r/Vent Feb 03 '25

MOD ANNOUNCEMENT An updated post on the groups and types of people we do not welcome or allow in this subreddit.

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We previously made a post about this, but apparently, it wasn’t "dumbed down" enough for certain people who chose to nitpick and twist words instead of understanding the obvious or realising that the post meant along-side our rules that are already in place against extremism and hate speech, So here’s an updated version that should cover everything this time—though I don’t doubt that some people will still find something to complain about.

WE DO NOT ALLOW ANY FORM OF EXTREMISM, WHICH INCLUDES BUT IS NOT LIMITED TO:

People who promote, encourage, or defend violence, terrorism, or hate in the name of any political, religious, or ideological belief.

Types of people who are NOT welcome on r/vent:

  • Racists & White Supremacists
  • Nazis & Fascists
  • LGBTQIA+ Hate Groups (Transphobes, Homophobes, Biphobes, etc.)
  • Misogynists & Misandrists
    > Extremist Incels & Other Gender-Hate-Based Groups
  • Pedophiles, Groomers & Pedophile Defenders
  • Child Abuse Advocates
  • Victim Blamers & Abuse Apologists
  • People Who Encourage Suicide or Self-Harm in Any Form
    > No, transphobes, that doesn’t mean gender-affirming care. It means self-harm. Like it says. Morons.
  • Ableists Who Dismiss or Attack People for Their Disabilities
  • Conspiracy Theorists Who Spread Harmful Misinformation
  • Religious Extremists Who Use Faith to Justify Hate or Oppression
  • Harassers, Stalkers, or Doxxers
  • People Who Mock, Invalidate, or Attack Others for Expressing Emotions
  • Political Extremists on Any Side
    > We do NOT allow extremists of ANY political ideology, nor do we tolerate anyone who advocates for or encourages violence.
  • Cult or Extremist Group Recruiters & Manipulators
  • Fearmongers & Hate Speech Peddlers
  • Trolls Who Enter the Community Just to Instigate Conflict

Examples of extremist groups that are NOT welcome here:

  • Proud Boys (Right)
  • Atomwaffen Division (Right)
  • Three Percenters (Right)
  • Boogaloo Movement (Right)
  • Revolutionary Communist Party (Left)
  • Redneck Revolt (Left)
  • Black Bloc Anarchists (Left)
  • Antifa Cells That Advocate Violence (Left)

These are PURELY A SMALL SELECTION OF EXAMPLES TO SHOW EXTREMIST GROUPS. This is NOT a restricted or limited list. ALL extremism and ALL extremist groups are barred.


This subreddit is NOT a political platform.

r/vent exists for people who are struggling with things in their life to vent their emotions and find support or an outlet. It is not a space for constant political bickering, hate, abuse, trolling, or mocking. It is not a "left or right" space—it is a venting community for people to express their emotions, share personal stories, and find comfort from others who may have gone through similar struggles.

The ONLY reason we are making these exclusionary posts about extremists and hate speech is because we have had an increased influx of posts and comments from users who fall into these groups. Our initial post only called out the groups we had been dealing with en masse, but those groups got upset that we didn’t call out the other side too. So, to make it really simple for everyone to understand, we are breaking down exactly what we mean by hate speech and extremism.

We do not act on people based on their political stance unless they are preaching or sharing extremist views, spreading hate, or attacking others. If you can’t tell the difference between simply having an opinion and being an extremist, that’s your problem—not ours.

Hate, abuse, and dangerous rhetoric in any form will result in immediate action.


r/Vent 4h ago

Attractive men are so out of touch w reality 😂

731 Upvotes

I don’t think I’ve interacted w an attractive man who was down to earth. I get it that they can get anyone blah blah blah, bc some women would do anything to be w them, but does it not start to feel empty at some point? They be acting like they’re some kind of God or something. I’m an attractive woman and get compliments all the time but I still try to be nice to ppl. At the end of the day, what’s the fun in treating ppl like they’re disposable and not forming any meaningful connections…like you see them in the street and they’re walking w their head on high and shit, like chill buddy, you’re just a man 😂 reality will hit you one day too!


r/Vent 4h ago

Stop generalizing.

160 Upvotes

Just because you have had a bad experience with men, woman, or race doesn’t mean that everyone is like that. Don’t be so close minded.

Edit: not saying all people generalize it’s just sad when people are stereotyped because of it. People are awesome and deserve a chance. For example my buddy is a felon and is very tatted up. He is literally such a nice dude and would do anything for you. Just is a great human being but people just don’t give him the chance he deserves and assume things etc and he is not the only person I am friends with who has experienced this. It’s just sad.


r/Vent 9h ago

I need someone to talk to.

