I’ve been on 25 MG adderall XR since I was 16 I am now 23(f) and just started my first big girl job in sales. I’ve noticed I get much more emotional and sensitive about things even when I’m mad, but my memory is much worse than others and I feel like my brain on adderal is comparable to theirs on a average day. My family suggested I consider stop taking my adderall which scares me because I don’t want to do worse at work / get depressed and honestly seems like a lot of work lol but I also am scared to rely on this for the rest of my life and not to mention all the negative effects it has on me. Also what is the best way to quit without going cold turkey? Do I open my pills and start to take some of the balls out to slowly ween myself off ? Any one have any advice at all?

Forgive me if this rambles all over the place, but I feel like I'm spinning out more than I ever have. My father was a major part of how I functioned. Grief aside I need to get it together and I don't know what to do. I have to get the house cleaned and ready to sell, I have to deal with family members asking me to give them access to his accounts, and I'm barely able to get up and dressed and do anything. I'm sitting here staring at my vitamins wondering if I took them (also wondering if I take take extra would that make me feel sick). I keep screaming in my head that I have to do... Something or anything productive. I keep trying to distract myself but nothing can hold my attention.

I'm trying to sort it all out but I know I'm spinning and every single person I know keeps asking me if I'm ok with that look pity in their eye and that concerned stance like I might fall and shatter into a million pieces, and it makes more angry then I've ever been. All my tricks and coping starts/mechanisms are failing me. And I just don't know.

I don't know if I'm ok. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to start. So I'm spinning out, and I'm trying harder than I ever have to not self-destruct. Life is changing and I hate it, I don't want to be this way, but I am. I don't want to deal with those looks people give me that are more pity than sympathy. I don't want to deal with the legal crap-chute that I know that I'm going to have to do. I don't want to deal with grubygreddy relatives. I just want to feel normal enough to function, even if it's just enough to get through today.

I don't feel like I can talk to family members that I like because they have never understood what I have to deal with on the day to day anyway, and now that it feels a bazillion times more, I don't think they could help and I also feel that I would be a burden to them for even trying. That's another thing I feel like a such a burden all the freaking time, like some cancerous growth that you just can't get rid of.

I will be trying to get some grief counseling through my work and I will be seeing a doctor and try once again to get back on medication later this month (I hate that appointments take months to get here). But I do feel that I need help today. I'm hoping that someone out there in the aether can have some basic concepts of what I'm saying and not judge me for my situation. Maybe I need a body double so I can do stuff, I don't know, but I know I need to function. And the more I scream at myself to do something the harder I shut down.

Ok rereading this, I feel that this came out more of a rant than intended. That aside I'm gonna leave as is.

In the past week I have tried listening to music, podcasts, audiobooks, white noise, nature sounds, as well as having nothing playing and it all makes me various levels of grumpy while I try to get going on cleaning the house. Doing five minutes of busy work and walking away while trying to distract myself for ten minutes doesn't work. Trying to make a game of it, doesn't work. Holding the cat with one hand and trying to clean doesn't work (also upsets the cat somewhat, though she usually doesn't mind when I do this may be because I am stressed). I tried leaving the house for a bit and coming back doesn't help (had a small road rage incident and I screamed in the car for 10mins, not looking to vent on a random person). Tried making a list, I sat and stared at the paper for 20min.

So here I am, stuck in a rut, trying to pass a buck, and hoping that life would give me less suck. I know some of it is my ADHD and some of it is grief. But I need to get stuff done and I feel like a failure, more so tgan i ever have. And even asking for this level of help hurts and I don't know why. But I'm asking, so please, if you are out there.

I grew up my whole life with all kinds of different obsessive interests. Whatever I was obsessed with I'd spend hours on end doing while having no interests or patience for anything else. I wasted thousands of dollars on things that I thought were my whole life that quickly became complete throw aways months later to be replaced with a new interest months later. I never have mastered anything, only have had a dozen different things I wanted to do, and mostly sucked ass at. As a 21yr old adult, I've come to terms I most likely have ADHD. Is the constant `focus changing a symptom of my ADHD?? It's honestly soooo annoying, I want to be good at something, but allways loose interest in everything to soon for some other thing.

