Disneyland is magical. Expensive but beautifully wholesome🧚🏾‍♀️❤️. My gosh I felt like a kid looking at that castle. The music, the dancers, it was so amazing I was tearing up😭😭😭 I've always wanted to go to Disneyland and I finally did it at the big 32. Can't wait to update my photo albums happy claps

Budget friendly protective style someone can tryy🫶🏽 , I just cornrowed the front of my hair or you can do flat twist, brushed up the back of my hair into a ponytail. Added the marley hair to a scrunchie, then attached it to my hair and then just crocheted 2 pieces in the front. Lastly I bobby pinned some peices of the marley hair in the back to my hair so the ponytail dont move so much .Only cost $10 for the hair .💁🏾‍♀️

Lucille Robert’s shut down recently so I’m going to another gym- to be met with stares from men every time I go. Today this guy would not look away to save his life.. This is how he watched me do every workout in the vicinity… Even as I moved from machine to machine. Do better!!!

P.S. I’ve never recorded a stranger in my life & I don’t want to make a habit out of it. But being stared at for 30+ mins straight? He deserves it.

Im married now but I wanted to come here and give this basic advice. Do your own background check on these men BEFORE you get dickmatized Sis.

It’s ok to ask a man to see his ID. Ive done it before. Tell him you want to see his license picture Or just fckn ask to see it. As precious as you are? The least you can confirm is the name of the person you’re dating. Do a basic basic background check for free. After you get his name go to

1. Sheriffs website. Some counties list arrests, you may be able to do a basic background check for a fee. 2. Clerk of courts. Search name and address. Any court cases with his name? If so, get the case number and read the docket. I’ll read the whole court case if I need to.
   

2. Google his name. Hell, I google my own name too.

3. Go to the sex offender registry for your own knowledge. You’d be surprised.

And check all the cities he’s lived in.

I had a lady trying to hook me up with her nephew. I casually ask, “you ever been arrested “. He said “you know the cops be fckn with a ni**a”.

Swear to beans i went to the Clerk of Courts Website and saw every time he was arrested the court cases and charges were listed. He had a theft charge, muliple domestic violence charges. He told me A girl called the cops on him for keeping her car too long. Unauthorized use of a vehicle for 48 hours was the charge. Some charges you may be able to live with. NONE of them were charges I could live with.

I hate to be like this but these men ain’t ——— And I can help just one person.

I’m literally on the verge of tears, I have school tomorrow and I feel so ugly, my scalp hurts and the color looks so bad on my skin tone. I should not have even gotten these braids because now I am severely regretting it.

Is there anything that van salvage these? PLEASE

I was so excited to get my hair done and be stress free but it feels like my stress levels just skyrocketed, I should have just gotten black and now I’m stuck with these 😭😭 this is what I get for being adventurous

The way I regretted wearing shorts when the UK wind hit 😭😭😭

Raleigh just announced that the festival will continue under a new name, but still using the Dreamville label and with J. Cole involved behind the scenes for the next four years. He won’t headline anymore, but city officials say he “has his hands all over it.” They also said the format and genre focus will stay the same—centered on what’s worked in the past.

But let’s be real: this feels like a shift. And anytime something Black-owned or Black-led starts changing names and bringing in more corporate partners (Live Nation is involved), there’s a real risk of the culture getting diluted. Dreamville stood out because it centered Black artists, hip hop, R&B, and gave space to up-and-comers. Will this new version still feel like that? Or is it going to slowly turn into another mainstream music fest with a curated playlist and a few rap headliners to keep up appearances?

What do y’all think? Can the spirit of Dreamville survive this rebrand, or is this the beginning of the end?

Just needed to vent. Two days before my wedding, my cousin canceled on me—and it really hurt. I had told her months ago to order her dress, even sent her multiple options to make it easier. She waited until a month before the wedding to order it, and then claimed she couldn’t be in the wedding because it didn’t arrive on time. It felt like a weak excuse, especially so close to the big day.

