Extremely anxious about my girlfriend going out

[u/MoistFires]

About a year and a half ago, my ex cheated on me while partying. She was the quietest, most low-key girl you could imagine—until she went out. After that breakup, I met my current girlfriend, and we’ve been together for about 10 months now. She seemed like everything I had ever wanted in a partner.

Around 3 months ago, she started working as a photographer for student parties (we're both still students). Ever since, I’ve been feeling extremely anxious, jealous, and on edge. The event staff she works with are all guys—about 7 of them—and to be honest, they’re all pretty attractive.

What makes it worse is that when she goes out for these events, she dresses in a way that feels quite provocative—something she never does with me. She often comes home really late, and it triggers my anxiety big time.

She tells me it’s just work and that nothing’s going on, but I can’t shake the feeling. Every time I check her Instagram, I see new guys from the events following her—and she follows them back. It really messes with my head.

I don't know if what she’s doing is wrong, if I’m overreacting, or if maybe she’s not the person I thought she was. A while ago I saw a picture of her with six guys and had a full-blown anxiety attack.

I really don’t know how to handle this anymore. I feel like it’s eating me alive.

[u/Might_Witty]

Brother i understand being hurt in the past by someone and ending up w another and your start to become fearful....... been there......... but dont hold your new partner responsible for your shitty ones betrayals or actions........ trust her....... if she is straight up telling you theres nothing to worry about she see thats your worried probably and is saying it to try and ease your mind somehow........ dont assume....... if there ever is infidelity it will be apparent at some point...... but until you see it and its blantant.......... give this new partner your so scared of losing the benefit of the doubt......... believe in them.......... it means alot especially to women and especially if they indeed arent doing anything wrong

[u/general_zirx → u/Might_Witty]

Youre style of writing makes me irrationally angry 

[u/NecessaryGuitar4524 → u/general_zirx]

Me...................too.......

[u/Might_Witty → u/NecessaryGuitar4524]

8====D............me..............three.........8====D

[u/Might_Witty → u/Might_Witty]

Seriously though i was just trying to type all that super fast because i wasnt supposed to be on my phone lol 🙃 had to thumb all that in before a minute or less

[u/ThePenisPanther → u/Might_Witty]

75% of your time was spent typing periods that didn't belong or make sense.

[u/Might_Witty → u/ThePenisPanther]

Anyone, or at least i thought maybe im actually getting old here. But when chatting or whatever which is kinda what i consider this. Serveral periods mean there would be a substantial pause if the person were actually speaking or that they are thinking carefully about the next statement

[u/JameboHayabusa → u/Might_Witty]

It's called an ellipsis. It's three dots. Yknow... I think you used too many. It's supposed to convey a pause but also a person taking time to think.

[u/Might_Witty → u/JameboHayabusa]

Ill keep it to a three period max in the future 😉😉😉, on a completely unrelated note when i use emojis i almost always use three of those as well

[u/breakable-lemon-3245 → u/Might_Witty]

Unfortunately I think you’re getting old brother…… only old people use that many ellipsis….. in one paragraph to space out their sentences…… but you don’t really need to control where people….. naturally pause in a sentence……

[u/ThePenisPanther → u/Might_Witty]

An ellipses actually indicates that some less-relevant text has been omitted. Not a super long pause. A line break indicates a super long pause because you don't NEED a super long pause unless you're going from one paragraph to another.

[u/NecessaryGuitar4524 → u/Might_Witty]

hey for what its worth you gave the best advice in this thread!

[u/Frequent-Strike9780 → u/Might_Witty]

You ain’t gotta lie to kick it

[u/harry_lawson → u/general_zirx]

Their . key is just broken

[u/Might_Witty → u/harry_lawson]

🤣🤣

[u/Express_Way_3794 → u/Might_Witty]

You know you can use just one dot as a period at the end of a sentence, right?

[u/Significant_Salad893 → u/Might_Witty]

Great advice, exactly. I agree 100% here.