[SERIOUS] would you have wanted me to inform you if you were the wife?

So this senior of mine M31 used to flirt alot with me and i used to be flattered coz he is a good looking dude. I was new to work and had no idea he was married. I would playfully reciprocate to him but he would not go any further than flirting and casually asking me out to smoke or drink. And would talk non veg too, it was clear he wanted to date or even sleep with me. But one day when I spent a considerable amount of time with him, one of my other colleague told me he is married and he also mentioned that he has a 2yo too. Now I am furious but I am not sure if I should tell the wife because at the end of the day maybe they, would get together and I would be the bad guy or he might possibly want to harm me careerwise Or otherwise for ruining his marriage. I want to know if I should tell the wife or not.

Assume 7-8 years age gap. If he's 32, how do they feel about it?

I (19M) have a (18F) girlfriend for about 2.5 years now. One incident that happend recently was she had to participate in a buisness competition and she chose one of her male friend (18M) as her teammate for the competition. They met everyday for 3 hours for over a week to work on the project and i had no problem with this whatsoever.

One day when i was on a call with her she told me how nice the guy is and everything and she even told me that he complimented her. The next thing she says is "I had to record it because i would want to hear it again" and proceeds to play the recording. In the recording the guy talks about her great qualities and how great and rare she is as a person and that there is no one like her and everything. All while this is happening i can hear her blushing and smiling. I asked her why did she record it and she says that she would need it when she wants to hear it. And i responded with okay. And also, to add to it there was a rumour about this guy liking her before we got into the relationsip but she says it was not true.

So my question is how do i react to this? Am i over reacting?

tldr: girlfriend recorded her male friend complementing her so that she could listen to it again

It's been sometime that we broke up with and today I saw the cutest dream possible.

It's a bit filmy but it is what it is.

So I'm in some market and I saw my ex and we haven't talked in like 7-8 months. I see her carrying a child 1-2 months old, I approached her and we talked and I realised the child's ours. We went her home, she still didn't wanted to get back together and I just was happy seeing her with our child.

For context we planned everything, wedding, children, growing old together and haven't been able to move on from her.

Our relationship didn't worked out but I wish it would have. She is still in my prayers.

Hey I'm M24, been through a traumatic breakup been 80 days now, it was a 3 yrs relationship. My ex emotionally cheated me with her colleague. I don't have any affection for her. I just pity her. But here's the thing, I'm having hard time to accept the fact that people could be so ruthless that they won't even think about your efforts before betraying you. Like I used to take out time post office no matter how much tired I was to go and meet her. I just feel stupid that even after putting so much effort at the end, my ex didn't give a shit about it. Lifestyle wise, I've noticed that I've don't enjoy eating my favourite foods anymore. I don't know how to describe it the feeling is terrible. The more sad fact is that her friends supported her in developing feelings for that guy, I mean being a friend you should guide your buddy the difference between right or wrong. How will I move past this betrayal, does time really heal things its been almost 3 months ? I don't have friends in this city and it gets lonely at times.

My friend 22F is dating a guy 26M.

My friend 22F is dating a guy 26M and they have been in a relationship for 6 years. While everything is perfect there are a few issues.

Around 5 years ago, the guy was told by my friend's mom that he will need to have cracked UPSC and be an officer to marry my friend. My friend is also an aspirant. Now this guy had done some commerce degree and had a job.

He decided he wanted to marry my friend and willingly chose to shift his focus onto UPSC. He apparently gave his first attempt in 2021 which he didn't prep for because he wasn't serious did the same thing in 2024. My friend got frustrated as her family will get her married off and he knew it but chose to ignore it. Now that the time has come for her to get married in about 2 years. This crackhead started telling her to delay it further and for the first time started studying.

