Yup, was wondering why my medication was more than I usually pay for, and I called my insurance. United healthcare tells me that they no longer cover adderall as stated in their formulary due to a few reasons. One of them is that is can cause addiction or be misused. For one, this made me mad because this is not new news, everyone has been aware of this. Second of all, at least inform your patients who are on this medication. I literally get a refill like every three months so it’s not like I’m dependent or addicted. United healthcare seems like they accepted the fact that they’re on the thin edge with everyone, and is just testing the limits because they know they can’t get any lower.

Edit: at least for my plan, I don’t know about others.

People are accusing me of lying, I swear to you, I am not. It may just be for my plan, but this is not a lie nor rage bait.

Say I am sitting for an English class, the teacher will assign the students to be in each groups. He then explain the instruction of what are we supposed to do. I have NEVER managed to understand any instructions like that for the first time. Is it common.. or is it even because of ADHD?

Well not only verbally but also sometimes when I am reading something, I wouldn't get the message at the first read unless I am really focusing on it.

Note: that always happens whether I am interested on the topic or not.

I’ve noticed a pattern, and I’m not the only one. A lot of people with ADHD either look younger than their age or get told that all the time. Is it the energy? The personality? The constant chaos keeping them youthful?

Curious if anyone else has noticed this or experienced it themselves. Is this a thing… or am I just projecting?

My hand hurts, my eyes hurt, I'm hungry, I smell bad, my mind feels exhausted, brothers and sisters I don't even have pants on. I didn't bother to dress today. Most of the things I have scrolled have been negative so now I feel like my sense of reality has been temporarily twisted. I haven't finished any of the things I had to do today. Neither have I been in contact with my friends.

I had this "I should put my phone down and stop" realization 6 hours ago but I didn't. No idea why not. I knew I would feel miserable after yet I still continued. I still kind of have the urge to continue. Insanity.

Stupid brain that gets stuck in certain activities and stupid self-sabotaging.

Anyway!

How is everyone else today?

Edit: ok thanks, I managed to clean my bathroom and eat something

What are your top 3 fixations hobbies that actually led to you learning knowledge or gaining things that,on balance, improved your quality of life? So much of our interests can lead to wasted money, additional clutter, harmful habits, etc. But which ones ended up being useful?

My top 3:

1. sourdough/breadmaking,
2. coffee,
3. Fountain pens/journaling.

To this day I have the equipment and know-how to brew great coffee (which I still do daily) and bake amazing bread (which I only do now maybe once or twice a month, or on special occasions). And I still have a stash of pens and ink (enough for the next decade or so tbh) which I use every day, though I bought my last new bottle of ink over two years ago.

Dishonorable mentions: makeup, skincare, typewriting.

I spent so much time reading blogs and watching videos... blew SO MUCH money on unnecessary beauty products; a lot of them expired before I could finish them. :( then I just cut down severely on my makeup routine during the pandemic and never went back.

I was also convinced I could be more productive (less distractions) by using a typewriter and of course bought a couple of secondhand typewriters (expensive ones!) asap. Fun at first but I quickly began missing all the advantages offered by laptops. I forced myself to use the typewriters for a few more months before I admotted defeat and gave up on the whole idea.

Side note -- my skincare era did lead me to learn about the importance of sunscreen, and I still manage to remember to use sunscreen maybe 3-4 times a week, so I guess that's a net positive too. :)

I get insanely fixated on what I last said to people, I get scared I said the wrong thing all of the time. That they are going to not like me because of it. It’s like how there is always a song playing in the back of my head, except it’s the conversation. I’m not sure if this is just anxiety but it has always happened, and I’m so tired of it because it is always okay.

I'm really frustrated right now and I would like to know if anybody has experienced sonthing similar. So I'm on Methylphenidate and I would pick it up from my local walmart for $31 dollars. Starting this month, it randomly shot up to $130. I called my insurance, they said it was somthing up with walmart. Talked to my walmart pharmacist and she said that nothing has changed with walmart in terms of a manufacturing change and no changes to my prescription has been made.

I had to bite the bullet and pay to get the medication (I'm afraid of abruptly stopping it). I plan in calling my insurance again but this is just very upsetting.

i just got back from an appointment and im appalled.
I've been without my meds since i moved in november. ive been on adderall for years now, and has been the only thing to work for me. (after trying MANY different non-stimulant medications.)
then finally, after months of waiting, got on insurance and saw a doctor here in maryland.
only for her to tell me she wont prescribe my adderall.

i asked her if she has the license to prescribe it, and she, word for word, responded with "i do, but the FDA has so many regulations for it that i just dont feel like dealing with it."
im now switching doctors.

I can go to work and do what I have to do there (thank you meds) but that it’s quite literally the extent of it. I get home, can’t clean or cook or do uni, but I also can’t do anything that I actually enjoy? I love to read, crochet, play computer games, watch my favourite shows and youtubers, ect. It’s somehow worse on weekends - I wake up so excited that I have a whole day to do all of my favourite things and just relax, but 9/10 times i end up doing nothing but scroll on my phone and waste the entire day.

