r/highschool • u/Radiant-North-8519 Sophomore (10th) • 2d ago
Rant my parents think anything below a B is failing
for some reason, my parents think anything below a B is failing, when it's not, I literally try to get a C or better and my parents think a C is failing and if I get anything below that grade I'm definitely going to get my ass whooped by my dad. it's like one D, I can bring that up in like a week or two, and if I try to convince either of them that a C or higher can be passing, they'll say a B is passing. I'm genuinely trying to pass my classes with a C and my parents think it's failing. what can I do about this?
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u/cel_medicul 2d ago
At my school, C is the minimum for passing any class, so anything below A- is failing for my parents.
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u/F0WR Sophomore (10th) 2d ago
i mean just cause a C is passing doesnt mean it is a good score
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u/Radiant-North-8519 Sophomore (10th) 2d ago
yea but why are they so obsessed with me getting a B when I mostly just have B's and C's?
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u/F0WR Sophomore (10th) 2d ago
probably because they care about you and your future
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u/Few_Guess9706 Senior (12th) 2d ago
no ones future is ruined because they have a couple câs i promise you
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u/goodguyScratch1 1d ago
I just commented this but Iâll tell you as well, Cs make your gpa low so when you are trying to join a waitlist for a degree (if you choose to go that route of course) they may email you back and require you to bump up a few grades. For me I had to bump one of my C, up to a B in order to be accepted into a health program (did ruin my life of course but I had to take a whole another semester for one grade)
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u/Few_Guess9706 Senior (12th) 19h ago
maybe thats because youâre going into a health program and most ppl arent doing that, either way ur life isnt ruined .. there are a million ways to get into the health field with Câs and Bâs
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u/Peecem 7h ago
Ehhhhhhh thats a dangerous mindset to have though. A few can be fine, but I let my grades slip in highschool and ended up losing THOUSANDS of dollars in university because of it. I had the opportunity to get an 80% scholarship but ended up barely making the mark with a 30%. All because of "a few c's" over covid and the following year.
Sure your not ruining your future, but you are definetly making it harder for yourself, and limiting your options
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u/Bindiezone 1d ago
They're literally talking about getting beaten by their parents over it. Their parents arent good people.
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u/Nova-Ecologist 1d ago
Itâs not the end all be all though, ideally you should get as high as you can, but for some it can be very tasking, more for some than it is others.
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u/Budget_Relief7464 19h ago
how is having your parents treat you like a failure because you dont understand the material that well caring for your future
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u/Noidsss 1d ago
Highschool is literally brain dead easy man. Just turn in all the work and youâre bound to get an A at most schools
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u/Tracerr3 1d ago
Fuckin seriously. Almost nobody in high school is getting C's because they're stupid or a bad test taker. In high school, literally just doing the work and turning it in is more than enough to get a B or higher in most cases. So many ppl are so fuckin lazy.
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u/T_Rey1799 1d ago
As a fully grown adult, I can tell you, your grades are not you. Try your best in school, but a few Câs are not going to ruin your life. Unless youâre trying to be a doctor or lawyer or something. Do your work, graduate, continue on your lifeâŚ
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u/PS1PS2PS3enthusiast 1d ago
Because high school is much easier than college and if you're getting B's and C's in high school, you're not going to do well in college. Plus you'll regret getting lower grades and not trying at all in high school when you're applying to colleges and none of the colleges you want to go to accepts you on account of your GPA. Why not try to get good grades and open up future doors for yourself? Bs and Cs are passing grades, but those are also the lowest possible grades before failing.
To get Bs and Cs in high school, it means you are barely even doing the bare minimum. It sounds like you are pretty much just showing up, and not much else. I took all AP classes my entire time in high school and graduated with a 4.60 GPA. I didn't even try. I barely did assignments, I almost never showed up on time. That's how easy high school is. When I got to college it was a HUGE rude awakening.
Your parents have your best interests in mind here, you're just too young to know it.
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u/Electronic-Cry-1254 1d ago
To be getting less than a B you have to be not turning in your assignments and/or getting lower scores on tests
Turning in all your work helps with knowing material for tests so my advice is always just never leave anything unsubmitted
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u/VardisFisher 2d ago
As a former teacher, if you canât get a B in todayâs public schoolsâŚâŚâŚyou are either lazy, or have a learning disability.
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u/BrinsleySchwartze Junior (11th) 2d ago
I have a learning disability and I still manage to get A's.
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u/VardisFisher 2d ago
Youâve proven my point about the difficulty of public schools. Are you on an IEP?
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u/BrinsleySchwartze Junior (11th) 1d ago
No.
Took a while to develop a study habit that worked for me/a lot of self-discipline but here I am.
