She was dressed just fine, it was the chair and the position they had her sitting in, up higher than the audience.
And she was dignified enough to realize it
I was at club once with my wife, my good friend and his girlfriend…and HER twin sister. Buddy on left. Wife and twins on HIS left, all dancing together. He and I were facing the stage.
Out of the corner of my eye, i notice someone is not dancing. I look over and a woman and her friend were being kind of harassed by these two dude bros wearing tank tops and on some sorta drug. They were in front of the not dancing girls and backing into them overtly; obviously making them uncomfortable.
I made eye contact with her and mouthed…”you ok?”
she shook her head no.
So i motioned left with my head and pointed to my wife and the twins.
The two girls squeeze through and the guys try to follow and i cut them off with my best white guy dancing. 🤷🏻♂️
it was super pact and they couldn’t casually dance or nudge their way over, so they stayed put. The ladies danced with my wife and friends. Me and my buddy continued holding hands.
(joke)
later…the wife asks me about the girl. she said she gushed about me saving the night and how fucking terrible those guys were being.
This shit happens to women so much…I’m not a white knight or whatever…but i was glad
to have helped in that moment. You could tell they really appreciated it.
Had a friend (knew her from before this incident) walk up in a random parking lot, grab my arm and whisper “pretend we’re dating”. I glanced around and noticed a creepy looking dude following her. We walked into a store together acting like we had meant to meet there and waited until the guy left. Apparently he’d been following her around for a while and kept asking if she was with anyone; she’d told him she was meeting her bf soon but didn’t see anyone she recognized until I showed up. Never understand guys that pester women; if they’re interested they’ll make sure you know.
Guys who "pester" women are not looking for a date. They're getting off on scaring someone, and having power over someone. Probably because they have no power and no confidence and pick on someone to make themselves feel stronger. Weakest thing anyone can do.
I didn’t realize that enjoying the power of scaring me was the motive behind many of the catcalling/pestering/obsessive behaviors I’d experienced throughout my life. It was scary enough to feel like pursued prey. But turns out, it’s even more fuckin terrifying.
I suppose I was naive to think only a small percentage of people are actual sadists that think this way. Nope, I was wrong about that too lol.
There are far more people in my country that brush their teeth than murder people, but i cant remember the last time i heard a story about someone brushing their teeth.
Theres a definite confirmation bias here, which is perfectly natural.
You likely wont remember the time a guy let you go first, but you will remember the time a guy scared you. Its the way our brains are wired for good reason, to protect you from reoccurrences of bad stuff.
The guys that do this are scum and dont represent the majority.
That being said, it would be silly to pretend that they dont exist because they absolutely do.
I would agree with you if not for the fact that 1 in 5 women are raped at some point in their life in the U.S. 43% of all women experience some form of sexual violence in their lifetime.
Soooo....it's not really uncommon for a large number of women to have many examples like this or for plenty of men to act this way. Not really a good comparison to murder....
Im a man who has been the victim of childhood sexual abuse at the hand of an authoritative figure.
The guy has never been convicted but there have been multiple allegations about him. I know they are true because i am a victim. He ruined the lives of so many children.
This was one man, but was such an evil man that he alone caused unimaginable suffering to many.
The sort of people who commit sexual offences rarely only act once. It is how they behave. The figures may indicate that 1/5 men are rapists if you look at it as a 1/1 ratio, but that is not the case.
The majority of harm is caused by a small subset of people.
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u/CuddlyWuddly0 Mar 05 '25
She was dressed just fine, it was the chair and the position they had her sitting in, up higher than the audience.
And she was dignified enough to realize it