So, around a year ago, I found out that I was bisexual.

Now, my parents are extremely religious, with all that "Turn to the way of god" or "It's God's plan" stuff. So, I kept it a secret that I was bisexual.

Around 2 days ago, my dad found my Tiktok account, which I was open to being bisexual.

So, me and my parents had an argument about how I am "ruining the family's tradition" (A.K.A. not being with a woman), and it all came up to me getting kicked out of the house with all that remained of my personal stuff (which most have been destroyed by my parents because of rage).

So, right now, I am at my boyfriends place in his guest room, wondering what I should do now that I have no longer a home.

If something happens, I will post it on here.

But for now, what should I do?

UPDATE #1

So, a little has happened these couple hours.

First up, my parents texted me to "grow up with this I am bisexual bullshit, and to start following the "family tradition."

Now, I obviously said that I am not bullshiting and that I have a boyfriend.

And, guess what? They both blocked me on all platforms I know.

It's not like I care!

Second, I started getting death threats and "suggestions" on tiktok from some of my relatives.

They all said shit like, "You are destroying the family tradition," or "In your heart, you know you are straight."

In response, I just blocked them.

Third, and lastly, my relatives started spamming me photos of "normal sex" on WhatsApp to "Turn to the right path"

In response, again, I blocked them.

I seriously don't know what to do anymore. It feels like I'm in a world where everyone is against me!

I'm still in my boyfriends guest room, but I'm making progress because I found a website with apartments with decent little rent payment.

Again, I will inform everyone who is watching me if something happens.

While using my dad's phone to transfer some pictures, I stumbled upon a hidden folder in his photos app. I really shouldn't have opened it, but I did. In that folder, I found some very inappropriate pictures and videos of my parents with different people. A few pictures even had both of my parents together with another person (a three-person situation, iykwim). I had so many unanswered questions, so I was determined to dig in deeper. From some texts and stuff, I found out that my parents actually have an open marriage. From what I could tell, the 'open' part of the marriage is just for the sex and nothing else, no romance or relationships or anything like that.

I’m not here to judge them. It’s just hard to process. It feels weird seeing them as “just” my parents when I know they have their own complicated lives and relationships. It’s like I’ve crossed into a world I wasn’t ready for.

Firstly, this concept isn't very popular in the country I live in. I'm also younger than most people dealing with situations concerning family dynamics. It's way beyond my maturity level. I'm just really struggling to handle this on my own, I just wanted it let it out here.

I know it's not normal to have 7 siblings, all of them being from two parents. No, there hasn't been any divorce or adopting in my family, my parents just thought having 8 children is good. I feel embarrassed to tell people I have 7 siblings because it's not fucking normal and the last time I told my friend, she laughed at me and said it was weird. Now I'm realllyyy close to this girl and I feel bad for telling her I only have an older sister and younger sister. I also feel bad for what I'm doing to my family by not revealing them to my friends. I know she's a nice girl but I still don't want to tell her because I'm ashamed. I'm from a country where it's normal and even encouraged to have lots of kids but even my classmates and friends made fun of me back in my country for it. I feel bad cause I think I'm lying to her and keeping secrets. I really like that girl and I just don't know what to do. I have 2 older brothers and 5 sisters and when I told them that people think I only have 2 siblings, I could sense that they were kinda hurt idk. I don't want her to make fun of me because she herself just has one older sister, the fact that she is also a white American makes me feel so different from her. Its my first time having a white American friend and I don't know what they think of families like mine.

I'm 28 and I love my girlfriend, we've been together 1 and a half years.

The problem is im trying to get healthy, I'm currently 227 pounds. A few years ago i was really fat, I used to weigh 310 and I never went to go back.

My girlfriend feeds me soooooo much food, she gives me almost 3 pounds of food for dinner

I always tell her I don't want to gain weight....she tells me ( who cares what others think?? Get fat who care?)

Please help. What do i doo in this situation????