I was diagnosed with ADHD three years ago at 20 and just started treatment for it in November (therapy and Adderall).

Once starting the medication, I got the usual “high” people often mention, which quickly leveled out, and everything was good.

I have always experienced highs and lows in my emotions, usually in short succession and not lasting very long. I’ll go from “I can do anything and be anybody” to hopeless and can’t get out of bed all in the same day or over the course of two weeks.

I told my therapist and NP about it and was prescribed generic Wellbutrin (bupropion).

I know SSRIs (edit: and I assume NDRI’s) can take weeks to build up and take effect, but I felt side effects the next day.

• About 18 hours after the first dose, I had uncontrollable laughter during game night—10 minutes straight of crying, wheezing laughter—even though nothing was that funny.

• Then, a huge wave of anxiety and slight paranoia before falling asleep.

• Woke up fine the next day and decided to take all my medication in the morning after breakfast.

• Felt fine until 12 PM, then suddenly had tons of energy, couldn’t sit still, very irritable, and butterflies in my stomach.

• Then the anxiety and paranoia came back.

• Finally made it home at 5 PM and crashed—crying to my wife about how I just want to be normal, making her worry.

• 10 minutes later, I was fine and back to my normal self.

Has anyone else had an experience like this?

My NP said my medications shouldn’t have any mixed side effects and that these don’t match the ones she mentioned for bupropion. But I have stopped taking the bupropion immediately as I felt like I was going insane the past day.

Thank you for any and all help!

Edit: I’ve been made aware that bupropion is a NDRI and not a SSRI.

Adult diagnosed adhd friend. They constantly shift their opinions to side with the people they are around and in turn seem to hold multiple differing views. Is it a trait to fit in, is it a lack of knowing what you truly feel or who you are? They seem to struggle to tell the truth with recalling a story (partner always calling out their missteps) so never know what is true and what isn't. Trying to understand why they show so many different opinions if they are lying or struggling to even know. Is this an adhd symptom? Any insight?

Hi, I posted a couple of weeks ago about my upcoming assessment, which was today.

I was so nervous but the psychiatrist was great put me at ease, it was a difficult conversation but strangely positive.

Turns out I have combined ADHD and I have been recommended to go on medication, Lisdexamfetamine. It will no doubt take several months for Titration to begin (Based in UK- NHS funded through Psychiatry UK)

All quite emotional really I sat and cried for a little while afterwards, I guess I felt 'seen'

All at the grand age of 47 (F) I'm not sure what to do with the information.

To check in weekly online

So I have ADHD and autism, and I've pretty much accepted this and try to not let it define me or what I can accomplish in life. But that being said, something I can't wrap my head around and need to just vent about is this: Where do these unnecessary instances of anger even come from?

Seriously! Nothing extremely negative has happened in my life that someone could pinpoint to the cause of it. Most of my friends and family are caring of me, and my parents specifically would give the shirts off their backs for someone who was in need. I've never had any experiences that were traumatizing for me, so I know that can't be it. I've never had any severe issues with bullying growing up either with the majority of what I had being the kind that I got online, but I ignored that back then because it never stopped me from enjoying the hobbies I did.

And yet... I've started to become conscious of the fact that things will just set me off and I just wish they didn't. These moments of anger usually lead to me getting super irritated or loud and saying things out of the blue that I probably shouldn't. Then the clarity comes minutes afterwards when it's too late to take back what I said. And as of recent this has kind of gotten worse to where I'm worried I'm going to annoy people because of this.

I know it's silly of me to be venting about this, but I just can't figure out where this comes from when nothing negative happened to me. Especially when this wasn't a factor I was super conscious of before or at least have memories of having earlier on in life. It's just frustrating because I want my brain to stop doing that just because I heard or saw someone doing something that made me upset!

M32. Coming into this age I’m amazed at how different I feel from people who don’t have some form of ADHD or non typical way of thinking. Not necessarily in opinions on specific topics but more so in approach.

