I understand where you’re coming from, and it seems your posts are more venting frustration while explaining your side which is understandable. I was just trying to explain why you aren’t going to get any good responses when you’re angry about it, you can make a difference changing peoples minds when you present your thoughts without the 0 to 100 feeling your post felt like.
I can understand your situation and understand I was in a very similar situation after a 4 year relationship, however I think that what helped me the most was saying fuck that ex they don’t deserve how amazing I’m about to be and then I worked my dick off to change myself around (physically and education wise) because during that time I was able to finally grieve my loss and build back a base to put my “”manhood”” on.
I can empathize with how you’re feeling and the frustration that doesn’t seem to have anywhere to go, but I just want to say one thing bro. We’re all gonna make it if we push, I have no doubt that you’re going to become better than you’ve ever been and keep going till you’re the one fucking life. Just remember to keep a little bit of softness on the inside for people who are willing to be open and soft with you as well.
I wish you the best of luck my friend and my inbox is always here
I can understand your situation and understand I was in a very similar situation after a 4 year relationship, however I think that what helped me the most was saying fuck that ex they don’t deserve how amazing I’m about to be
Mine does deserve whatever I can give her though, so I can't really do that. If I can ever be a better person than her it'll be through immensely hard work and immense amounts of suffering while she was a better person than me to begin with and the only thing making her too lazy to work harder than me and be willing to endure more suffering than me on top of already naturally being better than me to begin with is that she doesn't have a role model for herself like she is to me. We were supposed to be like that for each other, that's how partnership is supposed to work, but she got the shit end of the stick since she was as close as possible to perfect to begin with and she got corrupted by having to deal with me being such a flawed partner on top of the majority of people around in the world being such douchebags. Thanks to all these people including redditors on subreddits she seeked advice on, who convinced her to hide in the same delusional set of mental complexes redditors hide in to avoid having to put effort into the world, I lost any chance I had at being good enough for her, she lost herself and her potential, I lost myself and my potential, both of us have had our lives destroyed. I can't really dampen my anger towards these people for their part in it, just like I can't do much to dampen my anger towards myself for my part in it or even fully repress the bit of resentment I have over her part in it. All she and I did wrong was basically just be inexperienced teenagers who couldn't understand each other properly on our own, that's nothing at all in comparison to the mass of selfish psychotic idiots online who purposely manipulate and gaslight people into destroyed lives like this like "oh you need help and guidance becoming adults who can understand and work with each other? great, that means you're helpless to stop us from using you as blank slates to paint all our bullshit on to help solidify our own worldviews. thanks for wandering into the lion's den, please come again!" Fucking monsters are rampant in our species, I'm not going to calm down about it until I've defeated them. She and I don't deserve to have our lives destroyed like this, reddit hiveminders do.
I understand and all I can say is I wish you the best of luck! If you have conviction that this is your way then the only way to move forward is to go with your conviction! Just remember to keep that soft edge while you do so, you don’t want to do to others what was done to you, you know?
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u/SeasonedGuptil Jan 08 '20
I understand where you’re coming from, and it seems your posts are more venting frustration while explaining your side which is understandable. I was just trying to explain why you aren’t going to get any good responses when you’re angry about it, you can make a difference changing peoples minds when you present your thoughts without the 0 to 100 feeling your post felt like.
I can understand your situation and understand I was in a very similar situation after a 4 year relationship, however I think that what helped me the most was saying fuck that ex they don’t deserve how amazing I’m about to be and then I worked my dick off to change myself around (physically and education wise) because during that time I was able to finally grieve my loss and build back a base to put my “”manhood”” on.
I can empathize with how you’re feeling and the frustration that doesn’t seem to have anywhere to go, but I just want to say one thing bro. We’re all gonna make it if we push, I have no doubt that you’re going to become better than you’ve ever been and keep going till you’re the one fucking life. Just remember to keep a little bit of softness on the inside for people who are willing to be open and soft with you as well.
I wish you the best of luck my friend and my inbox is always here