r/frogdogs • u/llilith • 2h ago
My Sweet Nikko is Deaf
I'm sorry this is really long, but I need to get this out and would appreciate any advice. So, last night we figured out that Nikko (frenchie/pug) is deaf. He will be 14 this June. This dog has been the love of my life since I brought him home at 7 weeks old. My soul dog. His song is "here comes the sun" because that's what he did. When my mom died, he came into my life and was the only reason I got out of bed in the morning. To say I love him is an understatement, he IS my heart.
Yesterday I came in from the backyard and he was on our back patio looking for me. I was walking up behind him calling Nikko Nikko, Mom's home and he didn't turn around! This continued until my husband turned his head my direction and the happy homecoming dance ensued. But this was the moment we both realized he could not hear a thing. I mean I've noticed he wasn't barking at the door recently, nor is he barking at his fence nemesis the neighbor dog. It used to be when the mail came or the dog barked at the fence, Nikko was barking back.I thought he was just mellowing out as he got older.
I'm having so many feelings about this. My first thought was that is it so sad that he will never be able to hear me say I Love You or Good Boy to him again. It breaks my heart and I've been crying since last night. I also feel incredibly guilty because it took me this long to figure it out. I'm so sad to think of how lonely he must be in his silence. I talk to him ALL day long. I work from home and he is my constant companion. What if he thinks I just stopped talking to him? That is so incredibly sad.
More important than how I feel is what can we do to help him be happy and feel loved now? Since we figured this out last night, I started a few hand signals. For Good Boy, I've been holding my hands flat and wiggling my fingers, kinda like jazz hands. For I Love You, I've been rubbing my hand on my heart. I have no idea if he gets it.
We have done a few tests since last night and I'm quite sure he is completely 100% deaf. While he was sleeping next to me, I played dog barking sounds on my phone at high volume. His ears didn't even twitch. Then, the ultimate test... I crunched a chip bag right next to him while he was laying next to me. Nothing. This dog used to hear a chip bag open from another room. We'll go to the vet next week.
I think what has me so broken up about this is that it underscores how old he is and how he won't be here forever. And, if I had known it would have been the last day he heard me say it I would have told him I loved him and that he was the BEST GOOD BOY so many more times that day.