Here are the issues: 1. My friend feels it's her fault that he is stuck in this situation when he willingly chose to do it. 2. He watches sad reels on insta and overthinks everything. He is scared my friend may leave him for some other guy when she is literally not allowed to leave the house and is mostly busy studying and is very loyal which he knows but his overthinking fucks him over. Yet my friend thinks its her fault.

I tell her that it is his fault for willingly choosing it and not taking it seriously. And it is certainly his fault for watching sad reels which impact his mental health. Yet my friend is blaming herself and feels all this is her fault because he loves her unconditionally and if she didn't date him in the first place all this wouldn't have happened.

Now comes the best part the fucking sad reels he watches makes him say to her, "if I was financially stable perhaps you wouldn't leave." Like are you seriously kidding me right now. He knew what her mom's condition was 5 years ago and now he feel she is leaving you for money. She never cared about his financial status. He is just making excuses. And he even she can't stand up against her family as she knows what will happen to them if she elopes or anything and she loves her parents.

Please knock some sense as she doesn't listen to me and says I am too blunt/rude, please comment your thoughts so she can read this once I share the link with her.

This might not be the right place to post, but I really need advice.

I met this girl on Discord back in 2020. We started talking every day, and over time, we developed feelings for each other. We began dating around mid-March 2021, and everything felt perfect between us—like life was finally something to look forward to.

But then came 22nd May 2021—the worst day of my life.

We had a small fight that night, and she suddenly went offline. I thought she had left me. I don’t remember exactly what happened after that, but I ended up attempting suicide. I was in a coma for about 15 days. Later, I found out from our chats that I had taken an overdose of medication, which affected my brain and memory.

Everyone—my family, friends, and even she—was in shock. When I finally regained consciousness, all I wanted was to talk to her again. But by then, she had blocked me from everywhere. That felt like the final blow.

Fast forward 3.5 years—she came back into my life through Instagram. She had been stalking me from a fake account, and when I confronted her, I realized it was her. We talked after all that time, cleared up some old misunderstandings, and that’s when she told me the reason she had blocked me—she said she got scared of what I did to myself. She didn’t know how to deal with it and chose to walk away.

But from my side, back then, it just felt like she left me at the lowest point in my life. That pain never really left.

After that conversation, we again decided not to get back together and went our own ways.

But last week, I made the mistake of texting her again. We started talking, and it felt familiar. Then yesterday, she hinted that maybe we shouldn’t be talking. I didn’t take it seriously and kept going. Today, she said it clearly—that it’s not right for us to stay in touch. That hit me hard.

Now I’m just confused and feeling like I did back in 2021. I don’t understand why she started talking to me again if she didn’t want to continue. My anxiety flared up, and I ended up blocking her.

I’m stuck with all these thoughts and emotions again. I feel lost and don’t know how to move on. I just don’t want to feel this way anymore.

If anyone has been through something similar or has advice, please share. I really need it.

I'm (20M) now as a fully grown official adult, I'm insecure about my looks and height. I'm indeed fair skinned and presentable atleast but still I consider myself ugle cuz of my low self esteem and on the top of that, I'm deeply affected by my height.

All my friends are taller than me so I always find myself uncomfortable. Also I'm having a hard time at getting women as many of girls I like are slightly taller than me who ofc wouldn't date me like who wants to fuck their future genes? But also the girls shorter than me also want a tall netflix guys 🙂

Now I think no one takes me seriously and my family still treats me like a child. I hate myself so much that now even if I like a girl I reject my own self because of my height and i don't think so I will be ever loved by anyone.

I (25M) am currently dating someone I’ll call Meera (F24), and she’s honestly one of the most thoughtful, emotionally present, kind-hearted people I’ve met. We’ve been seeing each other for a few weeks, and things are going well… at least from the outside.

She’s sweet, genuinely likes me, asks how my day is, sends the “good morning/good night” messages, and says things like how cute I looked on our last movie date. She’s emotionally open, journals, is introspective, and doesn’t play games. She even respects my lifestyle (I smoke, I work remotely, I like my space), and I feel seen in a way I’m not used to.

