I've been on the other side of this exact relationship. This was heartbreaking to read.
The relationship ended semi-mutually due to problems related to an international border that ultimately made living together impossible. But, when we did live together, my problems strongly contributed to our problems.
I'm almost 30 and I still can't do the necessary things to start a career going.
He said I deserved much more, but he later admitted he broke it off for selfish reasons. A relationship was just too much for him to handle since he struggled to just handle daily tasks. My friends always said I was the most patient and forgiving person though, so I never understood how I could have added stress when I thought I was eliminating it. I did all I could, but I hope he is able to find someone as patient again.
It adds stress because we know the things we do hurt you, and if we love you, stressing out about what we might do to you just compounds the rest of the stress, even if we know you won't mind or be supportive etc. A lot of the stress comes from overthinking and hypothetical situations
Yea he did think he was making me miserable. And the overthinking and hypothetical situations are bringing back some memories. It makes a lot more sense now knowing his ADHD played a huge part in everything that went wrong.
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u/platypocalypse May 30 '17
I've been on the other side of this exact relationship. This was heartbreaking to read.
The relationship ended semi-mutually due to problems related to an international border that ultimately made living together impossible. But, when we did live together, my problems strongly contributed to our problems.
I'm almost 30 and I still can't do the necessary things to start a career going.