Thankfully, my fiancé stepped up and called his friend, and his friend’s girlfriend filled in last-minute. They were able to find a dress just in time and really saved the day. But I shouldn’t have even been in that situation.

Later, I found out the real reason my cousin bailed—her boyfriend didn’t want to be her plus one, and he also doesn’t want to marry her. So I ended up being caught in the middle of her relationship problems.

To make things worse, yesterday, one of my cousins from my dad’s side made a comment about how she can’t keep braids in because she has “white people hair,” unlike me. I had “ black people hair “. I had braids in, so she assumed I had 4c hair. I corrected her and told her my hair is actually 3c/4a. Black people can have many different textures of hair.It’s not the first time I’ve had to deal with texturist or colorist comments from them. They also kept talking about how they’re light-skinned, like that’s something to brag about.

On top of all that, both my uncle and grandma on my dad’s side of the family wouldn’t stop commenting on my weight. I’m 136 pounds now. I used to be 120, but I’m curvier now—pear-shaped—and I work out regularly. I’m healthy and feel good about myself, but hearing those comments on what’s supposed to be a joyful time really got to me.

I’ve had issues with my dad’s side of the family for years, and this whole situation just reminded me why I keep them at a distance.

Have been talking to a guy for a month who started out applying pressure but by last week was texting and calling sporadically with no plans to hang out. I reiterated my need for in person connection and consistency. I told him if he didn’t prioritize dates, I would see myself out. He promised to be better at it, but with no action. I was tired of feeling like I was the only one who cared, spiraling over him going full days without contacting me. In order to save myself from months or years of pain, I sent this text:

“Hey this isn’t going to work & I don’t see it going anywhere. I want something serious so I require consistency & in person time together. You can’t offer that and that's completely fine. Wish you well”

Most people would say ghosting would’ve been the right call, but leaving that door slightly open wouldn’t be healthy for me. So I sent it. He left me on read, and that killed me. But honestly, what could he have said? At the same time, my ego wanted him to apologize, beg, and make the active effort to do better. But I shouldn’t have to take such drastic measures to force him to respect my boundaries. He simply just didn’t see it as worth it, and that isn’t a reflection of my worth. I’m still super disappointed and getting over this short talking stage, and I’m proud of myself for standing on my requirements and not settling for breadcrumbs.

I’m still so hurt. 😭 just needed to vent. 💔

I get it’s not real, but 😭

I’ve been reflecting lately on the wisdom we pass to one another, and how a simple sentence from another Black woman can really stay with you and guide you through life. Whether it came from your mama, a friend, a mentor, or even a stranger—what’s a piece of advice that truly stuck with you? I’d love to hear the gems that have helped shape your journey.

I was in a domestic violence situation with my husband where he choked me when he found out I was pregnant about a month ago. I called the police and he only did 48 hours.

Cps is now involved because he did it in front of our kids. I picked up and left with my kids, they told me if I stayed with him that they will take my kids. So I did what I needed and left immediately.

He is upset at me for listening to CPS saying that they are trying to scare me. Because I won’t tell him where the kids and I are. He said “I wish you were more black because you wouldn’t call the cops and get them involved. You also wouldn’t care about telling me where you are! You acting scary of the police!”

I just need to vent. I have never heard of such a thing. He kept calling me white washed like wtf.

I recently ended a 4 month long relationship with a man I became very attached too very soon. I am 31 now and I don’t crash out over men too often but I am hurt. No clue why I am so hurt because he didn’t do much for me and I lowered my standards to be able to justify why I was dating him- but it hurts all the same. I have it planned to workout more (core restorative yoga, and more walks) and to get back into my hobbies (woodworking, candle making, heavy reading) but I still want to free my mind of this man. I know that no matter how busy I make myself, I will still think about him and how I ended it (with 10 drunk but very truthful texts at 8pm). I wanted to ask advice on how to reroute my mind so I won’t obsess over this. I’m sorry this is long winded, I hope for a little bit of clarity from any likeminded women. Thank you 🤍

This may be an opportunity for Democrats to elect a qualified Black woman to lead the country’s largest city, less than a year after the bruising loss of Kamala Harris, the first Black woman to lead a major party presidential ticket.

