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what you got from life, the nature, and so on

You don't pay for water from pipe, you pay for its delivery.

Been watching this channel recently and its been giving me a lot of motivation in my life so I thought I’d share it here if anyone’s looking for motivation too

https://youtube.com/@projectdiscipline?si=0C9vvcCoALxoRcsU

Just wanted to share a book I recently came across that fits well with the self-development mindset. It’s called Phantom Protocol (phantomprotocolbook.com), and it focuses on how to better manage your online presence, protect your data, and reduce your digital footprint.

It’s written in a very accessible way — no technical jargon, just clear steps for people who want more control over their digital lives.

Thought it might resonate with some of you here. Has anyone else read it or come across similar resources?