I've done this before when I was outed without my permission as bisexual to my entire workplace, something I kept private for a reason. Suddenly all of my coworkers decided it was somehow appropriate to ask me about my "orgies" and how my "sex life must be amazing with threesomes." I'd act stupid every time they asked me, and they eventually stopped once they had to explain their line of reasoning on why I, a bisexual dude, was automatically assumed to be fucking anything and everything, because it made them extremely embarrassed.
So yes, this does happen, and it's an effective way on getting bigots and inappropriate comments to stop. Mind you I barely spoke to these people, they were NOT friendly enough to me to ask such invasive questions. My sex life is not anyone's business but my own, especially not my fucking coworkers.
I love to play dumb but I love to make them regret asking sometimes, too. My personal go-to for “whats in your pants” is chastity belt or something along those lines. It has never not worked in shutting some nosy fucker up lmao
Ah I love when my invasive relatives give me an opportunity to educate them on the medical condition of vaginismus when they ask me when I’m gonna have kids
Me either. But queer people in general tend to get way more invasive questions because our sexuality apparently is a curiosity to be picked and prodded at. I've always gotten inappropriate questions and comments when revealing I'm bisexual, which is part of the reason I chose not to speak about it at work, and when that choice was taken from me... There came the flood of disgusting comments and prejudice. I'm bisexual, happily married for 8 years, and I don't have to prove my sexuality to anyone, nor should I have to defend myself from whatever weird assumptions people make of me when I'm supposed to be focusing on my job. My coworkers were all straight and thought my sexuality was an invitation to invade my privacy.
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u/alchemillahunter 1d ago
I've done this before when I was outed without my permission as bisexual to my entire workplace, something I kept private for a reason. Suddenly all of my coworkers decided it was somehow appropriate to ask me about my "orgies" and how my "sex life must be amazing with threesomes." I'd act stupid every time they asked me, and they eventually stopped once they had to explain their line of reasoning on why I, a bisexual dude, was automatically assumed to be fucking anything and everything, because it made them extremely embarrassed.
So yes, this does happen, and it's an effective way on getting bigots and inappropriate comments to stop. Mind you I barely spoke to these people, they were NOT friendly enough to me to ask such invasive questions. My sex life is not anyone's business but my own, especially not my fucking coworkers.