I don't know about you guys but now when I hear "Boy Mum" I now think of Mothers who have emotionally incestuous relationships with their Son's.

Worst thing is I now see young parents making videos about how they're going to harm girls in a decade or two if a girl takes them away from her or breaks his heart. Honey having your heartbroken is a symptom of living life.

(Yes I hate the whole Dad's beating up girls boyfriends too, however Dad's often greatest honour is giving their daughter away... and seldom have a meltdown about it)

My husband and I live in one state with our 4 month old baby boy. His dad and stepmom live in a neighboring state, about 3 1/2 hours away. Since the baby has been born they have continuously asked us to come visit so that our son can meet my husband’s (adult) siblings. His dad and stepmom have come and visited us multiple times so they have met him. They asked for us to come Christmas, when he wasn’t even a month old so we declined. They asked again last month which we considered them declined, now they are asking for Easter.

Our problem is, our baby doesn’t love to be in the car and so 3 1/2 hours (actually 4 1/2 with all the stops) is going to be a nightmare. We asked to come at the end of May, when our son is 6 months old. But we are continuing to get insane pressure from his dad “we want you to be a part of the family” “Your son was born in November.” Additionally, my sister in law has a 1 year old that is completely unvaccinated. They also all live in Texas where the cases of measles has began to rise. I just don’t feel comfortable about it. My husband does NOT want to go at all, but doesn’t like confrontation and his dad is a bully. My mom thinks we should be honest about the vaccination issue, but I know that’s a touchy subject and may cause drama.

I don’t know what to do - suggestions please!

Update: I texted them that our son’s pediatrician doesn’t recommend traveling until he can get his MMR vaccine and that we don’t feel comfortable having him around an unvaccinated baby until he gets his full dosage. His dad’s reply - “we understand and will modify our relationship with you both to accommodate your desires” which idk what tf that means, but I don’t care

21 months old, never been able to sit in a high chair in a restaurant more than 5 mins without yelling for freedom. Never had the patience to wait for food. Couldn’t sit still without watching his favourite show on my phone (which is not the way I wanted to parent and really made me stress out at restaurants).

Today, he did. My pregnant butt got to sit peacefully and eat a pulled pork sandwich.

That is all.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna199798

I know its highly unlikely that patients are affected, but this is a jarring article as a person whose child's life started there.

2:34AM and I wanted a single serve pie before I have to pump… a piece of pie crust falls back into the tin and she throws her hands up and cries 😭 When have you accidentally woken baby in an unexpected way?

My daughter turns 1 in a month and it’s all I can think about. I’m so sad. I love her so much but I am handling her getting older very poorly. Im ashamed to admit I like the attention of having a baby. I’m not a kids person myself so it hurts my heart thinking of people just looking at her like an irritating toddler…which maybe I might have in the past.

I’m not sure what I’m looking for in this post- just being vulnerable

Said baby girl looked on calmly as my crazy boy cycled through various exaggerated emotions before landing on a pterodactyl screech for 5 full minutes.

Baby girl then looked at me with a smile and patted my forearm with her little baby hand.

Now I'm counting the days till I can try again for a girl. 🫠

(This post is meant as a lighthearted joke... I know all babies are different and not all boys terrorize like mine! And I love my little dude to pieces despite it all❤️)

Needing advice, please! My son (7wks) has had a goopy/crusty eye since birth. His duct is not clogged. I always clean his eye multiple times a day with wipes and spray sold for this issue. Doctor says it's normal and will pass with time, and that there are no medicated drops that would be helpful. Should I get a second option from another doctor?

Any other Midwest moms struggling? I have never had seasonal depression living in Wisconsin. But then I moved away for 2 years to the PNW where it was much more pleasant in the winter/spring. And now I’m back in Wisconsin wondering why the hell I moved back. I genuinely don’t think I can live here long term. I go for walks almost daily and it’s just cold and windy every damn day. The sun doesn’t make a difference… I neeeed warmth. Is it just the hormones? Anyone else struggling? Baby wise I’m doing great. But I need the sun, warmth, and some greenery. I cry almost daily 😩

What is your usual routine day vs night? My LO is 2 weeks old.