I've already gained 7 pounds

My family makes me feel very unwanted, at family events I'm often just on my own sitting in a corner smiling but never speaking. Luckily I've got an amazing fiance who's been very kind in sharing his family so I'm not so lonely anymore; that being said my family is not fond of my fiance. They don't treat him as warmly as my sister's fiance or even my cousins. Now what did he do? Nothing they just want "better" for me, better meaning richer; I was raised to be independent and we're not from wealth either so that never been a factor for me. He is someone who wants to work hard and would defend me with his life and that's all I really need, money is temporary and we don't know what the future holds. Now for the juicy stuff, we'll call my sister Zelda her fiance Zeke and my fiance will be Kyle I guess; it's 2023 there's a small get together at my mom's house, we are a family that likes to drink. Everything's cool everyone is vibing and chatting, it's Kyle's first get together with my whole immediate family since we started dating [you guys remember covid right?] Zeke and Kyle are chatting, normal dude to dude conversation until the conversations shifts a little. Kyle made a comment about thinking a particular rapper is gay, Zeke didn't like that comment and said something along the lines of calling Kyle gay. Kyle dosent have a problem with gay people and is confident in his sexualty but didn't like Zeke trying to shade him and gets a little defensive. Zeke doubles down, Kyle is not scared of the fight. I am unconcerned because Kyle is not wrong but not gonna box over it either, Zeke was very much getting in his feelings. The argument was not calming down so Zelda and I broke it up. Zelda and Zeke were already engaged before this party, month later Zelda sits me down to let me know Kyle cannot be my plus one to her wedding. I didn't react when she told me other than telling her I will not be attending. She was mildly upset, but up 'til that point had me completely uninvolved in her wedding planning anyway. She was understanding of my reasons for not wanting to attend as she's fully aware of how I feel about my place in thr family. Now it is 2025 her wedding will be at the end of the year and I'm wondering if I'm over reacting?

Hi Reddit, I (21F) recently found something out about my younger brother (18M) that really shook me, and I need some outside perspective.

So, his mom (we’re half-siblings) asked me to do a check-in for her, and I used a phone they both share. While on the phone, I saw a notification pop up from his Instagram — a message from a girl asking if he was feeling better. Naturally, I got curious, so I opened the chat (yes, I know… not the best move, but I was worried).

Turns out, she was checking on him because he had apparently smoked weed and then slept through all of Friday afternoon into the night.

Now, I want to be clear — I don’t have a moral issue with weed itself. I know people who smoke and live fully functioning lives. But my brother is 18 and still in the 10th grade. He’s not in college, he shows no ambition, no motivation to improve his life, and frankly… I’m scared he’s wasting his potential.

We both come from single-mom households. I’ve always felt like, given where we come from, we should be trying harder, you know? Pushing to break the cycle. But he’s just… coasting. His mom doesn’t set boundaries or give him any structure. I don’t even think she realizes how much he’s floundering.

I don’t want to be a snitch or blow things up unnecessarily. But I do want him to get help. I want him to see the bigger picture before it’s too late. And I’m stuck — do I talk to him directly? Do I say something to his mom? Or do I just… let it go and hope he figures it out?

I feel responsible in a way, even though I’m not his parent. But I care about him. I don’t want to watch him spiral.

Any advice would really help. Thanks for reading.

Hey all, not sure what to do, so I thought I'd start here. I'm a single dad, and my son is 20, and he's living with me. I've been a single dad since he was 1. I never remarried, and I never dated much--when he was little, he had Leukemia which took all my time for years. When he was a teen, I went back to school and got my PhD. We've always been super close. He'd hug me in public when he was a teen. He'd tell me in no uncertain terms how important I was to him (which I always took as a good sign I was modeling the right kinds of behaviors).

Like I said, we've always been close. His mom was abusive, and my parents were abusive to me, so I worked hard at not being that way to him. Therapy, books, etc. It worked. He was happy, safe, and he grew up healthy and smart.

I look at a lot of other posts like mine, but there is a big difference here. A lot of people have young adult children who are not working, not going to school, etc. My son works hard. He goes to college, and over the course of his first two years has earned straight As. On the surface everything is great.

