For former Christians who turned to Islam, what made you become a Muslim or start questioning your Christian faith? As a Christian, I’m always amused by how some people convert to Islam, but I’ve never asked why or what the reason was. The majority of the time, I know it’s because of confusion about the Trinity. But aside from that, what were other reasons?

Is unemployment a test/punishment from Allah? Was it always meant to be (Qadr) or is it a result of one’s own doing? I’ve been unemployed for 8 months as of now & I’m losing my mind over this, two of friends were in the same boat, now they both have their dream jobs, I mean they literally got exactly what they wanted while I’m at home broke as one can be, I’m happy for them but it’s also hard to be when you’re not where you want to be at and just can’t see light at the end of the tunnel.

i left my job last year end of July due to the company pushing me to leave (basically left me no choice but to leave) and I thought with my experience that I wouldn’t struggle to find work but clearly that wasn’t the case so here I am today.

I make dua during tahajjud, I’ve had interviews, I look online everyday and believe me this is the best I can do, I don’t have a big family, I only have two friends and I’ve asked everyone I can and nothings worked out, it honestly just feels like ALL doors are closed and there’s nothing else I can do.

Please do help me in whatever way use can, yes I know patience, patience, patience… I get it, all Islamic lecture on YouTube say the exact same thing and I just can’t find any other answers, like yes, patience, but your still going through it, your still broke, patience doesn’t fix that.

How will I repent? I had committed the sin of zina before. I honestly repented during this Ramadan and from the time I did it. Now I committed it again. It was all a temptation. And not zina in its full meaning. But forbidden relation with women. I am unmarried. I feel like I am no hope anymore. I fear I will commit this sin again. I fear will O do the same again even after I get married. I never enjoyed any of this sin. I was always regretful. Yet I couldn't get over the temptation. Last Ramadan O repented from the bottom of my heart. How more can I repent? Next Ramadan is almost a year away. Even though I will ask Allah for forgiveness, I am shameful that I am a person who does this again and again.

My family, friends and relatives think that I am a honest and pious muslim. I always stay away from whatever I consider Bidd'a. But how can I now? I am a sinner. How can I educate people around me on Islam. Even if I concentrate on myself, how can I not act and talk about the atrocities of Gaza. Whenever I talk about it, I have to talk about islam too.

I am not feeling the same terror as before. This makes me even more scared. How can I get out of this misery?

Is there anyone who had gone through the same and became successful in not doing it again ever?

Salam

I reverted to Islam 2 years ago. Due to strict parents and not that much privacy, I am not able to pray in my home. I read Quran and make dua as much as I can. Recently, I've just started to loose faith in Allah. It's not like I don't believe in God, I do. I just don't talk to Allah anymore, I don't want to read Quran, I don't want to commit myself to Islam. it took me a little bit to notice but I am completely becoming misguided, and I caught myself. As much as I want to become closer to my faith, I just cannot bring myself to. What is happening to me? Why is this happening? How do I prevent it? I start to feel more like a different person everyday, I've started sinning more, I don't care about anyone, I disrespect my friends. Please help me, I want to save myself.

Hi everyone,

I would appreciate any advice you can give me with regard to learning the religion (please no judgement). I was raised in a “culturally” muslim family. Aside from Ramadan, general Quran knowledge and obeying some rules like not eating pork and on/off prayer I was not taught anything about our religion. My goal this year is start learning my deen so I can apply it properly in every aspect of my life. Here are the actions I took so far:

1. ⁠Taking arabic classes
2. ⁠Buying a picture prayer book to learn how to do wudu and perform prayer. So far I can only pray with the book next to me but I am hoping to memorise the five prayers soon inshallah
3. ⁠Started reading Quran in english

While I feel this progress is better than nothing, I feel like i’m missing fundamental education about history, science and the overall understanding of the Quran. Would any of you recommend to join islamic history/science or Quran classes at a local mosque ? Is there any book or video that can help me in this journey? Lastly, am I taking the correct approach in my deen journey? I would greatly appreciate any advice or guidance.

