Forgive me if this post is long and more like ranting, I barely use reddit and this is the first time I've posted something in this platform.

I'm 19F and I love hard which is a struggle. Don't get me wrong, I love love and I love spreading them to my family and friends but I crave and desire that feeling of pouring my love for a certain person, my person, if I'm making any sense.

I possess the 5 love languages. Physical touch? I don't mind, I am a clingy person myself. Quality time? I love being with other people's presence even it is just a simple and quiet hangout. Gift giving? I give out presents like it's a piece of paper. Acts of service? I love doing small things that will help lessen people's burden. And words of affirmation? I love listening and providing comfort with my words to ease people's hearts.

I really treasure and cherish people around me and I'm so full of love for them. Although lately, I feel kind of desperate and hopeless to want a boyfriend but I'm afraid that guys will be overwhelmed (I don't know if it's the right term) with me for being like this.

I also have a perceptive mindset when it comes to relationships where I don't mind if the guy goes out with his friends, if he has female friends, and if we don't talk 24/7. I understand that people should not let their world revolve only around their partner because I, myself, is a nursing student who's barely making time for herself (jk).

I don't know what to say anymore, I just kept on typing whatever's on my mind. Please, if anyone has any advices or thoughts they want to share, don't hesitate to tell them. I would love to hear your insights about this!

Sometimes It feels like I'm sending a cosmic message to someone I hope to meet one day.

It feels surreal, It's a relief, and it makes me want to escape into the unknown.

Every time, I find myself in my bed crying in frustration, as if the universe is making fun of my lonely hopes. It hurts me as much as if the hurt is meant for two souls. I imagine myself dancing with the one that loves me the same way I love her. Every return to reality feels like dying.

Have you ever felt something like that?

I (23F) have been a hopeless romantic since the day I was born I feel like. I've always yearned for a partner who matches me, who I'm wholly in love with and is in love with me. I love doing things for my partners, I will drive 2 hours just to have lunch with you, or buy you things in the store because they made me think of you. I've had a long term relationship, about 5 years, that ended a few months ago. It was for the best, but even when I was with her, I felt like I was too much. Like my romantic gestures were too much, or that I wanted too much from her. And of course there's levels to that, not being with the right person mixed with her not coming to grips with her own issues mixed with genuinely being a lot sometimes.

But 7 months out from this breakup, my mind is overwhelmed with daydreaming about my future soulmate. It's chronic, I'll wake up , start imagining her and not even realize I'm doing it. I fantasize about moments we'll have together, and it's not even real, she's not even real. I feel insane! She doesn't even have a face. It doesn't allow me to enjoy the present. For example, I was at a graduation event (not the actual walking across the stage but a celebration on the last day of classes) for me , and I couldn't even focus on the speeches, or the day which was supposed to be about me and my accomplishments on my own because I was so preoccupied with picturing what it would feel like to hold her in my arms, or the moment when we find out we're going to be parents.

It's a fiction that's not letting me take the time to sit with myself and learn more about me and what I like /how I can be a better partner, because I just want to skip to the good part with this person who doesn't exist. An issue that came up in my last relationship was me putting her on a pedestal, and I can recognize those same unhealthy strings in this compulsive day dream. Because the girl I'm picturing doesn't exist, no girl would ever be perfect like her. And I'm sad/slightly scared because I know it's stunting my ability for true love in the way that true love is seeing a person for who they are, flaws and all, and accepting and loving them still. Ugh, I need to go to therapy to sort this out as always, I'm sure it's worsening because I'm lonely, but I just needed to write this out.

For a while now i recognized how i always get told by people, that i am a really cool person and that women would love to find someone like me. I am just trying to be myself and wont change this for anyone. I also get told that i am a really nice guy and that i am a pleasure to be around but the problem is i am really shy and not the type of person that makes friendships easily. It takes a while till i get comfortable around people and i also think that is not a bad trait of me and a part of me that i cherish. Therefore the bonds i build are stronger and less likely to break. I have made several friendships through the year and almost every one of them is still going strong. But when it comes to finding the person i want to be with romatically, i get the feeling that i wont even get a chance. As i wrote earlier people around me always tell me that i am really nice and you know what they say " nice guys finish last ". I personally didnt really believe in that, but my experience implicates that it really might be so. Everytime i talk to women i am interested i dont really hide it and are really forward. I dont like the concept of a talking stage and that i have to juggle my sentences as if im analyzing the stock market. I just want to be myself in front of them but it never brought me anywhere. I dont know what to say anymore i wrote what was coming in my head and really apreciate if yall could share your thoughts im i am too stubborn or if my standard are just too high, but i dont like the thought of changing my values and principles or even act different just to impress someone. Maybe my way of thinking is wrong but it is who i am.

