r/adhdwomen • u/AsleepYellow3 • 2d ago

Meme Therapy Is this why I’m somewhat stable?

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So I still live with my parents because I can’t afford to live comfortably in my own country. I feel like my life is somewhat structured because I do a lot of things because I’m in my parent’s house. But I can’t help but think I would be on the right side of I could live by my own means.

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u/AromaticSun6312 2d ago

I actually feel more structured living on my own. Currently living with my parents & I can’t create my own schedule because of having to work around other peoples schedules & just not having the (physical) space to be more structured/organized

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u/404_kinda_dead 2d ago

This is more me, but I also hate being perceived. Living with people had me stuck in a bedroom and only coming out if I 100% needed to, sometimes after overthinking whether I need to.

Nope, living alone may give me more ability to ignore things when I want to but it’s levels better than living with parents

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u/AromaticSun6312 2d ago

Literally same exact feeling about being stuck in the bedroom. I love my family but sometimes I’ll hide out in my bedroom because I don’t wanna talk or be talked to 😂

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u/synalgo_12 2d ago

Being hungry but having to pass by the living room to get food, so having to choose between hunger or being perceived by others has taken up so much energy between my teenage years and buying my own place, it's incredible to think about in hindsight.

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u/404_kinda_dead 2d ago

YES! I knew if I walked out I’d be berated about something, either the eating itself or cleaning, staying in my room, reading, homework, tv, literally anything I was doing. Sadly my decision was always to stay hungry until everyone went to sleep, then I’d go out to eat.

To no one’s surprise, hiding food and eating at night was a bad idea and gave me a terrible relationship with food 🤡

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u/midnightauro 2d ago

Leaving my room meant my mother might see me and that would remind her that she hadn’t gone off on me in the past thirty minutes.

My room was safe purely from an out of sight, out of mind context.

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u/Neptunie 2d ago

This was me growing up but with my sister. But add in the bathroom situation. I would dread when I would need to use it to bath/shower, because she had no problem barging in if she needed something even though I constantly articulated I was uncomfortable with that.

I literally started to avoid using the same bathroom to try to prevent it, but then my hygiene took a nose dive and that was a new thing she would berate me over. The complaint would span either, why are you taking so long?, why are you using the bathroom so late?, why don’t you use the bathroom upstairs?, it doesn’t matter I’m not looking at you, etc.

Even as adults she’s still that way (berating if I don’t do something in the way she wants)

The fact my sister wants us to live together due to how much the cost of living has increased because she doesn’t want to move back home is….such a hard pass for me 🫠