Is it normal to feel like you can’t DO anything yet all the people around you who CAN DO often miss the forest for the trees?

I feel like this in so many areas of my life where for me to feel confident in something I’ve to understand it upside down, inside out but could see the big picture the second I was introduced to something.

It’s frustrating as hell 🤣 like watching insane potential float by but you can’t do anything about it.

Or is this that a lack of attention inevitably leads to a Dunning Kruger like confidence where everyone else also gets that initial big picture but that fades away once they get stuck into something?

Hi everyone! I’m a Master’s student in Clinical Psychology, and I’m conducting research on how executive functioning (skills like focus, organization, memory, and self-control) impacts the quality of life in adults with ADHD.

I’m looking for adults (18-40) with a formal ADHD diagnosis to fill out a short anonymous survey. It’ll take 15-20 minutes, and your responses will help contribute to a better understanding of ADHD in adulthood.

🔹 Who can participate?
✔️ Adults (18-40) formally diagnosed with ADHD
✔️ Takes only 15-20 minutes
✔️ Completely anonymous & confidential

If you have ADHD or know someone who does, I’d really appreciate it if you could fill it out or share it! Your support means a lot! ❤️

Feel free to comment or DM me if you have any questions. Thanks so much for your help! 😊

Wow, I just saw this, and it instantly clicked with me! Tomorrow, I want to print this out and post it over my computer at work as a visual guide when I start fuzzy-braining. Wish me luck!! 😅🤞

Hey everyone!  I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and, like many of you, I’ve struggled to find a physical planner that actually works for me. Most planners felt overwhelming, too rigid, or just didn’t fit how my brain works. While there are plenty of digital tools, I’ve always found that writing things down helps me focus and remember things better. So, I worked with my therapist to design something simple, intuitive, and truly ADHD-friendly. It’s a physical planner that provides structure without feeling overwhelming, and I’ve found that it actually helps me stay organized in a way that works with my brain, not against it. Now, I’d love to see if others in the ADHD community would find it helpful too! If this sounds like something you’d be interested in trying, I’d love to hear your thoughts. As well as what has been working for you. Thank you for your help!

Hey y'all, today was my first day on vyvanse. I took 40 mg, and all I got was sweaty as hell and my breath tasted a little bad, but I hardly felt a kick. I’ve tried adderall before, so I know that feeling, and this was far less than that. Idrk what to do, I texted my psychiatrist, but she didn’t answer all day, so I’ll keep waiting on that. I guess I’m not really looking for someone to fix me, just some advice or opinions on my situation. I tried adderall XR a little over a year ago and I had the same sweating and bad breath (worse too), but I also had MUCH better focus and organization. What do I do? What do I tell my doctor? Any advice/experiences? Thanks! I also see after some research, vyvanse isn't supposed to have as big of a kick, extremely disappointed in this medication :(. I mostly experienced negative side effects

The idea would be to have a weekly check-in group where we could set some small goals for the week and keep each other on track. We could start by sharing what we’d like to get done each week and, at the end, check in on what we managed to accomplish. We could even add daily written check-ins for anyone who wants some extra accountability during the week.

Full disclosure — I’m an introvert, so I'm not gonna be the super chatty, let's make a party out of this type. But if you’re looking for a quiet, low-key space where you can connect at your own pace, without the pressure to actively engage, this might be a nice fit.

For anyone who would like to join, I've created a group:
https://discord.gg/BawGpDrstx

Has anyone ever found themselves in a situation where they question whether their ADHD is the cause of certain work challenges or if a neurotypical would also find the same circumstances challenging?

Just want to vent, that’s all. I don’t expect any replies.

It is so frustrating for a family member to say they understand that your Adult ADHD diagnosis is a legitimate disorder but then accuse you using it as an excuse when you try to explain how it contributed to why you did,or did not do, something or how it can make you feel.

I suspected for the first time I have adhd when I was 15 but my mom (a clinical psychologist) convinced me I'm not before I started taking meds. I'm 25 now and still at my parents' house, got a bunch of garbage in my room which my mom constantly puts me down about. I have a uni degree but the best job I've had is recently 8 months at a meat factory.

