washing my bangs in the sink again because they get oily and split like lines 😭 maybe i should stop putting lotion on my forehead

I (25F) have grown up in a religious (protestant) african household. I have always been a "good" and obeying girl and currently finishing up my medical degree.

But the past year I've just wanted to live like everyone else. I've never partied, drunk alchohol, smoked anything, kissed and of course not had sex. I've never been in a relationship either or close to that. It seems like all guys just see me as a sister or one of the guys.

I really want at the least a boyfriend but it is not encouraged in the christianity i'm practicing. The advice I get is to wait on the Lord and not seek it out myself because

• 1. a girl should not be chasing men
• 2. if I go on dating apps, it means that I don't trust God to bring me my spouse.

The advice is to wait around for a good christian man to appear in my life so that I can marry him. But the issue what that, is that I'm generally not attracted to christians. I've never had a crush on a christian guy in my life (and I've had MANY crushes) and also the single christian men in my circle are VERY few. ALSO I don't feel ready to get married at all. I just want a boyfriend but this is not encouraged in my community.

I'm starting to get pretty impatient as I also have sexual urges. I'm pretty sexually frustrated at this point. I've considered just to say screw it to my very christian upbringing and go on dates, party, drink and have fun because my twenties or only once in a lifetime and I've already spent half on being "good". I'm just very confused. Any advice?

TLDR: I want to be in a relationship or just intimacy bad and live like all the other young people my age but I feel like my christian upbringing is hindering this. Am I missing out?

I love finding new hobbies. I started watercolour painting, reading (big hit), baking, making music playlists (idk if this counts but it's so fun), nail art, journaling etc. What are your fun hobbies? I'd love to try some new ones!

I love low effort hobbies that I can do while watching tv

So I'm in my 20s and it is now I am realizing I have a lot of mental blockages in every aspect of my life. Personal, relationships, and everything really, mostly I would say coming from when I was a kid, there was a lot of abuse happening around me and other things like abandonment.

I want to go to a psychologist but how do you go about finding what type of psychologist you need? When I go on a website it suggests different types, any clue on how to choose the right one?

24F I feel like my appearance limits my opportunities at work and in social situations. I’ve been told I look really young, and I’ve been mistaken for a fifth grade student this week at work. I regularly have people think I’m a high schooler or middle schooler, and I noticed that everyone seems to talk to me different than everyone else, like they’re dumbing it down like they’re talking to a little kid even once they know my age, and I never get asked to do important jobs that my other coworkers get to do even though we have the same performance scores and are the same age.

I do have a very bright and colorful style with my hair and clothes, and I’m wondering if I might have to give that up. I’m also kind of silly and a jokester, but not in a way that prevents the job from getting done. If anyone has felt the same way or has tips, that would be amazing, thank you

1st drawer- Razors (btw, do i have enough?) 2nd drawer- my catheters, incase i need one upstairs 3rd drawer-?? I dont have periods or i would put pads. Wipes? I never use the little ones folded in a packet 20x.. what should a girl use it for?

idk if anyone has discovered this before me but i legit feel like a genius rn. i was in the bath shaving my coochie and i happened to look up at my shower head and noticed i could see my reflection (ofc) so i took my shower head off the stand cuz its detachable and i brought it down and used the back part as a mirror to see what i was shaving and to check if i missed any hairs! so if you have a silver type shower head then definitely try it out

So basically I've been chatting with this guy, he's nice and seems kind but we never met irl. We've been chatting for a few weeks and at some point the conversation seemed to end.

At that time my workload increased and I barely had free time after work, so I forgot to text him. A few days ago I apologised to him for disappearing like that and he seemed okay but after not writing again for two days he suddenly texted me upset about ghosting him.

I know it's my fault for not texting him and I should have told him I was busy with stuff, but it kind of upsets me that he didn't even try once to start a conversation again during that time...

Maybe I'm just overthinking it or trying to blame him about it, but I also want to know someone else's opinion. 🙏❤️‍🩹

I (25F) have been with my bf (28M) for many years. Neither of us have been with anyone else, we are each others firsts (for everything). All we know is each other and what we have explored together. We both have been living with our parents so sexy time has to be quiet. (He has recently moved in with my/ my family).

Here’s the question/ problem: he doesn’t want to go down on me. Which I understand but he has only tried it once. I know it’s not for everyone but I also know some guys really enjoy giving it. I don’t want him to feel forced, but I feel like I’m missing out. I’ve offered to shower/ trim right before, whatever he thought might help.

He really likes when I go down on him so even though I don’t love doing it, I’ll do for at least few minutes (not always every time). I will say I don’t understand why people like eating ass, sounds kinda gross to me tbh (but I’ve also never had it done or done it). He has no interest in it (which is ok with me).

I have a lower libido than him and have been trying to do some more self exploring (which I never really did). I have a small vibe that I have said we should use together but we still haven’t. I guess I’m disappointed because I feel like some of this might help me.

Sorry for the long post. Any tips/ thoughts are much appreciated!

I recently just found out one of my high school bestfriends removed me and one of our bestfriends from her close friends story. It might seem like a small thing but it was honestly my breaking point.