I had mother’s wrist 2-3 weeks pp, apparently it’s a thing. I did not even know that. I suffered for few weeks where I had to wear arm wrists on both my hands!! Couldn’t even hold my baby properly. What was even less expected is that it went away on its own. My gyne told me this when I asked her if I should get physio and it was true. I had some other stuff but this was the highlight for me 😂 I used to cry each week because I’d get a new problem but also because I just really wanted to cry 😭

Last night I got a collective total of 4 hours of sleep, from 10pm-12am, and 5-7am. Today she fought every. single. nap. at one point she was awake for FIVE HOURS, despite us doing EVERYTHING to get her down. She slept for 30 minutes during that nap. Now I'm sitting in the rocking chair balling because I've been putting her down for over an hour and I'm terrified to transfer her to the crib.

My almost 9 month old has 4 teeth. And just chews on everything, he especially likes metallic things (that I do my best to avoid), but wood and paper are also fine. Today he took a small bite out of our wooden bedpost (a few mm in size). Baby books? They will be softened with saliva until ready to eat. That stress ball that totally seemed firm? Well say goodbye to your physical integrity, stupid little foam thingy. My son wants macroplastic in his system.

We go to a baby sing along locally at a family centre, and the lady there alllllways leaves around cute paper flowers, animals etc. that he will immediately fight to their death. "Oh don't worry, it's no problem if he destroys them haha!" Well good lady, my sons face is full of paper and I think it's a choking hazard, my concern is not about what he damages really. All the other babies seem super chill and slow, happily sitting in mommy's lap, while I'm wrestling a hurricane.

This is just a vent. I hope it passes.

Posting this to see if anyone has experience with this but also just educate about uterine anomalies! Several years ago I found out that I had a uterine + vaginal septum which basically means I was born with a wall of tissue splitting my uterus and vaginal canal in half. I didn’t know I had it until I attempted to have sex and it was extremely painful and things didn’t seem to fit well…. I elected to have surgery to remove the full septum and it was successful. Fast forward to now, I am 36 weeks pregnant and baby has plenty of room to grow and head down. The only lingering anomaly I have are 2 full cervices. This is sometimes a result of a didelphys uterus as well. My plan is to deliver vaginally as long as only one cervix dilates and everything goes smoothly. There’s a chance they will both dilate at different rates and neither fully which would lead to need for a c section. My OB has seen it once before and the patient delivered vaginally, but the cervix tore and was stitched up and ended up healing as one. I will definitely have an epidural so I don’t risk feeling my cervix tear. Yikes. Anyway, just curious if anyone has experience with this and what labor and delivery looked like for you. Also open to answer any questions bc it’s kind of weird! I like to sometimes shock people and tell them I used to have 2 vaginas😂 great convo starter.

I’m 8 months PP and I’m an exclusive pumper. I still pump every 3-4 hours and have a MOTN pump. I tried cutting out the MOTN pump and I woke up with a clog so I never considered it again. However, being attached to my pump, a sleep regression, my personal appearance and having no time for myself. I’ve considering talking to my primary about going on an antidepressant. My mental health is spiraling. Not to mention my uncheck anxiety. I reached my breaking point today though and I just want to make sure I’m headed in the right direction. If you’re on an antidepressant, do you see any side effects in your LO? That’s my biggest worry and I know dr. Google says the risk is low to very low but for my own peace of mind, I would just like to see more experience with the medication. TIA

He got his first tooth at 6.5 months, he’s almost 9 months now with 8 teeth and two more on the way(red swollen bumps). I hate giving him so much Tylenol, but he’s miserable without it, and the teething drops only help so much. He hates the frozen teethers. He tries to bite my arms and hands constantly, luckily he’s gotten the message that if he bites me while nursing he doesn’t get to nurse, but it still hurts. He’s also not sleeping very well at night, but he won’t let me get anything done during the day. Pray for my sanity. 😭