Assalamualaikum Posted this in r/islam and it just got removed, wow. I live in the sub continent and recently I've decided to let my beard grow which was a really big step since my father wasent fond of the idea saying it only sunnat not obligatory. I did it because i wanted to follow the orders of Prophet ﷺ but as my beard grew more in a few weeks, everybody starting noticing and calling me a molvi (term used to call someone too religion). Mostly these were close family and friends, it bothered me a little ar start but soon i also wanted to know the reaction of some of my other friends who were trying to be better muslims or friends who'd have met me after a long time. The thing im scared about is the hadith (Sahih Muslim 1905 a) about the intention of one's action being right or else the actions are rejected. I feel like I've strayed from the original purpose of keeping the beard and made it a part of my look instead seeking external validation or is this just waswasa of shaitan. P.s to add to the context I started to grow beard during ramadan and havent posted publically anywhere online about it.

I can't get myself to talk to people in call if it's not my family I cant get myself to talk to people in real life and if I talk ex thank you i say it so quietly idk what this is called but i have no confidence in myself when I talk someone please help me out is there any sort of dua I can say that will fix this I hate this soo much people talk to strangers soo easily but I cant do it

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Guys !!!! I found it !!! Subhanallah I’m so happy ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

There's so much horrible stuff happening in Palestine and the world being shown on social media such as Instagram and TikTok and it always makes me so mad to the point where I can't focus on my studies and I'm just bitter at everything and everyone especially because I live in the US and I'm just getting more and more angry of living here but I want to stay aware of current events at the same time and the main way I do that is through Instagram and TikTok.

I don't know if I should just stop using those socials because they're the first source I get info from and I also have a nature/urban photography page but stuff just appears on my feed relating to current events which just makes me mad.

Should I stop using Instagram, should I stop looking at information about Palestine and world events in general, or what should I do, because photography is my passion and not using Instagram means I can't post pictures anymore.

hi guys, i am extremely frustrated and i honestly don’t know what to do. to put it simply, i hate praying. i dread it every time and i just don’t want to do it. i started praying last year but i couldn’t stick with it. it might be important to mention that i have adhd and i definitely struggle with adhd paralysis. i also find it super difficult to sit still/ still my mind. so not only do i struggle to get myself to pray. once i start, i just lose focus and i just cannot wait for it to end. this ramadhan however, i managed to pray all of it! i was super proud of myself but i think that a big part of what made me go through is the fact that there was a fixed period (ramadhan) on which i have to pray so i knew in a way that it will end. however, now a week after, even though I prayed all of my prayers, I found it extremely hard to and with each salah, my hate for it grows stronger. I keep asking god to make easier for me and I feel honestly sad for feeling this way but it is the truth and I just don’t know what to do.

He annoys me in ways that even my other siblings will never reach. He mocks me disrespects me treats me like I am below him.. he undermines my achievements in such a weird manner recently he said to me that I entered medical school based on "luck". My mom has been seeing how aggressively I speak to him and I admit I do know that I sound angry while speaking to him but he literally triggers me to do that. And when I tell my mom she tells to be the "bigger person"? Just recently we had a fight again... and my mom lectured me on how it am disrespecting him and how I should speak to him in a kind soft manner as he is my brother.i did. I did before my mom told me to do that. I told him how much he hurts me with his words. So when my mom finished called I was frustrated. So I went over to him and told how much of a prick he is and then I cried in front of him and he mocked me and opened the voice messages trying to record me crying. Mind you he also had problems with my other sister and she was also being aggressive with him (by words or manners). I have another sister too i genuinely believe he will also annoy her and disrespect and my mom will say smthg like "be the bigger person"... I don't know what to do. I am hurt really I am. Why can't my mom see that he might also be the problem or the one lighting the fire???

So there is a kafir family member who managed to get me when i was young to have stocks account under my name. But now I realise that these stocks majority have RIBAAAAA. And thing is he doesn't want to remove them from my name and i just dont want riba but what dooo i dooooooooooooooooooooooooo. How do i stop this. I wasnt even baligh when it got allowed idk what to do now..

Even brushing my teeth feels like a torture to me. Please just tell me how can I do work without feeling like I'm getting tortured. I want to be healthy and hardworking and do a lot of things. It give 0 care If I am unhappy or depressed. My brain automatically rejects and doesnt let me even lift my finger If I dont get dopamine hits or happy any sort of.