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u/Anynymous475839292 2d ago
Or maybe the teacher is shit idk
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u/Wonderful-Cut7684 1d ago
If you care enough about your grades the teacher shouldnât matter youâd learn the class material in your time
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u/Anynymous475839292 1d ago
I shouldn't have to learn that shit on my own time that's what the teacher is for goofy ahh
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u/Wonderful-Cut7684 1d ago
Youâre saying you expect a teacher to magically help you memorize one hour of biology material in one hour? The whole point of classes is for the teacher to go through the lesson to make sure you understand everything and you review it to understand it in your own way.
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u/Anynymous475839292 1d ago
Yes I expect the teacher to teach in a way that i memorize and understand the material, if they can't do that they are a shit teacher
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u/Cynical_Kittens Sophomore (10th) 8h ago
It is literally a teacher's job to be in charge of a student's grades and, well, teach. It absolutely matters. If you have a crappy teacher, then you'll have a harder time understanding the material. And obviously, the way each teacher grades varies as well.
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u/DespicablePen-4414 1d ago
Iâve gotten 1 B and 1 C (only for a quarter though, not a class) and both were because of complete laziness. The B was an easy class that I just skipped a test in and never retook and the C was from not studying for 2 quizzes.
Itâs genuinely not hard to at least get a 90%
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u/The_BowTie_Man_ 1d ago
I mean, it kind of depends. Some public schools, if in good areas are pretty difficult. I go to a public HS in a richer area of SoCal, and itâs very challenging and academically. Competitive.
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u/Dangerous-Advisor-31 20h ago
This is so not true. Some public schools have insane competition and very harsh grading curves. Plus, grading curves play a role. Take for example a big rich public hs in Oregon. Some of them have insanely harsh grading curves. Stuy, Brooklyn tech, thomas jerfferson, BASIS, etc are some hyper competitive public highschools
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u/VardisFisher 19h ago
Would you say that those schools represent the average public school, or have you cherry picked top ranked outliers? You did mention ârichâ schools in OR. I was speaking about public schools as a whole. Like all of them averaged together. How long have you been teaching? Did you teach at one of the schools you mentioned. Iâd like to read more about these schools grading on curves. Can you provide a link to that?
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u/Comfortable_Cut_7334 2d ago
I mean, if C is passing why bother going for anything else?
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u/OceanAmethyst 1d ago edited 1d ago
Okay, are you actually serious right now.
History is constantly being repeated. Literacy rates are at an all time low. People still deny climate change.
There is a reason that people have fought so hard for the right to education - to not be taken advantage of. Have you ever realized the trend of civil rights activists being educated? Do you know why slave owners made sure that their slaves could never learn to read?
You may be one of the stupidest people online, and that's saying something.
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u/Every_Ad8904 1d ago
Getting a good grade and being educated is not the same thing at all
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u/OceanAmethyst 1d ago
I'm not talking about math. I'm talking about Science and History.
I'm talking about knowing what led up to the Holocaust. I'm talking about knowing how lead poisoning was constantly being denied, like how climate change is now.
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u/Mar_ketable 1d ago
I see what youâre getting at, but good grades donât reflect how aware you are of the world around you. You can have straight As and still be ignorant, just as you can be failing and politically adept.
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u/VardisFisher 2d ago
This line of thinking is what separates bosses from employees. Can you guess which side youâll be standing on in 10 years.
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u/Comfortable_Cut_7334 2d ago
Employee. 100%. Still don't see much of a reason for going past just 'pass'. Especially since being a boss is pretty stressful all things considered. More stressful than an employee at least. And there's also ways to be successful even as just an employee.
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u/Kayoshiwan 1d ago
Perks of being a boss or a/the person running the operation 1. Probably more pay 2. More duties and responsibilities People overestimate the value of #2. Everyone wants their life to be overall working towards something whether thats raising kids, helping patients, seeing the company do well. Iâm not advocating for 100 hour workweeks here but doing nothing all the time is pretty unfulfilling for most people.
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u/Arcalgalkiagiratina Senior (12th) 1d ago
Real mature way of stating your point for someone who is in adulthood
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u/mydaisy3283 Sophomore (10th) 2d ago
are they literally hitting you or just giving you a hard time? cause they shouldnât hit you no matter what. but theyâre right to be upset about Ds, sure itâs not LITERALLY failing, but all that means is you get credit for taking the class. youre not gonna get into anywhere besides maybe community college. if youâre fine with that then explain to them your life plan, but if you want to go to a state school or above, then even Cs are pushing it
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u/ForestOranges 14h ago
Teacher here. I had a student get a D+ in my class, a C in Algebra II, and As and Bs in their other classes and they still got into the state university. A couple of Cs and a D wonât necessarily stop you as long as everything else on your application is good.
