r/travel • u/kobeburner • 2d ago
Images First and Maybe Last Visit to India?
I’ve only visited 18 countries and even though the historical buildings, architecture, and cuisine were incredible, I have little desire to return to India.
As a fairly tall Black American male I stood out among everyone. I was grabbed often, all by men, stared at for an ungodly length of time, and just generally felt overwhelmed and uncomfortable there. The staring is next level. It’s not a glance. It’s a purposeful observation that continues indefinitely. At one point a man was looking at me from a few feet away. I moved to block his view then he moved to get closer to me to continue the gawking.
The poverty is disturbing and the absurd amount of garbage is nightmare fuel for environmentalists. Locals don’t seem to care much about the cleanliness in the urban areas. Watched several people willingly throw trash into the street from apartments and train cars. Why do they do this?
On the other hand, the Taj Mahal is incredible. Easily the most fascinating part of our trip. We’ve been to 6 new world wonders, 7 if we include the Pyramids of Giza, and the TM is in my top 2 with Petra being the best.
Walking through the gate and seeing the mausoleum in the background bathing in the morning light was like stepping into a fairy tale land. We loved it so much, we returned for a second day. There are rooftop bars and restaurants too with incredible views and inexpensive food and booze.
My suggestion visiting India would be to ensure everything is private. Transportation, guides, etc. The logistics can be a pain so the peace of mind of having everything taken care of for you is worth the cost imo.
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u/Necessary-Buffalo288 2d ago
So sorry with what you have felt, OP. Each of our travel experiences are unique and you are free to feel that way.
I am a petite asian woman and traveled to India solo. The country doesn’t have the best reputation when it comes to women’s safety so I took a private tour but that didn’t stop me from getting stared at by locals. Heck, I even got scammed by those photographers in Taj Mahal with very awful photography skills. Had to really be awful and stand my ground to not get scammed further. I would even turn down selfie requests from locals and give the stink eye to people so they stop staring. The scam spoiled my mood that morning but the view of the place made me forget about it instantly.
Will I come back? Most likely, with the intent of visiting the south and combine it with Sri Lanka and Maldives. But at that time, I’ll make sure to bring my husband and son with me. At least by then, I know what to expect and what to look out for.