Except he's a resentful jerk all the time. If I ask him to do something minor--move his laundry, take out the trash, he comes out angry or he dismisses me. He leaves his shoes in the doorways, and just refuses to move them. He doesn't pay any rent. I share my car with him because I walk to work, and he throws a fit or gets angry when I need it for an appointment. I pay his car insurance, his health insurance, and I buy his food. I tried bringing this up once, but it was the whole, "You're holding this over me!" And I'm like, "No, I'm just trying to refocus you--to remind you of what I'm doing for you because I think you're forgetting."

Now I haven't been perfect. Three or four times in the last two years when he's escalated, I escalated right back.

I just don't know what the deal is. Is this normal? Will he get over it? Can I set boundaries and rules without him cutting me out of his life? I think he needs to move out, but I have this deep, existential dread that he's so angry at me that I'll never see him again. He hasn't necessarily said that, it's more his consistent behavior towards me.

TLDR: 20 year old son lives with me, has a job, does great in school--is an asshole at home. We'd always been super close until recently. I'm really sad all the time.

maybe indifferent is the wrong word. i (25f) am my mother’s only biological child. for most of my life it was just my mom, stepdad, myself, and my younger adopted sister (20f). (i occasionally spent time with my bio dad growing up, but our relationship severely deteriorated after my half brother was born when i was 11.) so for the most part it was just me and my sister. we didn’t always get along, but now as adults we talk pretty much every day and spend all our time together when we both visit home. i love her with every fiber of my being and i would go to war for her.

when i was 19/20, i transferred colleges and moved across the US. a few months after i moved, my parents called me to share that they were adopting a 4 year old boy. my initial reaction was shock, confusion, and (selfishly) anger. it was reopening a lot of wounds i had with my father, who virtually pushed me out of his life when my half brother was born. the room i had at his house become my brother’s room, and all of our dad’s attention became his. so needless to say i was very worried about the same cycle being repeated.

fast forward to now, i moved closer to family but still don’t see them that often. every time i go home it feels different and unfamiliar. my childhood bedroom became my sister’s room, and all of my things were sent up to the attic or mailed to me. which is incredibly minimal to the fact that my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer last year, and my stepdad has a debilitating illness as well. everything is different, and difficult, and at the core of things i am feeling scared, vulnerable, and sad.

i live about 5 hours away from my family now, so when i visit them i prefer to spend time with my mom or catch up with friends/my sister if my mom is not feeling well. i feel awful bc my brother always wants to play with me, and i never want to. im not good with kids, and honestly i prefer peace and quiet over anything. he is so smart, and so kind, and such a thoughtful kid, but i dont feel much affection for him other than obligation. i do take him out for ice cream whenever i come home, which is something we both enjoy. it’s become our shared activity, and im glad we have something we both enjoy doing. i just feel guilty for not wanting to do more with him. i’d rather spend time with my mom and my sister, but he shouldn’t have to face the fallout from my shitty and selfish adult attitude. i treat him like my brother, but on the inside i dont feel very affectionate.

is this normal? am i being selfish for wanting things to go back to the way they were?

TLDR; family adopted child when i moved out for college, i feel bad for not wanting to spend time with him

I’ve noticed since a few months that my mom has became somewhat toxic like manipulative, something disrespectful and angry is it her menopause or she has became a mean/toxic all of sudden I’m 23 she 47

Forgive me as I attempt to focus on a single issue that is in the forefront of my mind, and not go off on an ADHD-fueled tangent where I overshare about my entire life.

So I (39f) have begun to realize how much judgement I receive from my family members, and I’m starting to realize maybe this isn’t a normal amount of involvement with decisions I make. My family isn’t large, there are only women left, and the main culprits are my mom and aunt (her sister) who are hippie boomers from the PNW/Bay Area and are liberal, funny, and awesome overall. My cousin is 35 and pretty good at minding her business, and my sister (37f) who‘s a lost cause.