Most of the time i think it’s a guilt/shame thing because the house is so messy and i can’t do anything else out of guilt - but today we had to clean the whole house for visitors and after they left, I STILL spent hours doing absolutely nothing when I had planned to do some fun things/hobbies today.

Has anyone else been through this? why does this happen? any tips for breaking out of this cycle?

I genuinely can never read a book unless it’s because I have to write a report on the book and even at that I have to look up online for summaries lmao. Like everytime I read a book I feel like I just reading the words but don’t really read what’s going on. I always get distracted by something else or have a random thought and end up forgetting to read the book. Even let’s say I take 20mg of my prescribed vyvanse sure I’ll read the book but the silence in my head is to akward.

I (f,25) wasn't diagnosed with ADHD until I was 20 but have struggled so much my whole life. I can't ever get anything done, my emotions and my thoughts are all over the place. I feel like I have so much potential but it just goes to waste and it sucks so bad. I did try Ritalin which was fine but didn't work too well, Lisdexamfetamine worked best for me. I felt like I could be at peace for the first time in my life.. sadly it wasn't too great for my heart (gave me slight heart palpitations) so my doctor recommended I try Strattera. I have yet to try it, I will pick up my prescription next week. What worked best for you guys? any apps, books, workbooks, websites etc. you can recommend as an aid? which medication was best for you? I know what works for some might not work for others and it's a trial and error thing but I'd be so thankful for any advice or recommendations.

In my case, music does a really good job for me. Waking up, put on my headphones, then do the rest of the routine normally instead of staying in bed.

In spite of this, I’m being really aware of what I use for this. I don’t want to drink coffee or any other potentially addictive substance, due that I don’t want by any chance become addicted to it. I get addicted to anything easily.

My brain unfortunately flips between no contact at all or a bunch of contact all at once when I remember that I haven't contacted them in a while.

I lost all of my high school friends this way as I'd forget to message them when it was summertime and then I'd contact them again in the fall since I see them all the time again...

but they end up not wanting to be friends with me anymore because they thought I ghosted them lol.

Please I need someone to talk to.

I feel so alone. I can't cope, I can't function, even with meds and I feel like no one understands. I tried all the hacks, Tips, advice, therapy and NOTHING works. I'm unemployed, in debt, my place is a mess. No matter what I tried, things only got worse. I can't do a 1 minute chore no matter what I try. I started to abuse my meds because I hoped I could function again, nope. My body is in survival mode for decades now, I am frozen in fear, stress, overwhelm and self hate. In patient isn't an option, the waiting list is over a year.

I spent hours trying to find anything on the internet, but no matter where I look, its always the same stuff that seems to work for everyone but me. No I can't do something for one minute. Thats why I feel so alone, it feels like everyone has something that helps, except me I feel hopeless, I feel like giving up (not in a permament way), I feel like just numbing myself with wine and whatever else I can get my hands on.

I have no one to talk to, I feel like I'm the one person broken beyond repair.

Hi everyone. Just curious how you experience listening to music with adhd. I'm still awaiting appointment to get an adhd diagnosis but I feel I have it. When I listen to music I find myself focusing on every individual instrument down to the drum fills and guitar accents. Is this common? Would love to hear your perspectives

I finally got diagnosed at the age of 35. After going through every non-stimulant I was put on methylphenidate, and it changed my life.

Beyond productivity and better executive functioning, I am less depressed and less anxious. It has been nothing short of life changing.

I can't help but think, what would life have been like if I'd been properly diagnosed at a younger age? Could I have actually sat down and practiced my instrument for 2-3 hours at a time, which I constantly struggled with as a music major in undergrad? Would my grades have been better? How would my life be different?

It's a bittersweet feeling. My life is not over, but I can't help but think that I've missed an opportunity. I've been plagued by procrastination my whole life...

People with adhd have a higher risk of developing it, i have 1 case in my family where my grandmother developed it (although it’s only her and she developed it in her late 90’s), and lately i have been dealing with chronic insomnia.

It started last semester i would wake up in the middle of the night, it was something that varied a lot, some months i would be free fr it and some weeks it would torment me, but every since the year started i’ve only been having some weeks of proper sleep, now i don’t wake up in the middle of the night but it’s so light that it barely feels like I’ve slept, my only guarantee is that time passed by quickly and i can remember a dream or 2.

I’m talking with my psychiatrist and seeing if i should lower my medication or take some other, besides I’m trying to prevent it, I’m following a sleep hygiene routine, exercising, meditating, reading, i know that i have no control over it, that developing this disease is a bit of a roll dice and that medicine is always advancing, but still, i’m afraid… I’ve always had memory issues, don’t want to loose who i am.

