r/MadeMeSmile • u/mindyour • Feb 19 '25

Wholesome Moments Her 85-year-old neighbour hand-delivered an invitation to his birthday party.

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u/colberts53c Feb 19 '25

This video is really nice and sad for some reason. I can't figure it out. But it's really nice that he invited her.

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u/Lewca43 Feb 19 '25

It’s the photo of his wife that hits.

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u/yeenon Feb 19 '25

Hi it’s me can confirm, just been hit by that part

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u/cozyfern191 Feb 19 '25

She would be so proud of him bringing people together like this

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u/jjcoola Feb 19 '25

Yall really gonna make me cry on the job site come on this would look bad

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u/Three_M_cats Feb 19 '25

I'm sitting at my desk (at home) with a few tears streaming down my cheeks. One day we all gotta go...I just hope somebody remembers me the way he remembers her. Him including her in the party is so touching. I hope everyone got to learn about her .

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u/skrutape Feb 19 '25

yea, that part hurts

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u/brooklynadm Feb 19 '25

Same, that’s when the eye dam broke.

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u/Queen-of-Elves Feb 20 '25

Made me sob. Reddit hitting me in the feels hard tonight.

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u/[deleted] Feb 19 '25

Yeah, it made me think of my husband. I always tell him I get to go first but now the idea feels worse. 

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u/Demrezel Feb 19 '25

So, we lost Dad last year. It was a year and a month yesterday actually. I'm just his son, but you do not want to become the person that my mother became after forty years knowing only that man.

She was the one to send him off though. Pancreatic cancer, no more ambulances after week 3 following discovery and diagnosis, I was two hours late to see Mom push the plunger.

Somehow I had always pictured them going together, in the really juvenile way that you imagine death to be like under always and only the most ideal circumstances. Last goodbyes and cinematic speech to go with them.

I came home to the sounds of crying I'd never heard before, and you just, you don't want to do that. But they made the choice together.

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u/[deleted] Feb 19 '25

I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I'm glad he got to spend the last if it with your mom. And I hope she can find happiness and companionship of some sort again. 

I told my husband, "don't you dare be lonely and keep to yourself. Bring someone else with you to my funeral. And if she's awful my ghost will slap your ass before you cum each time until you find a better one."

Gallows humor. 

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u/Eastern-Peach-3428 Feb 19 '25

My wife and I have always argued over who gets to go first (as if you have any real choice). Six weeks ago I had four cardiac arrests in a row and became a statistical anomoly for both being alive and having my complete mental faculties afterwards. More than anything, the thought of me dying and leaving her to that pain breaks me up. I hope this frankenstein heart the doctors hooked me up with goes the distance. After all the love she has given me over the last 34 years she deserves to miss out on that grief.

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u/[deleted] Feb 19 '25

That's a lovely sentiment and I am starting to feel that way too. Weird, you spend your whole life looking for love like this thinking it's going to solve all your problems, only to realize once you found it that you can't keep it forever. 

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u/Mysterious_Coach1591 Feb 20 '25

My husband and I never argued about it. He always said I'd go first because he could never leave me alone like that. He died almost 3 years ago unexpectedly at age 33. We weren't even close to where we were supposed to be. I really believed I'd go first in out old age. I worry about my parents.

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u/ScaryFucknBarbiWitch Feb 20 '25

Mine was just a bit older...41. It'll be 2 years in September. I'm so sorry we belong to the same shitty club 🫂

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u/DefiantMemory9 Feb 19 '25

I always tell him I get to go first but now the idea feels worse. 

I've said the same thing to my husband, when our relationship was relatively new. It was just the way he said, alright... Broke my heart. He knew I couldn't bear it, so he agreed to take that pain instead.

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u/Putrid-Ad8984 Feb 19 '25

And the PB&J got me. She was the PB to his J.

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u/Professional-Leave24 Feb 19 '25

I noticed this right away. Poor guy lost his wife. I hope the party was a hit!

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u/djdayer Feb 19 '25

Definitely. Right in the feels.

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u/sarver311 Feb 19 '25

Yah I was fine until I saw the pic of his wife. He turned what could have been a lonely day into a beautiful memory for a lot of people. What a special guy!

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u/Molly-Grue-2u Feb 19 '25

The sad music at the end too

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u/cfbonly Feb 19 '25

Hit like a brick.

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u/FHAT_BRANDHO Feb 19 '25

Yes I immediately started crying and still am lol

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u/nomasterpiece9312 Feb 19 '25

Its definetly the picture of his clearly late wife. Poor guy

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u/Other-Squirrel-8705 Feb 20 '25

Why is the picture sad?

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u/Lewca43 Feb 20 '25

It’s not the photo, it’s the need for the photo. The fact that he’s not there with her.

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u/Other-Squirrel-8705 Feb 20 '25

Oh! I didn’t realize she passed.

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u/KevinBoston617 Feb 19 '25

He’s a widower

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u/RonnieB47 Feb 19 '25

Killing the loneliness.

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u/Dry_Adeptness_7582 Feb 19 '25

It’s the music

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u/JustHereForKA Feb 19 '25

I know, I'm in tears. ❤️

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u/jenksanro Feb 19 '25

I mean, the music is also sad, like if it was happy music the video would probably feel a lot happier? Which is the vibe Doug appears to have been trying to create.

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u/Reality-Umbulical Feb 19 '25

He's lonely, hopefully she didn't just post this and continues to be his friend

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u/fl135790135790 Feb 19 '25

The music is 90% of it. But yes otherwise lovely

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u/Visual_Feelings Feb 19 '25

It could be the very sad music laid over the video. Makes it seem like he’s dying versus living. The editing doesn’t help either. Happy birthday Doug

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u/Ok_Supermarket_729 Feb 19 '25

I just really hope lots of people came. Especially if his wife isn't around anymore, that can be rough for older men if they don't have a good support circle. But I love that he reached out to his neighbours!

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u/El_Grande_El Feb 19 '25

For me it’s bc it demonstrates a sense of community that we seem to have lost and replaced it with culture of rugged individualism.

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u/Signal_Tie_7143 Feb 19 '25

Sad bc we just dont do this sort of thing as much as we should and it gives us a sense of longing for that.

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u/HeartyBeast Feb 19 '25

I can't figure it out

That will be the added soundtrack yelling THIS IS SAD

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u/PolicyWonka Feb 19 '25

For me, it’s knowing that so many elderly folks are incredibly lonely.

It’s the point of your life where all your friends are dying, if you have any left to begin with. All of your parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles are dead. All of the role models, actors, musicians, and everyone else that you grew up following are dead too.

You go to more funerals than birthday parties. Your remaining family might be spread across the country. Your closest friend is the neighbor across the street who halfheartedly returns your wave in the morning when putting out the garbage.

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u/AbbyFoxxe Feb 19 '25

Check out tiktok if you want to see something...amazing. Doug's winter party has taken on a whole new life and it's really cool.

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u/EnvironmentalForm470 Feb 19 '25

It’s sad because old people are often lonely, put off to the side and forgotten, and this is a brisk reminder of that.

But it isn’t sad because Doug isn’t lonely. Even when the party ends Doug will have the cops to party with