r/ADHD 5h ago

Discussion United Healthcare stopped covering adderall as of this month

866 Upvotes

Yup, was wondering why my medication was more than I usually pay for, and I called my insurance. United healthcare tells me that they no longer cover adderall as stated in their formulary due to a few reasons. One of them is that is can cause addiction or be misused. For one, this made me mad because this is not new news, everyone has been aware of this. Second of all, at least inform your patients who are on this medication. I literally get a refill like every three months so it’s not like I’m dependent or addicted. United healthcare seems like they accepted the fact that they’re on the thin edge with everyone, and is just testing the limits because they know they can’t get any lower.

Edit: at least for my plan, I don’t know about others.

People are accusing me of lying, I swear to you, I am not. It may just be for my plan, but this is not a lie nor rage bait.


r/ADHD 20h ago

Seeking Empathy My medication went from $31 to $130.

595 Upvotes

I'm really frustrated right now and I would like to know if anybody has experienced sonthing similar. So I'm on Methylphenidate and I would pick it up from my local walmart for $31 dollars. Starting this month, it randomly shot up to $130. I called my insurance, they said it was somthing up with walmart. Talked to my walmart pharmacist and she said that nothing has changed with walmart in terms of a manufacturing change and no changes to my prescription has been made.

I had to bite the bullet and pay to get the medication (I'm afraid of abruptly stopping it). I plan in calling my insurance again but this is just very upsetting.


r/ADHD 7h ago

Questions/Advice Is it common for an ADHD person to get confused at the given verbal instructions?

335 Upvotes

Say I am sitting for an English class, the teacher will assign the students to be in each groups. He then explain the instruction of what are we supposed to do. I have NEVER managed to understand any instructions like that for the first time. Is it common.. or is it even because of ADHD?

Well not only verbally but also sometimes when I am reading something, I wouldn't get the message at the first read unless I am really focusing on it.

Note: that always happens whether I am interested on the topic or not.


r/ADHD 5h ago

Discussion Do people with ADHD look younger than they actually are?

334 Upvotes

I’ve noticed a pattern, and I’m not the only one. A lot of people with ADHD either look younger than their age or get told that all the time. Is it the energy? The personality? The constant chaos keeping them youthful?

Curious if anyone else has noticed this or experienced it themselves. Is this a thing… or am I just projecting?


r/ADHD 21h ago

Seeking Empathy If I have children, will they inherit ADHD from me?

228 Upvotes

Not only is having ADHD a big problem in my life, but even when I think about having children, the thought that they might suffer the same intense struggles I go through really bothers and worries me. Even if the chances aren’t 100%, even a 50% chance feels like a gamble. Of course, this only adds to my sadness — the idea that I might not have children. I read some information suggesting that if a mother has good nutrition shortly before and during pregnancy, and if she takes Omega-3 and certain specific vitamins, it can have a positive effect on improving the quality of the baby.


r/ADHD 12h ago

Questions/Advice why can’t I do literally anything?

98 Upvotes

I can go to work and do what I have to do there (thank you meds) but that it’s quite literally the extent of it. I get home, can’t clean or cook or do uni, but I also can’t do anything that I actually enjoy? I love to read, crochet, play computer games, watch my favourite shows and youtubers, ect. It’s somehow worse on weekends - I wake up so excited that I have a whole day to do all of my favourite things and just relax, but 9/10 times i end up doing nothing but scroll on my phone and waste the entire day.

Most of the time i think it’s a guilt/shame thing because the house is so messy and i can’t do anything else out of guilt - but today we had to clean the whole house for visitors and after they left, I STILL spent hours doing absolutely nothing when I had planned to do some fun things/hobbies today.

Has anyone else been through this? why does this happen? any tips for breaking out of this cycle?


r/ADHD 9h ago

Success/Celebration Hello ADHDers, tell me about the fixations that actually improved your life.

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What are your top 3 fixations hobbies that actually led to you learning knowledge or gaining things that,on balance, improved your quality of life? So much of our interests can lead to wasted money, additional clutter, harmful habits, etc. But which ones ended up being useful?

My top 3:

  1. sourdough/breadmaking,
  2. coffee,
  3. Fountain pens/journaling.

To this day I have the equipment and know-how to brew great coffee (which I still do daily) and bake amazing bread (which I only do now maybe once or twice a month, or on special occasions). And I still have a stash of pens and ink (enough for the next decade or so tbh) which I use every day, though I bought my last new bottle of ink over two years ago.

Dishonorable mentions: makeup, skincare, typewriting.

I spent so much time reading blogs and watching videos... blew SO MUCH money on unnecessary beauty products; a lot of them expired before I could finish them. :( then I just cut down severely on my makeup routine during the pandemic and never went back.

