r/MaliciousCompliance 5d ago

S Malicious compliance in response to weaponized incompetence

Okay, I’m new to the page! I want to hear all of your stories or moments of malicious compliance in marriage.

Mine is when I asked my husband to move money from another shared bank account to our checking for bills. You guessed it, he didn’t move the money. This was the 3rd time that he “forgot about it” and I was tired of asking. I watched our checking account go into the negatives/ with overdraft fees. I confronted him and he said that I didn’t tell him which account, but we only have one main account for both of us to pay bills from. The account is connected to our debit cards!

The next day he went for lunch at chipotle. As he was checking out he realized that he didn’t have cash or money on his debit card. He called me at least 5 times asking me to transfer money, since I was near the bank that day. I did transfer money, but not to the account with the debit card, because he didn’t say which account 😉

We haven’t had any problems with him transferring money, since.

Edit: We share all of our bank accounts. I crunch the numbers and can’t always be responsible for budgeting and going to the bank/ doing transfers!

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u/DavidIQ 5d ago

My wife loves to have the bed made. I'm more meh about it and still don't really think of it as important and I've told her as much (yes I'm one of those that think "we're going to use it later anyways!"). So for a while now she makes about half of the bed and leaves my side a bit messy for me to deal with and so I've complied with the silent request ever since she started.

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u/animebae4lyf 5d ago

Why not just make it? I'm the exact same don't care for a made bed but I know the wife likes it neat and it takes about 30 seconds to do and makes her happy.

I'm sure she does stuff that's inconvenient or she doesn't care about for you so why not do the same for her?

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u/DavidIQ 5d ago

I usually wake up before her so a little hard to make the bed with a human being in it. I feel her goal all along was for when SHE gets up before me to get me to do the bed...and I'm "happy" to report it worked 😆