305 Upvotes

Anyone.

I just need someone to talk to

My name is Ryan I am 16 and I am in foster care. Both my parents were drug addicts and alcoholics both of them took there lives when I was younger and I have been in foster care my whole life. I now have an apprenticeship in carpentry and doing pretty well for myself.

But something doesnt feel right. I feel so lost. I feel so alone. I don’t want to grow up. I feel as if I haven’t lived my childhood I feel as if I will fail and end up like my parents.

I feel like life has gone way too fast. I know I’m still so young but I’m already at that point were I need to grow up and start relying on myself. But I don’t want to. I want to be a kid again I want my parents.

I also have no real life friends. Like none at all. I’m so lonely and feel so lost. I really need friends. And I really need help.


r/Vent 1d ago

TW: Medical People laughing at an actual human’s death

4.0k Upvotes

I am so fucking mad right now. I saw a video on my fyp that was a gravestone with the title “happy Valentine’s Day my love”, and the dead person, dead at 23, happened to be a furry. There were HUNDREDS of comments laughing, posting memes, and saying deserved to an actual human being dying from cancer because they wore a costume they didn’t like.

People posted “anyone wanna desecrate a grave?”, “one down”, and “deserved”. They posted gifs of Speed celebrating or trying not to laugh. They posted images of people peeing on graves.

Why the hell are people like this


r/Vent 4h ago

TW: Anxiety / Depression Think I'm about to abandon an old lady

97 Upvotes

Believe me, it took a lot to get to this point but I just had a moment of clarity today.

This is a woman in her early 90s who was a good friend of my late mother, the last 3 or so years I've been helping her with errands and managing her finances as she doesn't really have anyone to do so. She has a living son who's essential a useless moocher who disappeared when he owed her money and only showed up more recently trying to get money again, her grand and great grands have no contact with her.

The only reason I got myself in this mess of being her go-for is out of guilt honestly, because she was mom's good friend and was in a pickle during covid, since then she's been coming to me more and more for help with things like going to the bank or the grocery and now I see and or help her on average twice a week! It's become too much for me to be hanging around this old biddy this much and I'm not even 40 ffs, otherwise she's kind of a pain the majority of the time!

She constantly complains about the same shit every time I see her, how's she's lonely, she hates her house mates (not really justified), she doesn't like keeping money or extra things in the house cuz it gets 'spirited away', she worked xyz years and ended up like this. Blah blah Another lovely quirk is when we go buying things like clothes and accessories she'll find a reason to dislike what she bought the very next DAY, and of course, tries to blame me for letting her buy it?? She's kinda gross lol, when she eats food gets everywhere and all over the ground, she'll unapologetically dig in her nose or ears or spit out something caught in her gums no matter where she is and barely wipes her hands off let alone wash them and sometimes I will have to hold that hand when her balance is shot, think a giant toddler. She always tries to guilt trip me when I'm not available but I know she's being needy because of the loneliness, I've tried encouraging her to make friends in church or something but it's like she doesn't want to do it herself

The worst trait to me, however,is how damn controlling she is, absolutely everything has to be done her exact way or she's upset, we can't leave her home til she cleans up and puts things in their proper place taking up a extra 15 -20 minutes of her futzing around, she's hungry so we're not continuing this errand til you take her to eat this specific food, when I'm trying to do anything efficiently she accuses me of rushing her and we must do things properly, going on a tangent about that, maybe she has undiagnosed OCD, who knows? But imagine dealing with this over and over and over

Which brings me to this week, I had a surgical procedure, I warned her Friday the week before I would not be available, Monday I see a call from her and didn't answer because I was really not in the mood, Wednesday I have the surgery and see a missed call from her and one from her acquaintance, I text the acquaintance that I can't talk, can you please pass the message on that I'll contact her later when I can talk because she cannot text. Today I'm home recovering I get a another call from her, I'm still hoarse but decided to answer, now who told to do that? Here she is berating me for not calling her and telling her if I'm alright, how dare I pass a message on through someone else when she wants to talk to me directly!! No matter how I explained I literally couldn't talk she's going on and on that it's not proper and she was worried and our business is no one else's!

While she's ranting away I'm lying there tired and in pain just thinking to myself, 'What am I doing? Why am I putting myself through this? Like if I just hand her back the things she left with me and wash my hands of this, would I lose anything?' She's not entirely alone on the world, she has neighbors, her priest, her aquiantences, so I'm sure there's someone she can could build trust with to take over my 'duties' so to speak

Well Fuck. This.

