Malicious compliance in response to weaponized incompetence

[u/snickerdoodlesrule]

Okay, I’m new to the page! I want to hear all of your stories or moments of malicious compliance in marriage.

Mine is when I asked my husband to move money from another shared bank account to our checking for bills. You guessed it, he didn’t move the money. This was the 3rd time that he “forgot about it” and I was tired of asking. I watched our checking account go into the negatives/ with overdraft fees. I confronted him and he said that I didn’t tell him which account, but we only have one main account for both of us to pay bills from. The account is connected to our debit cards!

The next day he went for lunch at chipotle. As he was checking out he realized that he didn’t have cash or money on his debit card. He called me at least 5 times asking me to transfer money, since I was near the bank that day. I did transfer money, but not to the account with the debit card, because he didn’t say which account 😉

We haven’t had any problems with him transferring money, since.

Edit: We share all of our bank accounts. I crunch the numbers and can’t always be responsible for budgeting and going to the bank/ doing transfers!

[u/Llohr]

This is petty revenge, not malicious compliance.

[u/Illuminatus-Prime → u/Llohr]

Re-read the definition at the top of the column to the right.

Malicious Compliance

People conforming to the letter, but not the spirit, of a request.

He asked her to transfer money, without specifying which account.  She complied to the letter of the request, but not its spirit.

Yeah, revenge was involved, but that's part of what MalComp is all about!

[u/Llohr → u/Illuminatus-Prime]

You're absolutely right. I'm not sure how I overlooked that.