r/TuxedoCats • u/Mess1na • Feb 24 '25
🌈 MEMORIAL / MOURNING 🕊️ We had to day goodbye
This was Bentley. Bentley was part tuxedo, part cowcat, but I joined this sub before I had knowledge about cow cats, and just stayed. Because I love the vibe here.
Bentley couldn't pee on the evening of the 10th. I noticed practically directly, and got him picked up by an animal ambulance because my son was already in bed. They took him to an emergency vet. They confirmed he had bladder Stones and crystals and admitted him. Tuesday they informed me he was doing okay. They would remove his catheter and see if the blockage would be gone. It wasn't, so he got his second catheter, and me and my 7 year old son could visit him on wednesday. He looked sick, but was so happy to see me. Sadly, Bentley got a bleeding in his bladder because he managed to yank out his catheter. The vet monitored him, but let me know on friday she tought a third catheter would be do more harm than good. Long story short, I picked him up on friday with antibiotics, painkillers and diazepam to (hopefully) relax his urinary tract enough. Saturday went okay. He peed a little, which gave me hope. I didn't notice any blood. He cuddled with me and our other cat. I really thought things would be okay...
When I woke up sunday, there was blood. So much blood. He was awake, but clearly in pain. I gave him painkillers and called the vet, where he was euthanised.
This is the short version of the story. I miss him. Bentley was almost 5 years old. I feel guilty, even though the vet assured me I did "enough".
My (autistic) 7 year old is missing his buddy too. I knew he loved Bentley, but I didn't know this loss would hit him so hard.
And my other cat, Kyra, seems to be depressed. She misses her "brother" too.
I hope by writing this, it will help with my healing. And now, Bentley will be forever on Reddit.
I miss you, Bentley. I love you.
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u/Most-Donut4697 Feb 25 '25
So sorry to hear about your loss of Bently. He was truly a handsome boy. Don't beat yourself up or second guess yourself. You did what you could & got the advise of professionals.
Do something special to remember how special he was to your family. If you have a picture of him you really like have it made into a plaque or have a tree planted in his memory & frame the certificate or acknowledgement, etc.
He was a part of your family & you will miss him, but after time the memories of his life and the happiness he brought to you will be stronger than the memories of your loss. I'll send up prayers for you and your son and for Bently too that he'll be happily in heaven after crossing the rainbow bridge.