We align in all the right ways — she’s from the same city I want to settle in, comes from a similar background, has future plans that would complement mine (flexible, entrepreneurial mindset), and she even made me a beautiful freehand festive mural at an art cafe we went to — meanwhile, I just coloured in some generic scenery someone else had drawn.

Even that day, when I insisted I should pay for the date (because I had a Swiggy discount, lol), she still sent me her share. She’s got that thoughtful, grounded, real energy.

And yet — I’m not feeling it.

I don’t crave her messages. I don’t feel a magnetic pull to see her. I don’t look at my phone eagerly when she texts. It’s like I know she’s amazing, but my heart hasn’t caught up with my head. I’m someone who has a tendency to emotionally run when someone gets close, and this time I’ve stayed — maybe out of guilt, maybe out of hope that the feeling would grow. But I’m not sure it will.

The hardest part is: I remember when I was lonely and single, I used to wish for someone like her. I used to think, “If I ever get this kind of love, I’ll treat it like gold.” Now that I have it… I don’t feel what I thought I would.

To complicate things, I’ve had flirtatious energy with other people lately, and while nothing serious has happened there, the pull and chemistry feel much stronger than what I have with Meera. I know that sounds shallow, but it’s my truth.

I don’t want to lead her on. I also don’t want to regret walking away from something solid just because I’m not “feeling fireworks.”

I’ve posted on Reddit before about my dating situations and gotten some heavy judgment. So please — if you’re reading this — I’m not asking to be praised or pitied. I’m just asking:

Have you ever been with someone amazing, but something inside you said, “This isn’t it”? Did that change over time, or was it your gut telling you the truth early on? What would you do if you were me?

Please don’t project — I’m trying to make sense of something I haven’t been able to unpack anywhere else.

My girlfriend (22f) had to move far away for work, and we’ve been in a long-distance relationship since. She’s the emotional one—she expresses what she feels openly.(22am) I, on the other hand, tend to bottle things up. I feel a lot, but I rarely show it.

Lately, I’ve been missing her like crazy. I try to stay strong and act normal during our calls, but it’s getting harder. The distance, the silence between texts, the time difference—it all hits at random times. I want to support her and not burden her with my own emotional weight, but I don’t know how long I can keep this up.

What makes it worse is that when she does call or text, I unintentionally make it harder for both of us to have a normal conversation. I act distant or awkward because of all these feelings I can’t open up about. It’s like I’m building a wall I don’t even want there, but I can’t stop myself.

If anyone’s been in a similar situation—how do you deal with the emotional imbalance? How do you stay close when everything feels so far?

TL;DR: My girlfriend moved far away for work, and we’re in a long-distance relationship. She’s open with her emotions; I’m not. I miss her a lot but struggle to express it, and it affects our conversations. Looking for advice on how to handle this emotional imbalance and stay connected.

Hey guys, I’m a 22M and my ex-girlfriend (20F at this point) and I were in a relationship for 4 months. We had been friends for more than 3 years, and very close friends, before we got into this. She comes from a conservative family, but we are of the same religion, and our fathers are from the same state.

The issue is, her mother read our chats—there’s no concept of privacy at her house—and let’s just say the response wasn’t very savory. Her parents lashed out, especially her mother, more so than her father. She proceeded to call me and my parents, and I willingly gave my number since both of us wanted this to end in marriage.

However, when I brought up the marriage topic, she disagreed—and did the same when my parents brought it up as well. As a last-ditch attempt, I tried calling her father, but to no avail.

She says she wants to make it work, but only if all parties are satisfied. I have a well-paying job, and she still has 2 years left to complete her university, after which she has to go for post-graduation. But her parents want her to get married by the time her graduation is done.

She’s kind of stuck because her parents are very abusive towards her and intensely blackmail her emotionally. It’s taking a toll on me mentally and physically as well, to the point where I cannot bring myself to eat or do anything I usually like to do.

