r/jobs • u/nothingguy22 • 1d ago

Unemployment Depressed for failing my gf

Hello,

I been unemployed for over a year with no luck applying for any jobs. I have 5+ years dispatch / customer service experience but I burned out and ended up with a resume full of jobs that didn't last 2-3 months after my main job of 4 years. I was having existential crisis at age 30, I'm 31 now and 1.5 months ago started dating a beautiful girl who has 2 beautiful babies. We want me to be in the step father role but I'm too broke. I have like 1600 dollars left and I'm pretty much gonna run out of money any day here. I'm not even gonna have gas money to go pick her up anymore, let alone go on any dates. I'm depressed as you can possibly get. I am a failure, and no job will take me seriously. I don't remember it ever being this hard to get a job, it use to be as simple as getting a call center job and that was no problem. I have no idea what to do, I ran out of time. I failed her, and I hadn't had any intimacy in years prior to meeting her. She's gonna stick with me no matter what, but I can't even be myself knowing how badly I failed everyone. I don't want to be here, but I won't leave and abandon her. I need a way to make income, but it seems the competition is too fierce and I've fallen far behind with my perceived job hopper resume. I'm screwed

Update: 95 percent of you guys have been so helpful and so appreciated dearly in terms of ideas and encouragement. The other 5 percent who want to fixate on my relationship decisions and such are an odd bunch and are clearly not happy with their own dating lives. But I'm glad I made the post to get so many recommendations from the vast majority, thanks from the bottom of my heart :)

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u/StretcherEctum 1d ago

Go to any gas station and start working. And for God's sake stop gambling.

Edit: you won't work fast good because "you can't keep up"? No wonder you're not being hired if you can't figure out how to make it at a fast good job.

You really need to seek help.

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u/nothingguy22 1d ago

I'm better at working on computers than I am with my hands. What's your deal? Your the one who needs help buddy. Freaking out about nothing

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u/StretcherEctum 1d ago

You've been unemployed for a year and are a gambling addict who refuses to work fast food. You need therapy.

I would and did work ANY job available when I was unemployed.

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u/nothingguy22 1d ago

I wouldn't refuse, I'm saying I wouldn't be good at it. It's a hard job, maybe you never took the time to notice cause you have your nose in the air about something fabricated within yourself. We all need therapy, including you, and though ive been unemployed I've held positions you would tap out from in the first week. Get a life