r/abandoned 3d ago

An Old Abandoned Cemetery in the Woods Along a Trail

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u/GrayhatJen 3d ago edited 3d ago

Happy 141st Death Day, Mary.

I would think it would have been inconceivable to imagine that in the year 2025, strangers from places unknown would be remembering you on the day of your death. But considering all of the change you witnessed in your 96 years, perhaps it wouldn't have seemed all that odd.

I hope your life was filled with more happiness than not, and I hope your passing was a gentle one.

Whether your memory exists today in the family tree of some modern-day descendant or not, if there is another place we all go, I sincerely hope that wherever you are, you can feel the care with which we all remember you here today.

(picture 15)

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u/edwinssometimes 3d ago

oh wow, that's crazy! legitimately didn't notice that one. unfortunately that looks to be her date of death :(

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u/GrayhatJen 3d ago

Oops! I'll change it to something else. My eyes zeroed in on the April 1884 so fast that I missed that it was her death date even though that headstone layout is so common.

She lived a whole lot of years. I hope she lived a life that was as happy as could be expected.

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u/GrayhatJen 3d ago

I knew some of the other names in the cemetery sounded familiar, so I went digging. Found the family right away, and the next thing I know, there was findagrave in my results.

As per a clipping posted on findagrave from a local newspaper, our friend Mary was widowed in 1854 and at the time of her death had buried 13 of her 14 children.

BUT, I am ecstatic to report that in addition to her daughter, our Mary, who was known to locals as Aunt Mary, was also survived by over 80 grandchildren, great grandchildren, and great great grandchildren, all of who continued to live in the same county as her.

Aunt Mary was hale and hearty to the end, it appears, so much so that another piece of print predicted just a short time before her death that she would make it to well past 100.

She liked to knit, collect chestnuts, and spend Thursday afternoons with her friend, Betty. (35 years people. They spent every Thursday afternoon hanging out for three and a half decades. Just wow.)

Another redditor linked to the cemetery. I'll go ahead and link right to Aunt Mary's memorial.

The images on findagrave are from about a decade ago. The site has clearly had a very rough time. In at least one of OPs pics, it appears that a large tree fell on one side of the fence, which explains the abandoned saw and likely the stones that were broken.

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u/snowlake60 3d ago

Look at how proud they were of her longevity: 96 years, 4 months and 23 days. I wonder how many descendants she has? It’s a nice piece of history.

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u/yuckystanky 3d ago

My eyes are shitty, are you able to read anymore??

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u/GrayhatJen 3d ago

Found her family, which led me to findagrave, which led me to a pic of the headstone from a decade ago, and someone had already transcribed it. I think there are four lines of script at the bottom, but it's not visible on the other image either. Bummed over that, but wait until you all see what else I found there.

Mary Wife of John VanGorden Born Nov. 8th 1787 Died Apr 1 1884 Aged 96 Years 4 Mos & 23 Dys

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u/yuckystanky 3d ago

Your research is impressive

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u/GrayhatJen 3d ago

I appreciate that, though to be fair, this time around, I just found the work that others had already done.

Research is kind of my jam. And I enjoy looking into buildings, businesses, land parcels, you name it, as much as I enjoy researching people for genealogical purposes.

It's just really cool to fill out the picture, ya know. All of these gorgeous abandoned places that were once vastly different. It's dope.

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u/edwinssometimes 1d ago

absolute legend behavior ngl. appreciate the time you took to research all that, even if others had already done part of the work. that's still mad impressive 🙏🏻

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u/Sea-Case-9879 2d ago

That is so cool to have known she was born in the 1700’s.

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u/TheAraon 3d ago

Well, that’s a date of her death. So maybe happy 141st deathday?

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u/GrayhatJen 3d ago

That's exactly what I was thinking.

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u/Constant-Anteater-58 2d ago

It’s an April fools joke. She’s actually alive and well.

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u/tideshark 2d ago

Beautifully said

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u/badskinjob 2d ago

Shes prolly rolling over in her grave now that her social security check didn't show up this month lol

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u/jazzhandsdancehands 3d ago

My favourite thing to find along with churches!

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u/edwinssometimes 3d ago

i need to find some old abandoned church so bad 😭

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u/jazzhandsdancehands 3d ago

It'll be there somewhere- usually go hand in hand. Most likely fallen down though if it's super in the middle of nowhere.

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u/grizzlor_ 2d ago edited 2d ago

I've run across many similar small cemeteries that never had an adjacent church. They're usually family plots, located on land that the family used to (or still does) own. They are all over New England; there's one in the woods about 5 minute walk from the house I grew up in.

I'm struggling to read the gravestones, it's pretty easy to identify this variety of graveyard because everyone buried there will have the same last name (although sometimes you'll find a couple different last names in the same family cemetery if, for example, a daughter inherited the farm and took her husband's family name).

If there was an adjacent church, good chance that you'd just find its foundation at this point.