After she hung up on me I grabbed her shit and put it in my car, I'm not up to drive today but tomorrow I'm dropping it off and giving her full control over her own life and wishing her luck, sorry mom but I'm sure even you would have gotten sick of her by now :/


r/Vent 1d ago

Need Reassurance... In 5 days, I have lost 43k

8.8k Upvotes

ETA: I was mistaken, and I wasn't all invested in S&P. I'm definitely not a millionaire. My inheritance was $250k and I invested $60k give or take of that.

ETA 2: I have learned a valuable lesson, and that is to make financial literacy a priority for myself. I have no idea how any of this works, and now is a good time to learn.

Because of this post, my inbox is flooded with scams and people looking for money for me to cash app them 😂🤦‍♀️

I was left an inheritance when my father passed 8 years ago. I left 25% of it in the S&P 500 so I could have something to leave my kids when I go. I'm not a rich girl and never have been, so this is all I had to my name, and it was for my kids. I saved it for them. Even when I was flat broke, on the verge of eviction, and struggling I refused to touch it. I thugged it out and found a way, because that was not MY money.

That was my kids money. Their nest egg. Their chance at a better life than I had.

Life. It is not fair. We can't win.


r/Vent 23h ago

Need to talk... I don't find the show "Friends" funny AT ALL

3.2k Upvotes

The jokes are extremely low effort. The laugh track is totally insufferable. The Pheobe character is so unfunny. The standard of living is hilarious for people that have those "job things."


r/Vent 20h ago

Happy/Positive Vent I'm so happy my boyfriend realized I had autism.

1.2k Upvotes

I (18F) have been dating my bf (19M, also autistic) for a little bit now. Not even on our first date he asked, "This might be insensitive, but are you autistic?" I adamantly denied it, but as the dates continued (and eventually moving in together) he asked me again, and before I could even deny it, he said "You do." Of course, I asked him for evidence, and he said, "You hate loud noises, you can't stand the big light, you have sensory issues, and you literally have a Skyrim tattoo because you're hyperfixated on it." And you know what, that shit gagged me.

Doing more research (and taking the RAADS-R) test, I am matching symptoms. RAADS-R results: 180. Yeah, pretty strong evidence.

Now that I've accepted it, I feel so much better about myself. He bought me little fidgets, gives me space when I ask or crushes me when I ask, gives me my headphones in loud spaces, all on his own will. Of course I'm trying to be more independent, but he's supporting me. And I love it.

While I typed this post, he looked over and said, "How did you not notice it sooner? It's pretty obvious."

I love my boyfriend <3


r/Vent 22h ago

TW: TRIGGERING CONTENT Yesterday was the worst day of my life

1.5k Upvotes

As the title reads, yesterday was literally the most horrific day of my life.

I was babysitting my niece and my 12 year old sister was with me. She went outside to bring garbage to the dumpster and she was taking a bit longer than expected. I opened the door and saw her at the bottom of the stairs coming up, looking a little freaked out. A random woman was walking in the parking lot, talking to herself and when she saw my sister walking up the stairs, she started to follow. I took my sister inside and locked the door. I asked her what the woman had said and my sister responded, “She said her friend was turning blue”. I grabbed my phone and went down to the parking lot with 911 dialed. I asked her what happened and she said that her friend was blue and he was not breathing. I asked her if he was overdosing and she said “Probably”. She was frantic as well and most likely on some kind of drug. I told her to take me to the apartment and when we went up, her friend was slumped over in a camping chair and blue. The apartment was a mess but it wasn’t dirty. I checked if he was responsive and the 911 operator told me to lay him on the floor. I tried to pick him up but he was too heavy so I yelled at the woman (Who was trying to leave) to help me pick him up. Once i got him on the floor, the woman left and I was instructed to do CPR, which I am luckily certified in from my experience working in Social Services. I remember, the woman came back in with 2 doses of Narcan and i gave it to the man. He was not responsive the entire time and he had no pulse. Once the EMTs got there, they took over and i went outside to speak to the police. They were surprised and glad that I was able to perform CPR and thanked me. I sat in the parking lot waiting to see if the man would make it. They were taking a long time to come down so I knew it was likely that he didn’t make it. When an EMT came down to tell me he didn’t make it, I broke down. I don’t know why because i didn’t know him personally but I tried so hard to save him. He was only 31 years old. The woman left around the time that i found out he died and the police were looking for her. I spoke with a support officer/ counselor and it was nice having him there but im only 21 years old. This was the hardest thing i have ever dealt with.


r/Vent 13h ago

Not looking for input My gf can do better than me

224 Upvotes

My girlfriend could do better than me.