So, I will try my best to explain what happened yesterday and hopefully I can accurately paint the picture of what is irking me:

I have been dying my hair since I graduated high school in 2004, and I always go for unnatural colours. Every so often I will go for something more societally acceptable, but never for long. Well I have had a natural blonde for like 8 months which is crazy for me, and I finally decided to go bright orange in celebration of the return of sunshine! Well the response I got from my family was, “Ehhhh, really?! Don’t do that. Ughhh.” Etc… This happens every time, even though I have been coloring my hair and have been very “alternative” for my entire life.

The same thing happens if I hyper-fixate on anything. I got really into miniatures for a minute and even though my Aunt loves little things too, I would get eye rolls if I got excited about tiny things at the store. I get comments about how much clothing I have (I have one dresser and a closet full of clothes. Seems normal to me, but maybe it’s because my clothes are loud?) and they will often give me looks at disapproval over how I decorate my room.

I get crap for what I eat too, especially when I go through ”same-fooding” periods. They will constantly point out what I eat, ie: “Oh yeah, gotta have your Slurpee” /s. And not like it is limited to junk; I only ate fruit for about two months straight and after just like one week of going ham on bowls of melon all of a sudden I was made to feel self-conscious about it because of weird commentary.

TL;dr:

My family may be too involved with me and my life, and I am just starting to notice it. Is it normal for family to put so much input and energy into my choices in style and daily functioning? Or is this over the top?

My friend just shared a story about his sister doing that when they were younger and I'm wondering how common that really is? Have you done it before?

I feel like I’m constantly looking for approval from my mum. She compliments me a lot, mainly on the way I look but when she doesn’t it bothers me in a way. My mums not a liar either so because she compliments me a lot and then she doesn’t?? It makes me feel like I’m not good enough for her and I just want her approval.

I’m aware this seems stupid or an insignificant problem but it feels big to me. I’m a 15 year old girl so I’m wondering if this is just a teenager thing and maybe I’ll grow out of it idk

India, M. It's normal to live with siblings and parents here. My dad didn't do well financially and so me and my brother started helping aa we can.

Earlier my brother was earning and I went to complete my education, during that time his financial situation went down. He shouted (kinda abusive) for years and they barely survived.

From Covid time, he lost all his business and I was earning so I took all responsibility (earlier I was helping with whatever I had). I get angry few times but I try to keep everything available to the family (not luxurious but comfortable)

I helped my brother with 1.5 million to pay his debt and invest in his business. 2 years and he is only earning enough to pay his business expenses. I am fine with that as he is trying but here is the issue that troubles me:

Covid made me atheist, he is religious so he spends considerable time and little money or temples etc.

I know he has his beliefs but I feel like that's waste of my hard earned money (technically his but I pay for all other expenses for him and everyone else) as we are not rich enough to spend money on temples, we can use that money or at least that can be used to help someone.

I would like point of view from open minded people. (No blind faith answer but logical)

Please advise me and share your experience?

When I met my wife, she was already with our daughter. She was 5 years old at the time. I adopted her and she started calling me daddy almost immediately. Then we had another son. Now my daughter is 15 years old and I've been unable to build a relationship with her for the last couple of years. She has become withdrawn and we argue and fight more often. I don't quite understand how to build a relationship with a teenager. When she was a child, there were no such problems.

I only care about my mom, dad, grandma and sibling and a bit my nephews (i don’t see them often but my daughter loves when they all meet up at my parents home so i do care about them to). But for cousins and aunts and uncles and cousins kids i don’t really care about, they also live in another state so maybe why, but we also never talk and comunicate at all. So i can be bothered either. They are like acquaintances for me, last week my mom called me telling that my “aunt” my uncles wife, cousin’s mom died, i just said oh well thats sad, but didnt really care at all, last time i so her was for like 14 year’s ago and she didn’t even like me either as i knew afterwards.

