Coming from someone who is AuDHD and works in EMS, this is so SO cool. I don’t know exactly how common this “superpower” is within the overall AuDHD community but what she said about a disproportionately high number of EMS/ER staff with ADHD/AuDHD is 100% true. At least 25% of the people in my EMT class had ADHD, and I’ve met countless more ADHD/AuDHD coworkers since then. I don’t really have an opinion on the whole “AuDHD is a superpower!” thing but I absolutely do believe the intense sense of calmness and focus in very stressful situations is akin to a superpower. I’ve dealt with some crazy stuff in my jobs as an EMT so far and the ability for my mind to reach that zen focus locked in state is such an asset. Not to mention it feels SO GOOD. Better than any drug. The crash once things are over does suck though. But anyways I highly highly recommend watching HBO’s The Pitt if you’re AuDHD and work in medicine or are interested in working in medicine. Amazing show.

Link to full article: https://collider.com/the-pitt-episode-14-taylor-dearden/

I'm just so tired all the time. I feel like I never really know how to rest, and I think I'm totally burned out. I don’t even know how to feel better anymore. I try to tell myself it’ll be okay, but I just can’t seem to see the good in things. I overthink everything, and I get stuck in a really negative headspace. It’s like this constant feeling of not being okay, and it makes everything harder. I’m not really sure what I expect by sharing this, but I just needed to talk about it… maybe someone out there can relate? 🥺

Someone starts a conversation with you and you engage with them, only for them to edge away saying things like "I won't keep you".."I'll let you get on"....

Making you feel like you are taking their time and preventing them from getting on with something.

Don't come and start a conversation with me!

I’ve spent basically my whole life relying on both memory and self criticism to help me remember to do things. Which I’ve come to realise is why I’m struggling to keep any sort of routine as well as build good habits during the process of learning to unmask.

Does anyone have some anecdotal advice surrounding the usage of calendars, digital/physical planners, journals or whatever it may be that you use. It all comes down to personal preference I guess, but I’m sure there’s gonna be a lot of shared findings throughout the usage of different systems.

So would appreciate any advice regarding this topic, thanks everyone!

Thinking I was NT my entire life has me automasking to the point of delusion and depression. Figuring out i was audhd has really made things from my childhood make sense.

I just don't know how to stop masking, or even understand how I'm masking. Everyone thinks I'm normal and just always melancholy for no reason.

I haven't told anyone about my audhd yet except husband and friend who both agree but idk how to live and know who I am anymore.

It can, of course, be extremely difficult - the 'inside you there are two wolves' meme regarding this is no exaggeration. Now that I know I have ADHD as well as autism does make understanding this a little easier, but coping with it isn't always.

But one activity I have found that gives me almost the perfect balance between the need for routine and the need for novelty are reaction videos to films/shows I love. The familiarity is in what's being watched, the novelty is in watching someone experience it for the fast time, and on top of that, you get the confelicity of seeing someone enjoy something great that you also love. Don't overdo parasocial relationships, of course, but I think this is an acceptable joy.

Does anyone else find this helps? What other techniques do you have?

Considering that a lot of their culture revolves around sitting in uncomfortable positions and sitting still especially because this is based around keeping possible traitors in check, it must've been a hell of life if you had ADHD.

If you have stories, please infodump to me

So it’s been like almost a whole year since my last post lol! Thank you to everyone in the comments who were being supportive! I’m 18 now, and like about three months ago I met my now girlfriend who like actually genuinely likes me for me and like isn’t weirded out by my like silly little traits! Hip hip hooray for me! To like any queer ppl on this sub that like feel like they can not find somone who will love them for who they truely are, or like that have been in like a similar situation, TRUST when I say that there is most definitely a person out there that will love you for u! if my weird ahh is capable of being loved romantically, then so are you! idk i was just looking at my old post and thought about updating yall :3!

Hey guys! I'm f 17 and I got diagnosed with autism about a year ago but have had adhd in my ring for a while.. Recently the weight of everything has been crushing down on me and I really need advice on how others deal with this feeling? I know there's no way to undo being audhd and generally I'm pretty proud of being neurodivergent! But lately I can't handle anything, I'm tired of being in some sort of physical and mental turmoil. my bf constantly is asking what's wrong and I just shrug and say idk im over stimulated or I'm just "not feeling good". It's genuinely making me depressed again (I've been diagnosed with depression for years.) I also got diagnosed with bipolar but I don't personally relate at all and feel closer to bpd . Anyways I've been so emotional and stressed and idk how to keep going. I'm usually pretty good at masking and coping with my symptoms but lately the more I get them the harder they are to control. I've never really been a physically violent person (I don't think I physically could do to my small frame) But I've started melting down in my room and throwing things that don't matter at the wall.. (and some hitting my skin) I know it's not ok I just get into this mindset and the more often I get upset the worse it's gotten and it's honestly embarrassing. How do you guys deal with being audhd and not exploding..