I’m 27 and I’ve never been on a date but I live in a random city in Virginia. I’ve had so many bad relationships and friendships I’m lowkey wary of trying anything new. Black women deserve the best and I haven’t always gotten that. It also seems like men are always talking to 5 girls so their never truly single

Tips?

What are features that you like about the game? (Kind of need a request met too, if possible) And I’ll be very honest here. I feel like black people design houses way different from white people. So are there any houses on canvas that can relate to our style.

I need uplifting words. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost six months and so so long distance. I recently had a birthday and he forgot it even though I mentioned it in one previous conversation and even mentioned in a text. I am learning now that I like him more and more invested so I decided to let him know that I don't want to be taken for granted and will walk away from the relationship if he is willing to make a commitment to be more creative in being there for each other. I've cried a bit this week so looking for some encouragement and advice.

Calling all arms! Please help. I am 43yo and have a scattered amount of college credits to my name. I know. I know. I know I need a degree. I cannot figure out what for or for what.

Unfortunately I am not passionate about anything, or at least, haven't found it. That being said I need a job/career where I can make a decent living. Please be gentle and throw some ideas my way. I can't keep living paycheck to paycheck.

(I know nursing is a popular one, but I'm a bit squeamish and otherwise disinclined.)

I've been in need of a path for twenty years now. What can I do.

I’m 21 and met a 25-year-old guy recently. We went on two really fun dates last week, and everything felt like it was moving in a good direction. The chemistry was there, conversation flowed, and yeah—I ended up sleeping with him. We also live in the same building, which I know is risky, but at the time it felt exciting.

He left for a trip on Monday and is supposed to be coming back today. While he was away, he was checking in daily—just little messages here and there. Then out of nowhere… silence. He’s now left me on delivered for over 24 hours, hasn’t viewed my IG stories like he’s ignoring me, hasn’t posted anything on IG either (part of me wonders if he restricted me), and I can’t shake this gut feeling that he met someone while on his trip.

And honestly? That would be fair. We’re both single, still technically getting to know each other, and we never had the conversation. But the abrupt switch in energy just sucks. It makes me feel disposable. Like how do you go from warm and consistent to completely MIA without even a, “Hey, things have changed”?

To top it off, I remembered I left my bra at his place. Of course.

I’m not really looking for advice—I already know I need to emotionally detach and move on. I’m just venting because this weird, messy “early stages” phase of dating is hard, especially when you genuinely like someone and they just… disappear.

Thanks for reading if you made it this far.

EDIT: Okay, I’ve come to the conclusion to cut him off. It’s been nearly over 48 hours on delivered and I believe he’s muted me on Instagram. Guess I won’t be getting that bra back😗

My 32nd bday is today, I never do to much. As long as I’m off work and eating good I’m happy! So tonight I have a big dinner at a nice restaurant planned with family, I’m excited. Well yesterday my mom told me some news about an uncle of mine, that he has 2 adult daughters out there somewhere that he hasn’t told anyone about. And the women reached out to my mom on Facebook. And the worst about this news is that my uncle was in his 40s when he was dealing with their mothers and these two women mothers were 13 to 15 years old smh And my uncle also went to prison for touching on my cousin about 10/15 years ago. I don’t want my uncle no where around me today. Why tf would she invite him to my bday dinner! I don’t understand what’s wrong with her, no matter who the individual is brother, father cousin or anything. If you have done some sick shit and manipulated/hurt innocent people, I don’t want you near me. I no longer know you. My mom and the rest of her siblings have a hard time with this! Last month we had a funeral and I had an aunt who invited this uncle to the repass where my cousin was!!! The same cousin he molested and went to jail over and than tried to convince everyone she lied!!! We had older cousins curse that aunt out at the end of the night because how could you! I’m tired of this family dynamic that we have. Where they force you in rooms with problematic family members, force to think it’s ok to forget, it all happened decades ago way of acting like this shit is wrong. Just had to vent

It’s been 46 days since things ended with someone I was deeply attached to, and I still feel like I’m spiraling. We weren’t officially together, but the emotional connection was real for me. I opened up. I cared. I gave him the softest, most loyal parts of myself. And in the beginning, he made me feel like I mattered.