Gonna delete this later.

Anyways, I feel like my girlfriend could do better than me. I’m not very attractive, boring, don’t have much money or anything really.

She loves me and I love her, but I just feel like she could easily find someone better than me. She really is perfect, and I’m very lucky to have someone like her.

but yeah I guess I’m just in shock still? It’s been a good while, but I’m just not used to being loved.

I can see a future with her, I love her to pieces.

I don’t know, I’m sorry for posting, but I’m just so confused and I’ve always hated myself lol

Edit; Wow thank you guys for all these kind and helpful replies! I’ll be sure to update at some point :)

Another Edit cause you guys deserve an update; We’re heading off for the night, both tired. She’s sent her lovely goodnight message as always, so I reciprocated. She’s awesome! I’m very lucky :)


r/Vent 1h ago

TW: Sexual Assault / Abuse I am so done with my 4 year relationship

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I am a (19f) and my fiancé is a (22m) And after a major fight last a few months I am done with my fiancé. He has been making me feel mentally unstable and I am always tired because any time we talk he beats me down more and more. He has been physical a few times when I was 16 but nothing I couldn’t handle. But now after him hitting my car and basically threatening me more than ones I am close to done, he is also probably cheating on me again and that’s why his telegram is locked. I wasn’t able to unlock it but a few minutes ago he was texted someone on there and pulled his phone anyway from me. I am so fucking done


r/Vent 3h ago

TW: Anxiety / Depression My mom makes me feel icky

28 Upvotes

My mom is elderly and not in good health. She has ischemic dementia so she’s not always herself. Still, the issue I’m about to describe is something that has always been present and is only worse now because of the dementia.

My mom hates my ex sister in law. My brother is divorced. She had weight loss surgery, started getting lots of attention from men, cheated on my brother. She confessed it to him and told him she wanted an open marriage which they tried for a while but my brother couldn’t take it, so they divorced. He’s now paying alimony. It sucks. She deserves some hate for that, but that’s not why my mom hates her. The hate my mom had for her has been since the very beginning. In fact, I’m relatively certain that the way my mom treated her played a part in the demise of their marriage. Maybe she felt like my brother didn’t stand up for her or something. Maybe that’s why my brother doesn’t speak to my mom anymore.

I actually quite liked my ex SIL. At least, I did before she broke my brother’s heart. She’s beautiful, bubbly, hilariously funny, outgoing, creative, and smart. I thought my brother won the lottery with her, to be honest. And while I’m terribly disappointed and upset at what she did, that’s doesn’t change the fact that she’s a bubbly and outgoing person.

They’ve been divorced for about 8 years now and my mom just always talks shit about her, for no reason. No one will be talking about her and my mom will just randomly bring up what a bitch she is. Today, she kept saying that my ex SIL is not a chatty or talkative person. I was like, mom… yes she is. She’s very outgoing and has a ton of friends. My mom absolutely refused to admit it and got angry and had an angry look on her face for the rest of our visit.

The thing that really kills me about this is that she never felt that way about my ex husband. After we divorced, when my mom knew that my ex husband was not seeing the kids and not paying child support, I found out that my mom was secretly inviting him over for dinner on a regular basis.

He ended up molesting our daughter and spent a few years in prison for it and is $41K behind in child support, but she’s literally never said a bad word about him. And she’s told me to “get over it” when I was upset and depressed about what happened to my daughter. That it “wasn’t that bad”. I think, actually, she’s just a misogynist.

My mom disgusts me. I wish I didn’t feel obligated to take care of her.


r/Vent 1h ago

The luckiest man alive in my opinion

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Used to wonder what my purpose was. Recently had a health scare and feel like I have a new lease on life. So thankful for all of the things and mostly people in my life. My amazing wife is more than I’ve ever deserved. I feel so guilty I ever questioned my time here!!! Short and sweet! Hope you all can find your reason as well!