I am thankful for every opinion

Well, i recently confessed my feelings for someone every effing special to me. I knew the chance of messing up the whole thing if i confess. I thought that if i release these emotions/energy wouldn't be that bad... but once again... i was wrong... Being Leo... perhaps i should be more my ascendant, Cancer and be done with romance. Anyway... one's gotta be what one's gotta be!

This past weekend, I had a board game event in my city, and I had to take care of the stage, so I was in front of a lot of people for two days. I also talked to many people during the event, and they followed me on Instagram and so on.

At the end of the last day, one of the girls I met asked me if I had a partner because someone was asking about me, that they liked me, and I said no, and that they should give my contact information to that person.

Well, a week has passed, and no one has messaged me, haha, and I’m dying of curiosity, but the people who know who this mysterious person is won’t tell me.

The thing is, I’m really curious, but I don’t want to be pushy with the people who know. What should I do?

So I had to get over my crush and my friend set me up with his ex, I repeatedly said no, but then he did it anyway, and she seemed really cool, but then he broke up with his girlfriend, and decided to get back with his ex the one I was talking to, I'm fucked and still not over my crush.

So basically me and my boy have been dating for 4 months, got fully comitted and it was going amazing, but we live in different states hence the long distance, he was the greenest of all flags, everything you want, ad because i knew him before we started dating i know he is a genuine person, so a bit backstory he comes from a very well to do business family, but now due to joint family issues which is affecting the business he and his brother are starting a new firm, that means more work, more stress,more outflow than inflow, so one morning he texts me stuff and we talk on call, that he himself is so unsure of his future he doesn't want me to drag along in this, he is nothing rigt now and doesn't know his future + plus he can't give me the time ineed rn and it's long distance so he can't commit..now I told him i love him and i will wait for him to figure his shit out...am i being a fool? Idk if i should wait, will it play in my favour or am I digging my own grave...I have never loved anyone like this... I am ready to wait for however long if it means we will end up together

I am 22 years old and I’ve never been in a serious relationship. I’ve only had two long talking stages and in the first one the guy was not willing to commit and manipulated me into thinking we were getting serious when he only wanted something casual and in the second one the guy always invalidated my feelings when I expressed them and ended things due to me expressing something that made me uncomfortable. I am unfortunately a hopeless romantic and in both instances found myself getting very attached to them and still to this day haven’t really fully gotten over either of them. I have this feeling that I’m unlovable and I feel so helpless. I find myself questioning if maybe I am a bad person for me to be attracting people who end up hurting me. Both times I tried very hard to make things work and trying to be a good companion. I understand that you can never make someone love you but it feels so debilitating to realize that no one has ever loved you and wondering if anyone ever will. To a point that I feel there is no point in me pursuing anything because what if I get hurt again?

I (22F) have never had a bf,have never had a man like me for me and i’m just over it.I grew up as a hopeless romantic i loved love and everything about it and i always dreamed of the day i would meet the man that was made me.Ive always dreamed of meeting my soulmate and falling in love and spending the rest of my life with someone.Now that im 22 and yes ik that young to have given up i just can’t take it anymore.I huge part of me has left this hopeless romantic thing in the past but recently i actually met a guy that i liked well bottom line is he only wanted to use me for my body just like most men have done to me.

The only reason i lost my virginity was because i got tired of being the only virgin in my friend group and tbh it wasn’t even a good experience because i felt nothing but pain.Most of the women my age my sister,cousins,friends(im older than all of them btw) they’ve all had great sexual experiences and they’ve all been in at least 1 relationship while im on the sidelines waiting my turn which i know wont happen.

Any male attention i’ve ever gotten has come from guys that want to use me for my body and tbh im sick of it.i crave physical intimacy and having a connection with someone but tbh i just don’t feel like it’ll ever happen for me so i just give up.I know most ppl will say to be patient or to just keep having faith but ive tried and i just can’t do it anymore i want to come to accept my fate but i need someone to tell me exactly how thats done.

It’s even gotten to the point where i self harm and have suicidal thoughts because i feel so unloved and undesired.To most people it’s not a big deal at all but then again most people haven’t spent their whole lives dreaming of falling in love and having that dreamed ripped in front of them and been pushed to the side like nothing.From the time i was in 4-5th grade i always dreamt of being in love and it’s never happened i haven’t even came close.i just wish i could end it all.

I’ve tried talking to friends and family but it’s no use bc they don’t understand what im feeling.i wish i could lobotomies the part of me that desires love but it never goes away.i thought it did but i was stupid enough to have a crush on a guy and that went down hill fast .Pls just tell me how to get over this stupid “hopeless romantic” thing bc if i’m being honest love is just a waste of time bc it just won’t happen for me.

I wish you could be mine

I notice a lot of people here seem to be in highschool or even younger sometimes? Im surprised how young a lot of these hopeless romantics seem to be. Is that just a common thread or am I missing something?