(sorry for the long post I needed to get it out)

Hello, I’ve been diagnosed with inattentive ADHD and have some autistic traits (though I’m not sure if they’re enough for a diagnosis). I struggle a lot with social anxiety and hate speaking in groups, so I usually stay quiet even if I have something to say — especially in larger groups like classrooms or when meeting new people. However, I’m generally good at one-on-one conversations. I find it hard to follow group discussions and I’m afraid of being judged for what I say or how I say it. Has anyone else managed to overcome this fear or get rid of social anxiety in general? I’ve read that social anxiety often comes with autism and that it can be hard to “cure.” Have anxiety medications helped anyone, or completely gotten rid of the anxiety? I’d really appreciate any advice that could help. I am desperate and want to function normal socially.

I have this exam coming up and I’m finding it near impossible to just sit down and read the text. I can’t get in the right headspace and I’m just wondering how you guys do it.

Hi all

Within the past two weeks I have been diagnosed with ASD & ADHD. I had suspected it for a long time but it has still come as a shock to me to be diagnosed with both conditions.

I'm feeling a mixed bag, relieved after finally having some answers but also confused as to what's next. I feel like I'm about to go through that 'mourning period' people speak of. Can anyone share some similar experiences and advice/tips. Thanks

Hello, I experienced great discomfort with any type of clothing since I was very little. It's gotten better now with some modifications like no longsleeved tops, wide T-Shirts and everything one or two sizes bigger.

Now several years ago I've discovered weighted blankets and sleeping on my stomach to be very comfortable. Also being naked whenever I can.

But very recently I've discovered that when I go to sleep and sometimes during the day my stomach has to be rid of clothing. Like specifically my stomach. I don't know why. Blankets, weighted blankets and stomach sleeping are still good.

I'm just curious, why this sudden impulse to free my stomach. I'm guessing it has something to do with either my autism, hypermobility or hypersensitivity. What do you think?

I'm looking for an app with all-encompassing planning functionality - something meant for AuDHD brains like Tiimo, with more of the drag and drop for tasks and auto-rearranging time blocking like Motion (instead of having to manually change the timing of my tasks every time something takes longer than expected, I get into hyperfocus, etc.), and that has a routine function like Routinery. I want to be able to drag my morning routine into the calendar and have it time me through it like Routinery does, and then build the rest of my day with tasks, and then drop my evening routine into the day after task-completion time is done. I also definitely need the ability to create different levels of routines (in my Routinery, for example, I have short, medium, and regular length morning routines because changing capacity is so real in autistic burnout and spoonie life). If I could choose a sound (ideally pretty chill sounds that won't startle me) to prompt me to the next thing too, that would be grand. Oh, and I would love to be able to choose at the end of a task, to extend it or move on to the next item, for times when I hyperfocus. Also without having to interact with Tiimo for the task to change and no sounds, I definitely am not actually moving onto the next task with any regularity. Need a Google Calendar integration as well (two-way would be best) and for it to work on Apple iOS. Notion integration would be a 'nice to have' but not essential. Is this a dream or does it actually exist?

I've tried so many systems (ClickUp, Asana, Trello, etc.) and it never works for my brain. Most recently, I've tried Twos and it's nowhere close to what I described above. I just downloaded YooDoo but you have to pay to try it (no free trial). Tiimo's the closest I've seen to what I need but there's a couple things I just described that it's missing. I'm looking into Amazing Marvin too and it looks like it's got tons of functions but also looks slightly overwhelming (if you have tried it, I would love to know your experience).

What do you use and like? Thanks in advance!

(Also if it doesn't exist and some developer wants to take these ideas, please do, because my brain needs this lol)

So I need to send back my laptop to the company for repairs but I'm finding the repacking process to be a nightmare. I ended tearing into and destroying the box they sent to me so I had to buy a new one which I did but the stupid assembly flaps won't stay up and with my motor skill issues and sensory issues taping together that big box sounds really awful. Does anyone know of anywhere I can get preassembled boxes for this on the cheap that won't take ages to show up? Sorry it's just this whole thing is making me very stressed out and sad :(