ignore my messy mirror 😭😭

Flex 💪 that delusion!!! U are a world class weight lifter !!!

I feel so much more confident 😊

I'm super introverted and working on making friends IRL, but how can I find some new friends online? I'm also moving soon so some support during all these life changes would be great. Pic of me and my cat for attention.

Hello, I finally decided to stop lurking and start posting 😁 I wore transtape for the first time and it felt so right! I absolutely loved my flat chest and felt really confident so you get some pics. Today was definitely a good day!

Also if anyone has a name for my stile I would really appreciate it, I never know what to call it 😅

I've all ready came out as lesbian and now I have to nonbinary???? Whyyy?? Give me tips plssssss

Just got the cutest Enbunny from Plushie Dreadfuls - so fluffy 🥰

Lovely people with long hair, we've reached the stage of hot neck and collar-catching, and working a manual labour job, and running in tremendous heat as I do, I work up a sweat most days - so I'm thrilled to finally have these gorgeous little... things. I think they're mini pigtails, but I'm not sure 🤷

So much gender euphoria, you have no idea 🥰

I saw some other people do this and I just had to do it with this masc beach Frankie doll! This is my first attempt customizing a doll lol

For about 5 years now I've thought abt the idea of wanting to use they/them pronouns. I have been very aware of myself that I'm not entirely masculine (he/him).

Like on one hand I wear standard clothes of a male. Can't really describe how I talk. I can at least say I can articulate my feeling alot better than some overly masculine males.

But on the other hand, I have had moments of feeling a tad..."icky" whenever someone like asks me to do something while referencing that I'm a male.

2 examples of this are in the form of someone making comments abt how:

When a worker calls the intern (me) to move some heavy boxes or supplies and comments on how they "need a strong man" to move some supplies. Same can be applied for when your mother asks you to move something heavy then as a form of praise she'll say "big strong man". I'd get the "ick" most likely bc what they need is someone to help them. They don't need to like specify "yeah, you're a guy"

Or when workers want to start a bit of chit-chat with the intern and the first thing they said was like "you're a guy, you understand...". Like I don't even have any context and you think just bc im a male I'll immediately get it?

The "ick" has just been something ive been feeling only maybe 60% of the time when others address me as male. The 40% can just be when idc and move on. I dont think its gender dysphoria...

Idk if i can just be NB bc it just feels like that's something others can do but I just cant. Or it's just something that's feels gatekept? Or maybe im just scared of what it will entail. Or I'm just scared that idk what I am exactly. Like I know I don't fit in with being a male (completely) but it just feels weird to acknowledge this "snowball" that I didn't know was getting that big. Or I could just be scared bc idk if I'm brave enough to just tell others abt it... like did come out to my cousin and brother abt being pan.. I just idk why I'm scared of this now.

Am I allowed to use they/them when I don't know if I'm NB?

Though I’d give this a try! It’s hard to find more in my regio, and since the Internet is such a big place… 😝

Something about me: I’m a musician, legal advisor, amateur chef (a pretty good one if I say myself), sport enthusiast, active and energetic person!

I guess I understand somewhat, since I know that I am not a guy, but I did a few questionnaires (I know, they aren't known to be super reliable but it can help with knowing which direction one is leaning to) and they are always asking if I "feel like a girl/guy/nonbinary", and like...I don’t know, that's why I'm doing this quiz! I don't mind being a girl I guess, but is this the same as being one? And since clothes/expression ≠ gender, how do you tell the difference between being non-binary, and being on the binary spectrum but just liking to dress androgynous? Do I just want to be "special", or does my gender assigned at birth actually not fit? What has helped you figure this out?

Hi yall! I finally just got my total laparoscopic hysterectomy today, and I wanted to share my experience, I haven’t really seen many/any enby perspectives on it. I’m 21 and I’ve been wanting this surgery ever since I went through first puberty. I dealt with dysphoria and immobilizing pain from my period, I ended up managing that pain with birth control that allowed me to skip my period, however suppressing my periods, ended up giving me ovarian cysts, one burst back in December and that was the final straw for me. It took a lot of calls to different surgeons to find one that was in network for me and willing to do it, but I ended up finding a really nice doctor, he was very respectful towards me as a nonbinary person, and was excited to do the surgery for me. It’s been like 4 hours since my surgery and I’m doing good! The pain is really just like a mild cramp. I wanted to post this just to be a voice out there, for other nonbinary folks who might be considering this surgery.

Lately I have gotten to hang out with my wife and her girlfriends and they have kind of accepted me as “one of the girls” even though I am amab and masc presenting. I’m branching out with adding more femininity in my presentation, but primarily I just feel the most myself when with the girls, being feminine, doing feminine things, etc.

My biggest issue is feeling left out when my wife’s girlfriends ask her to lunch or to hang out and don’t explicitly invite “us”, I’m not going to invite myself and neither is my wife, which is fine, because they are her friends. However, in these situations, I feel left out, especially when it’s a group that normally I would go out with as “one of the girls”. This feeling is usually very dysphoric, especially because I don’t have any girlfriends that I didn’t meet through my wife. It makes it very not fun for my wife, because I go into shutdown mode and she feels guilty.

I just really feel that I have tried to have guy friends, but they all are problematic to some extent, and I feel like I emotionally connect more with women, have better conversations, and am generally more fulfilled being fem with fem people. Also, there’s the fact that with the women that I and my wife spend time with, there is a sense of community, whereas the few men that I am friends with don’t really know each other.

I spent 33 years of my life trying to fit in with men, and I was always told not to do things that I enjoyed because it “was gay”, but ever since I have built relationships with this group of girls, I have felt huge feelings of euphoria when being treated like “one of the girls”, but also huge feelings of dysphoria when things happen that I feel like are due to my maleness.

How do I get rid of these feelings? How do I cope with not being included, even though my favorite person is included?

I feel like these are big indicators that I’ll never really be “one of the girls”, I’ll never get to experience a bachelorette party, I’ll never get to take a group bathroom selfie, I’ll never get to be one of the girls like I would be if I had boobs and a vagina.

I was feeling down and then while reading today these lines hit me like a truck. It's such a struggle but I know I want to be myself unconditionally. Hopefully some of you will also find these as impactful as I did today. ❤️