Without the energy for details the birth of my first baby was quite traumatic. He is just fine now and in my day to day so am I. But whenever I talk about it I still feel a drowning feeling and can’t tell my story without crying. What have you done to help yourself process and heal?

my son is 7 months old. any time i’ve tried to give him water in a straw cup, i put the straw in his mouth and he does absolutely nothing. doesn’t close his mouth on the straw or nothing. if im lucky, he’ll chomp on it, but no actual water is remotely close to going in his mouth. what has worked for you to get your kid to learn how to use a straw?

I’m 6 weeks postpartum, exclusively breastfeed, have an almost 3 yr old (preschool half days), and try to work from home (self-employed). My husband works less than 10 min from home. He is a manager so he has some flexibility as long as needs of business are met. We are both in our late thirties.

My (and his) question is, how do other people do it? How are responsibilities shared? Do you feel like you are able to accomplish what needs to be done so there is time left for each other? Time for yourself as an individual?

Currently all household upkeep, kids, shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry, social life planning, falls on me. Husband works and will take toddler to preschool in the morning. He will also take out the trash.

I feel like I’m drowning. Between breastfeeding, tending to a toddler who is learning how to have a sibling, and all my “chores”, I cannot get it all done. I am craving time with my husband. He has been getting home later than ideal , so there’s just time for me to get the toddler to bed while he hangs out with the baby. Many times I will fall asleep with toddler for an hour and when I come out, he is asleep with the baby. I’ll take the baby at that point and start my night routine of nursing, diaper changes, and sleeping. In the morning he gets up with toddler, I’m up a few min later to help get her ready for school and the whole cycle starts again.

When I’ve voiced my need for help, my wanting for time together, my sadness that he’s getting home later than we’ve discussed, I’ve been met with him stating he understands but nothing changes. When I’ve pressed him because I’m honestly getting burnt out and just feel so alone he has commented, “well, how do people do it?”

So, how do you?

I don't know why but I feel like it's an impossible goal for me to have. I'm 20w so I have a long way to go before needing to make the call but I really really want to try having a vaginal birth.

I had my first born back in May of 2023 he was breached and I had an incredibly successful uncomplicated c section. My current OB said I was the ideal candidate for a VBAC since my scar healed well and my C-section wasn't a result of failed labor.

My husband is nervous about me attempting a VBAC however. He reads all the risks and thinks it would be safer for me and the baby to do an elective C-section. Obviously at the end of the day he's leaving the ultimate decision to me.

I have a 9 month old and I'm pregnant with baby#2 and I'm really starting to hate my dog. She just doesn't stop first it was getting into things then it was going to the bathroom on my carpet even though I take her out regularly. She's been to the vet there's nothing wrong with her, nothing has changed with her care she just has become so awful. She just woke up my son barking for no reason. My hormones are obviously crazy right now but I can't do this, I'm hiding in the bathroom sobbing because I can't stand to be around her she makes me so irrationally angry. She can be aggressive with other people to so I can't even just rehome, what do I do?! I feel so physically ill about this.

The title pretty much explains it. My MIL has been watching our baby once a week for a few hours so we can have some downtime for some time now. I’m a bit of a clean freak, especially now that I have a little baby at home. I tried enforcing some rules like washing hands before touching baby (which most of our family doesn’t like…) and such. I think my husband’s family just lacks common sense when it comes to cleanliness. I felt I felt uneasy leaving him with her but it has been difficult juggling responsibilities on my own.