I (21F) made a dating profile on OKC a few months back. I've never been in a relationship (as an adult) and pretty much avoid the topic with my family. I randomly decided to create a dating profile and adjusted the settings to make sure no family accidentally stumbled across it. Fast forward a few months, im at the dinner table with my family and they are discussing me being able to be a good wife since I can clean ( VERY traditional family) when my uncle (43M) mentions my dating profile, my heart dropped. My little cousin (14f) looks shocked and asks me if it was true (She is very sweet though and noticed i was uncomfortable) I'm just glad that a specific cousin (17f) wasn't present for this conversation, she always publicly comments on my appearance, no point giving her any ammo. She once said loudly in a restaurant that I could pass for a man because I have bushy eyebrows. It was so annoying !!

He doesn't tell me who told him or showed him but all my uncles are married so I have no clue who would've found out. In normal families, I can imagine them finding out your profile to be not too embarrassing, but, in mine, they will pick apart everything in my profile and share the photos i took with the rest of the family (which could be normal I have no clue). I just don't understand why they keep telling me to be more confident and put myself out there and when i do they laugh at me. I told my older brother (my biggest supporter) how I felt and he told me that maybe I just didn't look good in the photos and I should invest in makeup to make myself look better, I told him that i did wear makeup in the photos. I put in some effort to "doll" myself up with makeup I don't normally wear any. They laughed at my photos and shared it with their friends. I have very low self esteem and thought those were cute photos (guess not :( ).

I said some embarrassing stuff like wanting a serious relationship and wanting someone faithful and funny. Now that I think about it, it makes me sooo embarrassed to have written things like this on the profile. I shouldn't have revealed so much of my feelings on the app. My family can be mean at times and maybe this is me just being sensitive. I felt embarrassed with the discussion and immediately paused the account so it wouldn't appear to the public. I tried going out with makeup once ( simple lipstick and light foundation ) and they laughed at me when they saw me, I just headed straight into the bathroom to wash my face. I rarely wear anything on my face now or do my hair. Never had the urge to doll up any ways lol. I always feel ugly but my family always seems to confirm that I am. Part of me is terrified that they will find this post and make fun of me because i was embarrassed by it. I hate sharing my feelings and thats why this is my second ever post.

Even my father told me that he would scrub my shit (shitty) face across the pavement during an argument but that's a completely separate experience but it's just an example of a situation I've been in with family. I feel like im too sensitive about previous experiences and it's making me uncomfortable with even the slightest comment. I don't even take photos with me in them usually, i don't like how i look and even took out the mirrors in my room so I wouldn't catch my reflection passing by, I almost forgot how i looked like for a few months.

Is trying to find a relationship that bad? Should I try something else other than dating apps? I didn't even have a good experience on OKC anyways, the guys on there treated me poorly. I know that this could be a way of looking for validation and I could very well be apart of the problem as well by posting this. I don't think I'm embarrassed about the fact that they know i have a dating app but what they say about it. So Am I overreacting?

(English is my second language so all these conversations are being translated)

Tldr: (this post is too long; My family found my profile spoke about it at the dinner table; I'm embarrassed but do i actually have reason to be?)

TLDR: she took my 19 month old son to her house behind my back even though she doesn't want me at her house. She had no issue telling me about all of the other places she took him to but never told me that she took him to her house until I got very specific with my question.

If you see my post history you will see i have a lot of past posts about my mom. I am a mom too. Long story short (explained more in post history) my mom has been babysitting my son for me while I go to work until I can get daycare and daycare assistance from the state. (I use to babysit for her and her friends too when I was younger). But I recently found out that she has been taking my son to her house without telling me. (My step dad was physically abusive to me while I was growing up and he wants nothing to do with me or my son. And he also kicked me out of the house a long time ago (for no good reason.) I helped them with bills after I graduated high school and I have never been on drugs and never been to jail and they still kicked me out.

Today when I was an hour into my shift I randomly called my mom and said "Where are you? Are you at the house?" (She had my son with her. I knew he was with her but didn't know where she was taking him.)