But then he started getting cold. Distant. Rude, even. When I finally called him out for how he was treating me, he responded with cruelty. He laughed at me. Mocked me. Said things like “Shorty I do not want you” and “Tf lol.” Then: “I don’t think about you ever.” He told me I didn’t matter, said I was “doing too much,” and called me a “f*in crazy woman.” He said he didn’t even enjoy being intimate with me and that I should stop caring because he doesn’t care about me.

He told me he has options and is already dating other people. That I didn’t matter in the big picture.

But here’s the thing—despite saying he didn’t want anything to do with me as far back as September, he continued to test the waters. Still watched my Instagram stories. Still checked in. Still acted like he cared just enough to keep me tethered. He even slept with me in January. Again in February. And afterward, when he couldn’t finish, he acted weird and uncomfortable—like it was somehow my fault. Just more mixed signals, more silence, more confusion.

It wasn’t just the harsh ending that hurt—it was the history. The way he’d show up, then pull away. The way he’d say one thing and do another. The way he’d make me feel wanted, then flip and make me feel like a burden. That whiplash is what’s wrecking me the most.

And I’ll be honest: I was recently diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. I now understand that I feel things more intensely than most. I can love hard and spiral when I feel abandoned or dismissed. But I never meant to be too much. I tried to be patient, understanding, and respectful. I just wanted clarity. Connection. Safety.

Today I looked at his story from my real account (then blocked him again), and saw him take the same girl he once downplayed to a baseball game. A few months ago, it was a basketball game. Thoughtful, expensive dates. Public affection. Intentional effort.

Meanwhile, I never got anything close to that. I remember one time I was picking up groceries, and he didn’t even offer to help. I didn’t want his money—I just wanted to feel cared for.

Now I’m left wondering if I did something to make him hate me. If I forced someone to treat me like this. If I broke something by being too emotional or too available. And it hurts. So much.

He seems fine. Happy. Living life. Meanwhile, I’m stuck in the wreckage. Blaming myself. Wishing it had gone differently. Replaying everything and still aching for someone who clearly doesn’t think twice about me.

If you’ve ever loved someone who made you feel disposable… if you’ve ever been strung along with mixed signals and cruelty and still found yourself missing them—how did you cope?

Because tonight, I genuinely feel like I’m about to crash out.

The only plus side about this is that I’m still going strong with being sober. Didn’t drink today at all, I’m just deeply saddened by things and trying to get out if this despair I’m feeling now

Hello beautiful Black queens. My goddesses. 🕸️✨

This post is for all of us, especially those of us who grew up hating our hair, and didn’t even realize that we were taught to hate ourselves too.

Because hating our hair is never just about hair. It’s a grief we carry in our crowns. It’s ancestral. It’s spiritual. It’s systemic.

And I’m here to say… I’m unlearning it. I am not perfect, and I do not know everything.

This is my first real journey into my natural hair, and it’s not just a switch, it’s a return. I’ve been researching hair for years, trying to learn how to care for it. But I never implemented what I knew. Why? Because I was scared. Because I thought my hair was too short. Too difficult. Too... “ugly.”

Because somewhere deep down, I believed that 4C/4D hair like mine wasn’t worthy of being seen.

That belief didn’t come from nowhere. It came from centuries of erasure. Centuries of being told that spirals/curls were shameful, that our crowns needed to be hidden, cut, or tamed. I internalized that. And I’m still unlearning it. But now? I’m looking at my hair with new eyes. With respect. With sacred love.