Not only is having ADHD a big problem in my life, but even when I think about having children, the thought that they might suffer the same intense struggles I go through really bothers and worries me. Even if the chances aren’t 100%, even a 50% chance feels like a gamble. Of course, this only adds to my sadness — the idea that I might not have children. I read some information suggesting that if a mother has good nutrition shortly before and during pregnancy, and if she takes Omega-3 and certain specific vitamins, it can have a positive effect on improving the quality of the baby.

I am still avoiding showers.

If you also do this you know how gross it is to finally shower and have all the dead skin coming off. You can't wait to get out of the shower but also can't ignore them. Scrubbing just one area is impossible, you will feel incomplete. Not scrubbing at all? Then your towels might scrub some off later and it's mega gross.

My current solution: exfoliating shower cream. Everytime I shower the beads help scrub some off and the rinsing feel is significantly cleaner. I don't have to scrub hard or meticulously. I just shower like normal. After every shower my skin is a bit more exfoliated but not significantly (so no sudden sun sensitivity). This delivers cleanliness of 3 times showering a week with just 1 or 2.

Please look for a microplastic free formular. I shower often with these peeling products and I would really feel bad knowing I rinse so many tiny plastic beads into the water everytime.

So today I managed to do all my household tasks before 12:45 pm, in order to bring my 7yo to a birthday party and cycle to town to check a instore show of a band because of Record Store Day. I did all of that and I was pretty proud that I managed to do everything on my list.

So. I go up to the record store. There is no live music. Record Store Day is next week. And I know this because I’m going to a record fair on that particular day. Which is held because of Record Store Day.

aaargh!

I don't understand why, but sometimes I'll see an object or be holding it and just not realise, like to me it feels like there's nothing there or like I can't tell what the object is. It takes me a couple seconds to actually register stuff. It happens a lot when I lose a something and it could be in my line of sight and I still can't see it. I have a similar problem with hearing; I'll be listening to my friend speak, and it almost sounds like gibberish to me for a couple seconds until I fully register it. Just to add, this doesn't happen all the time; it's just kind of random. I'm just putting this here to ask if anyone is similar to this and if there's a way to combat it.

I HATE meditating because I cant focus and my brain WONT shut up. But my doctor recently upped my meds, and now that I can focus a little better I want to try again. Has anyone had any success and are there any guided meditations that you prefer? I dont expect to find perfect zen the first time, but I do want to try to work on it

Hi. (Diagnosed 4 months ago)

I feel ashamed bc I in every relationship I have the other side wants WAY more than I can give and GIVE way more than I can handle. I don't love them as much as they love me, I don't need as much and they overwhelm me with what they give - but for most it's normal about of contact/need/love.

I don't miss them, I almost never thinks about them. I don't feel need to know what's happening in their life. If it's not one of my 2 best friends, I don't feel the need. Even with my family with is little - mom and sis. When I see them, IL talk for hours probably but I don't want to see them to often!!

They have expectations and needs of contact that is way over what I can give without discomfort. And they guilt trip me over it. And I feel what we all feel most time - SHAME.

So in like every relationship I have: if I tell them what I am truly feeling, or rather what I'm not feeling, they will be hurt. And I know that they deserve more, they all deserve "normal" relationship. They have normal expectation. I know my sister, she will not understand (if I can you can - mentality) she is the one that shames me the most for it, "not caring/calling/being tired/late/not enjoying what they do"

I feel like bad person, cause I hurt all of them with my "lack of need for contact". I super empathetic with situations ON HAND and super sensitive, but this?? HOW DO YOU COPE WITH THAT? I'm afraid I will be alone in the end, cause even telling them the truth will push them away, cause they don't (want/have) to understand.

I can't unmask this. Il be isolated and misunderstood even more and more. I just don't LOVE/NEED as much as they, I never did, and they can't handle it. I feel like some sort of sociopath (I know it's not that, I mean the apathy part) and they will probably see one in me partially.

Please help me.

There are at least 5 articles based on studies. The study summaries can be found on Medscape Medical News website. Search under "ADULT ADHD DIAGNOSES, OUTCOMES" and "TREATING ADHD WITH MEDICATION LINKED TO LOWER ALL-CAUSE MORTALITY." While there is a bit of downer news for ADHDers included, it's definitely offset by the good news.

More and more offices seem to be open plan. Everybody can see what you're doing on your computer. As someone with ADHD who spends huge amounts of time every day goofing around on non-work related websites (including Reddit!), this is a huge problem. Especially problematic is when someone can approach you silently from behind and catch you red-handed. My current office is a huge departure from this, thank goodness. We still have old-fashioned cubicles. Also, the the cubicles are arranged in a way that you can see people coming and quickly change tabs as necessary. This little difference has added so much to my peace of mind that I plan to hang on to this job as long as I can. Does anybody else have a problem with how their workspace is arranged? What creative workarounds have you devised, you smart, crafty ADHD-er?