She moved away and we didn’t lose contact when she did… but as time goes by our conversations lessened. Of course I understand and didn’t think much of it as we were all adjusting in college. I also moved away but tried my very best to keep in contact with them.

These past few months, I would barely hear from her. I still talk to one of our bestfriends but we would barely hear from her if not not hear from her at all. I got busy because of school too so I still didn’t think much of it until I messaged her last week and I didn’t get a response.

I’m honestly so sad about this :( I think she cut us off and I don’t know what I did. I feel really shitty and I fear I might’ve done something that made her call it quits. I keep my circle really really small and she was one of my bestfriends. I’m so heartbroken

Am I supposed to be emptying out my purse after every use?

I do clean my purse periodically and clean them when I switch them but I don’t switch very often. I see lots of videos where people have like a ‘purse station’ of things they interchange everyday in and out of their bags. I just can’t wrap my head around doing this.

isn’t it very bad to be under direct uv light? wouldn’t this contribute to melanoma risk?

So, how do y'all wash your bangs in between washes? I (26F) have had bangs since I was 6....and YOURE TELLING ME I CAN WASH ONLY THE BANGS between washes!? 😭

Someone say sike or teach me, please🤣

Hey! It’s my first time celebration my birthday alone abroad, and I’m turning 30 next week. Suggestions on what I can do alone, for myself!!

Would be awesome if you have suggestions for me as I’m in Salzburg! Thanks!

Looking for something with details that can be added daily including sleep quality, work schedule, exercise, which days meds are taken, moods, food/meal quality, social time, etc. Something with a color coded calendar that allows an overview to find patterns over time.

I'm 30f, post ovary-sparing hysterectomy, stressful shift work job, single mom, fitness enthusiast, and have adhd. Girlypop is busy. I don't want programmed 'self care' reading or daily mantras in order to get the data feedback, I just want data analysis.

I need something that can take all the data and show me the patterns. I say 'free,' but if it has everything I want in a tool I would pay. Just don't want to bleed money for 10 janky tools that don't Do All The Things

Thank you! 🙏

i need help on what colors would look good on me

i need help on what colors would look good on me i feel like i constantly buy colors that don’t suit me me

Something that holds me back in the dating world is just feeling like I'm not attractive. I grew up an overweight child, and heard rude comments from my parents and other kids at school. I was never asked out by guys, and I've had a handful of moments of being totally ignored by guys while my friends got attention. Still overweight as an adult, still have some of those moments. I think I handle it better now, and I do think I know how to put myself together so to speak a lot better than I did when I was a teen and in college. I am currently trying to lose weight and build better habits, and generally do other things to improve my appearance (because unfortunately, whether I like it or not, we are judged by it as I've learned after both gaining and losing weight) but also trying to build up my confidence.

I think because of my experiences growing up I honestly find it really difficult to see myself in an attractive lens. I feel like it's so hard even to fake it till I make it. I just intrinsically feel unsexy and only see what I lack/my flaws. Like, my boobs are big but they're saggy with stretchmarks. My butt is flat and I don't even have curves like other plus size women do. I have a belly, I have rolls that look weird, etc. I really don't see anything that looks like my body represented in media, and I think as some of you know the types of plus size bodies often represented still carry a particular look. A few times I've tried to initiate more intimate stuff with guys and I feel so awkward because I feel so totally not sexy at all.

I feel stuck in this loop:

I'm not attractive → Try to do something that makes me feel good → I don't get the external validation I see other people receive → It solidifies in my mind that I'm just innately unattractive, because wouldn't XYZ be happening if I was?

If you've been through the same thing I would love to hear how you were able to shift your mindset.

Background story: I broke up about 6 weeks ago with my partner and got on to a dating app, and met someone whom seemed interesting; I was chatting with her on a daily basis and we were going to meet up till she sprained her ankle on a sport and we postponed. About that time I had concerns hoping she was recovering, and had also disclosed the timeline of my last relationship. It seemed like she had tapered in her responses. I decided to pluck some courage and be honest about my situation and the following screenshots are merely highlights of our conversation, which I’m having a hard time determining if there’s hope. I did send another message a couple days later after the texts below and I haven’t heard from her.

Partly this is my ego looking for answers as I’m a fairly successful and good looking / mature individual who knows what she wants , but can’t help think that this was also a poor timing for a potentially good match.

I have been in and out of relationships for the past few years and haven't put too much thought into my pubic hair, mostly shaving once a month or so then letting it grow, repeat. But I don't like the completely bare look or feel, nor do I like the itchiness and razor bumps that come after the shave.

I'm dating again, and while I'm not the type to care if there's hair down there, I'm trying to figure out how I can have that without it being a jungle. I've seen suggestions on trimming it, and when I asked my friends they said the same, buying an electric bikini trimmer, etc. but that feels very confusing to me. How do you trim it???? Like, how much?? Which parts?? How short?? Are these dumb questions?? Probably!

Also, the one time I DID try trimming it was with regular ole scissors and I ended up cutting an entire chunk of my hoo-ha off...so there's some trauma!