I was also convinced I could be more productive (less distractions) by using a typewriter and of course bought a couple of secondhand typewriters (expensive ones!) asap. Fun at first but I quickly began missing all the advantages offered by laptops. I forced myself to use the typewriters for a few more months before I admotted defeat and gave up on the whole idea.

Side note -- my skincare era did lead me to learn about the importance of sunscreen, and I still manage to remember to use sunscreen maybe 3-4 times a week, so I guess that's a net positive too. :)


r/ADHD 15h ago

Tips/Suggestions I kinda found a way around my shower avoidance

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I am still avoiding showers.

If you also do this you know how gross it is to finally shower and have all the dead skin coming off. You can't wait to get out of the shower but also can't ignore them. Scrubbing just one area is impossible, you will feel incomplete. Not scrubbing at all? Then your towels might scrub some off later and it's mega gross.

My current solution: exfoliating shower cream. Everytime I shower the beads help scrub some off and the rinsing feel is significantly cleaner. I don't have to scrub hard or meticulously. I just shower like normal. After every shower my skin is a bit more exfoliated but not significantly (so no sudden sun sensitivity). This delivers cleanliness of 3 times showering a week with just 1 or 2.

Please look for a microplastic free formular. I shower often with these peeling products and I would really feel bad knowing I rinse so many tiny plastic beads into the water everytime.


r/ADHD 23h ago

Discussion With sensory issues, I'm realizing that with a lot of the things my parents said I'd get used to I never did, or it got worse.

47 Upvotes

For example, brushing your teeth. It's a sensory nightmare.

When I had to switch from the fruity kids toothpaste (I loved that stuff, I'd literally sneak eating it) to the normal minty toothpaste, I told my mom I didn't like it. She told me I'd get used to it and that was that.

It was already a struggle for me to brush my teeth (I didn't like the feeling of scrubbing), but cue in years of never brushing my teeth.

Sometimes my mom would get electric toothbrushes on sale + coupon that made them cheaper than normal toothbrushes. I didn't like the vibrations. Again, I got that it's just something you get used to.

Continuing never brushing my teeth.

Now, I've started getting kids toothpaste again. And since I didn't like the scrubbing feeling I tried an electric toothbrush (having forgotten my previous dislike). The vibrations hurt.

"It's loud" - you'll get used to it

"It smells gross" - you'll get used to it

"I don't like the taste" - you'll get used to it

"This feels weird" - you'll get used to it

I never got used to them. And in fact, a lot of them just got worse.


r/ADHD 11h ago

Questions/Advice How do you experience music

43 Upvotes

Hi everyone. Just curious how you experience listening to music with adhd. I'm still awaiting appointment to get an adhd diagnosis but I feel I have it. When I listen to music I find myself focusing on every individual instrument down to the drum fills and guitar accents. Is this common? Would love to hear your perspectives


r/ADHD 2h ago

Seeking Empathy I've been on my phone all day

46 Upvotes

My hand hurts, my eyes hurt, I'm hungry, I smell bad, my mind feels exhausted, brothers and sisters I don't even have pants on. I didn't bother to dress today. Most of the things I have scrolled have been negative so now I feel like my sense of reality has been temporarily twisted. I haven't finished any of the things I had to do today. Neither have I been in contact with my friends.

I had this "I should put my phone down and stop" realization 6 hours ago but I didn't. No idea why not. I knew I would feel miserable after yet I still continued. I still kind of have the urge to continue. Insanity.

Stupid brain that gets stuck in certain activities and stupid self-sabotaging.

Anyway!

How is everyone else today?

Edit: ok thanks, I managed to clean my bathroom and eat something


r/ADHD 8h ago

Questions/Advice What non-medical stimulants serves for you?

39 Upvotes

In my case, music does a really good job for me. Waking up, put on my headphones, then do the rest of the routine normally instead of staying in bed.

In spite of this, I’m being really aware of what I use for this. I don’t want to drink coffee or any other potentially addictive substance, due that I don’t want by any chance become addicted to it. I get addicted to anything easily.


r/ADHD 21h ago

Seeking Empathy I'm honestly so pathetic.

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So, I'm currently enrolled in an online virtual spanish class for high school which I'm supposed to take every Saturday. and throughout the god damn semester, my fucking stupid ass lazy self just decided to just freaking not pay attention and concentrate and just be distracted by discord on my god damn PC, it's cuz i literally just can't freaking get my self TO JUST FUCKING FOCUS AND DO THE WORK. FOR FUCK SAKE WHY AM I THIS PATHETIC LAZY PIECE OF SHIT!!


r/ADHD 19h ago

Medication Been on brand name Vyvanse since 2021 and my insurance suddenly changed it to generic

30 Upvotes

It was this past refill and I noticed it almost immediately. I was never even informed of the change. I've been on ADHD medicine since I was 6- generic has never worked for me.

