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This guy's presentation on ADHD is excellent

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=JowPOqRmxNs
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u/[deleted] May 30 '17

Little too late for a prediction

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u/muddywater87 May 30 '17

I was actually diagnosed with ADHD when I was 4 back in 1991. I always thought it was bullshit. Im now 30, I can see all the symptoms and I have to be very conscious of them. My short term memory, distracted easily, and I felt chills when this guy described perfectly the shit that happens to me. My parents never put me on drugs. Back in the early 90's it was riddelin. I just had to learn to deal with it. Now i just carry a small notebook around with lists and notes. It helps a lot, as long as I rememebr to look at it.

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u/_sarahmichelle May 30 '17

Haha. I was going to say everyone suggests lists and notes to me but it's a miracle to get me to remember to look at them.

Similar-ish story. My teachers mentioned to my parents when I was around 4 or 5 that I had trouble paying attention and focusing in class but since I wasn't hyper it was nothing to worry about.

Struggled through every year of school, dropped out of college twice, blah blah blah but I could never figure out why I struggled so much. I just thought I was stupid and hated school because of it.

Guess who just got diagnosed with ADHD at 28?

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u/[deleted] May 30 '17 edited May 30 '17

that has been the problem with me my whole life. in school? "Well didn't you write it down in your planner?" "yea..of course i did...but i forgot to look at it when i got home"

edit: since this comment is getting some traction from people in a similar spot as me, the most important tool you can ever have is a smartphone. Get an app like IFTTT or Tasker(strong learning curve) to display notifications and such when you get to where you need the notification. Use your reminder app to your advantage as well. need to do something by 1pm? set a reminder at 11, 12, 12:15, 12:30, 12:45 and finally 1pm.

It's how ive gotten better about this shit. the hard part is remembering to put it in your phone. What ive learned to do is not go "Okay, you need this by this time, il make a reminder on my phone when we get out of this meeting" and instead go "give me one second, i have to make a reminder" even if the meeting ends in 1 minute. i will forget when i leave the meeting.

know your strengths, know your weaknesses. Know what works for you!

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u/dustybizzle May 30 '17

God, constantly.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '17

Why are you me?!

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u/[deleted] May 30 '17

This. :( So much this.

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u/[deleted] May 30 '17

I have a pen that can write on skin pretty well and I've made up a simple system of pictures to draw reminders on the back of my left hand with enough detail that I remember what the thing was but not too much that I don't have space for anything else. Drawing small pictures also helps a lot with fading and illegibility as opposed to words where 2 hours later you may have no idea what you wrote down.

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u/Fastgirl600 May 30 '17

Try a phone calendar with reminders

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u/bmxking28 May 30 '17

This x1000! It has saved my sanity

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u/_sarahmichelle May 30 '17

Yep. I finally had the sense to set a biweekly reminder to change my contacts. It's set to pop up on my screen in time for me to wake up and works like a dream.

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u/Fastgirl600 May 30 '17

That's a good one... very important you don't want an infection.

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u/_sarahmichelle May 30 '17

I was never very far off so I wasn't entering infection-prone territory. It was more "shit, did I change them last week or the week before?" Or "I know I changed them the week before last but was it Monday or Friday of that week?"

This way, I wake up every other Monday with a notification on my phone that I need to change them and I don't have to spend any energy worrying about trying to remember.

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u/Fastgirl600 May 30 '17

That's exactly what I do about a thousand little things so that I know what I've done and what I have to do with reminders. Set it and off my mind.

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u/Fastgirl600 May 30 '17

Well I'm glad you found something that works for you... that's really what it's about.

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u/dustybizzle May 30 '17

I use Google Keep for notes (including the 3 item lists for when I go to the store and forget why I'm there, ffs), and my phone alarm for reminders that are absolutely crucial (like the 3 days in a row I forgot to pick up my sister-in-law's dog on the way home after work, ffs)

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u/Fastgirl600 May 30 '17

That's a great idea kudos!

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u/dustybizzle May 30 '17

Appreciate the tip from you as well!

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u/SexyMcBeast May 30 '17

Oh my God I do this twice a year. I literally have a stack of agendas and journals with only the first week or two filled out from the last few years

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u/_sarahmichelle May 30 '17

I got into the moleskine weekly planners when I was in school 10 or so years ago. I wrote down every assignment and due date and colour coded each class with highlighters. The left side has a spot for each day of the week and the right side has a ruled page for notes.

When I went back and started an online program in 2013 we were given the entire 4 month course schedule of assignments and due dates each semester so I did the same, but added "hey this is coming up!" notes a week or two before if the assignments were big.

I'm lucky I have a purse to lug it around in. I could easily do all of that on my phone but there's something about writing it down and seeing each week as a whole that makes it easier for me.

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u/dustybizzle May 30 '17

Turning it into a routine or habit is key for sure. It's inconvenient for me to carry, so it gets left somewhere and then forgotten.

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u/_sarahmichelle May 30 '17

Definitely. It added a significant amount of weight to my purse so it got taken out for some reason or another. Sat untouched on my night stand for what I can only think to be 2 or 3 weeks. Doesn't do much sitting there, that's for sore!