r/MadeMeSmile • u/mindyour • Feb 19 '25

Wholesome Moments Her 85-year-old neighbour hand-delivered an invitation to his birthday party.

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u/colberts53c Feb 19 '25

This video is really nice and sad for some reason. I can't figure it out. But it's really nice that he invited her.

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u/Lewca43 Feb 19 '25

It’s the photo of his wife that hits.

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u/[deleted] Feb 19 '25

Yeah, it made me think of my husband. I always tell him I get to go first but now the idea feels worse. 

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u/Demrezel Feb 19 '25

So, we lost Dad last year. It was a year and a month yesterday actually. I'm just his son, but you do not want to become the person that my mother became after forty years knowing only that man.

She was the one to send him off though. Pancreatic cancer, no more ambulances after week 3 following discovery and diagnosis, I was two hours late to see Mom push the plunger.

Somehow I had always pictured them going together, in the really juvenile way that you imagine death to be like under always and only the most ideal circumstances. Last goodbyes and cinematic speech to go with them.

I came home to the sounds of crying I'd never heard before, and you just, you don't want to do that. But they made the choice together.

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u/[deleted] Feb 19 '25

I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I'm glad he got to spend the last if it with your mom. And I hope she can find happiness and companionship of some sort again. 

I told my husband, "don't you dare be lonely and keep to yourself. Bring someone else with you to my funeral. And if she's awful my ghost will slap your ass before you cum each time until you find a better one."

Gallows humor. 

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u/Eastern-Peach-3428 Feb 19 '25

My wife and I have always argued over who gets to go first (as if you have any real choice). Six weeks ago I had four cardiac arrests in a row and became a statistical anomoly for both being alive and having my complete mental faculties afterwards. More than anything, the thought of me dying and leaving her to that pain breaks me up. I hope this frankenstein heart the doctors hooked me up with goes the distance. After all the love she has given me over the last 34 years she deserves to miss out on that grief.

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u/[deleted] Feb 19 '25

That's a lovely sentiment and I am starting to feel that way too. Weird, you spend your whole life looking for love like this thinking it's going to solve all your problems, only to realize once you found it that you can't keep it forever. 

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u/Mysterious_Coach1591 Feb 20 '25

My husband and I never argued about it. He always said I'd go first because he could never leave me alone like that. He died almost 3 years ago unexpectedly at age 33. We weren't even close to where we were supposed to be. I really believed I'd go first in out old age. I worry about my parents.

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u/ScaryFucknBarbiWitch Feb 20 '25

Mine was just a bit older...41. It'll be 2 years in September. I'm so sorry we belong to the same shitty club 🫂

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u/DefiantMemory9 Feb 19 '25

I always tell him I get to go first but now the idea feels worse. 

I've said the same thing to my husband, when our relationship was relatively new. It was just the way he said, alright... Broke my heart. He knew I couldn't bear it, so he agreed to take that pain instead.