As soon as I asked her that she stuttered and then went silent. Then I got more specific and said "Are you at MY house?" Then she said "No we are going to (example shop) later" then I said "Okay. But where are you right NOW?" And then she said "We are my house." (Her house)

Then I changed the subject cause I didn't want to agrue with her over the phone while I was at work. And then I just asked if my son was okay and what he was doing.

I don't even know what made me ask her that. I just had a feeling she was lying to me and it turns out I was right. Her also randomly deciding to take the booster seat from my house (the one my son uses for eating) without telling me why was also a huge hint. She and my step dad don't want me to even visit her house but yet she took my son there behind my back and didn't tell me until after I asked her about it and I had to be really specific with my questions too cause she kept dodging the question during our phone call today.

I know a lot of people are going to tell me to just find new child care and I am still in the process of that. (Government assistance for daycare in my state wants 4 pay stubs to get approved for it and I get paid every other week)

But I don't know what else to do in the meantime other than to ask her why she was not honest with me. It is my responsibility to know where my child is and she lied by omission. On top of that its also shady that she won't let me there but let him there. He is currently too young to speak in full sentences. If she or anyone else around her did anything shady around my child he would not have been able to tell me cause he is not at the stage to speak sentences yet.

I understand that my mom wants the whole family to get along again but she went about it the wrong way. She should not have gone behind my back like that. She basically excluded me and I don't want her to alienate my son from me. And I don't even know if she introduced him to my step dad behind my back. (Idk if my step dad was home or at work when she did what she did) If I am not allowed to even visit her house (even though she wants to visit mine) then my son should not be allowed to visit her house either. Thats not fair and it looks shady.

TLDR: she took my 19 month old son to her house behind my back even though she doesn't want me at her house. She had no issue telling me about all of the other places she took him to but never told me that she took him to her house until I got very specific with my question.

Edited for typos.

I (28) female and my sister (25) female been best friends. We were glued at the hip all our lives. Of course, as we got older, we both started to figure out our own lives and had our own friends. So we saw each other less due to schooling and the like since i am four years older. WE always use to fidn time though for each other.Things the last few yars got busier. Out jobs make it so we don;t see each other at certain times but we still see each other at home. My sister has a boyfriend too who she sees one or moe days a week dependimg on her days she works/he works.

Wich is totally fine i get being with him.She is balancing alot. which is what i get. But, she has developed a bad habit lately that is starting to build up frustration. It is not her boyfriend's fault for this, it is on her and her inability to recognize she is being selfish.

her communication had been becoming awful. She will change plans, forget or try to did last minute hang out with her boyfriend and sometimes other friends. Never text or communicate stuff and then complain when no one texts her or tells her.I will text her and openly communicate stuff to her.she..never does.she will say one day she is free then suddenly be seeen with a packed up bag about to leave and go "oh i am going out with bf".We had plans to go to a bubble tea shop of her choice for me to treat her for her birthday. She invited me last minute Friday after work for a hangout with her friends.Found out last minute she planned to stay over her boyfriend's house. said nothing but she assured she would see me at 1. was past two I texted her.She said car trouble.I got a little upset as she could of said something but she kept shrugging it off and when i told her she should communicate got upset and basically told me not to bother. thus, canceling the plans all together.

she and her bf got home 3 as we had a b-day dinner for her at 5. never said sorry. Her bf checked in and felt bad.he did not know she would sleep over last minute either. and wanted to try to go get the tea which i told him did not want to since she showed no care.I ended up writing a letter today as it still been deeply upsetting me. I understnd people double book, but forgetting and trying to blame it on your stess all the time instead of just owning up/saying sorry when I would of understand been building this feeling of not being appreciated as much. the fact her boyfriend is the one who wantd to try to fix it makes me feel more angry.it is not his fault at all. it is my sister's. we were supposed to celebrate her birthday sunday.(the 6th) but she said she could not due to prior plans with her bf. so I had to cancel previous plans to join my friends for dinner on Saturday because i wanted to be here for my sister. my friends understood as I told them the weekend might be funky before we planned the 5th due to figuring out when to celebrate her birthday as a family.

