IMO I don't think that most of us with ADHD see ourselves as broken, or at least I don't see myself like that. It's like being in a bike race and you have the same bike as everyone else except theirs are 10-speeds and yours only has first gear. I can pedal harder and faster than anybody but am still left in the dust and still get the people that go "wow look how far back he is. He must not care he's just being lazy"
Yeah, people need to realize that not everybody will perform the same at the same tasks.
I fucking hated school, studying, etc... I'm a smart guy (I think) but I fucking hated school, I was always distracted, sleeping or I would get kicked out by my teachers or isolated from the rest of the class.
Was it because of ADHD? No, I was just bored as fuck. Uninterested by the curriculum of my teachers.
As I got older and realized I had passions for technology and wanted to do something interesting with my life, I decided I needed a university degree to get there.
Now I had a GOAL and a PASSION. Suddenly school was super interesting and easy, I wasn't being forced to do meaningless shit, I WANTED to be there. It was fun.
Today I'm a successful 31yo male with a bachelor degree and working for a top company that pays a shit ton of money.
Everybody thought I had a problem, they would even tell me ''Warenfetischismus, you have a problem, etc.''.
Well fuck them, today I know I don't have a problem, I'm normal. Being normal doesn't mean you have to fit in their fucking role model ideal.
there is no way that you could possibly know whether this person has a mental disorder or not. You can't just tell everyone that they're normal based on no previous knowledge, just because it feels nice to say.
I think he's just suggesting there's some overlap, (the same way people feel "depressed" but aren't clinically depressed) and that exhibiting some of these characteristics doesn't necessarily mean you have a disorder, let alone are "broken." It seems to be getting at the very thing that makes mental disorders so problematic, knowing whether or not someone crosses the threshold of needing to seek treatment or just has some minor behavioral tendencies.
The statement was a little presumptuous though, I will give you that.
Also I think we should note that while yes, to er is human and we are not broken, to search for the tools we need to be better is a noble pursuit. Am I going to look for those tools? I'd like to but I know I won't.
Then why do I constantly feel as if I am broken?!Why does the common sense response or fix seem so elusive in its actionability? The method seems so "easy" when I plan it or think it, but I can never get to the second step...
Seriously the amount of shit we have to deal with on our daily lives with all of the distraction and scheduling is NOTHING compared to how people lived over 100 years ago. Nobody is perfect, our brains are just not wired to be switched on all the time and constantly doing shit.
I now wonder if meditating would help these people. Shutting down the world for a bit.
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