She says she wants to get together, but she’s not the kind of person to put up a strong enough fight against her parents—for obvious reasons.

What do I do in this scenario? (Ps it's only been a month since the events of them finding out)

My husband is not ready to shift to the city where I am working. I am a salaried person while he looks after his business. Before marriage he had said he will shift but now after having a child, it’s been very difficult for me to manage while he keeps travelling for business and extends his travel without turning up for 2 weeks. I tried talking to him about this. If it was to live alone like this, my bachelor life was pretty good & there was no need to get married!! Lomg distance has put a strain on our relationship. Before kid, I didn’t care so much. But now I feel like all of us should be in the same city & live like a proper family. But this is impossible if my husband doesn’t shift. What do you suggest should I do in this situation?

We were in a very happy relationship and then due to depression i became to toxic and decided we should take a break but she wouldn’t listen soo i broke up and during the first month itself she came in talking stage with a guy lets call him X and now her friends gaslighted her for him . I came back and reconsoled her and we got back after 5 months her friends started to call her to hang out again i had no problem but X was in that group . They planned a trip to another state and I asked her not to go but she did anyways And then she posted a story with that guy I was like why did you unblock him , she told me he wanted to repost my story some days later i saw she was sending him reels I argued but was pacified Now five days ago she started ghosting me , I confronted her she asked for a break , i asked her why to which she answered i was too obsessed with her(this is considered a problem? ), didn’t give time with her friends, I don’t study , i am too vella(idle) I have no self respect (i am one of the most egoistic person you can know and i just let it down for her ) And today she broke up with me and now the reasons changed , the reasons she gave me today were
You are too arrogant about your love for me , i am never enough for you , no matter what i do its not enough Trying to guilt trip me and just validate her actions I just blocked her on all social media Bcoz i was done putting my self respect down for her

I know the reason she’s breaking up with me She doesn’t, her friends manipulated and gaslighted soo hard I explained it to her , she said it was all her decision I think her friends gaslighted her against me

I know it wasn’t, she’s no more the sweet girl i fell in love with 3 years of relationship down the drain , why ? Just because of Her friends.

Now I’m here sad and crying writing this post with tear down my eyes

But i know if she calls me I’ll accept her back instantly as I am madly in love with her

Call me kundan from Ranjhana because

Kon fr se mehnat kre? Dil lgane ko, Dil tudwane ko Ab sala mood nhi h

(Ankhen mun lene me hi sukon h, so jane me hi bhalayi h)

There’s this girl who’s my junior at my college. We used to have frequent eye contact, during the exams that were held for both juniors and seniors together in the same class, After not seeing her for 2–3 months due to sem breaks and fest I naturally forgot about her and moved on.

But out of nowhere, she suddenly sent me a follow request on Instagram—even though we don’t have any mutual followers and we’ve never even had a conversation. She’s been liking my stories and engaging with my posts too. What should I do next?”

TLDR: I fell in love with a girl, but she didn't reciprocate, she said it directly that she ain't interested, but my mind is acting delulu and punishing myself, refusing to move on.

Now the full story, We met at a college cultural event. I usually leave early from college events in spite of being a hosteler, but that event, felt like staying a bit longer, that's when I met her, we chatted a bit, played "andhakshari" (a game where we sing songs ending with a given last letter) and after some time, there was ghazal night, i sat right next to her. We both enjoyed that event night equally well, I showed my meme collection to her, she laughed and could relate to my memes (which included a few "singles on valentine's memes, as the event happened in first week of feb"), which alone is a first for me. We vibed and shared stuff (but she said this exchange was one-sided, more on that later) for 2 whole hours, which felt like 20 minutes for me. After the event, I opened the dialpad on my phone and gave it to her, and she gave me her number without any thoughts. For 2 days, we chatted like crazy. But towards the end of the 2nd day, she started distancing herself. That was my fault too, I ended up too vulnerable and overshared stuff to the point of making her uncomfortable. In between chats, I did indirectly propose, and her reply was a straight NO, just as expected, but my delulu mind thought I could change her.

