r/AskMedical • u/miserable_unlucky_by • 2h ago
Hello!Worried about my mother!Please give advice and help..
So I am her son..I am new to Reddit..my mother has been suffering from a psychiatric illness..she has been having it since a child..but the last 3 months..she has been having an acute exacerbation episode..
It all started when she went back to her hometown in January. She visited her neighbour house..the neighbours were having a hard time..mother was bed ridden with Parkinson’s..husband was looking after her..their 40 years elder son was unemployed since 4 years despite being a very smart student who graduated from a top university..his wife took their children and is living separately from him..a failed marriage..their plight was really bad and they were selling their plot of land..
My mom saw that situation..she herself was in job as engineer till 2020 when she lost her job and became stay at home..followed by more drama which happened back in her hometown..
She stayed 1 month at her hometown place and became an entirely changed person..talking strange things..her anxiety and depression just increased and she was having it everyday..she was not sleeping properly at all..stressed..not even eating properly..never going outside..worried that the poor neighbour fate would fall on our family..or how she should have stayed at her job.
My mom past history wasn’t great..she had an abusive dad..who himself had a psychiatric illness..he even underwent ECT multiple times in 90s..who smoked and never showed any affection to her..he would beat her everyday..never was proud of her.. On my mom engagement day,her dad passed away from lung cancer..47 years..whip she was 24 years..very early age to lose a dad..
As her son..in high school..she got bad and was constantly arguing to my dad about past issues..always picking some drama and causing my dad to stress..one time she didn’t even cook for an entire day causing my dad and me to starve.. My dad did a lot for her and her family and yet she never showed any appreciation for him.. I am proud of my dad..had it been any other person..they would have divorced my mom then and their itself..
February 2025-But our family is doing well and needn’t not worry..things became worse when my dad who was a diabetic since 25 years got chest pain and did a angiography..and had 3 blocked vessels in heart..and requiring a coronary bypass graft..yet nobody in our family ever went through this..which caused her to become anxious more as if anything happens to my dad..then we all will suffer..
She kept crying..worrying..we tell her to visit a psychiatrist…but she keeps saying she totally fine even though she’s not..
She didn’t even want to talk to a psychiatrist on phone..so I did a telehealth with psychiatrist and explained everything and he prescribed Nexito forte..we gave this tablet at night only..it made some difference..
Then the worst incident happened..night my dad had to catch a flight..he missed a document in airport and had to deboard the Plane..i was in car with my mom and cab..we did u turn to go to airport..but on way..mom started feeling anxious..losing herself..she was opening the door of car when it was still in motion..she got out and started waking..almost got hit by bus or other cars..it was night 7pm and she was anxious as if someone was following her..she wanted to take bus and ended up going in bus..made a scene again..she even beat and slapped her mom(my grandmother)..2-3 times in bus..
Eventually dad got the document and he booked early morning flight and left..but mom wasn’t same..she didn’t want to go to psychiatrist so she went to some friend house and tried to hide there..heck she even switched off her phone..made a scene again..
She was spending lot of time in bathroom..even looking out of window many times..my grandmother told one day that one night..in bathroom..she was trying to hang herself with cloth but got stopped..mom was crying saying “she felt someone was watching her and going to kill her” instead she wanted to kill heralded before that..prolly a delusion..or watching out of window to jump off building..
We decided to forcibly take her to psychiatrist..we took her in car..she made such a fuss..crying like a baby just to see one..the whole journey crying..we visited a psychiatrist..he was a experienced doctor with MRCPsych..he listened to all..counselled and prescribed lower dose of nexito..some anti anxiety drugs which should be taken in morning and night..
She took those tablets next day morning and she started sleeping during day time and noon as well..her stress was reducing..she was getting calm..
We followed up with psychiatrist 2 weeks later and he stopped the drugs which cause sleep and told her to continue the nexito forte for 6 months..
She was somewhat normal..the last few days..but we couldn’t talk normal with her..she would try saying stuff..”my head hurts”..”I can’t talk anymore”..making even talking with her hard..
Now last two days..despite taking the nexito forte..she is showing signs of hyper..getting really aggressive..angry..not getting sleep at night again..stressing.. The Psychiatrist consultation didn’t even work..
Now we don’t know what to do..Can any doctors here please suggest some advice and medications..it’s really hard and miserable..please help me out! :(