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u/King_Archon 1d ago
My general rule of thumb is getting a high enough score to exempt high school finals, which at my school is 85(Depends on the school, of course, and if the option is even available). Having a minimum that requires at least doing your assignments properly and not succumbing to laziness. But if you're able to go above this, then it's simply a bonus for your grade, since just doing work and studying a bit usually gets you at least a B during daily and major grades. Unless you have a crappy teacher, a difficult subject, or a difficult lesson to comprehend, then you shouldn't ever get C's.
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u/TheBepsiBoy 1d ago
Honestly grades vary between schools and states. For me, homework was a majority of my grades which to me was questionable but once I brought it up they thought I had autism? Bunch of fucking weirdos they were. I graduated 2016 with mostly low Bs and Cs. Iâm now in college for cyber security with a 4.0.
I skipped homework because I had a life outside school and could care less. I passed all my tests and in school work so my grades pretty much balanced.
Self teaching is a common thing, teachers just refuse to mention it because once students out smart a teacher, they lose their mind. American school system sucks compared to when I was in Germany for middle school, beginning highschool.
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u/Radiant-North-8519 Sophomore (10th) 1d ago
same experience happened to me; some people thought I was sped. unironically, I technically am, because of my IEP
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u/Adorable-Event-2752 9h ago
That is because it IS, I hate to break it to you, but a C when I started teaching in the 1980's is now a very high A.
Grade inflation is insideous.
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u/aromenos Moderator | Junior â 2d ago
they are wrong, in high school passing is either D or C. but itâs really not hard to maintain all Aâs and Bâs, so everyone should at least aim for that.
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u/Radiant-North-8519 Sophomore (10th) 2d ago
a D is technically passing it but in my school it doesn't count through A-G
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u/Revolutionary_Bit437 1d ago
how about we donât say how difficult or easy something is because you donât know what kinds of schools others are going to nor what theyâre going through. others should aim for whatâs possible for them, not what people think is an attainable goal
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u/SterlingVesper 1d ago
Where I currently study, below an 80%(C) constitutes a failing grade. Consistent Câs lead to dis-enrolment. Itâs completely reasonable.
If you canât score at least an 80 on graded material, you either have very unfortunate life circumstances or are just lazy. Considering your parents actually care about your education and donât just expect the bare minimum, Iâm assuming itâs the latter.
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u/Strange_Mirror6992 Senior (12th) 1d ago
If you think thatâs bad, how about a parent who freaks out if I get anything less than 94%?
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u/Mustang_3821 1d ago
I remember I had a 3.4 and my mom got mad. So I was worried and tried to fix it and then it dropped to 3.0 and sheâs even more mad
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u/LuckyDA13 1d ago
My dad thought B was failing, so I had to live like that but having 7 classes was really stressful so I always had a C or B in something. Idk if it's just me but asian dad vibe (he's 50% Korean, I'm 25%)
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u/cyber-rl 1d ago
lowkey if anyone tries hard enough they can get a B, it just shows you donât put in enough effortÂ
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u/Alternative-Web-5787 1d ago
Because a c is a shit grade itâs the bare minimum you could get a c by not even coming to class
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u/DietDrBleach 1d ago
Theyâre correct. College is wildly competitive these days, and you need top grades to get into a good school. C grades do not look good.
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u/Rockhound2012 1d ago
The fact that the biggest emphasis is put on grades and not the actual learning is why the american public education system is failing.
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u/Wonderful-Cut7684 1d ago
My parents canât care less about my grades yet I still have the self awareness to get at least 95 or above bro All my friends consider below 90 a flunked test Thinking B is failing is perfectly normal. B is average.
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u/NiaNitro 1d ago
My mom: âHow did you get a 98? What happened to those other two points?â
Thereâs nothing you can do besides promise to do better next time. They donât understand what school is like anymore. The course-loads and state standards are more than they ever had to deal with.
Iâm a teacher and I wish I could make it better. It makes me so sad when students are beating themselves up over grades. Only in academia does your GPA matter, anywhere else in life itâs all about character.
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u/FudgeyleFirst 1d ago
Anything below 90 is failing
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u/Radiant-North-8519 Sophomore (10th) 1d ago
how? a: 90 - passing 80 - passing 70 - passing 60 - technically passing 50 and below - failing
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u/No_Studio_2443 7h ago
To pass a class only means that the school won't make you retake it. That's not the goal. You should be trying to thrive in your schoolwork, taking rigorous classes and getting as high of marks as you can within them. If you can do that well, you will be rewarded with the ability to go to a nice college or university, and study something specialized to exactly what you want to learn, and with a much higher standard of education quality. Your taking higher level classes and paying more attention within them will also allow you to see what you're talented at and what excites you, so you will be more equipped to go into a career for which you are well suited.