One day, I happened to get caught up on my stuff and didn't chat with her, and I went to her class the next day to explain, she was like: I don't have any need to chat with you everyday like you have. Leave me at peace. Even that hint flew over my head, and rather my monkey brain ignored it on purpose. I did realise she started avoiding, and guess what I did, Instead of leaving her alone, I tried to force it further.

One of our mutual friends (pretty sure she might read this article which I've just wrote), did warn me about her being an "idiot who can't understand feelings", which like other stuff, I chose to casually ignore.

Towards the end, I ended up getting too desperate and begging to stay, which ofc didn't work.

Me: Idrc if you avoid me. I just didn't want to talk about this for some time becz my mental state has been going shit this past week. I wish I could say this to you IRL but you just don't give a crap. Not blaming you, fault's on my end. I'll be honest, i did have some feelings for you, but not anymore. At least let's chat. I won't disturb you. This loneliness and frustration is getting hard to manage on my end. You might ask, why chat with you specifically, if not for the "feelings"? I can't relate with anyone else as good as i could with you. We can at least be friends. If you still ghost me, fine but it would help if this communication barrier gets broken. If you read this fully, thanks for at least putting the effort to read.

Her: Ok, I need a closure. I am not gonna do this (chat with u) and I believe you will respect my choice. Kindly stop texting me & my friend for asking me to text u.

and a few days later, I texted her friend and that friend said, we need to talk, so the 3 of us had a talk at the canteen, I narrated that part to another friend, which i'll paste here.

Randomly out of nowhere, i happened to get a thought about asking her friend what exactly the thing was, and to know the exact reason why she was avoiding me. Then the friend said, we can have a chat tmrw at the canteen. There, both of them explained what actually happened. It was a case of me becoming desperate. I thought she was the one after talking for just 2 hours. I don't even know anything beyond her basic details. There wasn't even a bond to break, and I was thinking up stuff as if I lost someone close, we were never close to begin with. Also the frequency match, that was one sided. And guess the funny part, she didn't really had any objections to me catching feelings for her, which she said was natural, but the problems began when I started to become desperate and overshare stuff, which she didn't even ask for. And the reason she started avoiding me was to give me a hint that she wasn't interested, which i interpreted as something else. But even after everything that has happened, she still isn't angry but she said it's better not to talk too much as I'll still have feelings left over. She did say she is avoiding me on purpose as she sensed that the way things were going, it will end worse for the both of us, she had good intentions for the cutting off too. And her friend, gave me an even bigger list of advice. She first told me to learn from my mistakes, to which I replied "ethra kondalum padikula" (translated: I won't learn from my mistakes, in a sarcastic manner) in a kinda casual tone, to which she said, you should learn to handle a rejection properly first, else you will be stuck in a cycle of endless chasing and rejections. And she told me to stop this cycle now, else it'll become harder the longer i repeat. This entire convo left me on self-introspection mode yesterday, and seems like everything makes sense now. All that headache was only because I couldn't handle a simple NO

All this fiasco was a few weeks ago, though her friend's points are valid, my emotional self ain't willing to accept the real-tea yet and am still yearning for the day she will atleast start talking to me again like we did that day. That day is now stuck forever in my mind as a core memory.

and the worst part, this ain't even my first one-sided relationship, yet this hurts deep, even deeper than my 1st rejection.

Just a few days ago, happened to watch a summary of 500 days of summer and the story does seem to match with mine.