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u/jazzhandsdancehands 2d ago

Here we've found churches waaayyy hidden a decent spot away from the graves. These have usually been moved at some point from the cemetery. Mostly due to people buying them then they move them and nothing around to sustain living. So it gets buried in the bush!

Def sift through find a grave you might get lucky! I take a cloth with me and use my camera to try and read what was there to get the info!

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u/Radiant-Maple 3d ago

Thank you for the excellent pictures of this very old cemetery. It looks like the fence has been reinforced and Hannah’s gravestone (picture 9) was repaired many years ago. Marvelous detail. I can make out 1831, not sure if birth or death year. Really cool! Is this in the US?

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u/Blenderx06 2d ago

I noticed several headstones had been repaired. Someone obviously put a lot of care into this cemetery once upon a time. Sad to see it abandoned now but so it goes.

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u/PvtJoker227 3d ago

Cool fence.

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u/Gullible-Lie2494 3d ago

Was going to say, must have cost a fortune.

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u/Round-Importance7871 3d ago

The fence really gives it a beautiful vibe and I love how the moss has slowly begun to creep on the bottom of the gravestones.

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u/Heterodynist 3d ago

I love those old iron gates. I used to run a cemetery just like that.

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u/Goldilocks1454 3d ago

You might want to also post this in r/CemeteryPorn

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u/crazy_goat 2d ago

That link stays blue

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u/KnotiaPickle 2d ago

Why? It’s a lovely subreddit dedicated to interesting tombstones and history.

The “porn” is not that porn, I promise. It’s like “design porn” or “food porn,” but for graveyards.

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u/NinaBrwn 1d ago

It’s just like r/AbandonedPorn. Yeah sometimes we get literal abandoned porn, but it’s 99.9% abandoned buildings and sites.

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u/mrcanard 3d ago

Guaranteed, some will dispute this site being abandoned.

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u/Welcome440 3d ago

Looks well marked.

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u/SilentBtAmazing 1d ago

Leaf litter less than two seasons I would say

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u/MissLemon221b 3d ago

what a beautiful place 🖤

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u/Specialist-Essay-726 3d ago

Abandoned?! Did you check??

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u/Total_Disrespect 1d ago

Right? A few people definitely still 'live' there!

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u/Time2play1228 3d ago

I have done a massive amount of "Lost" cemetery work in rural West Tennessee. This cemetery is being taken care of. Around our area in Tennessee, "Decoration Day" is an annual event where families go to their families plots and maintain them. If it wasn't, fallen tree limbs fallen rotten trees etc. Would make the area hard to see if it wasn't for the fence. The fence is made of sections of cast iron. The fence has been repainted within the last 20 years or else it would be brown with rust. If the place had ever been neglected it is likely that a piece of the fence would have been damaged by timber fall. A falling tree or limb is what broke one of the stones in the pictures, then later a family member cleared it out and cemented the broken section of the stone back in place. Probably in the last 30 years since adhesives to make this repair were not readily available at hardware stores before this time. This is most likely a family plot. We have them out in the country where I live. It is usually big farm / plantation families. Those families generally had money and the families decendents inherited the large farms and passed them down from generation to generation, or eventually sold the property as it was divided up. It is typical that these descendants maintain a loyalty to the family history. I have 4 of these types of plots within 3 miles of my home. The stones that are outside the iron fence and that are in a more unkempt state are more than likely slaves. Wealthy owners would pay for a headstone for a long time loyal slave that had served them well and buried them near the "Family".. You will notice on one picture of the "colored" area that at one point, probably 1930' - 1940's that concrete fence posts were installed for a wire fence to go around the colored section. You can see the small holes in the sides of those post. The post are leaning over because a tree or large tree limb fell on a fence wire section and pulled the posts over. It probably broke the fence wire in the process and the families that have maintained the area have cut the wire out to reduce tripping hazards. Regardless of your views on slavery, a significant amount of slave owners considered certain slaves as part of the family. Most of the field working slaves would be buried near this area probably in a seperate plot with wooden crosses marking the grave that have long since rotted away. We have found these lost spots by talking to old folks that have lived here all of their lives and then going to an area and looking for the presence of the ground cover plant typically called Vinca. Old church yards and cemetery plots were planted with it and it would cover the ground about 6 inches high and the grass and weeds would not live there. It thrived in sun or shade. So when you find a large plot of Vinca in the woods near a big old cotton field you know you probably have located the resting place of regular enslaved field hands. I love seeing places like this where the family is actively taking care of a relic from their past. Good, bad, ugly, or beutiful, it simply is a monument to a different time and way of life.

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u/Time2play1228 3d ago

In addition to what I just talked about, concerning slave graves. My West Tennessee home was built in 1846 and was the plantation home for a 1200 acre operation. The last houskeeper that worked in the main house here didn't leave until the mid 1970's. Her family had been working here since before the Civil War. Two field hands lived and worked here until the late 1960's. The point that I am getting get to is that a lot of the slaves stayed on with their plantation families. Most plantation owners around this area had a good relationship with their slaves. Many of these emancipated colored people kept working at the plantation after the Civil War. The housekeeper servants could have very well been buried beside the "Family" plot even after the Civil War.

