Assholery is never mistaken for confidence. Confidence is one of if not the best qualities a person can possess. No matter how "otherwise desirable" they may be being an asshole is being an asshole.
In a 6 foot dude, short man syndrome is just regular old try-hard syndrome. You're trying so hard to hide your insecurities that you're painting a huge red circle around them.
The problem is small men often feel less masculine so they feel more need to exert this more onto others to prove it to themselves and then fall into a negative feedback loop of douchebaggery where the more they act like a Jack Russel the more they are treated like one, so they more they act like one to prove it. The issue isn't with society in how it views these men. It's these mens insecurity in their masculinity. It shouldn't be something that is ever needed to be proved, it should just be an aura. Not that it even matters if it isnt there. Problem is men thinking it matters.
I don’t believe that masculinity, in its truest sense, should need to be something anyone exerts themselves to communicate in the first place. But short people don’t get the same benefit of doubt as tall people when it comes to what society deems acceptable.
I agree that often women dont seem to be attracted to smaller men, but i think that's just an attraction thing, which i don't think can or should be changed. Similar to the argument over weight. Im not attracted to large women but people on the internet seem to think that's my issue. And tbh it might be, but that isn't changing, im just simply not attracted to fat girls.
So I think the issue is attraction sure, but i also believe the issue here is the conflating attractiveness and masculinity. And in this conflating it creates a need to prove masculinity more, which increases the negative perception, which increases the need to prove it more.
I don't think its fair but i just think that's just the way it goes.
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u/InsignificantIbex Jan 08 '20
So what do you call short-man-syndrome in 6' tall people?