r/Vent 8h ago

Why can everyone be mad except for me

54 Upvotes

Man im just so tiered of the fact that everyone is my family is allowed to be mad, shout, display their feelings but when I disagree? When I dare to voice the fact that they treat me unfair? Suddenly I’m acting off, I’ve got something with my head and I’m supposed to act like a normal person and be useful. Fucking hell I don’t get jack shit unless my sibling asks for it, I have to take care of him every single time they want me to but when I object cause he’s acting like a fucking retard just to piss me off I’m suddenly a horrible person and I’m supposed to just take it and let them have a bit of stress off of their shoulders. And when I do try to help out unprompted? Or be nice unprompted? I’m told to fuck off and do something I was actually asked for cause I’m causing too much stress (????) I can’t even bake a cake for my fathers birthday without my mother screaming at me just for existing (it’s not even that I don’t know how to bake, I’m quite good at it and everyone is always really impressed by it so I have no idea why she even has a problem with it)


r/Vent 5h ago

TW: Drugs / Alcohol 2 years sober and I really need a drink

29 Upvotes

I've been sober for over two years but disabling my mind with alcohol was the only thing that worked and made the memories and thoughts stop. It's getting hard


r/Vent 6h ago

i wish people didn't make such a conscious effort to be an ass

22 Upvotes

I know I shouldn't take [FAMOUS BRITISH AUTHOR] seriously but I just went on Twitter (mistake #1) and saw her make a tweet targeting asexual people with an entire hateful comment section of at least some real people who aren't bots or trolls.

It was never going to stop at any given group and it's so annoying, why does nobody realise identity being targeted is at its most innocent a distraction; and at its worst an effort to divide and eradicate different groups even more? I guess this could be a "muh microlabels!!!" thing but oh my god this shit does NOT MATTER AT ALL I don't understand the choices in propogating this bullshit.


r/Vent 1d ago

I'm a cashier. Why the FUCK are you so fucking rude? Why do you ignore me? Sorry my job of ringing up your shit and waiting on *YOU* is such a fucking inconvenience.

2.3k Upvotes

I'm not just entering the job market. I'm making $20 an hour, currently sitting at 155 hours of PTO and I gain more every week. I also run the rest of the fucking store top to bottom I don't just sit on my ass behind the register all shift.

It's becoming the VAST number of people


r/Vent 22h ago

Happy/Positive Vent My crush is now officially my girlfriend

358 Upvotes

She's now my girlfriend, next week it's gonna be one month of us. I love her to death and beyond. She makes me cry out of pure joy and happiness. She's my home: I feel safe when I'm with her, more than I feel safe in my own home.


r/Vent 2h ago

Do you guys ever feel like your all alone? Even though you're surrounded by many people....

10 Upvotes

Like you've got no strong connection with anyone, nor can you make any strong connections. Everytime you try, it's actually weak and awkward...


r/Vent 12h ago

i hate being unattractive

55 Upvotes

there is nothing attractive about me none would be attracted to me , most would reject me upon first look , everyone would think they can just find someone better looking and not look twice at me there is no evidence or experience that points in the opposite directioni want someone to have a crush towards me , someone who finds me attractive , someone who looks at mei have none to hug , none to comfort me it doesnt matter how stressed i am.i have one friend he is awkward and shy and doesnt know how to talk to win but plenty of women confessed to him and gave him attention just based on looks alone , i wish that could happen to me too you knowi cant approach women unless they drop hints first like eye contact or something else , but no women ever drops that so its impossible , when i have approached in the past without any hints they just try to insult me or reject me immediately or show 0 interest


r/Vent 3h ago

I just wish to have someone that i can give my love to

11 Upvotes

And i dont mean in a romantic way

I dont really have anyone to talk to, but i have so much love and encouragement to give

It feels bad not being able to share positive feelings with anyone

I just want to be there for someone.


r/Vent 8h ago

Not looking for input I hate feeling desperate

24 Upvotes

Desperate for someone's attention, their text , call , assurance , validation. I hate it i hate it I hate it I hate it I hate it I hate it I hate it I hate it I hate it


r/Vent 1h ago

i'm the toxic one and i don't know what to do

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hello, i am 17 F, and my boyfriend is 18 M. we are both graduating highschool in may this year. we have been dating for almost 8 months, and it's been great. we have a strong bond, but there's something wrong with me. i don't know how to be me without him. i can't do anything without him, and i have an irrational fear of him cheating on me. i know deep down he's not, but i can't help but fear it. it's starting to get to a point where i am just rude and intollerable. i know he is annoyed, but he always stays and he has never left. i don't want him to leave, but i push him away expecting him to still want me. i can't stop this self sabotaging behavior and i know it's going to ruin our relationship. this is something that we both want, a relationship leading to marriage. i don't know what to do. i am in therapy but i know this is not going to be a overnight fix, not even in a few months. i have been working on my actions and behaviors, and they have improved, but i don't think it's enough. someone, help.