** ETA an important complication - I don’t live local to my parents, I have to fly back a weekend at a time to manage these things.

My mom passed a few months ago and she was your classic “I want to see my money” boomer shopper. She also had some impulse control issues late in life because cancer had spread to her brain, so she just bought whatever caught her eye, often in multiples because “oh I’ll use it eventually” or because Amazon only gave you a 12-pack option.

We were able to re-sell and/or give away things like shoes and clothes and bags, but there is still so much STUFF. I’m struggling with smaller things that my millennial landfill guilt makes me hesitate to just throw away. Talking about things like unopened makeup, multipacks of socks and tank tops she wore one pair of and decided she didn’t like… they’re not garbage but they can’t be given away or donated…

What have people done in this situation??

this is not a drill

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How rude!

This is not that old, are you all telling me I'm an old fart now?

Talking with some coworkers about how I hated turkey for years because I thought it was dry and hard to eat then realized in adulthood it's amazing when prepared right. Which then sparked a conversation that almost everyone of my Millennial coworkers spoke up about experiencing the same thing. Even though we were from different cultures(still all USA) economic backgrounds and regions. Even my father who was a professional caterer would over season and burn the hell out of every steak he made.

Then today visited my mother's and found the new kitchen set I got her for the holidays are ruined because she was using metal utensils on non stick surfaces and generally not doing the basic steps to maintain her utensils. Meanwhile I'm using the same pans I bought when I got my first place 15 years ago and they don't look half as bad.

I'm 36. Every symptom that comes about, im thinking the worst possible scenario. I wasnt like this in my 20s.

When I was growing up, I loved talking on the phone with my friends, even as a young kid. It was the next best thing if you couldn't see and hang out with your friends in person. Now I'm in my 30s and have very few friends. The few I have don't like talking on the phone, they just text sometimes. I notice a lot of other millennials don't like phone calls. Is this just a thing for our generation?

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these were dominant when I was growing up-sick days, theatheres, those weird "movies on demand/ constant movie channels" before streaming

all but gone nowdays

Is there a specific moment you just decided you were going to stop trying? For me it was when Homer and Tony Hawk battle mid air with skateboards.

I feel soo guilty that I tend to get very irritable being on the phone or having my mom over to my house for too long. I feel like a bratty child especially considering I try to be respectful and hide my weed and share my bed. Or sit on the phone for an hour. But I did lose dad 12 years ago and Im her only child. I'm just independent minded and she's not admittingly. but idk what I'd do if I lost her. Just seeing if anyone else gets annoyed/irritable around them but couldn't stand losing them of course.

Edit- I would love to reply to everyone but I just wanted to say thank you for contributing to the post and i'm glad to hear so many are doing well and I hope the ones that aren't are able to eventually improve their lives!

I just finished back day and an hour on the Stairmaster at the gym and I came home and made some food and now i'm at the computer planning my next trip and future business plans and it occurred to me that I can honestly say, this is the best time of my life (when I remove the nostalgia goggles and look at the past realistically). My wife is wonderful, my business and side-hustle are both doing really well, no debt, pretty healthy, best mental health ive ever had, plenty of income to live comfortably, etc. I just feel that my life has been part good decision making (i've always lived well within my means, didnt/wont have kids, stayed off of social media, worked hard) and part good luck.

I know the future is uncertain for everyone but I feel like the future might not be as terrible as everyone says it will be for our generation- we are too young to retire (unless you're very well off) and we are well-established enough that we will be able to weather whatever comes next better than young people or the people who are right around the retiring age. And I know deflation is technically "bad" for the economy but I'm also not mad when I see the billionaires have lost like - a trillion dollars in the last few days (probably not that much but whatever).

Anyway, I just wanted to say that i'm cautiously optimistic for the future for our generation. I know I can only go off what I know from the very small sample size of people I know but everyone from our generation that I know that didnt have their head stuffed firmly up their ass and had a modicum of sense are doing pretty decently right now and I hope you guys are as well!

I had a panic attack and had to be hospitalized but that led me to getting surgery and changing my life

I'm in my 30's now, and feel it that's for sure, but is anyone else's parents seem like they're aging? I'll explain what I mean by that because of course we're all aging.

In recent years my mother has been more and more growing into all the 'boomer' cliche's, which she never used to be like that. Easily caught up by internet nonsense designed to trap her generation, saying more and more unhinged things.
I had to reassure her the other day the Moon Landing did indeed happen, and warned her about misinformation nowadays because it's much more powerful than it used to be. And reminded her of how she would say not to believe everything you hear on TV. Now I'm trying to tell her that about the internet.

Is anyone else's parent's starting to move into 'old people' type people?

Honestly hearing the three accounts I did are what stopped me from being an edgy 7th grader. It brought the disconnected history textbook into real context.

Just ate at a painfully hip little cafe. Like a caricature of the Seattle/Austin/Williamsburg vibe.

And the whole time... nonstop Korn and Limp Bizkit. Locally-sourced Dungeness Benedict paired with "Break Stuff."

I just sat in focus listening to the entire 16 mins of the 1812 Overture (the one performed by the Royal Philharmonic) and I wish Tchaikovsky were alive today so that I can say to him