The last time she watched him she send me a photo and I noticed he had different pants on (old polyester ones form 20 years ago too…) so I said he has spare clothes in his diaper bad (like 3 different sets…). She said they were just for ‘hanging out’. Ok. She brings him home and I notice both his onesie and pants have this long poop stain from a blow out and it is dry as a desert. His diaper was clean so it wasn’t recent. I talk to my husband and decide I would ask about it the next time I see her. I hate confrontation and my husband wasn’t there so the first time I mentioned it I wasn’t very direct. I just asked if he had an ‘accident’ and what it was about. She said yeah he had a blow out but it was a small stain so she left him in the onesie. I say something like ‘I see… It’s better to just change his clothes.’ Next I tell my husband about it and he decides he wants to ask her about it himself. I never had much faith about her standards of care in the first place but he seemed convinced she had a better explanation. He brings it up yesterday extremely politely to her and she basically says that leaving him in poopy clothes is not a big deal, that we are crazy for making such a big deal out of it and is near a mental breakdown. She also said that the stain wasn’t so bad (pretty average in my mind but not something to just brush off) . The only thing I said in this whole conversation was just ‘If you had spare clothes, why not just change them? No need to spread fecal bacteria around.’ It was mostly my husband speaking but I still became the aggressor in her mind somehow and now she says I ofc manipulated the whole situation too. She said she wouldn’t watch the baby anymore and left the house to cool off when we were leaving but today she insisted she still wanted to watch him after all. She also wouldn’t say sorry to me for some mean things she said or admit she was wrong. She and her mother have this thing about respect, they get mad if you point something out to them because they’re your elders and you should stay silent and be thankful for everything. They also keep nagging me to give my son water for no reason and stuff like that. I hoped she would just say she shouldn’t have done that and she won’t do that again and that would be the end of the conversation. Yesterday she even defended her decision to let him sleep and hand out with poppy clothes on.

Today she seemed more ok with the idea that it could be done differently but still wouldn’t admit she did anything wrong. She also doesn’t wash his bottles after each use, stating just ‘rinsing it out’ is okay. She wears strong perfume and glittery body make up (?? idk what it is honestly) that gets all over him which I don’t like bc of microplastics. She once gave him spoiled milk too bc it was left out for too long. She noticed it smelled off bc the baby didn’t want to eat it but she and her mother thought it was so bc I ate something spicy… Fuck it, I don’t want her to watch him anymore. It wasn’t a significant amount of help anyway but I don’t know to to progress. We see her a lot, she lives close by so it’s hard to avoid her. I wish we could all just talk like adults. But while she keeps criticizing me all the time and saying I should change this and that, I can’t point out a thing about her care.

Almost 5 weeks post c section and I'm so irritated at having no abdominal strength. We have a bedside bassinet that I'm struggling with because it feels weak and awkward taking baby in and out at night. It also slightly pulls on my lower abs too which hurts. Baby is 10+ lbs.

How can I make this easier? It sucks and my back and arms muscles are taking on all the weight.

Hi

Seeking advice - I am almost 8 days post partum and in a hospital that has a special unit to help you out longer. I don’t have anything to do except take care of my baby and have the luck to have access to a team of medical professionals that can show me + take over when too tired.

Since today, I am trying not to ask for their help as I need to prepare to be on my own at home with less help and I am trying to build up my confidence that I can take care of my baby on my own (this was shattered when I ran to get help 3 times in a row because I didn’t understand why my baby kept crying and panicked 😣).

But I’m exhausted and still terrified to go home. He was a bit fussy for 4 hours this afternoon - I managed on my own but I’m already exhausted… how am I going to do this alone ?

Feeling really incompetent here so any advice is welcomed

hi mamas! not beyond the bump yet but I will be soon, I get my hair done next week at 37 weeks and I go every 8 weeks (foils and color) so I’d be due for my next appointment when baby is 5-6 weeks old. I plan on EBF so do I take baby with me and get my hair done by myself as normal or do I bring my husband to watch baby and then bring her to me when she needs to be fed? just not sure what the protocol would be in this situation since I never see new moms at the salon🤷‍♀️