r/adhdwomen • u/AsleepYellow3 • 3d ago

Meme Therapy Is this why I’m somewhat stable?

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So I still live with my parents because I can’t afford to live comfortably in my own country. I feel like my life is somewhat structured because I do a lot of things because I’m in my parent’s house. But I can’t help but think I would be on the right side of I could live by my own means.

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u/AutomaticInitiative 2d ago

External structure is so, so, so important to ADHDers, and having a warm, supportive family surrounding you is one of the strongest ways to have stability as an adult ADHDer. It gives you safety to be you and have a safety net.

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u/Time-Turnip-2961 2d ago

Well I never had that lol so moving out at least I wasn’t controlled and criticized.

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u/AutomaticInitiative 2d ago

Honestly same. But seeing friends I made as an adult who have worse ADHD than me have totally different lives because they have supportive families has convinced me theyre very beneficial if you have it. Unfortunately for the rest of us, who weren't allowed to have needs and had every move criticized, moving out is the best thing we can do for ourselves. I am more than a decade from moving out and got diagnosed, on meds and have fully turned it around. Even managed to build relationships with family based on respect, as they've thankfully mellowed over time.