The fact she still made other plans, wanted me to be understanding, could not tell anyone they where having trouble and fail to get why i was upset and proceed to try to make it sound like i am being dramatic for being upset is...oooo. I dunno.maybe i am being overly emotional but it just has soemthing ignited in me right now. Does not help, the last two years for my birthday she would promise stuff and do nothing. but the last two for her I tried to treat her. Previous year was to an all you can eat hot pot. I do this because i love her and want to spoil her and make sure she has a stress-free day. All the time she says she wants sister days, but overtime i ask her it again is always plans with other friends or her BF. yet she claims she is "trying to balance".Again I have no issue if her boyfriend joined us for things.Or if plans need to change. All she as to do is open her dang mouth or text me. anything to show she did care.

Me (19) and my mum (mid 50s) are staying in India with family. My mum is staying with me for two weeks and then I’m staying on for another two without her. So far I’ve been getting really really frustrated with her. The way she puts on a fake smile constantly, the way she pronounces things, the fake accent she puts on when she talks to other people, when she asks me questions, just every little thing. I obviously know my mum isn’t doing anything on purpose to annoy me and it’s just the way she is but I CANNOT STAND IT. I end up snapping at her and being in a bad mood and it really affects my mental health while on this trip. Additionally, I’m someone who really values my alone time and we’ve been sharing a bedroom for a week now. If I get alone time it’s very very minimal. And I should mention I’ve been smoking weed for about 4 years everyday and this is the first time I’ve gone without it so maybe that’s a factor.

Im just wondering if maybe anyone relates to this or knows of any solutions? I don’t like getting annoyed with my mum and we have a good relationship most of the time so idk

My husband and I (33yo) moved to PA a few months ago, it was something we had been planning for a couple years. Everyone on my side of the family knew so it wasn't a surprise when we moved.

Well we've been house hunting and found a place we love and made an offer.

I sent my brother, sister and dad pictures (myom died 5.5 years ago) of the house, no one responded to my texts, I called my dad and he didn't pick up.

My dad called back later that night and just said "oh that's a lot of money"

My sister answered when I called her and said "that's cool but..." And then went on to talk about my niece.

My brother still hasn't responded.

My husband's side of the family are all excited for us.

I guess I'm just disappointed that my family doesn't really seem to care about this big moment in my life. Seems like they're all more concerned about themselves (which, to be fair, they always have been this way). I guess I shouldn't be surprised, but Im still sad.

I think my sister convinced my mother to write me out of the will.

Hi, I'm an 18 year old living in Australia. Ever since year 7, I've been constantly bullied in class and shamed for being too "quiet" and it really didnt have much of an effect on me until now. Now that I'm older and my self-esteem has gotten better after nearly 6-7 years of constant abuse (from family members, literally childhood friends, classmates, and EVEN MY OWN FRIENDS), I've had the time to recover from the shitty environment because I've essentially cut off most of my friends and my abuser (aunt) stopped bullying me after I had a massive breakdown and started crying (even then she legit came up to me and was rubbing my back and smiling and laughing like it was something funny. By the way, she never apologised and my mum just let it all happen.). I've probably been abused by like 3 or 4/5ths of the people I got to know which genuinely sounds crazy but I am being so fucking honest, it probably is that number. As you read this post, you can tell my mind is all over the place. For fuck sake, i literally made a different and new account just to avoid anyone I know recognising me. Everything I say is genuine and not one of those fiction posts you get from randos. But I just want to get this off my chest, my Aunt would randomly start belittling me in academics when i was younger, probs since i was 7 years ld, (such as ask me if i read the newspaper and then quiz me on that despite having two others brothers, who she didnt ask the same question to.). Also I need to mention my Aunt is a fucking idiot and scored low in high school and tried to act like she was a top achiever when she was a child and she was legit belittling me because of her massive ego. So the aunt and my grandmother would constantly seperate me from my other two brothers in my childhood (and even now), and my dad would frequently tell me since I was like 6 years old (I'm pretty sure) that they are trying to belittle me and isolate me because I looked like him and I was a bit more quiet than the rest of the kids.