As Salaam Alaikum. I have anxiety, emetophobia and OCD. I took therapy and I was gradually getting better. But now I feel like it's coming back to me. I am trying to not be all miserable but it's really difficult. It's all because of an event. Please pray for me, help me and give you any advice that can calm me down.

as-salamu alaykum, im a muslim who recently started learning and practicing islam this ramadan. so far it's been hard, especially when i realize ive been doing something wrong/haram this entire time that has made things invalid or have to give up something im used to, but im doing my best and trying not to get discouraged.

recently, i learned that stuffed animals or figurines are haram due to their imagery and are only permissible for children to play with. this was admittedly heartbreaking to me both because 1. i collect stuffed animals and sleep with them (i have an emotional attachment to one in particular) and 2. because ive been ignorant for so long. i had heard of the matter before, but thought it was alright because my parents seemed fine with it (this is not to put blame or talk badly of my parents)

majority of the stuffed animals i own are teddy bears with beads for eyes and noses, or other animals and i also own a chibi anime figurine (along with keychains and pins of characters). i want to get rid of them by selling them but ive heard its not permissible to sell things with imagery. im also scared to how my parents will react because they know i love stuffed animals very much and might question why im doing it or convince me otherwise (i come from a muslim family, and although we practice islam, we are imperfect). i know this may not seem like a big issue, but ive been really anxious about trying to be a better muslim and just trying to give up sins out of guilt for doing it for so long before i started to practice islam.

i have many questions and worries but no one to talk to this about. i pray in my bedroom where my stuffed animals are, and have learned that angels will not enter anywhere with such imagery. does this make my prayers invalid? how do i tell my parents this when i come from a household where we don't really talk about these kinds of things? do these rulings count towards things like sanrio, legos or pokemon as they're not a real/accurate representation of living things? i want to sell them but am not sure if thats okay, and i dont know how or where i can donate or give away to children as an alternative.

ive tried researching and watching videos on this topic, but it's not enough. if anyone has any advice on this matter, i'd really appreciate it. if anyone could even contact or ask someone who is knowledgeable in these matters like a sheikh i would be really grateful. (sorry for the long paragraphs, just really tired with things going on in my personal life while trying to be a better muslim, ive been overthinking about this matter and so much more it's taken a toll)

https://www.reddit.com/user/EtcWasTakenAlready/comments/1jtfg4n/comprehensive_information_about_islam_in_korea/

I had shared this info 2 years ago from my original account, u/Le-Mard-e-Ahan but unfortunately, it got shadowbanned. All the relevant posts and info that I had shared from that account, got hidden from public view on Reddit. So I am sharing it again as back up, while I work on recovering my original account, In Sha Allah.

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The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, ascended the pulpit and he said, "Amin, amin, amin." It was said, "O Messenger of Allah, you ascended the pulpit and said amin, amin, amin." The Prophet said, "Verily, Gabriel came to me and he said: Whoever reaches the month of Ramadan and he is not forgiven, then he will enter Hellfire and Allah will cast him far away, so say amin. I said amin. Whoever sees his parents in their old age, one or both of them, and he does not honor them and he dies, then he will enter Hellfire and Allah will cast him far away, so say amin. I said amin. Whoever has your name mentioned in his presence and he does not send blessings upon you and he dies, then he will enter Hellfire and Allah will cast him far away, so say amin. I said amin." Source: Sahih Ibn Hibban 907 Grade: Hasan (fair) according to Al-Arnaut

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assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. thank you for reading this long post if you do, and jazakallahu kharian for any hypothetical advice you may offer. i would like the readers of this post to imagine this scenario is completely hypothetical, for hopefully obvious reasons.

imagine a early twenties age girl living in a home in the USA with "non-denominational christian" family, including both parents and her older brother. she is a highly anxious and hyper vigilant and traumatized person due to her childhood and home life which she is still currently not able to move away from. she reverted in secret over two years ago and still hides her faith bc of her family's intense hatred and misunderstanding of islam. her parents have pretty much hated each other and fought for their entire marriage, and until a few years ago, the girl was extremely close with her father and had a very difficult relationship with her mother. now those positions have totally reversed, and she is now close with her mother and has an EXTREMELY!!! strained and broken relationship with her father.

