r/adhdwomen • u/DarkAndSparkly • 19h ago

Cleaning, Organizing, Decluttering We ate the frog. Well, we ate half the frog.

Husband and I are both ADHD. Cleaning is not a talent either one of us have. Executive dysfunction is an everyday thing. So is the fact that our house has become one giant depression hole. We also both have chronic pain conditions and just moving around day to day is hard enough.

My parents are coming to visit Sunday. I have a LOT of trauma around housekeeping and cleaning and feeling like it’s never good enough.

We are half the frog today. Most of the boxes are broken down, and most of the trash is out. We still need to finish a few trouble spots tomorrow and sweep/mop/vacuum. And clean the cat’s bathroom. We’re shutting the door to our bedroom and leaving it closed. It won’t be done.

But we made a giant dent in the mess today. I’m so fucking proud of us. And I’m in so much pain.

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u/Salty_Emu_9945 18h ago

I came in here expecting to see someone accidentally (by way of AdHD) actually ate a frog.

But seriously though, congrats!!! Cleaning is a witch... I mean frog!!

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u/DarkAndSparkly 17h ago

Hahahah!! Nope! Not with my picky eater husband! Hahah!!

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u/SirensMelody1 18h ago

Cheering for you!!!

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u/DarkAndSparkly 18h ago

Thank you!

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u/hyperlight85 17h ago

Ugh cleaning is the worst. Good on you. And if anyone gives you shit about it, kick em out of your home.

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u/pistil0whip 14h ago

If you haven’t already heard of it, the book “How to keep house while drowning” by kc davis is super useful for helping ease the guilt & shame that can come with hang ups around housework. There’s practical solutions which actually meet you where you’re at.