Not everyone grieves the same .. my dad passed away when I was 16 .. I cried the first day and decided I had to be there for my mom and sister more.. when I lost my dog , I cried for 3 days straight ..
I managed to mostly hold it together when my mom died. I cried in private, but not in public or in front of people. I never cry in front of people. About ten months later, I got Covid. Five weeks after that, I got appendicitis. Missed Thanksgiving and Christmas, spent a week in the hospital, but I wasn't even that mad about it because I didn't want to face my first holidays without my mom anyway, so it was better to miss them. Got to go home from the hospital just in time for new years, and spent a few days recovering at home and taking antibiotics and dealing with a surgical drain.
Then my rabbit got sick. He was lethargic, wouldn't eat or move, just sat with his head in the corner. I still couldn't wear real pants because of my surgical drain but I got him packed up and took him to the emergency vet, where they told me he had no movement in his bowels (very bad for rabbits) and they detected a mass that they suspected was cancer. He was an older bunny and they couldn't guarantee he was even strong enough to survive the anesthesia required to get good imaging done, much less the surgery. I decided to put him down and the stress of everything piling up just hit me all at once. I was just openly sobbing in the vet clinic, holding him for the last time and trying to say goodbye, the night before the first anniversary of my mom's death. I cried way harder that day than I did when my mom died, and in front of complete strangers. I still start crying sometimes when I think about that day. Grief is weird.
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u/GuyFromLI747 8d ago
Not everyone grieves the same .. my dad passed away when I was 16 .. I cried the first day and decided I had to be there for my mom and sister more.. when I lost my dog , I cried for 3 days straight ..