the situation with her father is this: the father is an addict and has been allegedly attempting recovery since he was in his 20s. for the girl's entire life, the father has been both partly-openly and partly-secretly using drugs. he has stolen medication from every member of the family, including from the girl after she had brain and spinal surgeries as a child and remains disabled (this disability is also why she is unemployed now.) his addiction has been destroying his marriage since before he even had children, so the children were all always exposed to fighting and toxicity, and seeing their mother very angry and hurt. the father manipulated and triangulated his relationship with the girl to weaponize her against his wife/her mother, like to have someone on his side or something. he did this by lying, blaming his wife and gaslighting her from the moment she could think on her own. it was a very codependent situation between the father and the girl. the amount of lies he has told her and every member of the family and the depth of the harm they caused is literally beyond comprehension.

since a few years ago when the girl and her family members compared stories from him and finally realized how much he lied, and how innocent her mother really was the whole time, the girl has been on a journey of healing her relationship with her mother and navigating the betrayal she faced from her father, who was truly her best and only friend for all her life. her siblings are on similar journeys and one of them, who already moved out and got married, threatened to cut him off from her new family if he doesnt change his behavior. the only problem is, her father still has not taken accountability for it. he now seems convinced his whole family is angry at him for literally no reason and the girl randomly turned on him one day. he is still continuously "relapsing" over and over and is the most resentful and self victimizing and narcissistic person she or anyone in her family has ever met. she wouldn't be surprised if he was actually possessed or something. its really bad.

last night, there was a blow up fight where hands were almost thrown between the father and daughter, while she was sobbing asking him why he doesnt care that he is pushing away every member of his family and he was giving her the most smug and borderline evil face you can imagine, not breaking eye contact. it all started bc she was trying to make peace between him and her mother, but her father is perfectly comfortable escalating and getting in her space. it just got worse and worse so fast. later on, she was holding a bag and he tried to grab it from her for some reason (the bag is hers!) but she wouldn't let go, she was just shocked and not believing that this was really happening and not recognizing the person in front of her. he wouldnt let go even with his wife screaming at him and the girl then trying to jam his hand away from her. this was on the front porch in front of the entire neighborhood during the day. this fight went on for hours, and the girl is so beyond heartbroken and betrayed and honestly destroyed as a person. she can't drive away from this or do anything to leave.

she has made tawbah and cried to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala but the guilt and heartbreak from the entire situation that she faces and that is swallowing her whole home is overwhelming. the fight is still going on between her parents as she types this. she knows to respect her parents, she knows she is wrong for screaming and crying and not letting go of the bag, and for trying to hit his hand away. she knows that even though he is BEYOND!! wrong, and he is not a Muslim, she is still supposed to have mercy on him and be quiet when she is angry. but it is so so SO!! hard. SO HARD!! she has no Muslim community, she must hide her faith, and when she is around her family, and the toxicity and the resentment and the anger and darkness in her home, she just falls into sin. she is genuinely expected to sin here, its just normal, and she was raised in it. like drug use and swearing and not praying and everything you think of when you imagine white western suburban families. it is so so so hard for her and she doesnt know what to do. she really tries her best. she is heartbroken and destroyed.

please leave any hypothetical advice or responses you would offer her. perhaps online are the only muslim communities some people have. thank you again.

Asalaam O Alaikum. Pls make dua for my uncle as he is in a very critical condition. In hospital rn on ventilator and his BP and hb are low. He is also having dialysis because of kidney failure. I know that death is in the hands of Allah but at least we all can make dua. Maybe He'll accept one of yours. It would be really helpful. Thank you!

I saw this quote somewhere and wanted to share:

"Many people waste their youth chasing the world, they only realize in old age that they never prepared for the Hereafter. There comes the pain of REGRET... And when your soul leaves your body, your wealth, family, and status will stay behind. Only your deeds will accompany you to the grave. Indeed, the grave is full of people who had plans for tomorrow. Do good today, for you don’t know if tomorrow will come. If the dead could speak, they would beg for one more chance to pray, to give charity, and to seek forgiveness. But for them, time has ended."

This is a powerful and sobering message. It really makes you reflect on how often we prioritize the temporary pleasures and achievements of this world, only to realize too late that we haven’t invested enough in what truly matters: our relationship with the Creator, and preparing for the Hereafter.

Time is a gift that can slip away without notice, and once it's gone, we can no longer change the past. This reminder urges us to act with purpose and urgency, making the most of the present moment. We are reminded that only our deeds—our actions, prayers, charity, and repentance—will accompany us to the grave. Everything else, like wealth and status, will stay behind.

