Thoughts on fidgets in session?

[u/Puzzleheaded_Hat3712]

As a fidgety person, I have always struggled to sit still during sessions. I know in school they always cram it down your throat to be open body language and perfectly still, but I can’t do it. I’ve found that using a fidget during sessions lets me focus on what my clients are saying better as well as observing them. I also can keep the rest of my body still if my hands are busy. I haven’t had a client tell me that I can’t or that they don’t like it when I ask them if they are okay with me using one. I guess my question is, do you all feel that it’s inappropriate for me to use a fidget? Too distracting for the client?

[u/Brixabrak]

If I don't have a fidget, I'm unscrewing my pen and screwing it back together. Or taking my rings off and on.

And if I'm not doing that, I'm picking my nails.

So a fidget is the more ideal tool.

[u/succsuccboi → u/Brixabrak]

feel seen by the taking apart the pen stuff, hope my clients don’t judge too hard when they see me lose the spring and slowly try to find it by glancing down once every 10 seconds while also attending to them

[u/[deleted] → u/Brixabrak]

Same, I anxiously twist, pop, and crack my fingers and knuckles. The problem is, I'm always anxious.

[u/Izzi_Skyy → u/Brixabrak]

Yep, I twirl a pen between my fingers. Often drop it and pick it back up and some clients get a good chuckle and we move on.

[u/SorchasGarden → u/Brixabrak]

Yes to everything said here, especially about dropping anything I'm fidgeting with. 😄