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u/Noff-Crazyeyes 3d ago

His place should be cleaned up would look amazing with a day or two of love and care

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u/edwinssometimes 1d ago

mentioned that to my friend i go to these places with. not just in regards to this place, but others too. so many of these forgotten places are left to rott or have people come and tear shit apart. would be nice to visit some of these and clean them up a bit.

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u/Acceptable_Mirror235 3d ago

Excellent photography.

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u/edwinssometimes 1d ago

thank you!! 🫶🏻

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u/Dirtdane4130 2d ago

DO NOT! Bury your cat there. Saw this documentary about that place and it’s fucked!

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u/Outrageous-Excuse-75 2d ago

That's so cool!!!

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u/SadNana09 2d ago

This is so awesome. Thanks for sharing your photos.

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u/HappyHappyGirl1976 2d ago

Amazing pics, thanks for sharing.

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u/Calm_Frosting_4670 2d ago

Meh... someone is probably... strike that; definitely hitching a ride home with you for eternity

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u/edwinssometimes 1d ago

nahhh, been to dozens of 'haunted' places, few of them being cemeteries, and haven't had any encounters yet! maybe the nice n chill spirits have attached themselves to me instead lol

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u/Calm_Frosting_4670 1d ago

My friend and I used to have picnics with em in some really old wagon trail days cemeteries in Kansas. We'd find someone who was our age when they passed and talk to them. That year, I started seeing ghosts. But they never scared me; never made me feel uncomfortable. Until I had an ex husband who's family was into Santeria. That's when any encounters I had got dark. . So.. just saying...

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u/LegitimateImpress336 3d ago

That would be awesome if that guy who's famous for restoring gravestones got a hold of this cemetery

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u/fritz_ramses 3d ago

This is a beautiful cemetery.

Did it feel spooky/haunted?

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u/edwinssometimes 1d ago

nope! felt very calm and relaxing honestly! been to two other cemeteries left to time, and same feeling each time. as someone who goes exploring plenty of spooky abandoned and likely haunted places, cemeteries are easily the most relaxing places.

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u/fritz_ramses 1d ago

Thanks for the response.

“Left to time” is a beautiful expression.

Have you ever been to a place where you felt something? A positive or negative presence?

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u/OvertlyPetulantCat 3d ago

Nothing haunted about this place AT ALL.

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u/Goldilocks1454 3d ago

Very cool find.

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u/billiarddaddy 3d ago

Technically, I dont think cemeteries are ever abandoned.

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u/MaterialSpell9007 3d ago

That sounds eerie! Abandoned cemeteries often have a haunting history. Have you researched it?

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u/_byetony_ 2d ago

The wrought iron was so beautiful

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u/whackyelp 2d ago

Beautiful little resting place. I hope my body finds a similar peace.

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u/ReadingRainbow5 2d ago

I LOVE this find. I would love to stumble onto something like this

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u/BirthdayNo4802 10h ago

What about the rest of the time? Re: your username

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u/edwinssometimes 10h ago

i'm a loser 😞

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u/BirthdayNo4802 10h ago

Why's that?

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u/edwinssometimes 10h ago

it's just a joke lol sometimes i win, other times i lose!

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u/ofthedappersort 2d ago

What's usually the story with these old little abandoned cemeteries? Are they usually leftover from a house or church that once stood by or did people just go out into the woods and pick out places to start a graveyard?

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u/edwinssometimes 1d ago

don't know what's usually the story exactly, but in this one's case it belongs to a family who live right across the road from here some time ago. don't know the fate of the family exactly, but someone did post in one of the comments here a bit of the history of one of the people buried here.

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u/HarvesternC 3d ago

How is it abandoned, did the corpses take off for a nicer locale?

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u/TLW369 3d ago

😂🙃

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u/Exact-Height6339 17h ago

Would you be able to take photos and load them to Findagrave.com ? Genealogists and Family Historians would be so grateful. 🙏🏼

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u/aegri_mentis 3d ago

By definition, a cemetery cannot be “abandoned”.

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u/Switchlord518 3d ago

I came here ti say this! Unless the bodies are moved... and DON'T JUST MOVE THE HEADSTONES PEOPLE!

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u/v3ndun 2d ago

There are headstones.. not abandoned.

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u/JFordy87 3d ago

Have the bodies left? Looks like a lively place to me. Far from abandoned.

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u/nebulousinsectleg 2d ago

Oh, it's not abandoned. That's for sure.

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u/Remarkable_Bowl2464 2d ago

All I see are free bones!

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u/Entire-Homework-1339 2d ago

I don't think the ghosts would call it abandoned 😕

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u/MadCityMasked 1d ago

Umm it isn't overgrown. The county takes care of it.

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u/MadCityMasked 1d ago

Umm it isn't overgrown. The county takes care of it. Not really abandoned