The best ones are when someone says it like I’ve never heard it before. “Hey, I know you probably don’t know it, but you always looks so angry. Maybe you should smile more.”
Yep. There were tons of news stories on how teens permanently ruined their teeth by filing them down. I have no idea how you could do what they did without feeling like something was wrong.
I actually had a friend that tried that over a couple months, wanted to get like vampire fangs. I don't actually know how it turned out since he had a mental break and never talked to us again but it was wild hearing about it
It’s horrible. My lower teeth were supposedly too large for my apparently quite small (every dentist and orthodontist I’ve been to has commented on it) lower jaw, so a former dentist of mine filed between the lower front ones every two weeks for years. Imagine the sensation of hearing nails on a chalkboard, but it’s coming from inside your face.
It’s horrible. My lower teeth were supposedly too large for my apparently quite small (every dentist and orthodontist I’ve been to has commented on it) lower jaw, so a former dentist of mine filed between the lower front ones every two weeks for years. Imagine the sensation of hearing nails on a chalkboard, but it’s coming from inside your face.
Even if you smile all the time people will just comment on that too but not in a complimentary way like it’s shown here but in the “what are you smiling about” kind of way. It doesn’t really matter to me if it is “why do you look grumpy” or “why do you look happy” I just don’t want to have to explain my emotions. If I want to open up to you about something I’ll do it on my own terms.
I am always happy, so I see no reason not to smile. Why am I happy with life living in a miserable country, with sometimes insufferable people and studying like an idiot for 7 hours a day on average with a 3-4h daily commute? I'm not so sure, but I do like it.
I've gotten that quite a bit as a bartender with a resting angry face. It's not intentional, but I live with chronic pain so I have to concentrate on every small movement I make so that I don't hurt myself so I don't always have a smile. If they push it enough all I have to say is "the eight herniated discs in my back, labrum tears in both hips and shoulders, and the torn meniscus in my knee make that kind of difficult Janet. Maybe after the next back surgery they can fix my smile." Never hear shit from them after that. Lol.
I remember when I was a teenager I over heard a security guard telling a girl that she should smile more. I was like awww that’s a sweet thing to say to a person and added it to things I should say to a girl if I ever worked up the nerve. After that I never saw the security guard again. Years later I heard a group of women saying that it’s a gross thing to be told and I put two and two together…
Same bro when my face rests I look like I'm pissed doff at something, then someone talks to me and it looks like my day got so much brighter, when in reality it's just because I stopped resting my face XD
If you smiled more, people you don't want anything to do with might be more interested in fucking you. Maybe, if you smiled more, they would have more unwanted and mildly threatening conversations with you.
It took a reread to pronounce “toots” in my head the way you meant it. At first I thought by using a synonym for “farts” you were making some other statement by making a “masculine” version of the terrible nicknames used on women
I known some people when they see you smile more they actually go out there way to make sure that's not the case anymore. Really good moments in life ruined by those that think what is best for you and don't care what makes someone happy.
If I’m not currently annoyed with something I usually tell them that commenting on my face is a quick way to piss me off so good for them. Self fulfilling prophecy
I have resting depressed face and when I’ll be depressed and actually hiding it and someone asks, “Depressed again man?” and I get really annoyed, “Mother fucker I’m not always depressed. I mean I am but fuck you”
That's the thing that always drives me crazy about dudes who are all "it's a compliment!" or whatever. Like, you don't understand how different these things feel when you hear them fucking constantly. If someone said something like this to you once, you'd be like "Oh, yes, this is a compliment. I guess it was phrased a bit awkwardly, but that's okay." But when you hear it all the time, and when 50+% of the time the 'compliment' is very clearly nothing of the sort, it obviously plays really differently. It's insane how many people don't get that.
Hardly anyone wears masks where I'm at, and I'm keeping mine on. I don't know what I'll do once it gets uncomfortably warm, but I'm enjoying people not fucking seeing my face
And when they start when you’re just starting to develop and become aware of your body and already feel super awkward about it and suddenly you notice that much older men notice you in ways they never did before, it shatters your whole sense of safety and security in the world. You are no longer allowed to just exist. Every second becomes protection mode. You never know what is an innocent compliment and what is much more sinister.
Compliments should make you fell good. If they make you feel bad then it's not a compliment. I wish people would learn this. I'm not the one being rude telling you to fuck off after being told "I'd be prettier if I smiled."
Compliments should make you fell good. If they make you feel bad then it's not a compliment. I wish people would learn this. I'm not the one being rude telling you to fuck off after being told "I'd be prettier if I smiled."
Compliments should make you fell good. If they make you feel bad then it's not a compliment. I wish people would learn this. I'm not the one being rude telling you to fuck off after being told "I'd be prettier if I smiled."
I work in construction so there’s always new people around.. I can't for the life of me figure out why these people believe it’s their business. Just gonna start saying that my mom died or something
No, I let her lay in peace. But I should start answering with something that really let's them know that I'm not in the mood, because it's getting a bit old.. I mean, on bigger projects it feels like going back to high school
In my teens and early 20’s, I actually tried that. You have no idea how difficult it is to look happy, but not maniacal when you have a natural resting bitch face.
