r/ABA • u/notamormonyet • 1h ago
It's so awkward being a trans RBT
I'm a transman. I actually pāss seamlessly already, so when I was ready to transition at work (it got too jarring for me to hear my dead name and female pronouns at work still), I was obviously extremely nervous, but I had high confidence that the families I work with would be alright with it, especially given I was already 100% presenting as male, so the only change necessary was name and pronouns (people who knew me as a woman usually just saw me as a very masculine or androgynous woman). I was right, they have been great and my company leadership has been amazing. But - a school I would work with a client in every week doesn't want me coming back because they don't want the kids exposed to a transgender person (even though I'm a very laid back individual who would not be offended by other children not getting my name and pronouns right. I'm not going to be correcting kids like that).
It stings a little. Feels like they see me as trying to push some agenda, which couldn't be further from the truth. I don't even tell people I'm trans unless I really need to (and it's unavoidable when they've know you before your transition). Just a rant, I guess. I wonder if any other trans RBTs or BCBAs have had uncomfortable experiences like this.
And yes, it's a private school, so they're totally allowed to keep me out.