I recently feel that everyone is shallow or not enough. I dont know if i have high expectantions or no one has the effort to really share.

I am lose all hope to find anyone worth keeping

I’ve been in love with the same girl for a few years. And we talk in class occasionally. But I’ve been trying to get our relationship back like how it was when we were in middle school (I’m a freshman). And she started to show more interest in talking to me in the past few months. And it’s no longer the dry conversations we used to have. Now comes the story I wanted to share. (To give a bit of context) We only have one class together and it’s a morning class. And I always bring an energy drink with me every day. And we kinda made it a joke about the amount of caffeine I intake. And she knows I love monster. I mean like you can physically see a decrease of me in the morning if I don’t have one. But today I walk to class, and she had bought me one. Now mind you we don’t really talk out of school. So being this friendly with me is weird. And I gave her a genuine thank you. And we talked a lil after. I don’t know her intentions. And she also acted a bit friendlier than normal

I've been thinking about the same damnn thing since morning and still cannot get it out of my head. I don't know what is happening with me suddenly but this is too tiring and I cannot focus on my work neither can I text or call him to tell that something's bothering. No matter how many times I say I want a fresh start I always end up coming to the same place. My mind wanders to those thoughts and drains me out. I'm tired of this happening. Things would have been better if for just one he could have understood my pov. Maybe just maybe once will be bother to text me back? I cannot sit alone with same thoughts circling

I have been thinking a lot lately about my life and relationships so far, and no matter how I put it I can’t seem to get this one person out of my head. I have put it on the back burner of my brain for years and I haven’t even had any real meaningful interaction with this person in years - yet, they keep showing up in my dreams, my thoughts, etc. They weren’t a good partner to me and I logically know that, but I STILL crave their presence. Maybe that’s just a part of being a “hopeless romantic”, you idealize them. Idk I know I’m rambling but I’ve just been sad lately and frustrated because why can’t I just get over it like a normal person? Anyone else ever feel this way? Pls help :-(

People leave and they leave us behind with guilt and worries and fear of overcoming that phase. Everytime someone left and found somebody else, i compared myself with everyone that came to their life. Was I not better? Was I not pretty enough? Did I fail to understand their pov? Do I have any issues? Numerous thoughts keep running around into my head. Each time a guy entered, i always intrigued towards their ex, was she better than me? How am I supposed to handle after she has left? Each time a guy found someone new, the constant urge to find out the new girl, how is she better, will I ever be pretty like her, am i undeserving or just a fool? The fact that I was always treated as an option always made me compare myself to others and that caused more damage. I forgot what it was being me. I forgot my strengths. My friends who found better friends left me with the thought that there's something inside me that would never keep me close to humans. Maybe I'm too complex or maybe just too simple to prioritise. But that's enough, I have had enough. It's time to find myself again. I cannot rely over other's opinion to build my life. It's me, nobody's concerned with anything that I do. I want to appreciate all good things and all good things start from me.

I might be the problem in the end. Cause every crush I have turns out to not be interested in me. Idk whats wrong or what I do wrong. I used to tell myself that they just werent made to be with me, but am I even made to be with someone?

M22 btw so this might be a bit out there of someone in my demographic.

So recently I've found myself coming across awesome little quotes and random things about love on pinterest and everytime I cant help but think "wow these would make some awesome wedding speeches." It's something I'll always carry with me to hopefully use one day but it also reminds me how alone I am and makes me want to cry.

So if my future fiance is reading this, just know I'm covered so you better write some incredible vows😂😂

Each and every person that I come across is causing me trouble. The trauma he left is disturbing the rest of my relationships in society. I cannot talk properly to anyone. He left, other one and then the other one. I don't want to get attached to anyone. The same experience thrice is a good enough lesson to never ever get attached and start trust issues even with the ones in the society. Nobody ever cared, it was all fake. Why am I such a people pleaser?? I want to isolate and never get connection with anyone. But deep down I feel like I deserve to be cared and noticed and pampered. Maybe I deserve some attention. Why are these thoughts still circling around? Having nobody on the back feels a relief somewhere but still some thoughts crave to atleast send a good morning message. I'm sick of staying in this bridge. I either want to let go of all emotions left inside me or be so kind and lovable than anyone else.

Sorry for spamming this, I just needed to put up a message somewhere instead of messaging her. It's hard to accept that you lost the one that you saw as your person. Im angry and sad at the same time. I hope anyone viewing this is in a better place.

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It was in highschool. The very innocent love when we were teenagers. Eventually, I’ve moved on while I’m in university now.

It feels different. I don’t know how to express it but at the same time I’m scared. What if he’s doesn’t feel the same way? Maybe I just seeked meaning to the little gestures. Maybe… I’m just hopelessly in love with him :)

…while his love is completely platonic.

I just wanna color my future partner tattoos <3