That’s called slasher face or whatever the hell happens to the universe when Willem Dafoe smiles. Kinda sucks but I get you. Eh, if you can’t smile, just laugh loudly.
I'm not saying it's worse, but I've got resting unapproachable "this guy doesn't care about anything" face. It's nice when I'm walking past mall kiosks, but at least people are attempting to interact with you, hah.
Mmm, I'll trade you. Unsolicited interactions that are at best about my paying attention to strangers and their requests that I change to suit them -- and at worst about some reflexive play-the-odds contact harvesting? Grrr. Come to think of it, my RBF didn't really hit until puberty.
Thank God I'm finally aging out of it. Another decade and I'll be as invisible in public as I am at board meetings.
One of my ex-coworkers filed a complaint against my then supervisor that included a remark that he “doesn’t smile enough.” We never let that supervisor live it down.
He was stoic, but great dude overall and would never really assign duties. Just left it to us to get to work.
Same dude. I’m a guy with a very angry looking neutral face. I’m in my 30s now, I just am out of fucks to give for people that say to smile out of nowhere. My response nowadays is either ignoring them, “fuck off” or “you should mind your own business”. Like god damn, I don’t exist to make you happy. I’m minding my own business, the fuck are you even looking at my mouth for?
This is half the reason I still wear a mask every time I leave my apartment, and still some drunk idiot told me to smile the other day. I'm small so my masks cover everything from down under the chin to just under my eyes. It hadn't happened in forever but I was so pissed!
We need like resting bitch face awareness or something. I’m amazed how many people genuinely think I’m in a perpetual state of wanting to fucking murder everyone. Isn’t resting bitch face like a pretty common thing?
I’m a young guy w a grumpy looking face. I don’t get tired of it tbh but also idrc what people say to me good or bad so I guess it’s not specific to that
Correct me if I'm wrong but I'm pretty sure everyone, regardless of gender, hates being told to smile more. That goes doubly so when you're told that when you're on the clock. My go-to response is either "I don't get paid to smile" or a simple "No."
•what are you going to do with that duct tape and smelly rag?
Seriously though. It sucks to be a large man with resting bitch face. I’m not allowed to get upset in any situation or “I’m scaring everyone” or “there’s no reason to get so angry.”
This is my face. I’m not going to choke slam you because you forgot my pickles. I’d just like you to go grab them when you get a chance.
Yet people act like I’m going to cut them over stupid shit. I walk into every situation feeling like I have a hill to climb to convince people I’m a normal guy. At my age I have the luxury of not having to except for school functions where I have to raise my voice an octave, try and sit as soon as possible, and remind myself to constantly smile.
Trust me, I’ve learned (from second hand experience), that women don’t appreciate it much either. (I’ve watched my classmate get slapped a few too many times.)
I’m told by women that my resting face looks pissed off all the time and that’s why I’m unapproachable. People that walk around grinning all the time are annoying
Thank you, I'm kinda annoyed by all of these missing the point
It's the difference between "Hey you're looking great, working out is going well huh?" at someone you see at the gym, who is actively looking better. Vs going up to someone on the street and going "Hey, you'd look better if you hit the gym"
They were commenting on him smiling and looking cute, which is very different in tone from telling someone not smiling to smile
I feel like I have a small taste of it. Although I’ve never had to deal with the vaguely threatening way that some men tend to say stuff like you should smile more. That’s a whole different level of fucked up.
I have the same problem. I try and make it a point to smile when checking out bc people think I'm made at them and being in the service industry sucks... So...
I also have a RSB and am known to be angry. You have no idea how frustrating it is in the moments I’ve actually felt good and happiness to hear the same people who complain about me being angry snarl things like “why are you smiling?”.
Once this old angry man checked in at my dental office and the look of anger on his face had me nervous. I requested his drivers license to make a copy and it had the exact same angry resting face. Realizing this little old man just had resting bitch face almost made me laugh out loud. It was such a relief.
Practice a creepy smile, and give them that when you get told to smile.
My friends and I do that. Actually gotten many people to flinch, and a few damn near ran off (did the whole "powerwalk TF away as fast as you can without actually running" thing)
Their reactions are one of the few things that will give me an actual smile or laugh. What, is my smile not good enough for you? You told me to smile, so I did.
I got passed up on a promotion at work and the only reason they gave me was cause I never smile and my face looks like I’m unhappy. So I understand where you’re coming from
“Why the long face?” How many times can people ask “What’s wrong. You look angry” before you start becoming angry. From my experience, it’s around the middle of puberty, and for the following 20-years so far.
I have always had that type of face. Someone even tried to bully me for it in middle-school. It didn't quite work out as his face was nothing to talk home about either.
I don't have to have a shit-eating grin when I'm thinking by myself, but those type of comments are a sure way for me to keep that face when in their presence.
I get that a lot. I know that I’m a nice friendly person, but deep down there is an angry looking skeleton piloting this meat suit. It’s not my fault my skull has an extremely furrows brow.
Used to happen to me all the time and I'm a woman. And being called MAAAAAM makes me feel the oldest. Oh please be nice someone I'm just kidding around!!
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I’m a man with a grumpy-looking resting face. Being told to smile more gets really old really fast.