May we all strive to do good today, to seek forgiveness, and to live in a way that we won't regret when our time comes.

Hi guys, I just need to vent about something that’s been eating me up. I’ve been talking to someone recently, and I honestly feel so ashamed and like such a loser for how it’s turned out.

He added me on Instagram during Ramadan, and I accepted his request. He’s from France and I’m from the UK, so there’s a bit of a language barrier, but he came across as respectful and sweet at first. We moved the conversation to Snapchat, and we both agreed that we don’t follow the opposite gender on social media, which I found really comforting—especially since I haven’t spoken to a man properly since my failed engagement.

Early on, he would send mirror selfies, and I couldn’t help but notice the silhouette… you know what I mean. I told him that we needed to stop that, especially during Ramadan, and we paused communication for a bit. He came back later, apologized, and we started talking again.

Unfortunately, things got more sexual a few times (may Allah forgive me and him for our shortcomings). After those conversations, he would go quiet for hours or even a whole day. It felt like I was being left hanging. One day I decided to delete all the media from our chat (they weren’t nudes, but some had me in tight dresses). He did the same, and then removed me from Instagram. We talked about it, and he said he felt upset that I deleted things and that he needed time to reflect because he felt guilty about what we’d done. We agreed not to let it happen again… but it did.

He even asked me if I was really a virgin—which I am—and when I told him I was, he said some girls lie about that because they don’t want to be seen a certain way. I told him I truly am, alhamdulillah, and I want to stay that way until marriage. But because I’ve expressed desire, I feel like he sees me differently now, even though I made it clear I didn’t want that.

I’ve never done anything like this before. No nudes, but this still feels like zina, and I feel so disgusting, disappointed in myself, and spiritually low. What hurts the most is that I actually liked him—like really liked him—for the first time in three years. I haven’t connected with anyone since my ex, and I truly hoped maybe this could go somewhere, maybe even marriage. Maybe I was being delusional.

Now it’s been two days, and I haven’t heard from him. I feel used. I feel like a wh*re even though I never sent anything explicit. It’s the emotional side of it, the vulnerability I shared… and how discarded I feel now.

He kept saying how feminine I am and how I act—but now I realise maybe he put me in a box, like a role I was meant to play. He expected me to be emotionally open, soft, forgiving, while he remained closed off and non-communicative. He even said being open isn’t in his nature but expected me to be open with him. I don’t know if he really cared or if it was just convenient for him.

I tried to shift the convo to iMessage to create more of a genuine connection, but he said he prefers Snapchat. Then when I called that out, he suddenly backtracked, said it was a language thing, and asked for my number again—even though I’d already sent it.

I don’t know what to do now. I feel ashamed before Allah and broken inside. Like it was all wasted potential. I thought this might finally be something real… but now I just feel hollow.

If you read this far, thank you. I’m not looking for judgment, just needed to get this out somewhere.

As-salaamu alaikum,

I’m feeling quite anxious, and I could really use some advice. In two days, I have my driving test, and despite preparing, I’m feeling the pressure. I’m trying to stay calm, but the nerves are creeping in.

On top of that, I recently reached out to a girl I’m interested in. I sent her a message on TikTok a day ago with sincere intentions, but she hasn’t replied yet. I noticed she posted a few hours ago, and I can’t help but overthink things. Should I have messaged her in the first place? Should I wait longer? I know I need to give her space, but I’m feeling uneasy and impatient.

I know that patience (sabr) is important, and I don’t want to rush or be too pushy, but I’m also trying to balance these feelings with the anxiety of my driving test. How do you all manage moments where there’s a lot going on, like a big test and waiting for someone’s response? Any advice on staying focused and calm while navigating these feelings would be really helpful.

JazakAllah khair for any guidance.

How can I help the people around me to not be in haram relationships anymore? I love my friends a lot and wallahi I only want the best for them but I don’t know how to help them? Haram relationships are so common that we think it’s normal but it’s seriously a big issue and I don’t want to see the people closest to me go down that route. How should i go about advising them? The last I want to do is make them feel judged so please help me!!

I was wondering how should i go about ending a friendship in Islam that i feel is not benefiting me anymore. I don’t want to be rude or cause any drama I just would not like to be as close anymore. The friendship does not bring me closer to my deen and that scares me because i know there is a ayah in the Quran that mentions how close friends will become enemies…..