So i was dealing with all this fuckery from a young age, although my aunt and grandma didn't turn that toxic back then, the hatred was there from a young age. But anyways, I can still remember when my aunt would legit call my name randomly and start smiling and laughing out loud. This all started when I was laughing with my brother and then I think she thought i was laughing at her, so she called me "very shy", which i was a bit humiliated and embarrased by, but not offended AT THE TIME. But then right after that, the next time we met (my mum forces us to meet the aunt and grandma once a week), she would randomly come up to me and start belittling me (she wasn't keeping her messages hidden anymore, just blatant disrespect which really shocked me and genuinely caught me off guard). Anyways she would just keep belittling and disrespecting me and trying to push me down and make me feel like a failure and devalue me. Literally devalued who i was a person and was doing that via laughing and mockery. I genuinely don't understand why she even bears that type of hatred towards me when i did nothing to her. But she kept at it for like a year i think before i finally broke down (already explained it im pretty sure, so im prob not gonna repeat it again), btw i never got my apology for anything, she literally refused that it happened, but im pretty sure she told my other family members and they also talked shit about how i was "too shy" or "too quiet".

Anyways, after this, I just didn't talk to her much (we still had to go to her house or she came to ours once a week, I don't even know why when they openly try to disrespect my mum (my mum is a pushover and lets this shit happen) and yet my mum still screams at us to go there when we refuse. But however, i did my year 12 and got my grades a few years back and it was within the top 2% of the state and then i suddenly got a text from my aunt saying "congrats son", and the entire thing felt so awful and fake to me. She rejected me for so many years and now she wants to claim me as her son because I proved her wrong and I actually did well in my academics?? By the way, there is a lot of other toxic shit they did but I cant be bothered listing so many things in one post and it would take ages to write up and i also have uni assignments due soon so i should prob get to it ;-;.

Anyways, I'll get to the point, this vent sorta eases my trauma but I also want to ask a question, once I leave the house and find a gf, should I just completely cut connections with my Aunt and grandma? I won't announcement my cutting of connections but just don't talk to them. I'm just worried it will hurt my relationship with my mum (btw my grandma doesn't like my mum at all and apparently they fight a lot because my grandma wants to hurt my mum. But my mum isn't very smart and incredibly egotistical (think she is always right) and is brainwashed by her dad (who passed away a few years ago) to always do what their family says (literally scammed so much money off my mum and used her via debt, but she doesn't get it and i cbf getting into it). If I cut ties with my grandma and aunt, i think my mum will cut ties with me despite knowing what the fuck is going and being aware of it because she was literally trained to believe and support their family before ours (she literally firmly stated they were more important than anyone else and me and my brothers and dad come after them in importance).

OP; should i cut connections with aunt and grandma who have only brought me trauma and isolated me and devalued me as a person when im older (moved into my own house, own control).

so like she’s my twin sister so i don’t really have a choice, we aren’t identical. so like as i grew up she was like better than me? i guess, we had a really hard childhood. she’s always been more popular than me.

so when i was in elementary school even kids would come up to me and tell me how much prettier she is than me, and as we grew up she would always tell me i was ugly and that she would kill herself if she looked like me.

she always called me fat and stuff and i had anorexia for two years idk. and it makes me pretty upset. she’s always screaming at me, and my parents have always loved her more than me cause she did sports and stuff. it really hurt me growing up. and she’s always so rude to me. she just started screaming at me in the car and i just came downstairs and started sobbing; as i write this. i can’t take it anymore i seriously don’t know what to do. can someone help me with coping or what to do back?

My mom is the loudest woman on earth. Talks loud. Eats loud. Whenever she leaves or comes home, I can hear, from any room in the house, what sounds like a bowling ball being dropped 3 to 4 times. i've asked if she slams her doors when she gets in and out of her car and she says no. 🥶💀