My question is what kind of tangible proof do I need to provide to my doctor in order for her to write a letter to my insurance so they will switch me back to brand name? She said she needs enough evidence for me to be switched back.

The biggest thing for me is that Vyvanse was picked specifically for me because it also helps with my compulsive eating and BED. It has been the only thing that has been able to help me with my ED.

The biggest things I'm noticing right now:

- I'm more irritable and moody

- I'm eating myself sick again a lot (I've already gained almost 8 pounds in under a month and it will get worse)

- I'm having a much harder time getting up in the morning and it's throwing off my entire morning routine and I've been late to work every day for the past two weeks

- Everything is just foggy and I feel like I'm moving in slow motion

I'm starting school again in May and I can't have everything f'd up. I need to be switched back even if I have to pay for it.


r/ADHD 6h ago

Questions/Advice How do people read books ?

27 Upvotes

I genuinely can never read a book unless it’s because I have to write a report on the book and even at that I have to look up online for summaries lmao. Like everytime I read a book I feel like I just reading the words but don’t really read what’s going on. I always get distracted by something else or have a random thought and end up forgetting to read the book. Even let’s say I take 20mg of my prescribed vyvanse sure I’ll read the book but the silence in my head is to akward.


r/ADHD 17h ago

Questions/Advice How to explain what it's like off medication to my wife

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Hi all, first time posting and on mobile. I (27m) have for the past month, been off medication as a result of a psychiatrist not listening to me when I told them I wanted to continue my Adderall script. I am currently seeking a new one, but I am struggling with explaining what it is like to my (27f) wife.

A lot of the time, I try to explain how it feels, but it never feels like it actually works, and would like to see if someone else can explain how it feels. A lot of the time I feel as though she hears me for a moment, but never fully comprehend exactly how disorienting and and how much of a struggle it can be. Any advice for helping is also appreciated!


r/ADHD 9h ago

Seeking Empathy I’m terrified of developing dementia in the future

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People with adhd have a higher risk of developing it, i have 1 case in my family where my grandmother developed it (although it’s only her and she developed it in her late 90’s), and lately i have been dealing with chronic insomnia.

It started last semester i would wake up in the middle of the night, it was something that varied a lot, some months i would be free fr it and some weeks it would torment me, but every since the year started i’ve only been having some weeks of proper sleep, now i don’t wake up in the middle of the night but it’s so light that it barely feels like I’ve slept, my only guarantee is that time passed by quickly and i can remember a dream or 2.

I’m talking with my psychiatrist and seeing if i should lower my medication or take some other, besides I’m trying to prevent it, I’m following a sleep hygiene routine, exercising, meditating, reading, i know that i have no control over it, that developing this disease is a bit of a roll dice and that medicine is always advancing, but still, i’m afraid… I’ve always had memory issues, don’t want to loose who i am.


r/ADHD 5h ago

Questions/Advice How do you guys/gals remember to message friends (let them know that you still care about them)?

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My brain unfortunately flips between no contact at all or a bunch of contact all at once when I remember that I haven't contacted them in a while.

I lost all of my high school friends this way as I'd forget to message them when it was summertime and then I'd contact them again in the fall since I see them all the time again...

but they end up not wanting to be friends with me anymore because they thought I ghosted them lol.


r/ADHD 1h ago

Questions/Advice Do you guys get extreme anxiety almost obsessive over previous conversations?

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I get insanely fixated on what I last said to people, I get scared I said the wrong thing all of the time. That they are going to not like me because of it. It’s like how there is always a song playing in the back of my head, except it’s the conversation. I’m not sure if this is just anxiety but it has always happened, and I’m so tired of it because it is always okay.


r/ADHD 4h ago

Seeking Empathy I feel broken beyond repair and utterly alone

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Please I need someone to talk to.

I feel so alone. I can't cope, I can't function, even with meds and I feel like no one understands. I tried all the hacks, Tips, advice, therapy and NOTHING works. I'm unemployed, in debt, my place is a mess. No matter what I tried, things only got worse. I can't do a 1 minute chore no matter what I try. I started to abuse my meds because I hoped I could function again, nope. My body is in survival mode for decades now, I am frozen in fear, stress, overwhelm and self hate. In patient isn't an option, the waiting list is over a year.

I spent hours trying to find anything on the internet, but no matter where I look, its always the same stuff that seems to work for everyone but me. No I can't do something for one minute. Thats why I feel so alone, it feels like everyone has something that helps, except me I feel hopeless, I feel like giving up (not in a permament way), I feel like just numbing myself with wine and whatever else I can get my hands on.

