Hey everyone, I’m PIMO, born-in, and 16 years old.
In my Spanish-speaking congregation, I’ve always been one of the more respected teenagers. I’m active, mostly because my mom pushes me to be. I’m used to reading the Bible, giving discussions—because, honestly, it’s something I can do pretty easily. I’ve always been into history and reading since I was a kid.
For a while, I felt pressured to get baptized. I was supposed to do it at the circuit assembly in February. But I’ve had doubts for a long time. Those doubts became harder to ignore when I started reading JW Facts—and honestly, that changed everything for me. It answered a lot of things I had been questioning for a long time. I couldn’t believe I’d been in this for my whole life.
So I told my mom about the Governing Body’s false prophecies and the CSA stuff that goes on behind the scenes. She lost it—she cried for hours and called me an apostate. I felt guilty as hell and promised I wouldn’t look at “those websites” again.
Around the same time, I met a girl (F17) I’d had a crush on for a while. I finally got the courage to talk to her, and we started dating. She knows I’m a JW, she knows I’m struggling with doubts, and she’s super understanding. She’s been really supportive through all this.
Then winter break hit. That’s when things started falling apart.
I wanted to hang out with her, but I couldn’t tell my mom the truth. Since she’s “worldly,” I told my mom I was going out with friends instead. She was skeptical, but since she knew one of my friends, she let me go.
So, I asked my friend to come with me just to make it easier for my mom. I also didn’t want my girlfriend to pay for an Uber, so I asked my dad (who’s more liberal) if he could give her a ride. He agreed, and everything seemed fine that day.
But a few days later, while I was napping, my mom went through my phone without asking. She found pictures of me and my girlfriend giving each other kisses on the cheek. When I woke up, she asked me, “Did you really only go out with your friends?” I said yes, but I knew something was off. She showed me the pictures and called me a liar. She told me I was a bad son, a disappointment, and cried for hours.
She started packing up my stuff and told me to get out. I’m 16, no job, and still dependent on her for everything—so I just apologized and told her I didn’t follow her advice to break up with my girlfriend.
After that, I told one of the elders I had doubts about 1914 and didn’t feel ready to get baptized. My mom set up a meeting with another elder to “help me.” He said he’d been staying up late every night to answer my questions. I was kind of intimidated. But when I met with him, he didn’t answer my questions about 607. He just told me to read an appendix. I’d already read it. So, not only did he fail to address my doubts, he confirmed a lot of what I was thinking.
From that day, everything felt different. My mom didn’t trust me anymore. She’d insult my girlfriend, call her names, body-shame her—even though my girlfriend is beautiful. She takes care of herself, she’s kind and supportive—but none of that mattered. My mom had to find someone to blame, and my girlfriend was the easiest target. My mom would call my girlfriend a “whore” and say horrible things about her behind her back. She can’t stand the fact that I’m with her.
I couldn’t sleep. I could hear my mom crying in the other room, saying I’m a bad son and I’m ruining her life. My dad got mad at me for making her cry. I had to cry myself to sleep most nights. I started gaining weight. I was eating like crazy because it was the only way I could cope.
Every day felt like torture. Every time I was on my phone, my mom would ask, “Are you texting that girl again?” And then she’d call her names. It was non-stop. She’d insult my girlfriend and make me feel like shit about it. I’m just trying to love someone, but I’m made to feel like a criminal for it.
Then, one morning, I forgot to delete some texts before giving my phone to my mom (she makes me give it to her every night because she says she can’t sleep without it). I was texting my brother about how boring the meetings were and making jokes. We were also talking about his friend—how he was thinking about joining the JW congregation, and we were trying to talk some sense into him.
That next morning, my mom woke me up at 6 a.m. before school and asked me, “Do you still want to be in Jehovah’s organization?” I knew she had seen the messages. I just said yes to avoid another fight. But she started ranting about how I’ve embarrassed her and that I’m an apostate. She even said, “I can’t stand you anymore. I’d rather see you dead than have to look at you because all you bring me is pain and misery.”
That broke me. From your own mom—that’s not something anyone should have to hear.
My dad doesn’t care much if I leave the religion. He still gets upset, but he says I’m just giving my mom a hard time. He told me I’m being “a bitch” and that I’m just doing this to be with a girl.
My girlfriend knows everything I’m going through. She’s been a huge help, but it still hurts that I can’t just be with her like a normal couple because of the way things are at home.
The elder who was trying to help me passed away recently. My mom told me I’m horrible for not listening to him when he spent his last days helping me. But I can’t just ignore my doubts for the sake of someone else’s comfort.
Eventually, I told my non-JW siblings. My brother knows what’s been going on. He said he thinks the organization has cult-like traits. He even offered to talk to my dad, but I didn’t want him to get involved because of how my mom would react. My brother ended up going to a meeting with a friend and arguing with one of the brothers. That embarrassed my dad, but it’s whatever. Afterward, I made some jokes about how boring the meetings were, and we vented about how ridiculous some of the points JW’s make.
I’m still hiding texts, still lying to my parents. I still hear about how I’m a disappointment every single day. My mom says I’m abusing her, that I’m a bad son. I’m just trying to survive in this house, but I don’t know how to leave the religion without everything falling apart.
To make matters worse, I recently skipped school to meet up with my girlfriend and her dad. Her dad wants me to go to the park with them, but that’s when it really hit me—how much of a disappointment I’d be to him, too.
I don’t believe in it anymore. But I don’t know how to get out without losing everything.
(EDIT: she has used all the new WT articles against me and it’s pissing me off)