I have a pretty serious alcohol problem, use lots of weed, plenty of reckless sex with strangers, say weird things to my friends when drunk and push them away. I don't hate myself cuz I'm like this cuz it's just me yaknow but I hate that I don't have a partner, a steady job, and most of all, a family. I always wanted a family. I think I should get on meds.

I’m certain that most things worsen with age, but my husband (85) is a healthy man but seems to check all the boxes for hyper focused ADHD. He cannot process or understand simple concepts. After I repeat, from different angles, he seems to pick up meaning. Hearing may be an issue but even if you’re right in front of him, talking, he gives you a blank look. However, if you are discussing his business that he successfully grew and is just now thinking of selling, he is extremely sharp It’s getting more and more frustrating to carry on a normal conversation. Any ideas?

Hi friends, I am 29 I was diagnosed with adhd yesterday, and I have some questions for yall.

I have been working with a clinical social worker for awhile, pre diagnosis, going through cbt and skills to cope with my struggles. Specific to adhd, what strategies do yall use to manage inattentiveness and to slow yourself down and focus on one thing at a time?

I am also looking into medication management. What experiences have yall had with stimulant and non stimulant medication? Has it been helpful? Anything I should be wary of?

A friend of mine recommended me a company called geomind, which does genetic testing and analysis, then makes medication recommendations based upon that. Does anyone have experience with, or knowledge of that? Is it legitimate?

Thanks in advance, I appreciate it!

Hey guys, I started taking adderall (generic) freshman year of college. It really helped at first but then I started abusing it (60-70mg and barely sleeping) for 3 years. I was also on Zoloft during this time. I lost my funny, don’t give a fuck, personality. I lost the girl that I loved with everything in my bones. And I lost myself and sense of purpose. I am now 6 months off and wanting to know if my personality will come back. I really messed up the last 3 years of my life and losing my personality is one of the biggest regrets I’ll ever have. If anyone has been through something similar please lmk.

Okay, here’s what happened. First I”ll start by saying sometimes I will work on a weekend just because some days my job can be so busy with lots of distractions and I can’t get anything done. So if I have something I really need to focus on I will come in on the weekend when nobody else is there. So in this situation I can rule out I was distracted. So anyway I went in, I worked on my task, finished everything up. Monday comes around and it didn’t go well. Everything I did just didn’t work. I went back and looked at what I did and right away I was noticing okay I did this wrong, I did that wrong, what the heck why did I do that like that? I know better. I know what I need to accomplish and I know how, I am more than capable. I don’t get it? I just started thinking to myself like where was my brain at when I did this? What was I thinking? Why didn’t I check these little details? I can’t say I was distracted. This is not a one time thing, I have done this many times and I just can’t understand where does my brain go why do I do this?

Going through it for a few days now. Been flaring more the last year. Been going home from work alot. I need friends.

Does it get worse ? What am I going to do? I was diagnosed at 25 I am now 49, I think sometimes I should live in an institution.. I’m on the highest dose of medication. Any advice on supplements or strategies?

I have trouble stopping to make food and eating regularly so tried Inspired Go for the first time this week and have liked the options.

I've tried Hello Fresh and the like in the past but almost let them go bad before cooking.

I like the salads because they are ready to eat in minutes and I just add some precooked chicken and quinoa for extra protein and carbs. They have also been a good boost to my veggie intake.

I find Apple shortcuts in automations and incredibly powerful tool for my ADHD and I built my own workflows using it and now want to expand this skill to help more people.

My therapist liked what I was doing and suggested if I can create a way in which more people can access it. Ithen built this app for ADHD folks which packages all the shortcuts that I use for managing my ADHD on iOS it’s called ADHD Lifesavers I am now looking to enhance the library of shortcuts by understanding the common use cases where we can automate reminders or log journals or create medication reminders. While these are common use cases I would love to know specifically what would the phone help you with so that I can convert it into a shortcut.

If you want to chat about how devices and technology can actually help in ADHD or about any particular symptom please DM or comment