I have no one to talk to, I feel like I'm the one person broken beyond repair.


r/ADHD 17h ago

Questions/Advice I (23M) to be lawyer/have a career in politics, but ADHD, anxiety and depression have always made reading for long periods of time hard for me.

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For a little context, my dad is a patent lawyer and was a partner at a firm. I was inspired by pro bono work he did to help immigrants seeking asylum in the United States, as well as various experiences in my life that have led me to the recent conclusion that I want to pursue a career in immigration or criminal defense law, but I’m worried it will be too challenging for me.

While I am a fairly smart kid and my first semester of college (did a year then dropped out bc of personal reasons/covid) I managed to get a 3.8 gpa, all throughout my life it has been hard for me to manage getting reading done, especially if it isn’t interesting to me. My mind just wanders and before I know it, it’s been 10 min and I’m on the same page.

The other thing I’m worried about is most of the time in order to make it in law, you have to work these insane hours at corporate firms in order to get up the ladder and gain experience, and I honestly have a hard time doing 40 hours a week working at damn T-Mobile.

Even so, in light of the recent human rights violations that have been placed on both documented and undocumented immigrants, it’s a passion of mine to make a difference. And I think this is the best way I have to do that and still be able to make a decent living.

I know that none of you know me so that also means none of you really know whether or not I have what it takes to be a lawyer, but I guess I wanna know if anyone has similar stories / what they did to conquer these challenges.


r/ADHD 1h ago

Questions/Advice What has actually been helpful for you to cope?

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I (f,25) wasn't diagnosed with ADHD until I was 20 but have struggled so much my whole life. I can't ever get anything done, my emotions and my thoughts are all over the place. I feel like I have so much potential but it just goes to waste and it sucks so bad. I did try Ritalin which was fine but didn't work too well, Lisdexamfetamine worked best for me. I felt like I could be at peace for the first time in my life.. sadly it wasn't too great for my heart (gave me slight heart palpitations) so my doctor recommended I try Strattera. I have yet to try it, I will pick up my prescription next week. What worked best for you guys? any apps, books, workbooks, websites etc. you can recommend as an aid? which medication was best for you? I know what works for some might not work for others and it's a trial and error thing but I'd be so thankful for any advice or recommendations.


r/ADHD 19h ago

Discussion Are you motivated by money?

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Curious to hear if you are motivated by money or passion, and what your occupation is.

Feel free to go into detail about how you got there, what made you realize it, or if you’re feeling stuck,, etc.

Personally, I was raised by money driven parents, but I always just wanted to be a pop star for the performance and expression sake lol. I listened to them and pursued a corporate job—which isn’t going too great. The social politics are kind of hard to handle. I’m wondering if this is a hidden symptom of ADHD. I’m constantly told to play up the niceties but I’m really just trying to get through my day and the million spreadsheets and email managing I’m doing. It’s not that I spend money like crazy or don’t know how to manage it. I’m just kind of find how I am? I have a lack of fulfillment and really have a hard time getting anything done because of it. My ADHD co-worker feels the same way.

My buddy said he clocked 12 hours at his basically sweatshop job—VOLUNTARILY. And he’s going on his day off again. When I asked him why, he said, “Money, bro.”


r/ADHD 20h ago

Tips/Suggestions What are your safe foods while on meds?

9 Upvotes

What are your safe foods? What’s easy for you to eat even when you don’t want to? I want all the suggestions and advice and even questions you might have to give!

Context: I’m on 60mg Vyvanse and struggling with the lack of appetite. At my last doctors appointment I weighed in at a whopping 86lbs (I’m not dying!) and my GP was less then thrilled. I now have to go in every month to get my refill but if I lose any weight she’s pulling me off the meds. I can’t afford to not be medicated because I simply can’t function without them.


r/ADHD 21h ago

Seeking Empathy Sunglasses / shorts / close the door and the window / earplugs *sigh of relief*

10 Upvotes

My partner was asking me a question about whether or not I was going to do a task soon and it made me agitated at first. Instead of reacting to the agitation, I paused and asked if before answering I could do a few things first...

In order, those things were

  • Put on sunglasses because it was bright outside even with the blinds closed
  • Change into shorts because my legs were hot and it felt uncomfortable
  • Close an open door because every so often the wind would cause the latch to bump into the strike
  • Close an open window because there was some kind of industrial hum outside that was way too loud
  • Put on earplugs in case the noise was still audible in the background

Having done those things, I was able to take a deep sigh of relief, sit down and answer her without being agitated at all. It was effective, but I sure feel like a freak for having to do all this extra stuff just to feel normal and clam and not blow up at my partner for all these exceedingly trivial reasons.

Anybody in this sub who can relate to that? Does anyone pack something like an ADHD emergency kit to bring with them in case this kind of stuff happens outside the house?