Hi. Not sure how old you are, but I'm a parent of 16-year-old son with ADHD. (He was diagnosed 10 years ago.) In addition to the video, Dr. Barkley has had a book available for years titled "Taking Charge of ADHD." It's a good book for parents to use as a guide and as a referral. There's also a great website called ADDitude--you can search it by topic as both parent and child. There are some great articles on it and Dr. Barkley is a contributor.
Good luck with your efforts and with your parents.
I just wanted to tell you that you're a great parent for genuinely caring about your son's issues with ADHD.
Some parents don't care enough or just believe it is all poor excuses. They don't realize that there could be an underlying cause, even after being presented with facts.
As a teenager, I had this issue with my parents after stumbling across a lot of information about ADHD which completely explained the root cause of my problems I deal with.
Thank you so much. You have no idea what that means to me (and my wife). When my son was diagnosed, I got my hands on every piece of material I could on ADHD--we knew this was going to affect us also. I'm a laid-back musician and needed my time to write, but my son was tap-dancing on the ceiling--not a good combination.
I'll never forget getting on ADHD sites and reading the stories of parents--mostly single mothers--telling how they were at their wit's end with their kid's behaviour. Then I thought of the kids--certainly theirs wasn't a happy life either. The more I read, the more tears I wiped away and realized that the condition is so real, not something contrived by drug companies to sell their product and not the result of "bad parenting." In addition schools have a lot of self-edification to do in this area.
At any rate, parenting's not easy--we have 4 kids. And parenting an ADHD'er is even more of a challenge. But we brought them into this world, and they did't get to pick their parents. So we always thought we owed it to them to do our best.
Sorry to be verbose with this, but your compliment struck a few passions within.
I hope your doing well and managing your condition, my friend.
I'll never forget getting on ADHD sites and reading the stories of parents--mostly single mothers--telling how they were at their wit's end with their kid's behaviour. Then I thought of the kids--certainly theirs wasn't a happy life either. The more I read, the more tears I wiped away and realized that the condition is so real, not something contrived by drug companies to sell their product and not the result of "bad parenting." In addition schools have a lot of self-edification to do in this area.
AWWWWWWWwww... I love you so much. I'm tearing up right now. I'm not the OP / other commenter (just another stranger), but I want you to know that you are so awesome!!! I'm glad there's people like you. I turned 20 not that long ago and was diagnosed sometime during the past year or two, and holy cow, it sure was a struggle for me and everyone involved. Thanks so much for being you!
Well...I love you too! And you must be awesome also...especially if you think I'm awesome.
If I could do one thing, I'd love to have ADHD for a week. That experience would be invaluable in guiding my son. That said, Dr. Barkley's material (and the various like-minded internet sites) is the closest thing there is...
Hope you're managing your condition well and have lots of love and support!
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u/clamsplitter69 May 30 '17
I've been in tears trying to explain this exact thing to my parents, but was never able to articulate like this man does