I was inspired to write about this because, I recently came across a content creator (divinitydeus) on TikTok whose videos changed everything. He’s deeply connected to himself, to God, to the spiritual and the scientific sides of hair growth. And his energy is different. I binge-watched everything in one sitting.

Because it wasn’t just hair tips. It was truth. It was remembrance.

He reminded me of what I’ve always known in my spirit but never had the words for:
Our hair is not random. Our hair is divine design.

What I learnt about natural/black/type 4 hair(because that is my specific hair type and the most hated unfortunately - i mention this only causse this is my particular experience, and i cannot speak for other hair types but this post is for all black people regardless of hair type) is that...

• Type 4 hair isn’t just one thing. 4C, 4B, 4D, our coils are like fingerprints. They’re unique. No two are the same. This goes for other hair types too.
  
• You can’t “fix” your hair. You can only know it. Work with it. Honor it.
• Our hair is ALIVE. It expands, contracts, curls tighter when dry, stretches when nourished. It listens. It remembers.
• And YES IT GROWS, it can absolutely grow long. regardless of race. regardless of hair type. OUR HAIR GROWS. Everyone’s hair grows. it’s all about maintenance And PATIENCE.

These are spiritual hair truths that made me see our hair differently:

• Our hair grows in spirals. So do galaxies, tornadoes, DNA, the universe itself. Spirals are sacred. Spirals are creation.
• Our hair is an antenna, it connects us to the divine, the ancestors, the electromagnetic field, and to God.
• Our coils store memory, not just in a poetic sense but energetically. They remember love. They remember shame. They respond to how we treat them.
• Washing is cleansing, physically and spiritually.
• Trimming is releasing, letting go of spiritual baggage.
• Styling is intention setting.
• Oiling is anointing.
• This isn’t just “hair care.” It’s ritual. It’s sacred work.

Everything that was erased is what we have to reclaim.

Our ancestors’ hair was shaved for hundreds of years.
Their crowns were stripped. Their spirals were silenced.
They weren’t allowed to wear their hair out. They weren’t allowed to hold their antennas high.
So when I wear my hair out now, it’s not just for me...

It’s for THEM.
Eye am the living continuation of what they weren’t allowed to express.

They survived so I could exist. So I could grow. So you could exist, so you could grow.

We Deserve To Love Our Hair

Type 4 hair, black hair, natural hair is not weak.
It’s not too much.
It’s not too difficult.
It’s not “bad” hair.
It’s the oldest texture on this planet. It’s the blueprint.

Straight hair isn’t “the original”, it’s a mutation of the spiral.
Our coils are divine. They stretch to the sun. They protect our ends by coiling in. They shrink not because they’re damaged, but because they’re alive.
They contract to conserve moisture. They remember.
Our hair is not stubborn.
Our hair is intelligent.
Our hair is literally the most moldable, and most magickal hair on this planet.
No other texture can do what our hair does.
Twist it. Clump it. Braid it. Puff it. Stretch it. Coil it. Shape it.
Infinite styles. Infinite possibility. Infinite creation.
Our hair doesn’t just hang. It speaks.
It’s a shape-shifter. A reflection of the divine creative force.

So to the girl who is struggling with her hair:

I see you. I was you.
And I want you to know this:
Your hair is not your enemy. It’s your ally.
It’s been waiting for you to notice it. To respect it. To partner with it.
You don’t have to know everything today. You don’t have to do it perfectly.
Just begin.
Your ancestors, God...whoever you believe in, is with you every step of the way.

Please...let us heal collectively. We deserve to heal. We really really do.

Wear your crown. Not just because it’s beautiful, but because it’s powerful. Because it’s sacred. Because it is You.

Take what resonates, Leave what does not. 🕸️
<eye am what eye am, and eye am everything>

As the title states, I’m looking to get my hair professionally coloured and wanted to know if anyone knows of any reliable hair stylists that can colour hair well. I’m looking to go blonde so I definitely want it done right! Any advice and tips would be appreciated, thanks all