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u/goodguyScratch1 1d ago
Yes a C is passing but when you are in college and you would like to join waitlists for programs for your degree Cs make your gpa pretty low (I had to bump a C of mine up to a B so I could be accepted on a health program)
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u/TheMuffler42069 1d ago
Theyâve clearly never heard the saying âCs get degreesâ
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u/foooder 1d ago
I lived by this in college, but in high school, Câs may get degrees, but they wonât get u into a good college. The issue is OP words the post like all heâs doing is aiming to get Câs. Like not putting in any effort to get a higher grade bc he thinks a C is fine just bc itâs considered passing. Thatâs not okay. If a kid is genuinely struggling in school and reaches out for academic help, but still gets Câs, I fully appreciate and admire their effort in trying. But if a kid like this is just doing the bare minimum to scrape by and canât understand the whole concept of why they should strive for better grades than the bare minimum for their future, then, well, they actually probably arenât cut out for college so I guess their grades donât matter after all.
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u/TheMuffler42069 1d ago
Oh damn my bad I messed up. Lemme talk to OP real quick. OP, I was wrong, foooder is correct. You should be aiming higher in high school and in fact in college as well.
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u/Square-Ask-6967 1d ago
damn free you iâm calling your principal and tell him to set a meeting with your parent/parents about how a D is passing is some states and a c is defiantly passigg by
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u/Nervous-Leopard1007 1d ago
Honestly you should stop trying to pass your classes with a 'C' and start trying to pass them with a 'A' (which ik isn't easy for most)
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u/Additional-Pie-8821 21h ago
Itâs the difference between just ânot failingâ and succeeding. Your parents want you to succeed.
Câs get degrees. And very few employers will check your GPA, so you can simply ânot failâ by getting Câs. But if you get Câs in school, then you are probably going to get the equivalent of a C on your performance report from your future manager. In a professional context, that absolutely is failing.
Getting good grades isnât a sign of intelligence, itâs a sign of hard work, so this lesson applies even if you donât plan on going to college.
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u/Reddittoxin 14h ago
Also the C's get degrees thing doesn't apply to all majors. There's a lot that will make you retake the course if you get a C. My major (education) wouldn't accept anything less than a 3.0 overall for graduation, and any of the core education courses could only be passed with an A/B. You could get a C in your Gen Ed's, but not the education courses.
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u/Theddoctor 20h ago
B+ in AP mandarin as a son of Latino immigrants got me semi grounded for a whole ass semester. Parents forget that their generation is illiterate as fuck bc their schools were so dogshit and easier than todayâs. Also, unless ur aiming for a fancy uni, who tf cares about a C.
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u/willin_489 Rising Freshman (9th) 19h ago
You're cooked if you think your parents seeing C's as failing marks is unreasonable.
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u/Annual-Shift9786 11h ago
My kids are grounded with cs. Itâs not that I want to be mean I just want them to succeed because I know they can.
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u/My-Last-Hope 2d ago
Unpopular opinion, but I think anything below an A is failing.
See, you're competing with so many other people for this right? There will definitely be an excess of people with As and A*s. If you can't even earn an A, you're likely going to be left behind and not grt into a good college
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u/Nova_Voltaris 2d ago
Sounds like someoneâs school had grade inflation
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u/My-Last-Hope 1d ago
Our school's average grade for any of our subjects is A, or it's equivalent lol
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u/cavs2024champs College Student 2d ago
and even if they donât theyâll be ight, most schools are very easy to transfer into. most people donât go to top schools and theyâre still fine
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u/OceanAmethyst 2d ago
What classes do you take?
Because if you take Honors/AP/College classes, you may have some merit to say this, but if you're not in any of these, please be quiet.
And heaven forbid you're in middle school.
I say this as someone who's about to take college classes in their Junior year, so don't claim I'm too gentle.
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u/My-Last-Hope 1d ago
Why do you think my classes matter in how valid my opinion is?
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u/S_xyjihad Freshman (9th) 1d ago
Because if you are taking all basic courses with no advanced then there's far less effort required for an A. I have a friend who had a low A with studying in Adv Alg 2, and he dropped to regular for personal reasons, and is now sitting at over 100% without paying attention or studying.
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u/OceanAmethyst 2d ago
As an asian, 3 B's to my parents mean that I'm not trying hard enough and thus meaning I should be grounded immediately.
I'm pretty sure a C and above is passing.