r/MaliciousCompliance • u/snickerdoodlesrule • 5d ago
S Malicious compliance in response to weaponized incompetence
Okay, I’m new to the page! I want to hear all of your stories or moments of malicious compliance in marriage.
Mine is when I asked my husband to move money from another shared bank account to our checking for bills. You guessed it, he didn’t move the money. This was the 3rd time that he “forgot about it” and I was tired of asking. I watched our checking account go into the negatives/ with overdraft fees. I confronted him and he said that I didn’t tell him which account, but we only have one main account for both of us to pay bills from. The account is connected to our debit cards!
The next day he went for lunch at chipotle. As he was checking out he realized that he didn’t have cash or money on his debit card. He called me at least 5 times asking me to transfer money, since I was near the bank that day. I did transfer money, but not to the account with the debit card, because he didn’t say which account 😉
We haven’t had any problems with him transferring money, since.
Edit: We share all of our bank accounts. I crunch the numbers and can’t always be responsible for budgeting and going to the bank/ doing transfers!
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u/Durbee 4d ago
My mother told my dad repeatedly that any clothes in the hamper would get washed. He routinely left his clothes NEXT to the hamper. At first, she gathered and washed them, reminded him over and over and was generally frustrated at having to pick up after him. She then tried not washing anything not in the hamper, which only caused her more stress in the early morning. So back to grumbling and the push and pull of him not putting things in the hamper.
Fast forward a few years of this and my mom changed jobs and received a company car that served as a mobile office. At the end if each day, she'd organize the car and clear out any trash. And she started leaving her trash in little bags NEXT to the outdoor trash can outside dad's garage. It would occasionally scatter and dad could be heard cussing up a storm cleaning it all up. He asked her to put it in the bin, but she kept this up until one day he brings her out into the yard to show what all he has to clean up, and will she PLEASE just open the lid and put her trash into the can?
She stood there for a moment, then looked at him pointedly. "Oh. So putting something NEXT to its designated receptacle creates more work for others? Who knew?" And she just stood there til she saw the light bulb moment.
Now, they laugh about it and my father is fastidious about where he puts his laundry.