r/adhdwomen • u/PeriwinklePiccolo876 • 2d ago

Social Life Can you do two "events" in a day?

By events I mean like... go grocery shopping AND have a get together with friends or family later. Have a doctor appt in the afternoon AND have to go to the store later or have a concert later. Do you do this and not feel like you're on the verge of a mental breakdown? Physically and mentally exhausted?

If so.... HOW???

ETA: Well, by the response, I have to say... You get me... you really get me! 🥲 haha. I posted because I have a (hobby related) errand I need to get done but both Sat&Sun already have events planned and it's stressing me out. Its not like running down the street to the corner store, the errand will take like 3 hours out of my day and I just don't know that I can do it along with the other plans.

Many have stated being medicated helps them. Im genuinely happy that it helps you but it does not help me, haha. I am medicated, I can focus on work or hobby for the better part of 5 hours and be flabbergasted at the time that has passed. It does not help with introvert hangover (which, much like a regular hangover, it lasts longer and is much worse the older I get!)

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u/DramaticDisorder 2d ago

I always watch those "day in my life" vlogs where the girl is going to the gym in the morning, then work, then a cafe during lunch, then back to work, then out to run errands, back home to shower, and going out to dinner with awe. I don't think I could do that once a month let alone every day.

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u/birdyheard 2d ago

i do gym before work most days, but all my meal prep & shopping happens one day a week before work starts. i think those day in the life’s are purposely filmed on eventful days or girls save up their trips for the sake of a good video, lol. no one is normally doing all of it in one day, but unfortunately it’s a necessity as i don’t have anyone helping me and i can’t afford to eat out every day.

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u/Usualausu 1d ago

I feel these must be fake. Like I get other people can do more things but I wonder how many times they’ve actually done their supposed daily routine. And how many times will they do it after that video? They never talk about how much time they spend editing or prepping for these videos.

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u/GraphCat 1d ago

It's the type of thing I can definitely do if I haven't had a mentally exhausting week at work.  If it's been a hard work week, it's gym and then home to knit and watch YT all evening instead. 

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u/apeoples13 1d ago

Exactly this! And like I probably could force myself to do all that in one day but I would be miserable and irritated the whole time. I desperately need my recharge time or else I’m useless

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u/Avondran 1d ago

I’ve been watching Hannah Alonzo on YouTube recently and a lot of these influencers get caught lying by the time on their watch or the dates on the receipts they show. I’m sure there are people who actually do a bunch of stuff in one day but I think most of it is made up for engagement.

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u/novostained 1d ago

They’re straight up fascist propaganda in most cases, genuinely! Peter Thiel & co fund tons of influence campaigns meant to sell that ubermenschen aesthetic of productive, able-bodied consumers of gasoline and “luxury” goods (which the vlogs are often advertising) and air-travel etc

Trad-wife shit too, like c’mon lady we know you aren’t milking any cows you have a professional production crew filming you stir flour

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u/UnicornOnTheJayneCob 1d ago

My (ostensibly non-ADHD) daughter does this type of thing. Okay, maybe not the two going-out-to-eat-twice thing, because she is too nutritionally and fiscally responsible. But she is amazing. I think she does a lot to set herself up in advance. Consistency and everything. Or something. I don’t really understand how she does it, but it is so cool to see.

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u/Necessary_Parsley547 1d ago

I could have a day like this but it wouldn’t be planned. If I tried to plan so many activities I’d accomplish maybe 1 or 2. Much more likely to do things on a whim

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u/hyperlight85 1d ago

I am friends with someone who has that much in their day. My friend who I will refer to as Jojo works multiple gigs as a performer and also a receptionist somewhere. She video called the group chat while she was driving home from one job, then got changed and got on a train for another one. Then she went to the gym after. The moment i am home from my 9-5 I am on the couch and barely conscious.

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u/Princess_Queen 1d ago

Since you mentioned the shower before dinner.. honestly showers and outfit changes help a lot with the transition. I hate showering and only really experience this when visiting my in-laws in a tropical climate. Their social routine during the holidays is EXHAUSTING but basically being forced to take a cold shower and change outfits every outing as I was drenched with sweat really made it more manageable. Feeling like a fresh morning for every activity.

I could never do this in Canada though. One shower a day if I'm lucky, and my outfit changes are limited to like gym/hiking clothes and what I'm wearing for the rest of the day.