That’s obnoxious. What appointment was it for? This happened with a therapist I had. It was awful. She’d also yawn a lot and seemed annoyed when I’d start venting (reason for appointment). Like I felt rushed.
I had a therapist cancel my 2nd appt with her because in the 1st appt I mentioned I meditated. So a week later, hours before the 2nd appt, she cancels because she “needs more time to research meditation.” I’m like wtf and didn’t reschedule.
Actually that’s another reason why mine was annoying. Meditation is great. But like 3/4 of the appointment that’s what we’d do. It’s fine in small portions. Or to teach how to do it or whatever. But I need to talk too!!
I just meditated this morning. Very extra bad migraine day today and followed 3 guided meditations on YouTube. It was great. Actually really calmed me. The first one was 5 min and I was worried I’d be bored quickly but it flew by! I’m proud of myself because usually I’d be so impatient so I must be getting better at it.
Didn’t you just prove your own point? Lol like you got so much practice from working with the therapist on it that you truly benefit from it now because you are able to really deeply practice meditation and connect with yourself?
I have to say, teaching someone to do it once will very rarely be productive- kind of forcing someone to do it over and over on the regular is what a lot of people need in order to receive the benefit of it.
Therapists aren't there to force anyone to do something. Some patients want strong encouragement, or to be held accountable, and spme probably do want to be forced (I've definitely been there), but that isn't what a therapist is supposed to do.
Building a habit takes time, like months and months to fully establish a habit such that you can easily call it a part of your daily pattern.
If somebody wants to be doing something beneficial, and isn't, therapy can help with identifying why you don't do that in the first place. What gets in the way? Could be a benign reason, could be something more serious, but like any habit it takes time, practice, and being patient with yourself when you forget or stop doing it.
If a therapist is forcing you to do anything then you need to seriously step back and ask yourself what's happening. Therapists should be helping patients help themselves, cause we all know that change is most effective if we initiate it ourselves, not do it because someone we love/trust/pay is making us do it.
Plus the other comment said they were doing it on their own. They clearly didn't sign up for meditation therapy, and if I'm paying a talk therapist I want to talk, not be lead theough meditations.
No? I already knew about meditation and I explicitly said it’s fine to do. But that doesn’t mean I want it to be the main part of our sessions. I said it can be a part of it. But it was 3/4 of each session and she rushed me through my talking in order to do it. That’s not ok.
I’m benefiting from my own practice with it. Not from her.
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u/CheezeLoueez08 1d ago
That’s obnoxious. What appointment was it for? This happened with a therapist I had. It was awful. She’d also yawn a lot and seemed annoyed when I’d start venting (reason for appointment). Like I felt rushed.