Malicious compliance in response to weaponized incompetence

[u/snickerdoodlesrule]

Okay, I’m new to the page! I want to hear all of your stories or moments of malicious compliance in marriage.

Mine is when I asked my husband to move money from another shared bank account to our checking for bills. You guessed it, he didn’t move the money. This was the 3rd time that he “forgot about it” and I was tired of asking. I watched our checking account go into the negatives/ with overdraft fees. I confronted him and he said that I didn’t tell him which account, but we only have one main account for both of us to pay bills from. The account is connected to our debit cards!

The next day he went for lunch at chipotle. As he was checking out he realized that he didn’t have cash or money on his debit card. He called me at least 5 times asking me to transfer money, since I was near the bank that day. I did transfer money, but not to the account with the debit card, because he didn’t say which account 😉

We haven’t had any problems with him transferring money, since.

Edit: We share all of our bank accounts. I crunch the numbers and can’t always be responsible for budgeting and going to the bank/ doing transfers!

[u/Alarmed-Ride1719]

My partner wouldn’t move the clothes to the dryer (I separated the clothes, put them in the washer, started the washer, pulled clothes out of the dryer and folded them, and put the clothes away). After a long time of me harping on him he decided that we should do our own laundry. Cue malicious compliance, someone rarely has clean underwear and I still refuse to do his laundry even when it piles up and he complains about not having clean clothes.

[u/putin_my_ass → u/Alarmed-Ride1719]

Oh god, I refuse to make my wife do my laundry. It's not hard to do, and I like being self-reliant.

[u/ActOdd8937 → u/putin_my_ass]

My ex got whiny because I didn't fold his tighty whities the way his mom did for him so that was the last day I folded ANY of his clothes. I'd leave his in a basket on his side of the bed to deal with. He learned not to give me shit about not being exactly like his mom after that.

[u/KatKit52 → u/ActOdd8937]

30 years ago, my dad said something to my mom about how she didn't do his laundry the way his mom did. She responded "well you can always go back to your mom and ask her to do the things I do for you."

He never compared them since.

[u/ActOdd8937 → u/KatKit52]

Yeah, "you, my wife, are not enough like my mom" is a very weird flex.

[u/putin_my_ass → u/KatKit52]

Wow, she had that retort on deck ready to bat. Good for her.

[u/Lay-ZFair → u/ActOdd8937]

OR Well your mommy doesn't live here so I guess you're screwed AND also in all probability, not.

[u/cyclebreaker1977 → u/ActOdd8937]

My husband used to complain about me not putting his laundry away in the right spot. I now put the pile in his bathroom for him to deal with.

[u/Meat_Flosser → u/cyclebreaker1977]

This is why I nicely fold all of my wife's laundry, and leave it nicely stacked. Only when I think the stacks will tip over do I insist that she at least finally put them in the right place.

[u/cyclebreaker1977 → u/Meat_Flosser]

I just make new piles if that happens, he’s the only one that uses that washroom lol.

[u/putin_my_ass → u/Meat_Flosser]

Yeah I will sometimes fold her laundry if it's in the dryer instead of bitching at her that I need the dryer. Isn't it a bit nicer that way?