And the rationalisations I came up with, that's even more hilarious: - I casually asked her birthday, she did say it, and I did something horribly hilarious: checked the zodiac - Cancer (her) and Scorpio (me) zodiac compat is at 94%. - Most of our values and view points seem to align with respect to relationships. The major green flag I saw in her is that she hates kpop, and has an actual taste in music and memes. And she doesn't really like playboys (and I hate playgirls). - Both of us are lazy - Both of us are chatterboxes irl (but she talks with anyone but me after the mess I made) - Both of us enjoy cooking - She is kind and considerate, someone who deserves every bit of love I throw at her, she just ain't willing to receive it.

I could rant more but will explain further as the comments start pouring in.

Hey fellow Redditors, I'm reaching out for some advice or just to vent about my experiences with relationships. I'm 21, and I've already been through a string of failed relationships. Each one ended for different reasons, but the outcome is always the same – heartbreak and disappointment.Lately, I've been feeling like I'm just not cut out for love. I'm starting to think it's too late for me to find someone special, and the thought of putting myself out there again is exhausting. I worry that even if I do find someone, we'll both be carrying around emotional baggage from past relationships, and that's not a great foundation for a healthy partnership. I'm curious to know: have any of you gone through similar struggles? How did you overcome them? Am I just being too pessimistic, or is it really that difficult to find meaningful connections at my age? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts and stories.

I ll put in simple, typing is hard man.

In 8th a girl grabbed my attention, she approached for friendship.

CBSE & i was into studies and only competative mindset. We both had same mirror attitude and thinking. I used to like her for year.

Later days I got to know, she was in relationship with my best friend. I was spectator.

They broke up later years.

In 12th, I took science, liked a girl from commerce stream for months. Eventually she was in relationship with my classmate. That guy cheated on her with her sister. Broke up.

Then his bestfriend proposed her, they will in relationship. Then she was caught in Oyo.

In IIT kanpur, I was in physics, a girl from CSE dual got so close to me. We hang out for a months and shared everything. Eventually i liked her. Then I dropped to purse my career.

I was done. She focused on her career, never proposed. I wanted her to win.

Join another University, CSE. I went into spirituality in depth. Years passed.

In the end Final year. I liked a girl. She was ECE branch, saw her first time in Library. Months passed as we talk.

Cut to short, I missed her out of my hand. Due to religion problems.

Now in 23. I met a girl from Instagram.

This time I took time to propose, she said yes. Maybe this was first time, so I was so in love. Couldn't wait to hear her so..

Months passed.

She said she will be engaged soon. Parents are looking after in realatives or family friends.

I video called my grandparents, in Malaysia. Said everything about relationship They asked me if she was serious before we could take any action.

I asked her same, she said " I donna think about it".

Later she ghosted me. Suddenly one evening she said, she doesn't wanna continue.

So I respect her decision. Didnt try to call back or nothing.

Now doing job, Good earning. Realised real dopamine is different. Universe tryna pull me away. Things I learnt is to admire a girl from long distance. A child inside me smiling.

We’ve been together for over four months now, and every time I try to have a deeper conversation—like asking about her past or personal experiences—she shuts down. This has happened multiple times. I get that opening up takes trust and comfort, but she consistently avoids serious or emotionally heavy topics. I’m not trying to pressure her I just genuinely want to understand her better. This is the third time it’s happened, and honestly, it’s starting to feel emotionally exhausting for me. She always says she’ll open up when she’s completely sure about us, but I don’t know how long that will take or what that really means

I always had a inner fear that people will use me for my money. my GF has been very good with me and not taken advantage of me financially. We usually split everything when we go out as well. But we both are hesitant to share our financial information (salary, savings etc.)

how can we slowly get more comfortable when it comes to money and being more transparent?

Hi everyone, so long story short my gf told about me to their parents for marriage and things are pretty much sorted up till now but today my gf told me that her dad asked for my offer letter. I found it pretty weird to be honest that what they want to do with offer letter? Are they going to contact my company and ask about me that am I legit working over there or the salary is correct or not lol? And even if they do, will company entertain these kind of things? I mean I personally feel like that would be a joke topic if someone contacts the company to know my authenticity for marriage purpose?

Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years now, and recently I was thinking about breaking up with him for personal reasons. When I brought it up, he literally came up with 100 reasons for us to stay together. I’m talking like he was super adamant about not letting me go.

During this convo, he told me about how his parents have been fighting pretty much since he was a kid, and how he fears that I’ll leave him too, and he won’t be able to handle that. I felt super guilty and emotional, so I decided not to go through with the breakup and just stayed with him.

But then, the next day, I started thinking… what if he made all that up just to make me stay? I mean, he’s a sweet guy and I don’t think he’d lie about something like that, but idkk tbh

His younger sister is kinda an influencer with like 10-15k followers, and she posts a lot about their family like cute pics with their parents and captions like "couple goals," so I always assumed they were this perfect, happy family and ik every family is dysfunctional and how easy it is to fake on social media but still it was kind of sudden for me. Also, my bf told me that his parents were planning to go on a trip to Italy but when I asked about it later (after this convo) he said they cancelled.

In 2 years, he’s never really mentioned anything about his family besides the fun stuff, and it’s just been bugging me now that I’m thinking about it. Maybe i’m just overthinking idk and i’m also not going to ask him ab this bcz if it’s true then me questioning him will hurt him a lot.

But now I’m so confused and just can’t shake the feeling that something’s not adding up. Am I overthinking this or should I be more worried idk i’m so confusedd

Hey everyone,

I (22M) and my girlfriend (22F) are planning to move to Canada in 2026 for higher studies and better career opportunities. We’re both really serious about our future — we’ve been working hard, researching colleges, and preparing for this move for a while now.

The problem is: her parents are saying they won’t allow her to go abroad unless she’s married. It’s not necessarily about me specifically — they just have this belief that they won’t send an unmarried daughter abroad, which is a pretty common mindset in some Indian families. They’re worried about her safety, societal pressure, and “log kya kahenge” kind of things.

We’re both not opposed to the idea of marriage — we do see a future together — but we weren’t planning to take that step just yet. We’re still figuring out our lives, finances, and education plans. It feels a bit rushed to get married just to be allowed to move abroad.

Has anyone here dealt with something similar? How did you navigate it?

Should we: • Consider a court marriage just to fulfill their requirement? • Try to convince them with a strong education/career plan? • Get engaged or do a roka to ease the pressure without rushing a full marriage? • Delay her departure until we both are ready for marriage?

Writing this on behalf of a friend

I F 23 is an English literature masters student. The guy I am dating a guy from a month who's an assistant professor in English at an university. We met at a conference and we are doing long distance. I met him once before we started dating and once after. We bond through literature but we tend to disagree as well. Our most of the conversation turn into discussing literature rather than normal couple conversation.

The last time we met, we were dating and we also attended a conference together. There's this one professor who was chairperson and was from a very renowned university. He's infamous for being a sex predator but he's also influential and can get me job after my masters so I kept in contact with him. When I met him during conference he put his hands on my shoulder which hurt my bf. We fought over this. According to him I should cut that professor off. Also he wanted to cut off other professors who are influential as well. Last time my presentation went well and was far better than his, which I guess made him feel inferior or something. I feel like he sees me as competition. Idk what to do.

So main story short idk when Im in my early teen like in school I look like below average guy and at that time my height is 5.4 I think and now I’m in college 1st year but when I’m doing skin care and testosterone hits me idk I went from below average face card to a handsome face card and my height is also now 5.9 ft and now i feel like how that happen from below average to a good handsome face card…! Because a lot of girl I met online and people told me you got a good face and an average height but

I’m still insecure I didn’t talk to any girl in my college 1 year is ending soon but no Interaction with any girl because I’m Insecure of my looks still and main thing is in my mine always one question why girls are not approaching me why do I approach a girl and because of this mentality still i got no intersection with any girl any thought guy how can I approach girl in my college anything??